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|Nairaland / General / Is Getting Married The Only Thing That Makes A Young Man Responsible? by itsik(m): 9:37pm On Nov 15|
Hello people. Please I will like the house or matured people here to help me on this issue. Must a guy who is working and lives on his own be married before he is said to be responsible?
I got a job sometime last 2yrs. A job that pays over #100k a month. And the typical me an not comfortable yet with it cos that's not where I see myself ending up.
The thing is, everyone, my colleagues, parents, friends, even enemies are of the view that I should go and get married. Am in my late twenties. 28 to be precise. To me its not the first or even among the first ten things on my mind. But believe u me, my parent are on my case. The worst is their is this single colleague of mine that has sworn to make the office unbearable for me. She's single oooooo hmmmm.
I once engaged her in an argument and she told me that I should get married no matter what. I said even if am not mentally ready. And my salary can't take care of me not to talk of another. She said that is why I should get married so I will understand life, that I and my wife will suffer it together.
I feel that wickedness. Why would u force people to get married when they tell u they aren't ready. We still mount pressure on them. The other day my mum got a girl's number for me. She's a medical doctor. But I don't care. I am not ready to
What pained me the most is if u tell them do they want to see u suffering with your wife and maybe children till u stabilise. You hear them say, that's the right thing that it happens. That it makes u a man?
Also they are of the view that am irresponsible since an not married. That marriage is the only thing that makes a man responsible. Please who propounded this theory?
Please nairalanders help me cos even in that my office its now like a competition, every young man there is getting married this year. And u look like a judas. Though I wanna get married when I get to 30.
|Romance / Re: What's The Factor That's Kept Your Relationship Or Marriage Till Today. by itsik(m): 7:15pm On Nov 01|
Well na GOD
Cos sometimes it seems the burden on us is too much that it will break us and there is no hope. Then miraculously you see everything sorting itself out like it's a program. It's not easy to have two people of different family background and upbringing agree to be together be it in a relationship or marriage.
The differences, the challenges, the set ups, the betrayal by friends, but GOD still keeps us going and growing stronger.
To all those out there still finding it difficult to get a lady or a guy to call their own or be with for ever. Pray over it and know that none is perfect and neither are u. Have an open mind. Cheer up and keep a smiling face. Don't look down on people cos of the condition they are in cos u never know who will be the right person.
All the same its the handwork of the ALMIGHTY. Prayer is the factor. My dear
Who said falling in love isn't a good thing. Show with a raise of hand
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|Nairaland / General / I think Nigeria Should Ban Or Screen Rigorously All Visitors Coming From the US by itsik(m): 5:13pm On Oct 02|
With the recent development that there has been a case of confirmed EVD or the Ebola virus disease in the United States, I think the Nigerian government should stop planes coming from the United States to Nigeria and if they are to be allowed entrance into thus great nation they have to undergo series of tests and checkups to make sure they don't bring this deadly disease to our great and beloved nation Nigeria.
Just like their man Donald trump said about Nigeria, I think we should stop all their expatriates or business men who are coming into Nigeria and thoroughly check them. Or even if possible ban them from visiting especially the ones from the affected areas like their state of texas.
They think they are the only ones that can ban people or protect their citizens. Rubbish!!!
|Education / Re: 10 Weird Health Problems(pictures Included) by itsik(m): 11:48pm On Sep 29|
|Phones / Re: Nigerian Networks And Their Annoying Texts/calls by itsik(m): 7:29pm On Sep 21|
|Education / Re: 10 Most Extreme Body Part in the world!!! by itsik(m): 1:44pm On Sep 12|
Wow. The toe thingy is.......
