Holding on is being brave, but letting go and moving on is often what makes us stronger and happier.

Here are ten signs it’s time to let go:

Someone expects you to be someone you’re not. – Don’t change who you are for anyone else. It’s wiser to lose someone over being who you are, than to keep them by being someone you’re not. Because it’s easier to mend a broken heart, than it is to piece together a shattered identity. It’s easier to fill an empty space in your life where someone else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space inside yourself where YOU used to be.


A person’s actions don’t match their words. – Everybody deserves somebody who helps them look forward to tomorrow. If someone has the opposite effect on you, because they are consistently inconsistent and their actions don’t match up with their words, it’s time to let them go. It’s always better to be alone than to be in bad company. True friendship is a promise made in the heart – silent, unwritten, unbreakable by distance, and unchangeable by time. Don’t listen to what people say; watch what they do. Your true friends will slowly reveal themselves over time.


You catch yourself forcing someone to love you. – Let us keep in mind that we can’t force anyone to love us. We shouldn’t beg someone to stay when they want to leave. That’s what love is all about – freedom. However, the end of love is not the end of life. It should be the beginning of an understanding that love sometimes leaves for a reason, but never leaves without a lesson. If someone truly loves you, they will never give you a reason to doubt it. Anyone can come into your life and say how much they love you, but it takes someone really special to stay in your life and prove how much they love you. Sometimes it takes awhile to find the right person, but the right person is always worth the wait.


An intimate relationship is based strictly on physical attraction. – Being beautiful is more than how many people you can get to look at you, or how others perceive you at a single glance. It’s about what you live for. It’s about what defines you. It’s about the depth of your heart, and what makes you unique. It’s about being who you are and living out your life honestly. It’s about those little quirks that make you, you. People who are only attracted to you because of your pretty face or nice body won’t stay by your side forever. But the people who can see how beautiful your heart is will never leave you.


Someone continuously breaks your trust. – Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to. When you completely trust a person, without any doubt, you’ll automatically get one of two results – a FRIEND for life or a LESSON for life. Either way there’s a positive outcome. Either you confirm the fact that this person cares about you, or you get the opportunity to weed them out of your life and make room for those who do. In the end you’ll discover who’s fake, who’s true, and who would risk it all for you. And trust me, some people will totally surprise you.


Someone continuously overlooks your worth. – Know your worth! When you give yourself to someone who doesn’t respect you, you surrender pieces of your soul that you’ll never get back. There comes a point when you have to let go and stop chasing some people. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll find a way to put you there. Sometimes you just need to let go and accept the fact that they don’t care for you the way you care for them. Let them leave your life quietly. Letting go is oftentimes easier than holding on. We think it’s too hard to let go, until we actually do. Then we ask ourselves, “Why didn’t I do this sooner?”


You are never given a chance to speak your mind. – Sometimes an argument saves a relationship, whereas silence breaks it. Speak up for your heart so that you won’t have regrets. Life is not about making others happy. Life is about being honest and sharing your happiness with others.


You are frequently forced to sacrifice your happiness. – If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative before you know it. Know when to close the account. It’s always better to be alone with dignity than in a relationship that constantly requires you to sacrifice your happiness and self-respect.


You truly dislike your current situation, routine, job, etc. – It’s better to be a failure at something you love than to succeed at doing something you hate. Don’t let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of going after yours. The best thing you can do in life is follow your heart. Take risks. Don’t just make the safe and easy choices because you’re afraid of what might happen. If you do, nothing will ever happen. Chances must be taken, mistakes must be made, and lessons must be learned. It might be an uphill climb, but when you reach that mountaintop it will be worth every ounce of blood, sweat and tears you put into it.


You catch yourself obsessing over, and living in, the past. – Eventually you will overcome the heartache, and forget the reasons you cried, and who caused the pain. Eventually you will realize that the secret to happiness and freedom is not about control or revenge, but in letting things unfold naturally, and learning from your experiences over the course of time. After all, what matters most is not the first, but the final chapter of your life, which unveils the details of how well you wrote your story. So let go of the past, set yourself free, and open your mind to the possibility of new relationships and priceless experiences.

And the one thing you should never let go of is hope. Remember what you deserve and keep pushing forward. Someday all the pieces will come together. Unimaginably good things will transpire in your life, even if everything doesn’t turn out exactly the way you had anticipated. And you will look back at the times that have passed, smile, and ask yourself, “How did I get through all of that?”


http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/04/02/10-signs-its-time-to-let-go/

good points!
...but most of the time...its easier said....

so nice was as if you are talking to me but its not easy

Very truE, it is not easy

@op. makes alot of sense there..

