there is this lady i really want. i asked her if we could find time to talk and she told me she has got no time at that point. i forgot to collect her contact. the next time we met i asked if we could talk and she said she was going to sign her course form. i said ok but she has to give me her number. she said no she will take mine instead that she would call me. i gave my number to her, i waited and she did not call. that evening, she came around the class where i was studying looking for a place to sit. when she looked my way (and i believe she saw me) she immediately wore a kind of look in her face which i interpreted as 'oh this boy again!' do you think she already knows what i am trying to get? becos i have not told her i love her. i only asked if we could be friends which she agreed. she is about 1.5 feet taller than me (i get embarrassed by that too to be honest) do you think she is a bit disappointed that i am not quite the boy she wants hence she acts this way? help me understand her. as ladies, put yourselves in her shoes and explain her psychology to me. whats your advice to me?

she's not into you!
Free her and face your books!

Guy she aint feeling u and ur constant chit chat is bugging n boring her! Wen a lady declines giving u her no and asks 4 urs instead, dats a red flag. Its a no no. Used 2 do dat 5yrs now i just say i aint interested. Just let her be.

I hate to say this, but she isnt interested. Move on¤

I believe she thinks you're a small boy. I think so too. ( No offense)

thanks. its heart breakingand difficult to accept. but thanks for the responses. with this, i doubt it if i would want to get close to a woman any more

solbil: thanks. its heart breakingand difficult to accept. but thanks for the responses. with this, i doubt it if i would want to get close to a woman any more

Aww, don't be discouraged.

Amya: I believe she thinks you're a small boy. I think so too. ( No offense)

its ok. i asked for your honest opinion so its ok if you say yours. i just turned 24 i dont know if you still see that as a small boy? well she is my first attempt

Move on man. she is not interested.

Yield:

Aww, don't be discouraged.

you do not understand it. i have kept myself to this moment thinking the one i love so much will deserve me new. i did this despite all the factors pushing me to break my vow. it wasnt so simple dealing with those factors. now i have found the one i feel for and she has shown me the "red flag" as a poster puts it. this will surely affect my confidence in 'if i ask, i will get'. the next time i face a woman, i will not be able to help thinking that she is also going to show me the "red flag".

solbil: [b]she is about 1.5 feet taller than me (i get embarrassed by that too to be honest) do you think she is a bit disappointed that i am not quite the boy she wants hence she acts this way? [/b]help me understand her. as ladies, put yourselves in her shoes and explain her psychology to me. whats your advice to me?

i don't think you're a small boy, i think you're just sweet and haven't learnt how to be a jerk yet. I think you should try a different route. Stop asking for her number and genuinely try to be a friend for the main time.

solbil: you do not understand it. i have kept myself to this moment thinking the one i love so much will deserve me new. i did this despite all the factors pushing me to break my vow. it wasnt so simple dealing with those factors. now i have found the one i feel for and she has shown me the "red flag" as a poster puts it. this will surely affect my confidence in 'if i ask, i will get'. the next time i face a woman, i will not be able to help thinking that she is also going to show me the "red flag".

frm ur idea i see u are a kind looking guy with no bad intention. Bro i feel ur pain. All i will advise u to do is to move on because she is not the only gal. Face ur book

solbil: you do not understand it. i have kept myself to this moment thinking the one i love so much will deserve me new. i did this despite all the factors pushing me to break my vow. it wasnt so simple dealing with those factors. now i have found the one i feel for and she has shown me the "red flag" as a poster puts it. this will surely affect my confidence in 'if i ask, i will get'. the next time i face a woman, i will not be able to help thinking that she is also going to show me the "red flag".

My previous comment was made to encourage you. We all face disappointments. How and whether you choose to get up is in your hands. Your self-fulfilling prophecies ( "this will surely affect my confidence....," "the next time i face a woman, i will not be able to help thinking that...." ) might just come to pass, because you're already giving yourself a bad rep and predicting experiences you haven't even had yet. She’s not interested. Move on.

well i guess it'sso obvious that she's really not interested to you..I guess she is irratated everytime he saw you.
That's a sad truth but you can move on anyways there'salot of girls out there..

