Kmf0:
Go for the 32years

I repeat do not marry a young girl

Most of these girls from 28 years downward are not ready for marriage . They are immature and believe everything is glitter and want a man to do everything for them. They can’t think clear. Their life is based on Netflix hollywood nollywood Instagram tiktok clubhouse abs others



You will have peace marrying that 32years old and forget about those that says older may not get preg on time , it’s all false. Most of the old ones and even getting pregnant faster than those young nasty things out there

I agree... get married to the oldie then have a youngie as a mistress....

pocohantas:


How is your reality an insult? Didn’t your fathers cheat on your mothers?



Lol. If you look that good, they won’t be hiding your pictures. They won’t be posting only pictures of themselves and the food/gifts you bought for them. Ain’t no youngie drooling over an old broke man, because he would look stressed and dusty. Money stops nonsense, maybe aging too.

You quoted me wrongly. Did you see BROKE in my post?

Whether young or old, a broke man is irrelevant. Even if he is young and cute, his woman will cheat on him with rich old man. Every man desires and should strive to get money..or atleast be financially okay to take care of his needs and families. Money is the number one thing that makes a man stand out....same way beauty makes a woman stand out.

But you and I know that in Naija...chances are a 30 plus man is likely more richer than those in their 20s. Even you ladies advices yourself not marry a man below 33. I have seen several threads like that. Abi I lie.

So an older man still stand more chances of picking what he likes..as far as his pocket is right.

Emaprince:
You quoted me wrongly. Did you see BROKE in my post?

Whether young or old, a broke man is irrelevant. Even if he is young and cute, his woman will cheat on him with rich old man. Every man desires and should strive to get money..or atleast be financially okay to take care of his needs and families. Money is the number one thing that makes a man stand out....same way beauty makes a woman stand out.

But you and I know that in Naija...chances are a 30 plus man is likely more richer than those in their 20s. Even you ladies advices yourself not marry a man below 33. I have seen several threads like that. Abi I lie.

So an older man still stand more chances of picking what he likes..as far as his pocket is right.

No my dear, you lie. When you are young, your youthfulness can easily get you ladies. That is why 500L engineering boys and corpers can have a field day. As you get older, you have to bring more to the table, that is where money comes in.

I am glad we are in agreement that the attraction is your financial stability. Then you should quit the talk of “looking good”. Nobody send your looks as a 50yrs old man. You can’t look better than the younglings. You sure do not have abs and I am sure you dress like men of your generation.

oldienavie:

Your response is way too emotional, you are not being objective.
The concept of Love as you see it does not exist. The fact you are in love does not stop you from being able to make intelligent decisions especially when it comes to marriage.
When it comes to marriage, a man and woman have to use their sense and not emotions when making decisions.
An age gap of 10 years between a man and woman is not unusual, infact most people that I know have an age gap of atleast 5 years.
So yes, the age gap for me is something that I am worried about.

That's a lady you're replying to. Never take their advice when it comes to women matters they always side their kinds. Just do what every selfish man would do. They are billions of women on earth stop settling for what you not satisfied with. Marriage isn't a joke

Emaprince:
You quoted me wrongly. Did you see BROKE in my post?

Whether young or old, a broke man is irrelevant. Even if he is young and cute, his woman will cheat on him with rich old man. Every man desires and should strive to get money..or atleast be financially okay to take care of his needs and families. Money is the number one thing that makes a man stand out....same way beauty makes a woman stand out.

But you and I know that in Naija...chances are a 30 plus man is likely more richer than those in their 20s. Even you ladies advices yourself not marry a man below 33. I have seen several threads like that. Abi I lie.

So an older man still stand more chances of picking what he likes..as far as his pocket is right.

All my female friends tell me "it depends on the financial capability of who is coming" when I talk to them about marriage... many of my female friends don't mind a guys age as long as he is confident and has money.... some gals mind age sha....