Great !

Long note

Different idealistic theories everyday, but how practical are these theories?

Same NL but different crap everyday.

Some of you need to go out more for some fresh air, and see how things work in the real world.

Beautiful write up, so true! Thanks OP

Those are ideals. There's a fat difference between REALITY and IDEALITY.

I think we all know when its time to let go, once we listen to our inner voice and trust ourselves.

dis is gud! cos am recuperating from a heart break. God help me to adhere to dis by d time i finish gathering d piecies of my heart togeda.

These are theories but the practical aspect a little bit difficult.

jenny b: dis is gud! cos am recuperating from a heart break. God help me to adhere to dis by d time i finish gathering d piecies of my heart togeda.

Jenny I think you should copy this into microsoft word and print a copy,make it your most cherish book after the Bible. You will thank me later for this advice....

Nice piece

good points here, txs a lot,but somehow difficult to practise

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eehhn!! Am lovin dis, thumbs up bro u make sense

Easier said than done

When you are faced with real emotional disorder omo you go forget the rules of the game ooo.

Sounds so perfetct bt nt everybdy cn stnd dat..........coz it easier said dan put 2 practice

I see the advice below all the time when people talk about relationships.

In my view it is rather unfortunate. It is very difficult for two fully grown people, even if they have the same background, to live peacefully without one or both being willing to compromise.

Thus, this advice should be changed to reciprocate your partners willingness to compromise, if possible. If he/she cannot compromise or accept your best efforts then you must check whether there are other crucial reasons for you to want the relationship to still succeed. If not, you should leave without delay.

Your heart will always be left broken if you always get into a relationship to insist "you can't change for someone else" or "you are never wrong" or "you are perfect", and other such nonsense. If that is the case, all you really want is a relationship with yourself only.

Someone expects you to be someone you’re not. – Don’t change who you are for anyone else. It’s wiser to lose someone over being who you are, than to keep them by being someone you’re not. Because it’s easier to mend a broken heart, than it is to piece together a shattered identity. It’s easier to fill an empty space in your life where someone else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space inside yourself where YOU used to be.

A shorter version please.

Its hard, but its doable.

ALL THESE PEOPLE CLAIMING IT'S EASIER SAID THAN DONE.... Nawa oo.
I can authoritatively tell you that those are real life applications.
It's no wonder many relationships crumble these days....many don't understand the rules!
If u think u can't possibly apply them/they are just fairy tales, then pls stay in that relationship and keep allowing him/her to treat you like a big joke.
Because those that have understood how to control and be in charge of their emotions....understood that they are supposed to be desired/pursued and not them falling flat on their faces are the ones having lasting relationships without sweating to keep it alive.

Shymex you must be a very pessimistic person.If you dont have a reasonable thing to say keep quiet and stop condeming the truth.Weda you like it or not thats the truth,and as he said its seems difficult to let go at first.so read properly before condeming

9ice write-up, rily gud, bt its easier said, bt also not impossible. It requires d grace of God.

koruji: I see the advice below all the time when people talk about relationships.

In my view it is rather unfortunate. It is very difficult for two fully grown people, even if they have the same background, to live peacefully without one or both being willing to compromise.

Thus, this advice should be changed to reciprocate your partners willingness to compromise, if possible. If he/she cannot compromise or accept your best efforts then you must check whether there are other crucial reasons for you to want the relationship to still succeed. If not, you should leave without delay.

Your heart will always be left broken if you always get into a relationship to insist "you can't change for someone else" or "you are never wrong" or "you are perfect", and other such nonsense. If that is the case, all you really want is a relationship with yourself only.

that is not what he means.
Read it again without the need to disprove a theory u might have heard for a long time- dispassionately- ten u'll understand what it's really talking about.

@op-its nt easy.but realy i went tru these stages..i did almost al wht u posted...bt my broda it wasnttttt easyyyy...especialy when d lov involvd ws damnnnn strong.funy enof,while pikin pieces of my hat d madam startd caling.temptin u may say...bt no vacancy!...even while am single.

chucky234: Jenny I think you should copy this into microsoft word and print a copy,make it your most cherish book after the Bible. You will thank me later for this advice....

You badt

talina: I think we all know when its time to let go, once we listen to our inner voice and trust ourselves.

a crossbearer?