She is not into you so just go about your normal activities

thanks to you all. in my best interest, i will have forget her. it will help me salvage the liltle respect i have for myself

Dude, u need to grow some ballz! No gurl will fall for a guy that can't exhibit confidence. U sound like a timid guy andif this is how u address ladies, ure not likely to get one anytime soon.

Ur keepin yourself for the one you love wasn't a wrong decision, u jus need to up your gane and b confident in yourself. Be a good orator, take things easy and be friendly with them ladies, you wouldn't have problems wit chics any more All the best!.

op,that girl want to look into her books and not you.
My advice:look into your books and make a good grade rather than prying a lady to kill her future with your philandering nature.

Crown Prince: op,that girl want to look into her books and not you.
My advice:look into your books and make a good grade rather than prying a lady to kill her future with your philandering nature.

by this, i just felt like i am a bad and unserious boy. btw my grade is far above hers

Thanks a lot[img]http://www.50centloseweight.com[/img]

solbil: its ok. i asked for your honest opinion so its ok if you say yours. i just turned 24 i dont know if you still see that as a small boy? well she is my first attempt

U dint go bout it d right way den. It's beta to retreat 4 nau bt let her b seein u around lafin n playin wit fwendz yl u snub her completely. U'd c dat she'l stat focusin on u n by den, it'l al boil down to if u r stil nterestd.

There is no such thing as applying to be friends with an opposite gendered individual, or anybody even. Just be friends already, if you wanna. Telling her officially that you want to be friends with her just seems like you want something more (which i know of cos, that you do).
And she doesn't feel like reciprocating (for now maybe) so......

solbil: you do not understand it. i have kept myself to this moment thinking the one i love so much will deserve me new. i did this despite all the factors pushing me to break my vow. it wasnt so simple dealing with those factors. now i have found the one i feel for and she has shown me the "red flag" as a poster puts it. this will surely affect my confidence in 'if i ask, i will get'. the next time i face a woman, i will not be able to help thinking that she is also going to show me the "red flag".

aaaw now u make me wanna cry.

But hey look here.You made ONE BIG ASSUMPTION! Why assume she's not taken?
She could be acting that way because she has a guy u know.
The other thing,stop trying too hard if you want to impress a lady. You may have succeeded in melting her heart but she's playing hard.
Stay off now cz uv already left a mark and concentrate on ur stuff.If she likes you, trust me she will bring herself to you using all means possible.
And please dont claim to have 'found the one'when you haven't even started! True Love is reciprocal.

TRUE LOVE IS RECIPROCAL.#SINGING#

Does she have to say it to ur face that u suck

Shollypopz:
i don't think you're a small boy, i think you're just sweat and haven't learnt how to be a jerk yet. I think you should try a different route. Stop asking for her number and genuinely try to be a friend for the main time.

I think he should try and be friends with other girls. He doesn't sound like he knows enough about females.

Then when you say first attempt, is it first attempt at collecting a girl's number or first attempt at 'wooing' a lady?

People like you are usually sweet honest guys. And being friends first works best for guys like you. Move on to other girls, starting off as friends first. And don't become friends and get stuck on the friends zone longer than you should.

Cant some guys just read the hand writing on the damn wall?

Pathetic bro!! U are getting it hard on the laDy geez and please just free her, she does like you but she feeling insecure with your height which clearly says, short people are troublesome, find someone else around your height rather than a lady, who will always suck up a face with that short man attitude face

She wants you to concentrate more on your studies so you can make something outta ya life bro. no offence

solbil: thanks. its heart breakingand difficult to accept. but thanks for the responses. with this, i doubt it if i would want to get close to a woman any more

Amya, you're correct. He's just proven it, he's a small boy.

she doesn't want u but
u can still be persuasive
and try more she may change
her mind

Am not a girl,but stil wana advice u..u just av to stop pressing her much..if u realy like her,let her be for a while,let her see u with oda girls,she wu see dat oda gals like u n she wu start giving u attention,cos gals like competition,let it not be dat she is d only girl dat u av d corage to ask out or intend to ask out..let her get jealous.mean while ur study shud be ur priority in school