slimyem: things you should consider before telling her..
-A lot of people hate to be told the truth about who they really are...so if you are sure she won't take it the wrong way,tell her...
-After telling her,she might want to make promises to turn a new leaf and be better and all which will most probably be untrue.will you be ready to take her back if she does?
-some people really deserve to know the truth about why its all ending so they do not keep blaming themselves over what wasn't.if she is the type,then do tell her.
Above it,telling your ex about reasons for ending a relationship depends largely on his/her level of maturity.

fr3ddi3: Plz peeps..i need ur opinion on d topic above. But let me giv y'all i little illustration.

I met a gurl late last year..we bcame frndz, hanging out & stuffs. I askd her out on various occation..but she'd always turn me down. Sumtyms, whn she doez sumtin wrong & i mention it/complain 2 her...she gets paranoid, & gets defensive instead of apologizing. She comes late on dates, doez things her extremely her own way witout compromizing.
Later on, i found out dat she had a b/f she had been datin b4 she met me, but due 2 a brawl btw dem, she had enuf tym 2 gimme attention. Whn dey resolved dia diff..she began distancin herself frm me. I kept my cool lik i didnt notice...& called her one particular day 4 a face-2-face discussion. Durin d convo, i alighted my reasons 4 wantin her as my gurl...wat i wanted frm her, & ask her wat she wanted as well. Her exact reply was "move on with ur life".
Due 2 her statement, i suddenly cut all forms of communication wit her..although i acted cool afta she made d statement, so she neva knew i could act dat way. She neva saw it comin!!
Now its been almost 3months i'v been givin her d silent treatment...& she is still on my case..callin, textin, msg on social network and whatnot. She's in school ryt naw...but i knw 4sure dat whn she returns, she'l wan2 ask me d reasons 4 my sudden change of attitude towards her.

Now...is it necessary 2 point out d reasons 2 her or jst snub her?.....coz am really done wit her, but i dnt want any form of animosity. Plz i need ur opinion on dis. Thanx!!

Mmbanuuuu

claremont: July 2004 thread. . .

fr3ddi3:
@Slimyem: i feel u...its like u knw exactly what am talkin abt. Sincerely, a part of me says i shld explain why i stoppd communicating with her...bcoz i dnt really want her 2 look down on herself. Besides...i have a buddy i hang out with almost evry weekends living next street 2 hers, & dat means i'd be bumpin into her very often whn she returns frm sch...so u can imagine hw it'd feel if i continue givin her d silent treatment by den.

But ON THE OTHER HAND...i feel like snubbin her completely coz am really done with her. No turnin back!!!...and jst lik i mentiond in my illustration, she's d type dat gets defensive even if she knws she's at fault...& am really not cut out 4 her drama. There was a time she even said "i dont live my life 2 please anybody". So, if i decide 2 tell her d reasons...she myt think am judging/condemin her. I have really tried 2 make her a better person...but like Mynd_44 said..."i owe her nothin". Let her learn d hard way.

But funny enuf, i dont hate her, coz relationships isnt by force. I jst feel indifferent abt her....& i dnt want any form of hatred btw us. So guyz.......am really on d edge here. Am still open 2 ur opinion.