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| How to Make a Relationship Last...? by Nobody: 10:19pm On Jul 09, 2012 |
This poor Romance Section. One look and people would think Nigerians are a broken-hearted, bitter, sad, spiteful, empty, cursed, angry, loveless species. I doubt that's all of us though. Somewhere among the sea of lonely are some who have been in enduring relationships, or are out of a relationship and have learned lessons from the game of love. So where y'all at? How long have you been with your significant other? What's it been like? Was it always easy? What lessons have you learned from your relationship or significant other that you can tell others in hopes of them being successfully taken like you? The floor's open! *waiting for stories* 1 Like |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by GboyegaD(m): 10:43pm On Jul 09, 2012 |
ogugua88: This poor Romance Section. One look and people would think Nigerians are a broken-hearted, bitter, sad, spiteful, empty, cursed, angry, loveless species. I doubt that's all of us though. Somewhere among the sea of lonely are some who have been in enduring relationships, or are out of a relationship and have learned lessons from the game of love. The most important things in my opinion are: Being sincere with yourselves, define what you want in the relationship, state the rules, respect one another, tolerance and understanding. We have been together for close to 3years and its been nice with some little fights once in a while and most times, they were because of my non-calling and unrepentant habit of same. However, she has come to accept me for who I am knowing well that my not calling is not because I am not committed but just my person. 4 Likes |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by Tyche(m): 10:45pm On Jul 09, 2012 |
No hard and fast rules, what works for A may not work for B. The Master Key is understanding one's partner. 2 Likes |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by Nobody: 11:17pm On Jul 09, 2012 |
Stil in d process..cnt say much |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by MrCork17: 11:33pm On Jul 09, 2012 |
ogugua88: This poor Romance Section. One look and people would think Nigerians are a broken-hearted, bitter, sad, spiteful, empty, cursed, angry, loveless species. I doubt that's all of us though. Somewhere among the sea of lonely are some who have been in enduring relationships, or are out of a relationship and have learned lessons from the game of love. **opens window for fresh air**  |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by shizzle11(m): 12:41am On Jul 10, 2012 |
Mr..Cork: Lol! Personally i think the reason why we have a lot of flawed relationships is largely due to insincerity on both parties esp the ladies. Most Nigerian ladies are so fake and a bunch of liars, so its no surprise that most times men tell them what they want to hear and not really 'what is', that's why some men have also mastered the art of treachery to get at the ladies. Most times these relationships are rarely built on love but are based on sheer greed and selfishness 3 Likes |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by Nobody: 6:46am On Jul 10, 2012 |
^^^ We want good news na. |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by kandiikane(m): 7:19am On Jul 10, 2012 |
Nyashing, cooking, cleaning, worshipping him, praising him and wiping his crack and some more nyashing. With this I swear your relationship would last 'til death do you part. |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by freecocoa(f): 7:48am On Jul 10, 2012 |
^Worshipping him as in? Him be God? |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by kandiikane(m): 7:52am On Jul 10, 2012 |
Like he is the only man left on earth. Without him you are nothing. If you prefer worshipping like God, ehn, it's a free world. |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by freecocoa(f): 7:56am On Jul 10, 2012 |
^Is that how it works for you?oh well. I for one will not worship any man or make him think if he leaves then my purpose on earth is finished,IMHO the day you give any man that much power over you is the day he starts misbehaving. 2 Likes |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by Nobody: 7:59am On Jul 10, 2012 |
Communicate Communicate Communicate. . . Nothing holds a relationship more than communication. If you love her and you don't communicate it to her either by your words or actions, nothing is achieved. It's vice versa. There are other qualities you have to cultivate in addition to your communication skills. . .brb 3 Likes |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by Nobody: 8:01am On Jul 10, 2012 |
freecocoa: ^Is that how it works for you?oh well.Stamped! Very true. . . |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by kandiikane(m): 8:02am On Jul 10, 2012 |
freecocoa: ^Is that how it works for you?oh well. I never said that's what works for me but merely responding to the question asked. |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by Flashaldrin(m): 8:06am On Jul 10, 2012 |
freecocoa: ^Worshipping him as in?i believe she's just being sarcastic |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by freecocoa(f): 8:07am On Jul 10, 2012 |
kandiikane:Alrighty then but for that to be your answer,it must be how you intend to or already build\ing yours. |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by kandiikane(m): 8:11am On Jul 10, 2012 |
freecocoa: Alrighty then but for that to be your answer,it must be how you intend to or already build\ing yours. Lol, in fact, I am doing the opposite and it doesn't seem to be working so I suggest this version so atleast if people dey try am, we go know whether it works. Tbh, I am not far from the truth. Many of these relationships/marriages especially African ones that have lasted are the ones where women literally live their lives for the guy. |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by freecocoa(f): 8:13am On Jul 10, 2012 |
Flashaldrin:Okay then. |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by bknight: 8:19am On Jul 10, 2012 |
Those dat know so well how & what makes relationships work have d worst  |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by freecocoa(f): 8:19am On Jul 10, 2012 |