The girl is just jealous. As I've told her girls have their power too... it comes early and many misuse it.... so she should stop hating on guys or arguing with nature....

pocohantas:


No my dear, you lie. When you are young, your youthfulness can easily get you ladies. That is why 500L engineering boys and corpers can have a field day. As you get older, you have to bring more to the table, that is where money comes in.

I am glad we are in agreement that the attraction is your financial stability. Then you should quit the talk of “looking good”. Nobody send your looks as a 50yrs old man. You can’t look better than the younglings. You sure do not have abs and I am sure you dress like men of your generation.

In the marriage market 50 yr old rich men hv the upper hand. In the dating market younger guys have the upper hand than the 50 yr old. But still if the 50yr old searches well is famous or popular or rich he can still get a 24- 28 year old girl to date and even marry.

Stop being envious of guys it won't help u....

BigBashiru:


In the marriage market 50 yr old rich men hv the upper hand. In the dating market younger guys have the upper hand than the 50 yr old. But still if the 50yr old searches well is famous or popular or rich he can still get a 24- 28 year old girl to date and even marry.

Stop being envious of guys it won't help u....

Lol. Trust me, there is no part of me that has envied men or craved to be a man.

I rather be a teacup. I don’t even mean this as an insult.

oldienavie:
If you are wondering why I am not married at 36 years old, I was abroad studying and did not want to marry Oyinbo.

And you think the lady doesn't have her own reason for not being married. I can see ur immature from your writeup so go for the younger girl ,she can deal with ur level of reasoning. The 30+ gal will need a more matured man with wisdom,who can take decisions without bringing it for the world to see.

Double0h7:
I swear age is just a number. Look at the kinda question a 36 year old man is asking

you mean the 36 years old boy.

oldienavie:
If you are wondering why I am not married at 36 years old, I was abroad studying and did not want to marry Oyinbo.

Even with your oyibo man brain and schooling abroad you are still reasoning like this what if you didn't travel at all it would have been worse.

okwadatigbogal:



My dear, there is nothing wrong in marrying someone older than you. But in my respectful opinion 8 years is too much especially in this case where the woman is older and I believe she's Nigerian. Nevertheless, love is all that matters. It is not a one size fits all thing. Marry who you truly love and resonate with. Above all marry for the right reasons.

okay... I struggle with it though... I will be 30 and she will be 39 this year... It just doesnt sit well with me even though she is a good girl and circumstances have made her not find the one yet.

pocohantas:


Lol. Trust me, there is no part of me that has envied men or craved to be a man.

I rather be a teacup. I don’t even mean this as an insult.

Alright baby/internet girlfriend.... buy me a tea cup of coffee....(we are on a date).....

DavidHarry:


Like a child, you raise a woman to your taste. A 30+ woman would most likely be raising you

Even 15 year old girl will be raising you if you behaves like a child.

I believe age is just a number , as a man once you are able to find a woman that has all the qualities you are looking for , then you should be able to make the decision personally.. To me, whether you go for a younger girl of 20s now , later she'll still get to that age for 30s and you'll also grow older as well, so what's gonna change then?? your chore responsibility is to love that woman till thy kingdom come( eternity) , Marriage is a commitment of the future . Be prepared of what is coming,that same slim girl of 20s will still grow bigger mostly after birth and turn orobo later on so what are you going to do?? look for another younger 20 s to marriage again?? love is what matters

pocohantas:


No my dear, you lie. When you are young, your youthfulness can easily get you ladies. That is why 500L engineering boys and corpers can have a field day. As you get older, you have to bring more to the table, that is where money comes in.

I am glad we are in agreement that the attraction is your financial stability. Then you should quit the talk of “looking good”. Nobody send your looks as a 50yrs old man. You can’t look better than the younglings. You sure do not have abs and I am sure you dress like men of your generation.

Who told you I dont have abs? see this one.

Older man can't look better than the younigings. But he can still have a field day with the right pocket. If its all about fine boyism..yahoo yahoo won't be eating deep into our boys. They still need money to maintain their relationship...or let the old men inject some ancient sperm into their cuties VJs.

Babaken:
Even with your oyibo man brain and schooling abroad you are still reasoning like this what if you didn't travel at all it would have been worse.

