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Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Raypawer(m): 11:20pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
Be careful of what you type, what is the meaning of so called son of God? Jesus is the Son of God and he is God the Son. Be careful! Datboredberry: |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Nobody: 11:21pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:You will typing sha Did Elijah not have period of depression and was even suicidal (he was telling God to take his life) Did David not go through depression when his house was under fire and God took his son gotten from adultery? Was Joseph in Euphoria when he was thrown in a well by his brothers or locked up in prison by his boss? Tell me if you were Daniel whether you won't be depressed after being taken as captive in a war alongside his friends from the comfort of their home and family. Tell me if Jesus didn't feel depressed when he was about to be crucified and he tried to pray to God to let "this cup pass him" but nothing changed stop deceiving and confusing yourself oga 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Ladylawyer(f): 11:22pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:It is not about being ashamed of ones story. There are certain secrets as a human being that you wouldn't want to be in the open. It may be your marriage trials, school, or even business secret's/transactions. 2 Likes |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by wildikeman(m): 11:25pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
Because it seems to be only me that knows how and where the fore hurts. These days people are just inconsiderate and selfish or self absorbed 1 Like |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Nobody: 11:27pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
"If to say trust dey water for no dey cook fish."- Eri Baba (Erigga) Circa 2000 I keep my secrets to myself. It's called SECRET for a reason- it is not to be shared. Shikena! 3 Likes |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Kobojunkie: 11:27pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
SaveMeLord:So where in the Bible did Jesus Christ in fact state that for His followers, depression will never last longer than it did for Him? By the way, do you know approximately how long David's. Elijah's, Job's, Joseph's, or even Daniel's depression periods lasted? P.S. Jeremiah is one person that it is clear His depression lasted a very long time that it even earned him the nickname the "wailing prophet" though. 2 Likes |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by 1Sharon(f): 11:30pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
SaveMeLord: I'm not an atheist. I worship FSM. |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Nobody: 11:33pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
1Sharon:What's that? Fountain of Salvation Ministry. You can't worship a church you know |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by iamtardey: 11:34pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
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Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Ladylawyer(f): 11:34pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
I am really a private person but i open up to my family, i tell them everything there is to know about me. I was surprised to know that a close relation would go behind me and tell another relation not to help me. She lied against me. Oh! How i cried. I still cry not because of what was said but because of who said it. She would always come to console and laugh with me. I helped this lady a whole lot. I can never trust another human with my heart. At some point i couldn't keep calm any longer and so i called her and told her all that i know. I warned her to please avoid me. I felt better after that. 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by iezeiyida(m): 11:35pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
Op what a great topic this is I stopped opening up to people because I discovered 70% don't give a demn, 20% won't do anything about them rather than being happy you have the problem and spreading them, while the remaining 10% cares but very likely can't do anything to help you 4 Likes |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Kobojunkie: 11:36pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
Ladylawyer:It doesn't always seem apparent when we have not actually taken time to process it but there is an element of shame/guilt, feeling that one would be rejected or abandoned or crucified by others if the secret or story is revealed. In my many years, I have witnessed situations where some who formally hid within themselves, work to resolve those self-esteem issues through some form of counseling, realizing that those secrets are nothing but unnecessary burdens and shackles keeping them from moving forward in those areas in their lives. In all cases, they ended up broadcasting the very same secrets themselves and accepting the reactions that followed , this in order to find the peace they always longed for, this from the burden. 3 Likes |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Ladylawyer(f): 11:38pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:What you said has some truths in it. |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Kobojunkie: 11:39pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
Ladylawyer:But don't you see that that even was not about you but instead about the character of the One who lied against you ? So long as you know what was said was a lie, why cry about that. Or was there truth to it or something that made you react in the way you did? |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Nobody: 11:41pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
