Man or Woman, Who Should Pay on a Restaurant Date?

I'm not sure if this has been discussed before but..het

A man asks a woman out and she accepts. He ends up taking her on a date. They go to a fancy restaurant.They have fun eating and generally enjoying eachother's company. Then the bill comes. He turns to her and says
"So how are we gonna settle this?"
The woman is surprised and gives him her credit card, she tells him to do what he feels is right. She excuses herself and goes to the bathroom. Her date ends up using her credit card to pay for everything and she never goes out with him again.

My question is:
1) On a date who pays? Does this only apply to a first date?
2) Do you believe in going "dutch"
3) What happened to the line "I'm Miss Independent"?

Yeah thatz right
im surprised to hear that the man asked her out and asked her to pay the bill
thatz ridiculous
he's an incompetent looser.

  i cant believe that guy asked her to pay dats just very bad of him...she was even nice enough to give him her card to pay if i was d one i would just walk(unless i have extra cash to spare).

i think the person askin someone out should pay and on subsequent dates when they become more familiar with each other they can now decide if they split the bills or watever...

where i stay it's pay for urself  if they ask u out be ready to pay ooo if not u'll disgrace urself
but we foreigners are different

back to the topic
i think a guy should pay

planet mars 

the person who ask the otherone out.
all the date i have ever been, i have never pay for it.

@christine "what do u mean by man enough?" the lady should pay the cash and if the man offers to then OK...

all the luck snazzydawn, i think its the askee that pays the bill here,
but sometimes it depends u know.....

In nigerian culture, the man should pay and must pay whether he likes it or now if not girl go run ooooooooo .

In oyinbo culture, the man or the woman can pay..thats the way their culture works.

But to me, l think it doesn't really matter as long as you have mutual understanding that shoudn't be an issue.

If I invite a babe out for a date, I make sure I hold enuff money to pay. The first time I invited a babe out for a date (oceanview) I held 50K. If the girl now decides to pay half, then it's a different question.

Even here in the UK where everyone goes dutch, I tend to make sure we all know I can't afford to pay for everyone. I must confess that back in Naija, it became a slight turnoff to me that women were always expecting me to pay their bills. Even when they initiated the date. I once was in a position where a babe asked me to go with her on a dinner date, chose the restaurant (Imperial chinese, I told her I preferred Biggs) and then when I asked who was paying the bill, she said I was cheap. I had to tell her that if I was cheap, then she was a freeloader. The dinner never held.

Hello Soulful, your post smacks of a slight amount of prejudice. I tend to be more liberated, to the extent that I'm almost a feminist, even though I'm male. Apart from some physical attributes and abilities, I don't think women are different from men. I have met intelligent women that absolutely humbled me, yet I am known as quite an intelligent person. It has nothing to do with being a man my brother. I always encourage women to be all they can do, and play larger roles in the society. I have no problems with a woman paying for dinner, in the same way that I have no problems paying the bills when I eat out with a woman. I simply don't see why it is my responsibility "as a man". What am I, a walking wallet? A talking credit card??

Barry,U lie no be small.
Why not read d storyline b4 concluding?

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Whoever asked out should not pay becasue for you to agree on the request means you are as well intrested in the person that asked you out unless you play mind games which many nigerian girls tends to do.  Well it really depends.Let me give u an example.....

I have known this girl in my school for like three years..so latley I decided to ask her out on a date...we went to a resturant..and did our thing...when the bill came..I wanted to pay for her but she paid her part. I paid my too after all I see in school everyday and concidering we r both students..it does not worth it..

Well the case is diffrent if I was a full working graduate and go out with a student, I will pay for our both meals....

If we r both full working graduates, and I know you and see you around all the time, on the first date, it makes sense that we pay our own way....

In summary, if the level of mans intergrity(including money) is equal or relativley the same with a womans intergrity, both should pay their own way unless,

- Either party voluntary decide to pay for the other...
- If payment will not cause a problem to either parties account
- If the two have similar go go personality (not looking deep into things which I have myself like asking if i am surporse to pay)

Quit looking for a reason to be cheap my African brother, if you are nice enough to take a girl out on a date, paying for dinner should never be an issue.

in law black can be white......it does not always sound right cos majority does things in a particular way...let me write ur consititution