|Nairaland / General / Re: BREAKING NEWS: Joan Rivers Is Dead by itsik(m): 9:07pm On Sep 04|
Rip to her. But she looks young @81years
|Nairaland / General / Re: Things You Hate To See On Nairaland by itsik(m): 1:23am On Jul 30|
Well it's ok
|Phones / Re: How To Take Screenshots Of Your Smartphones by itsik(m): 8:45pm On Jul 27|
Same for BlackBerry Z10, Z30, in fact the 10 series. Press the volume control buttons as in the up and down volume control buttons together and that's the screen grab or screen munch or snap what ever u call it
|Education / Re: 10 Weird Things You Didn’t Know Animals Do by itsik(m): 8:30pm On Jul 27|
|Food / Re: Bush Meat Eaters: Do You Know The Kind Of Animal Behind The Bush Meat You Eat? by itsik(m): 12:17pm On Jul 27|
|Autos / Re: Nigerian Made Cars Are Ready by itsik(m): 5:33pm On Jul 11|
|Autos / Re: LG Electronics Unveil Residential Airconditioning System For Average Nigerians by itsik(m): 2:40am On Jul 11|
Nice one there
|Sports / Re: Enyeama Deserves A Honorary Award From The President by itsik(m): 1:40pm On Jul 01|
Ok oo. He try
|Phones / Re: Nigerian Twitter Users (Tweeps) Thread - Let's Follow Each Other by itsik(m): 9:04pm On Jan 06|
Believe me, I will follow u back. Surely will.
|Phones / Re: Nigerian Twitter Users (Tweeps) Thread - Let's Follow Each Other by itsik(m): 8:35pm On Jan 04|
@achuonuik. Pls promise to follow back
|Phones / Re: Nigerian Twitter Users (Tweeps) Thread - Let's Follow Each Other by itsik(m): 11:19am On Jan 01|
Kindly follow me and DM me for a follow back. I always will. Or just mention me in ur tweet.
Nice one OP
|Nairaland / General / Re: What Is Your New Year Resolution? by itsik(m): 9:10am On Dec 31, 2013|
:-XIts actually the time.
|Family / Re: shshs that's it by itsik(m): 9:05pm On Dec 09, 2013|
Pls mods, can u help delete this thread or topic I created it and I duplicated cos of network problem. Pls kindly help me dete it. It was initially a thread for women and how they shld behave to show a man who wants to marry them that they are really a wife material.
|Family / Girls, You Don't Need To Be A House Maid To Make Him Know U A Wife Material by itsik(m): 6:55pm On Dec 09, 2013|
A guy would know you are a wife material not because you come to his house and work your Bottom off, but because when he calls you and ask about your day, you tell him about your chores and stuff, when he comes to your house you are either busy with one thing or the other and everything is in place. If he goes into your toilet its extremely neat. If he eats your food its delicious, if you see your mum with a broom or bucket you excuse him and go finish. what she has started, etc... he would know you are definatly home trained and a wife material.
Bottom line, you don't need to become a house help to a man by cooking and washing for him so that he would see you as a wife material. Men always know what they want. If you like cook Chinese rice in diamond sauce and turn 360 degrees in bed, or give him the snake in the monkey shadow style, it doesn't make you a wife material. Ladies need to start respecting themselves.
We believe charity begins at home and not this life of pretense most of u put up to get the ring and when its done you bring out ur real self. The way u treat your fammily and behaive at home tells us a lot.
|Family / shshs that's it by itsik(m): 6:48pm On Dec 09, 2013|
|Foreign Affairs / Facts Most Of Us Didn't Know About NELSON MANDELA by itsik(m): 11:54am On Dec 06, 2013|
1. He was born in July 18 1918 into the Xhosa-speaking Thembu people in a small village in the Eastern Cape of South Africa
2. He was named Rolihlahla Dalibhunga by his parents and was given his English name, Nelson, by a teacher at his school.
3. He is also sometimes called Madiba, which is his traditional clan name.
4. Mandela has been called both ‘the world’s most famous political prisoner’ and ‘South Africa’s Great Black Hope.’
5. His father, a counsellor to the Thembu royal family, died when Nelson Mandela was nine, and he was placed in the care of the acting regent of the Thembu people, Chief Jongintaba Dalindyebo.
6. He was circumcised at the age of 16
7. Nelson Mandela was an activist against apartheid, and he was the leader of the armed wing of the African National Congress.
8. Nelson Mandela was the first South African President who was elected in a completely democratic election.
9. He was elected at the age of 77
10. Mr Mandela set up South Africa’s first black law firm with Oliver Tambo
11. Nelson Mandela was an activist against apartheid, and he was the leader of the armed wing of the African National Congress.
12. Nelson Mandela spent twenty-seven years in prison.
13. Nelson Mandela won the Nobel prize in 1993.
14. In 1994 he published his autobiography ‘long walk to freedom’ which he wrote secretly while in prison.
15. In his spare time, Nelson Mandela studied to become a lawyer.
16. Nelson Mandela’s favorite breakfast is plain porridge, with fresh fruit and fresh milk.
17. Nelson Mandela has honorary degrees from more than 50 international universities.
18. During his 27-year jail term, he stayed in cell number 46664
19. Besides campaigning globally for peace, Mandela focused his still prodigious energies increasingly on empowering disadvantaged children and fighting against HIV/Aids.