Ladylawyer:I feel your pain but forgive her 1 Like |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Ladylawyer(f): 11:45pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:She destroyed her inegrity with her own hands. The truth is i would not have suspected her for any reason whatsoever but three different relation of ours that saw what i was passing through in the hands of my so called confidant called me at different times to tell me all that happened. Nobody in the family tells their secrets around her anymore. Not even my would be helper. 1 Like |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Kobojunkie: 11:45pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
Ladylawyer:The long and short of it is keeping secrets benefits absolutely no one. |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Ladylawyer(f): 11:46pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
SaveMeLord:I hurt people too and so i forgive easily but i will not get close to her again before she kills me. How can she bite me and sooth my pains at the same time. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Ladylawyer(f): 11:48pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:I will keep: My next moves My achievements And my mistakes to myself. 3 Likes |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Kobojunkie: 11:49pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
Ladylawyer:Oh, so you trusted her? Well, I am against trusting humans since by nature we are untrustworthy beings. |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Kobojunkie: 11:51pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
Ladylawyer:Your next moves? Isn't that the answer you provide to a popular job interview question? Your achievements? You no list am for your resume? Your mistakes? So long as you be human, you sef get plenty so no bother. |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by 1Sharon(f): 11:59pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
SaveMeLord: No, my God is the flying spaghetti monster. The one true God. All other gods are impastas. |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by cayorday89(m): 11:59pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
SeriouslySense:To me its not necessarily a secret, in this instance more like your struggles, your pains, who understands it better if not you, and telling people about it is not it at all, except someone you are sure can relate. To the best of my knowledge, a secret is a nagativity one is trying to protect. One's struggle is not a secret, you only need someone who understands that struggle to help you out of it. |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by 7victor(m): 12:00am On Nov 16, 2021 |
One man wrote that if you tell people your problem, either they are secretly happy you are suffering or they don't care. If a person is not the one who would solve your problem, he or she may secretly hope you don't find solutions to your problem but may be pretending otherwise. That is the truth about human beings. 3 Likes |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by irijuola: 12:04am On Nov 16, 2021 |
Ofadaman: This one weak me. If na me, one day when he starts consoling and admonishing me, I'll just start with parables that will be hitting him in the right places. Human beings!!!! 3 Likes |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Ladylawyer(f): 12:04am On Nov 16, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:Your question is quite insensitive. I just finished school and all my life i lived in one state and also schooled in that state. I needed a change of environment. Luckily enough, i have a very close relation that stays in one of the best cities in Nigeria. The job opportunities there is second to none and as God may have it, this relation of mine has called for my help so many times and i rendered my help so well. I felt she would allow me stay in her place for sometime. I told this confidant of mine and she gave me different flimsy reasons not to go but i told her that going there will make me happier. Atleast let me try. My so called confidant called my relation i was planning on visiting and told her not to let me into her home, i was not told about other things she said. My would be helper became hostile to me so that i will not even contemplate on asking for her help. This would be helper of mine used to beg me to come to her home to help her baby sit. They always loved to have me around. I felt used. So because she nolonger needed my services plus the lies that was told i was tossed aside. I didn't know about what transpired. Like i said earlier, three of my relations that knew what happened and saw that i was still close to my supposed confidant told me. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Greatric213(f): 12:10am On Nov 16, 2021 |
iamyemiakins:same with me I don't trust people 2 Likes |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Kobojunkie: 12:24am On Nov 16, 2021 |
Ladylawyer:I am not in anyway attempting to be insensitive, it's just that I really don't see it the way you seem to. What you describe is what I consider typical family drama that no longer phases me. As I said, I have never been the trusting kind, this mainly because I resolved early in life that we are all fault prone and hence untrustworthy as a species. So such things as having confidant is weird to me. Again, not trying to be insensitive in anyway. 1 Like |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by SeriouslySense(m): 12:24am On Nov 16, 2021 |
Thats right, we also need a safe space to express our struggles, because in doing so, we may identify how to overcome it or confront it in a much more effective way. So its better to share our struggles, with someone who has overcome struggles, and experts. cayorday89: |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by Blastedholligan: 12:30am On Nov 16, 2021 |
Datboredberry:if you believe in these words and you use it to buttress your point, why say "¢so called son of God"? 1 Like |
Re: What Made You Decide To Never Open Up To People Again? by jimcaddy(m): 12:30am On Nov 16, 2021 |
Funny enough, the best types of people to open up to are complete strangers. You see friends are the ones who will go behind you to snitch... Friends are not friends anymore these days. 6 Likes |
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