Pls what's this supposed to mean?? Blacks reason far better than oyinbos... pls don't try this nonsense again!

What works for me might not work for you.
Pray and choose wisely

oldienavie:
So I am 36 years and looking to settle down.
I have a lady friend who I have know for a while and is a really decent lady.
She is the type of person I would like to marry (I like conservative ladies and she is the conservative type no makeup which is what I want).
She is 32 years old.

A part of me feels it is better to wait for a while and try and get a younger "god fearing" lady.

To the men, what would you advise ?

I am kinda traditional and feel like a man should avoid marrying a lady in her 30s and also have a gap of atleast 7 years with the wife but I think I love her, I have been thinking about her lately.

Edited: A lot of people asking why I am not married at 36 years old, I was studying abroad, I just got back to naija to try and marry.

You want to marry your grandma, she's never a good girl but she hide her bad characters just to cage you with marriage then she will show you who she is

How does sexual peak relate to him not wanting to marry a lady he is 5 years older than?

DavidHarry:


I'm saying that a man is at his sexual peak at 40k so long as he follows his purpose but it is not the same for women

Please go and look for a small girl and leave her alone.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Follow your instincts.

This guy no get instincts na why he come nairaland

Babaken:
Even with your oyibo man brain and schooling abroad you are still reasoning like this what if you didn't travel at all it would have been worse.

You can remove a man from Katsina but you cannot remove the Katsina from the man

fabolousneyo:
I believe age is just a number , as a man once you are able to find a woman that has all the qualities you are looking for , then you should be able to make the decision personally.. To me, whether you go for a younger girl of 20s now , later she'll still get to that age for 30s and you'll also grow older as well, so what's gonna change then?? your chore responsibility is to love that woman till thy kingdom come( eternity) , Marriage is a commitment of the future . Be prepared of what is coming,that same slim girl of 20s will still grow bigger mostly after birth and turn orobo later on so what are you going to do?? look for another younger 20 s to marriage again?? love is what matters

Age is just a number until you start looking for IVF centres doing promo

Jman06:
So, in your mind you think a lady who was promiscuous at younger age would change as she gets older Old age hardly brings changes in behavior in women! That's the point you fail to understand! There's no basis to marry an older lady on the grounds that she'll be better behaved on account of her age!

If she's promiscuous, she'll still be fvcking her exes and other men under your roof! If she nags a lot, age would not stop her from nagging. That's a proven fact.

Whilst there are many young girls with good upbringing who are still virgins and would be loyal and faithful to you with all her life. Not everybody, especially girls, enjoy sowing wild oat like you put it.

learn from your own words! a lady that is not promiscuous at 32 will never be promiscuous. from your own words, at this age, she is already a leopard that can never change its spots. so the guy is going for a genuine, confirm peaceful lady. but the younger lady is fake. also, everyone will sow their wild oats secretly or openly. that's nature for you. when those hormones start, they cannot be stopped.

Misterone:
learn from your own words! a lady that is not promiscuous at 32 will never be promiscuous. from your own words, at this age, she is already a leopard that can never change its spots. so the guy is going for a genuine, confirm peaceful lady. but the younger lady is fake. also, everyone will sow their wild oats secretly or openly. that's nature for you. when those hormones start, they cannot be stopped.

Ur right... if she doesn't have a history of promiscuity she's likely the better deal while the younger girl is better as a mistress....

Anfieldboss:


What age was your wife when you married her?

30 and I was 31.

oldienavie:

What is wrong with my question ?

You study abroad finish.. come back to marry evening newspaper.. do you know her body count.. you know d Kain sperm wey she dn swallow... You know how many exes she get and that would continue to Bleep her..

She dey form good girl as per say you be retirement plan wey she get.
I was with one of my friend with benefits of 29 .. she talked about Marriage and I made it clear to her that it would end in friendship..
Me marry a girl of 29 while fresh girls of 22 are around..
In Nigeria a girl ripes at 16.. do you know how long Dem dey Bleep am till she reached twice her age..