20. He was diagnosed of prostate cancer in 2001
21. In June 2004 aged 85, Mandela officially retired from public life. His parting gift – a R1-billion endowment to South Africa, to be raised by the three charitable organisations that bear his name: the Nelson Mandela Foundation, the Nelson Mandela Children’s Fund and the Nelson Mandela Rhodes Foundation.
22. He was incarcerated on Robben island for 18 of his 27 years in prison
23. While in jail on Robben Island in the 1980s, the former president contracted tuberculosis.
24. Nelson Mandela retired from Public life in June 1999 and currently resides in his birth place
25. Mandela’s birth name – Rolihlahla – is an isiXhosa name that means ‘pulling the branch of the tree’. Colloquially it also means ‘troublemaker’. His English name, Nelson, was given to him by a missionary schoolteacher.
26. He was expelled from the University of Fort Hare after joining a student protest. He later completed his degree through Unisa, which he followed up with a law degree from Wits University.
27. He fled the Eastern Cape for Johannesburg after Jongintaba Dalindyebo, the leader of the Tembu people, tried to set up an arranged marriage for him. After arriving in the city, he found work as a night watchman at a mine.
28. He lived in Alexandra township at first butlater moved in with close friend Walter Sisulu and Sisulu’s mother in Orlando, Soweto.
29. Mandela’s first wife, Evelyn Mase, was a nurse and Walter Sisulu’s cousin. She was the breadwinner in the family and supported Mandela while he studied law at Wits University and became further involved in politics. They had four children together and divorced in 1958.
30. He was the first commander in chief of the ANC’s armed wing.
31. In 1962, he left the country to garner support for the armed struggle. During this time he received guerilla training in Morocco and Ethiopia.
32. The circumstances surrounding his arrest at a police roadblock outside of Howick later that year remain unclear but it is believed that an American CIA agent tipped off the police about his whereabouts. He was convicted of sabotage and attempting to violently overthrow the government.
33. During his time in prison, Mandela was restricted to a 2m x 2.5m cell, with nothing but a bedroll on the floor and a bucket for sanitation in it. He was consigned to hard labour in a lime quarry for much of that time and was, at first, only allowed one visitor and one letter every six months.
34. The apartheid government offered to release Mandela on no less than six occasions but he rejected them each time. On one such occasion Mandela released a statement saying: ‘I cherish my own freedom dearly, but I care even more for your freedom … What freedom am I being offered while the organisation of the people [the ANC] remains banned?‘
35. Mandela wrote a memoir during the 70s, copies of which were wrapped in plastic containers and buried in a vegetable garden which he kept at prison. It was hoped that fellow prisoner Mac Maharaj, who was due for release, would be able to smuggle it out. But the containers were discovered when prison authorities began building a wall through the garden. As punishment, Mandela’s study privileges were revoked.
36. After he was separated from his second wife, Winnie Madikizela-Mandela, he asked struggle stalwart Amina Cachalia, with whom he had a long relationship, to marry him but she turned him down. On his 80th birthday, Mandela married, the widow of Mozambique’s former president Samora Machel.
37. The ANC was labelled a terrorist organisation by the apartheid government and was recognised as such by countries including the US and Britain. It was only in 2008 that the United States finally removed Mandela and other ANC members from its terror list.
38. The United Nations declared his birthday, July 18, Nelson Mandela International Day. This was the first time the UN dedicated a particular day to a person.
39. Hundreds of awards and honours have been bestowed on Mandela. Among others, he was an honorary citizen of Canada, an honorary member of the British Labour Party, and an honorary member of Manchester United. He also had a nuclear particle (the ‘Mandela particle’), a prehistoric woodpecker (Australopicus nelsonmandelai) and an orchid (Paravanda Nelson Mandela) named after him.
40. When Mandela was 9 years old, his father died of lung disease, causing his life to change dramatically.
41. He wrote his first adress in jail in a dark cell which was later found after his release.
42. He visited his cell room years after his release and lit up a candle in his cell and gave to a black child, which he called his reconcilliation with his past.
