Idowuogbo: Hmmmmm...... Mama is working on d instructions of her babalawo I think!

He must b a calabash baby IMO

slimyem: He's my friend's fiance.he's the only child whose mum will do anything for.
He doesnt have a job per se but his mum wants him to get married.the woman loves my friend,gives her pocket money, buys her stuff,call her and do all other assumed responsibilities of the fiance asides intimacy.
When she sensed my friend wasn't comfortable coming to visit the guy in her house,she rented a 3-bedroom apartment for him and equipped it.
She's responsible for EVERYTHING in the house and even gives my gf money to cook food for her son if she isnt able to send food stuff and ingredients down.

Whenever the guys broke,he calls mummy and she responds.
Though he says he's trying to make money but his avenues are not clear-cut.trying to land contracts and bla-bla and hanging around political god-fathers.
A date has being fixed for introductions and an assumed wedding date already.
What kind of a husband would he be because technically he's nothing without his mum?
My friend is worried and so am i for her.

pendo89:

I felt nauseated after reading the bolded. Is that a man or a baby!

I d rather marry a hardworking poor fellow than this kind of men who dont want to live mummy's breast.
They are lazy and of no good use to a woman.
No thanks he can go back to mummy

slimyem: forget that thing!
Nor be babalawo matter but a mother's overstreched protection and responsibility towars her son.

ayobase: Judging someone afar via hearsay is an allegation!
You might be surprise if he is not the kind of guy u tot of.
Allow ur friend to work it out!

queensmith: marriage should be the last thing on his mind if he doesnt have a job. Momsie is just looking for a slave for her son. So the girl parades over to the guys house to cook for him? Well done, lmfao, well done very much.

slimyem: she only gets to cook for him when she's there to spend weekends.
He's not as keen on marriage as his mum his.She's the mastermind!

slimyem: she only gets to cook for him when she's there to spend weekends.
He's not as keen on marriage as his mum his.She's the mastermind!

bisi16: Leave babalawo out of dis. D main issue is, if they eventually marry, they'll neva live a normal life. I mean a normal life where decisions are taken as husband and wife. In dis case, its gonna be Mother and son, then d wife.

queensmith:

the mum probably knows that her son is a loser and is looking for a woman to secure his future with.

Does your friend have a job?

even if its weekends or every other thursday, its his house why doesnt he do the cooking?

slimyem: she has a job.not a very good one but sustainable.
Why doesn't he do the cooking?
Babe,we are talking about a typical Nigerian man here!

slimyem: He's my friend's fiance.he's the only child whose mum will do anything for.
He doesnt have a job per se but his mum wants him to get married.the woman loves my friend,gives her pocket money, buys her stuff,call her and do all other assumed responsibilities of the fiance asides intimacy.
When she sensed my friend wasn't comfortable coming to visit the guy in her house,she rented a 3-bedroom apartment for him and equipped it.
She's responsible for EVERYTHING in the house and even gives my gf money to cook food for her son if she isnt able to send food stuff and ingredients down.

Whenever the guys broke,he calls mummy and she responds.
Though he says he's trying to make money but his avenues are not clear-cut.trying to land contracts and bla-bla and hanging around political god-fathers.
A date has being fixed for introductions and an assumed wedding date already.
What kind of a husband would he be because technically he's nothing without his mum?
My friend is worried and so am i for her.

cowgurl: Well, good thing she's gat a sweet motherinlaw cos I don't see any ill intentions towards her from your post. She's just a loving mother taking care of her son, who knows how long it took for her to conceive him. Research has it that 'only child' has the tendencies to be spoilt by their folks and as such it makes it pretty hard for them to hussle. Now, about the introduction/ wedding, it's goin to be difficult for her to stop her motherinlaw cos she's already living with her fiance in the house she paid for. 'l suggest she talks to her fiance and make him see reasons why he should take care of his responsibilities cos he's no longer a kid, this should be done lovingly.

Hassan11: Slimyem i understand ur worries abt ur friend. The question i av 4u is dis. Does ur friend understand it d way u do. If she does and she wants to go ahead wt it then she should be ready to work hard to save her marriage. Because there no way d guy's mother wil not influence things in their affair.

slimyem: at least,you understand the cause of my worry...and there's only little i can say to this friend so it doesnt sound like i'm trying to break-up her relationship.
But she's so dear to me and i just dunno what to do.

pendo89:

How old is this fellow ??

cowgurl: Well, good thing she's gat a sweet motherinlaw cos I don't see any ill intentions towards her from your post. She's just a loving mother taking care of her son, who knows how long it took for her to conceive him. Research has it that 'only child' has the tendencies to be spoilt by their folks and as such it makes it pretty hard for them to hussle. Now, about the introduction/ wedding, it's goin to be difficult for her to stop her motherinlaw cos she's already living with her fiance in the house she paid for. 'l suggest she talks to her fiance and make him see reasons why he should take care of his responsibilities cos he's no longer a kid, this should be done lovingly.

slimyem: i thing she's a loving mother-in-law with no ill intentions whatsoever in this case.
...and no,she's not living with him!
Now,how do you talk to a 30-year old man about how he is no longer a kid and is supposed to take care of his responsiblities?
You think he doesnt know that already?
You think that's gon effect the desired change straight-up?

slimyem: i don't think she sees things the way i do.
Is she a little worried?
Yes!
But not as much as i am...no!
Chances of her backing out now are low..so i dunno!