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Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by manijoli(m): 10:45am On Jul 16, 2021 |
IF U TAKE CARE OF THE KIDS IS GOOD |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by AreaFada2: 10:45am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Hammyaladin:God bless you. Charity without reward. Even if the hubby is late, no matter how you struggle to assist your step kids, only few ever appreciate it. By the time you have your own kids, your step kids will also feel that you did more for your biological kids. I have said so over many years in several posts here on Nairaland. OP should jeje carry the load he signed up for. 5 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by EdoFirstBorn(m): 10:45am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Andrew87: Very stupid decision. Ozuor Are you impotent ? Can't you have your own children? Ozuor 1 Like |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by INTEGRITYA1(m): 10:46am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Andrew87: Please look into this advice and take it serious. You and your said wife are even lucky the ex husband is ready to have his Children and financially able enough to take care of them. Leverage on the ex husband request to have the children back, so sit your wife down and talk to her to let the ex husband take the procession of those children. This will not only relief you from your present financial struggle. But will reduce the risk of greater issues in years to come. What are those that greater issue? By the time she started giving birth to your own children or if you have any already and they are growing together within your custody. Irrespective of how rich you are, you can not always meet up 100% with demand and request at home (financially, physical availability and so on). Even as a loving and responsible father, there are times you turn down your own children request; no matter how you cared and loved them, but it will be normal when doing to your own children but to your step children it will attract different meaning entirely. People who have been there can relate. Also handling disciplinary issues at home, a good, loving and responsible father can not raise good children without occasionally or continually discipline the children and introducing cane (Pankere) on children is inevitable. Then your wife or people around you will be seeing you differently when you are applying cane to correct your children and when you are correcting your steps children with the same method, no matter how hard you try to ensure equity and balance. Many people who have been there can relate better. You can not completely erase all these issues in this scenario but you can reduce it and luckily for you, their father is ready to take them. At this point, it's left to you. 6 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Raalsalghul: 10:47am On Jul 16, 2021 |
When we say avoid single mothers especially when the father is alive, they will tell us that "love conquers all". Let the love conquer this one na. Mumu! 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Vireani79: 10:47am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Romanoff: Focus on the topic The topic is not about widows Nor struggling women It's a topic of a man who married a woman who came with baggages he can't take care of He is not deadbeat He just can't trust her enough cos like a normal nigerian woman She wants to use the kids as a get out of jail card Milk the man Take his money to do business and keep asking for more cos to the deadbeat husband and her, the ex is wealthy 12 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by IamAsiri: 10:47am On Jul 16, 2021 |
AyeMoJuba: What an analysis! |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by vickydevoka(m): 10:48am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Romanoff:Leave 9ja. After 2months he will stop sending. U see it's not easy for single mum. If I were her, I will give it to him n concentrate on my new home. I will have an agreement anyday de child go missing or is maltreated I will have d back, simple. Most 9ja women like suffering. All de single mum I know today are prostitute. Bcus I wan cater for my pikin. De people asking not to give u child to him, will not give u money 4 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by emmnprince(m): 10:48am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Romanoff: You well. What you have said is on point. 1 Like |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Nobody: 10:48am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Since you deemed it sane to marry her, knowing that she has two kids, and agreeing from the onset for you all to be together, then man up and stop complaining. It's a responsibility you put on yourself, so take it. ACT LIKE A MAN 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Romanoff(f): 10:49am On Jul 16, 2021 |
EdoFirstBorn: No. You should keep quiet with the hate in your heart for a mother. Why can't they agree on co parenting? Did the woman deny him access to his kids? For her to be asking him to provide for hiss kids means she's open to him being in their lives even of she's married. Take your misogyny out of my mentions cause im not here for it. If my comments repulses you that much, ignore it for people with a more rational reasoning to comment. 1 Like |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Nobody: 10:49am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Romanoff: You're wise 1 Like |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by sylve11: 10:49am On Jul 16, 2021 |
I know sey the replies go make person fit let person laff faint. Nairaland o! |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by wellmax(m): 10:50am On Jul 16, 2021 |
SoftChordz: His life, His choice, your opinion does not matter. 1 Like |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Raalsalghul: 10:50am On Jul 16, 2021 |
ednut1: Especially when the father is alive. 2 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Romanoff(f): 10:50am On Jul 16, 2021 |