43. His release even brought more clashes amongs the south african black race, which also resulted in killings too. He later adressed this and told his country men to drop their arms and weapons and embrace fredom.
|Travel / Re: Two Female Immigration Officers Collapse On Parade Ground by itsik(m): 4:04pm On Nov 29, 2013|
Well easy on these folks ooo
|Forum Games / Re: Funny Names Abbreviation. by itsik(m): 10:07pm On Oct 10, 2013|
NAMES and short form.
Brother victor = Bro vic
Brother muchael = bro mike.
BROTHER COSMAS => "BRO COS"
|Culture / Re: How Do People Actually 'Hold' The Rain? by itsik(m): 5:04pm On Aug 20, 2013|
I think rain making and rain control is more of a scientific exercise than the so called "JUJU" okijajuju good evening.
I will first start with moving the rain to another part or chasing it away. I remember sometime around 2002 when I was in secondary school. Julius bedger construction company wanted to construct an new road beside my school at UTURU abia state, it wanted to rain heavily that day and they've mixed their cement for the slabs to cover one big water drainage they made. The next thing we heard was a shot and there was red smoke in the sky. Do u know that that heavy rain didn't drop one bit till the next day. But all the neighboring villages experienced rain that day.
Its just like sending dry air to go and disperce or scatter the wet cloud that's gathering. If u know the water circle well. After evaporation, comes condensation but when u have enough dry air substance to scatter or disperse this moisture containing cloud and air, the moisture will go and gather some other place it finds ok and fall there. This is done traditionally. If u notice they always burn a leaf or something which sends smoke up to the sky.
Then bringing the rain. There a lot of chemical substances that are know to attract moisture some are in gaseous form and also exist in nature is some of these shrubs and tree we see everyday. When one is able to send up into the clouds this kind of substance, they will attract moisture and cos rain. This is how rain is made artificially. Cos when air carrying water "humid air" gather and presumably the area gets saturated, the next thing we have is condensation. That's it
PLS note: this doesn't mean that there might not be diabolic ways or bringing and shifting rain. All I did was to scientifically back some of the practices. Example, like the one I said JULIUS BEDGER did.
|Religion / Re: Pope To Priests - Buy Humble Cars by itsik(m): 12:43pm On Jul 07, 2013|
U people aren't even mentioning the major point he raised. Its not about humble cars or jets. He said, "when u want to buy this kinda expensive, flashy of cars remember that there are some out there hungry. Who can't even see a meal in two days" that's just it.
They shld help poor and hungry people not enriching themselves. Even the scripture said it, JESUS refused to send the crowd away hungry. He made them sit down. And fed them, his flock. He didn't multiply the fish and the bread for himself and his deciples, he gave it to the hungry and starving.
That's the message.
|Webmasters / I Don't Know Why This Website Has Been Distributing My Pin To People I Don't Kno by itsik(m): 10:01pm On Jun 02, 2013|
NOTE: mods pls I don't know the right place to post this. Could u people pls help me send it to the right category.
This website "http://www.ipaidabribenaija.com" of late started sending me updates and latest news flash with out me doing any transaction with them or even registering with them. Well, I wasn't bothered. All I did was delete the messages they kept sending. As if that was all. This night people kept on adding me on BBM. People I don't know and haven't had any encounter with and when I asked thEy said they got my pin from the same site (http://www.ipaidabribenaija.com). And am like what's all this? I don't know who to report to had it been I know the headquaters of this site I would make a case with them cos they are sending my PIN to people without my permission or knowledge. That's bridge of right to privacy.
Its annoying pls house what do I do tho make this stop. And another thing. When this site sends emails to me they appear in red color font, other from the normal black colored font on my phone. I don't just know. Have they hacked my set or something. I need advise house pls. Its scary and annoying.
PLEASE MODS, FRONT PAGE. I want to hear what people have to say, cos nigeria isn't safe again. Am kinda scared. Thx pls
|Nairaland / General / Re: Childhood Songs We Missed Their Correct Lyrics by itsik(m): 11:58pm On Apr 18, 2013|
Check out this national anthem.
Arise o compassion,
Nigeria scoll obey
Tusa our father laaaa
Tusa ma fesha fair,
One labour shaba,
Our hii shaba
Shall never be in vain
Tusa, tusa our matching,
One nation ba, in freedom.
Miss anyi wu onyeoshi.
The also this pix
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