kandiikane:You shouldn't be doing the exact opposite either,i don't think any relationship will survive with the opposite as a driving factor for the woman. And i beg to defer,those relationships you think survived or survives because the women live their lives for the men are mostly still in existence because the women think they have no option,and the fact that many african men do whatever they like and get away with it. Most women who practically do anything their men want are often treated anyhow by those men and that's because no matter what they do,the women still stay. |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by Flashaldrin(m): 8:27am On Jul 10, 2012 |
@op, for me the key for a lasting relationship, (not necessarily a happy one) is 1. A HUGE deal of sacrificice 2. Communication i dont have time to explain. 2 Likes |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by Flashaldrin(m): 8:32am On Jul 10, 2012 |
bknight: Those dat know so well how & what makes relationships work have d worstlol, soooooooo trrrruuuuueeeeeee  i cant forget that tyler perry movie, why did i get married, janet jackson. . . . Rotfl!! 2 Likes |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by shizzle11(m): 8:44am On Jul 10, 2012 |
ogugua88: ^^^ We want good news na. Ok sweeath@. Communication is key to a long lasting relationship. If both parties communicate freely, it will help build a healthier & stronger r/ship. Distant relationship is a no-no for me, have tried it before and it was a total disaster, wouldn't even advice my nextdoor enemy to venture into it. Though there could be a very few instances were it could work, but its only by the grace of God. 1 Like |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by Nobody: 8:56am On Jul 10, 2012 |
^^^ Levels don shange. |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by 190: 9:00am On Jul 10, 2012 |
I'll be back to share my tale much later |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by 190: 9:08am On Jul 10, 2012 |
1. Tell your partner you love them. Although it’s true that actions speak louder than words, words often speak more clearly than actions. Take a moment every now and then to verbalize your feelings for your partner. A simple “I love you” or “You mean the world to me” can go a long way towards making your significant other feel wanted, cared for, and secure in your relationship. 2. Show some affection. Small acts of physical intimacy – the hand on the small of the back as you brush by in the hallway, your arm around their shoulder on the sofa, your hand on their thigh when seated side-by-side, holding hands while walking down the street – give your partner a warm feeling and convey the love and affection you feel for them. The littlest touch can be as important, or even more important, than the longest night of sexual intimacy. 3. Show appreciation for your partner. Let your partner know on a regular basis what it is that you like most about them – what you admire, what makes you proud, what their strengths are in your eyes. Building a romantic relationship isn’t jsut about the initial bonding – it’s about encouraging and supporting each other’s growth over the course of your lives. Help your partner achieve his or her potential by constantly building them up. 4. Share yourself. Don’t keep your likes and dislikes, dreams and fears, achievements and mistakes, or anything else to yourself. If it’s important to you, share it with your partner. More than that, be sure to share more with your partner than you do with anyone else. While there is certainly a need for some personal space in even the closest relationship, give as much of yourself and your time as you can bear to your partner. 5. Be there for your partner. It’s obvious what you need to do when your partner faces a major life challenge like the loss of a job or the death of a loved one. But it’s just as important to be supportive when your partner faces life’s little challenges, too – an argument at work, a rough commute, a misplaced check. Don’t let yourself be a doormat, and definitely don’t stand for physical or verbal abuse, but thicken your skin a little and be the voice of calm and reason when chaos strikes. Listen to what’s bothering them and offer whatever help – even if it’s just sympathy – you can. 6. Give gifts. Take advantages of opportunities to give material tokens of your love. Just the right book picked up at the bookstore, a special dessert, a piece of jewelry or clothing you noticed at the store – anything small or large that tells them you were thinking of them. Leave a love note for them, or send them an SMS at work to “I love you” – again, the little reminder that they’re always on your mind will help your partner feel better about themselves and secure in your relationship. 7. Respond gracefully to your partner’s demands and shortcomings. A big killer of relationships is unreasonable expectations. Unless you married a robot, your partner comes pre-loaded with a whole range of human failures and foibles. These are features, not bugs! Learn to recognize and appreciate your partner’s quirks for what they are: an essential part of who they are as people. Since our weaknesses are often at the core of our deepest insecurities, make sure you don’t pick on or otherwise go out of your way to highlight your partner’s flaws. 8. Make "alone time" a priority. No matter how busy both of your lives are, make sure you commit at least an evening every week or two to be alone together. Have new experiences, share your stories, and just generally enjoy each other’s company. 9. Take nothing for granted. Cultivate a daily sense of gratitude for your partner and the thousands of little blessings he or she has brought into your life. Remember that, if you’re happy in your relationship, your partner is doing a thousand little things for you every day to make your relationship work (as, hopefully, you are for them). Never take that for granted – a relationship is work of the highest order, and the second you stop it starts to slide away. 10. Strive for equality. Make sure you follow the Golden Rule in your relationship: do unto your partner as you would have done unto you. Strive for a fair division of household duties and other tasks, and don’t expect or demand special considerations you’d be unwilling to offer in return. 22 Likes |
| Re: How to Make a Relationship Last...? by honeric01(m): 9:30am On Jul 10, 2012 |
Openness attracts Communication LEARN TO know your partner everyday by making communication a daily or even hourly thing. More things to do can be found here. http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/empathy-secret-sauce-happy-marriage-044200327.html |
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