Ann2012:
Nice one

Thanks

It happened one afternoon that I was returning to my apartment and I usually take a tricycle popularly known as Keke straight down to my small street.
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Normally Keke is supposed to take just 3 passengers at the back.. but as Nigerians, we know that there's an extra passenger seat in front making it 4. �
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So three of us(a lady, a young guy and me) were already seated waiting for the last person. A well dressed man came around asked for where the Keke was headed, after getting a response he proceeded to sit close to the driver.
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In this part of Lasgidi, Marwa drivers are particularly concerned about collecting their money first-hand before even starting the Keke because well, they're experienced enough to avoid "issues(akuko)" relating to change, disappearing passengers who intentionally refuse to pay etc.
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So this driver started collecting money.. he collected from three of us at the back, and asked the young man seated in front for his money. The man opened his wallet and unfortunately couldn't find any naira note less than N1000 as he was supposed to pay just N50.
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Trouble started as he tried to give the driver 1k apologizing that he thought he had some little cash on him and needed to move quickly.
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When stuff like this happens, I think these drivers try to show that they have "power" at least over the person who gets to sit in their "plane". The driver arrogantly told the man to come down that he's not carrying o. The guy was still pleading that he had to go with us and would collect some change from a nearby shop when he alights.
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As the drama was unfolding.. the guy sitting with us at the back told the driver to leave the man, that he will pay while handing the driver 50 bucks. The man looked at this guy in surprise and asked him "you paid for me?" At which the guy responded "yeah, don't worry." The man just smiled.
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As the Keke moved, he pulled out his wallet again, took out a couple of 1000 naira notes and handed it over the the young guy. The young guy asked "for what?" The man just said, "Don't worry just take it and thank you."
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It was like film. The young guy did not experrit, but well he collected the money and said thanks. While the man said "don't mention." �
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It was instant reward for concern, care and saving other people from embarrassing situations when you are moved to.
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It's not just about "possible" reward from people, God sees you too. You may or may not get rewarded or appreciated by people you want to help. It doesn't matter.. just keep on being a great person who is willing to help those in need when you can. There is always a reward from the physical or the spiritual end.
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So make it a part of your resolutions to be more willing to help others come this new year.. A surprise from God or man might just be around the corner. Once again thanks to my writing buddy who motivated me to write this. ✌�

Constie:
Wow... Great write up!


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Thank you Constie

I have looked around me and I've seen that one of the strongest motivating factors for a man to cheat on his wife or his lover is the inability of the woman involved to provide for herself. In other words, the woman is constantly dependent on the man to provide even the most basic things for her.

This kind of woman is more like a liability to the man involved and he feels that he has a right to cheat on her given that the woman doesn't really have much to offer him but her incessant demands. This is what has spurred me to write today's blog message to the wise modern woman.

Love is a beautiful thing. I'm tempted to say that it "used to be" a beautiful thing, but the truth is that genuine love will always remain a beautiful thing which every human being needs to experience in this lifetime. A life without love is almost meaningless and empty. Love really makes life rewarding. However, the real meaning of love is gradually being destroyed on the alter of money and sex.

A lot of women these days have started understanding and redefining love with material things. To them, a man who provides for them, gives them money all the time and buys them gifts(irrespective of who the man is) genuinely loves them.

In other words, all it would take for them to fall in love with you as a man is: give them money, spend on them at expensive places and buy things for them. That's all! Your attitude, your little acts of care and affection, your personality, your character doesn't matter.

And why are lots of these women defining love based on material things? The answer is very simple and not far fetched: Many of them cannot provide for themselves.

A woman who cannot provide for herself in today's world will get easily deceived by men who are willing to spend on them, not because they love them, but because they just need to get access to her cookie. Women who are jobless and cannot fend for themselves will not be able to look beyond the money and the gifts and see who really loves them and who doesn't.

I'm not saying it's wrong for you to accept money or gifts from a man who claims to love you. I'm saying that you should be careful that you're not blinded by those things to see this man for who he really is.

If you could cater for yourself as a young woman, you will care more about falling in love with a man for who he is rather than the money he may be showering on you. I'm an advocate that a man should spend his money on a good woman. A man who is genuinely in love should surprise the woman he loves with lavish gifts once in a while. This is good.

The only problem is that men who don't care about you are also willing to do the same.. So if you're defining love based on who is spending on you, can't you see the danger you stand if you are carried away by the spending?

To be in a better position not to be carried away, you must be up and doing. Learn a skill or a craft. Apply to jobs that you can handle. The world has changed and equal opportunities are opening up for both men and women in various sectors.

Why don't you take advantage of these things and live on purpose? Attach your life to goals and not to a man. When you're on track, your eyes will be opened to see the right man for you and not the one who wants to deceive you. And when you finally tie the knot with him, he will value you and your opinion because he knows the kind of woman you are. He knows you're not a liability, but a precious asset to him.

This is very important to you as a young woman. If you're reading this and you're already married or single without anything you're doing to support yourself and your family, you better start thinking and planning of how to start earning. Being able to cater for yourself financially gives you voice in your marriage, relationship etc. It also gives you respect and value.

I don't want you to be at the mercy of a nasty, cheating and wicked man simply because you cannot provide for yourself and without him you won't have money. That's disguised slavery. It's imprisonment because you know this man doesn't love you one bit, but because he gives you money, you stay. Talk about carrot and stick approach.

A word they say is enough for the wise. Empower yourself career wise and financially as a lady, keep winning!

source: https://www.boldwinner.com/2018/06/message-to-the-modern-woman.html