If you like SIMP.. you go regret am Las Las..

Hmmmmm OP

I won't impose anything for you.

But you see this going for Younger Girls when you want to marry??.... Definitely not going to be my thing!!!!!!!!

Majority of them aren't matured....They still flirt around... Let me give you 2 scenarios

1. One of my course mate while in school got married late last year....The way she chats with me is seriously worrisome.. Even forcing me to visit her at all cost...while her husband is in Ivory Coast working his ass out.... Had to warn her in a rude manner and deleted her number

2. My cousin got married this month and I happened to be the best man... So he begged me to take his wife to the Market to get some items.. Aunty was asking me questions I wasn't comfortable with... Holding my hands while I was driving... I had to park so we could use bike to the market.. She insisted on using the same bike with me... I told her NO and that was it.... I even thought she was older than me... Only for someone to tell me that I'm older than her.

I have other stories but I'll stop here abeg.

Marriage is all about peace of mind oo.

Leave all these small boys saying that her body will start folding when she's almost 40...it depends on how she maintains her body.

Nezzjnr:
Hmmmmm OP

I won't impose anything for you.

But you see this going for Younger Girls when you want to marry??.... Definitely not going to be my thing!!!!!!!!

Majority of them aren't matured....They still flirt around... Let me give you 2 scenarios

1. One of my course mate while in school got married late last year....The way she chats with me is seriously worrisome.. Even forcing me to visit her at all cost...while her husband is in Ivory Coast working his ass out.... Had to warn her in a rude manner and deleted her number

2. My cousin got married this month and I happened to be the best man... So he begged me to take his wife to the Market to get some items.. Aunty was asking me questions I wasn't comfortable with... Holding my hands while I was driving... I had to park so we could use bike to the market.. She insisted on using the same bike with me... I told her NO and that was it.... I even thought she was older than me... Only for someone to tell me that I'm older than her.

I have other stories but I'll stop here abeg.

Marriage is all about peace of mind oo.

Leave all these small boys saying that her body will start folding when she's almost 40...it depends on how she maintains her body.

Why not hv 2 wives?? One old and one young?

But what's with guys always saying single ladies in their 30s and above have done nasty things during their youths? This notion is so wrong. Majority of these guys saying naasty thing about ladies are evil. These same guys will say they cannot marry a lady without testing her, and the innocent and naive ones fall for this trick even for those guys with evil intentions.

Most guys body counts is nothing to write home about yet they criticize ladies as if being morally upright is gendered based. As if religion only preaches morality and emphasizes that only ladies is meant to be morally upright. I'm not commenting to convince u OP to marry the lady. U probably might be doing her a huge favor if u let her go coz this your mindset ehn .... However, a lady being single at that age doesn't mean she has rejected a lot of suitors or she has useless herself.

Nairaland's men, make una dey think before bashing women. U have sisters. If u don't have sisters, some of u will give birth to baby girl(s). What goes around comes around. Would u say the same for you girl child? Or will u happy if same is said about your girl child?

BigBashiru:


Why not hv 2 wives?? One old and one young?

I can't

Stargurl20:
But what's with guys always saying single ladies in their 30s and above have done nasty things during their youths? This notion is so wrong. Majority of these guys saying naasty thing about ladies are evil. These same guys will say they cannot marry a lady without testing her, and the innocent and naive ones fall for this trick even for those guys with evil intentions.

Most guys body counts is nothing to write home about yet they criticize ladies as if being morally upright is gendered based. As if religion only preaches morality and emphasizes that only ladies is meant to be morally upright. I'm not commenting to convince u OP to marry the lady. U probably might be doing her a huge favor if u let her go coz this your mindset ehn .... However, a being single at that age doesn't mean she has rejected a lot of suitors or she has useless herself.

Nairaland's men, make una dey think before bashing women. U have sisters. If u don't have sisters, some of u will give birth to baby girl(s). What goes around comes around. Would u say the same for you girl child? Or will u happy if same is said about your girl child?

You are one of those evil women looking to use naive men as retirement package. Men now know that game so too bad for you!