vickydevoka: They will still use it to insult her on the future and even turn her kids against her. Make she just see herself like widow so she can double her hustle and care for the kids. 1 Like |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Reex12(m): 10:51am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Katier00:how is the man not responsible aunty..he got her pregnant but can't marry her for whatever reason s.oya give him his kids to raise as being wealthy..she said NO..fine take care of them yourselfs..she still complain of hardship..meanwhile u have a man who has married you oh..is it the responsibility of the biological father to spoonfeed anoda fellow man In name of child support?Never..it's your Newman's duy now to inherit the burden 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by gabicon: 10:51am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Andrew87: When you decide to spend your life with someone, you automatically accepted what ever baggage they come with. In essence you choose to embark on a road trip with someone who has 2 passenger that can't be left behind, you can't mid journey start complaining that your shock absorber can't carry the weight of the two extras. You ought to haves accessed your vehicle before you embarked on the journey in other words count the cost. You guys will have to pray and try harder the minute you married your wife you became a father, stop expecting a rich low life who ought to be responsible for his kids to assume your responsibility. Further more Mr ex wants to control the trajectory of your wife's life even though they are no longer together (I suspect your wife initiated the separation), your coming into the picture serves as a brick wall to that mission. The more you take from him the more solid grounds he has by law to file for their custody, should he win it will crush your wife, and you will end up with a broken woman and no kids. 1 Like |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Romanoff(f): 10:52am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Vireani79: Milk the man for what? If they were married and are now divorced, she's no longer entitled to alimony. How is a man caring for his child by laying child support now a get out of jail card? There are several ways to do it. He can choose their school, last their fees himself, buy their clothes himself and she would just be responsible for feeding them. How is that hard? 1 Like |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by johhnnie(m): 10:52am On Jul 16, 2021 |
lakefist: Don't mind them jare. It may also be that the man left the marriage for security reasons. The moment you discover that your wife is becoming too close to a particular man. You may want to reconsider your relationship with such a woman. Moreover, if you are seen to be a man of means. Talking from experience here. 3 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Person2person(m): 10:54am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Hmmmm |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Dododawa01: 10:54am On Jul 16, 2021 |
grandlexuz:The man write up is good idea. I supported d kids to b with d mother. Though it depend on d age of d kids, if their age is BTW 3-7 years and u expect d father to take d custodian of d kids which is totally wrong. As u said both parties need to settle in upbringing of those kids. Not all men is as good as u, There are some men, immediately she released d kids, d mother will never set her eye on them again. I know a woman that does what u said, its going to 15 years now, she never set her eye on her children. All their family have relocated to abroad. The family d woman know have relocated to Bayelsa and d woman doesn't know their family house in Balyesa. 1 Like |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by seangy4konji: 10:56am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Na problem hide for corner you go one torch light look for am... As single girl deh everywhere deh go pastor adeboye church and oyedepo you say na after 2....engine weh don enter 0-40 na hin you wan rebore... Jesus carry him cross....you go carrry this one alone also...No come here disturb ooo...after two put honey for puna for you...u wan die there you no know no say buhari go be president |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Bola146(f): 10:58am On Jul 16, 2021 |
EdoFirstBorn: Na them Didn't he see or plan the kids before getting married to their mother Oniranu 1 Like |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by johhnnie(m): 10:59am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Romanoff: With due respect to your person. I think you have never experienced how manipulative such women can be. Most especially, when it is perceived that the ex spouse is wealthy. It is not an experience any responsible man should go through. Oftentimes, it is the responsible men that go through these ordeals. 3 Likes |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by seunmsg(m): 10:59am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Romanoff: To what end if i may ask you? Why do all these just to take care of another Man's kids? Children that will grow up and still look for their biological father and bear his name? Why carry another man's load? Dear OP, the above is a very wrong advice. In the future, you will regret wasting your life raising another man's kids and it will be too late to do anything about it. Even the so called wife you are trying to please can leave you at anytime. If she can leave a rich man after two kids, she can leave your struggling ass as well. Be wise. Let the father take care of his kids and face your own life. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Vireani79: 10:59am On Jul 16, 2021 |
Romanoff: U don too watch American movies We don't do alimony in nigeria And yes many women use children living with them to milk men Responsible for feeding them. Won't this man also eat from the food paid for by the wealthy man Look it's simple The kids dont have to be with her since she and her husband are struggling Let the wealthy man have his kids He won't feed her and her husband through the lie of paying for his kids Return the kids And have peace |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by emmnprince(m): 10:59am On Jul 16, 2021 |
DirtyGold: So if someone make a mistake and seek for advice on how to manage the situation and make things easy for self is it wise to only para, rebuke and condemn the person without giving, even if na, one kobo advice? No matter how irrational or foolish a decision is made by a person, an advice can help. No human is perfect or free without flaw! |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Romanoff(f): 11:00am On Jul 16, 2021 |
seunmsg: I believe it's part of what he thought of before marrying a woman with two kids. If he is not capable of supporting the kids, the woman should double her hustle or head to court. |
Re: Married To Mum Of 2 But The Babies Dad Choose To Neglect Responsibilities. by Nweike190(m): 11:00am On Jul 16, 2021 |
. ...its not weather... As rain go fall weather wan change... It's whether... sam564: 1 Like |
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