[quote author=Banilla post=119963796]Mods, take this to the front page. Thank you.

Hi everyone! I have a boyfriend, we've been together for a year. I absolutely love him, he's my whole world! And that's the reason I'm pressuring him to save, if we're going to have a future together. And he's down for it, he makes nothing less than 200k monthly. I'm still a student, searching for a decent job. I can't invest sh** presently but I hope to start soon. Yesterday, I brought it up. I want him to send money monthly to my bank account, no matter how little. I'll save it for him. He's hesitating. He said I should be patient, he'll give me everything I need but he wants more time. I don't want to ruin our relationship but I need his co-operation. I'm scared he might leave me, after I've given him the best years of my life. I subtly threatened him that my family would force me to marry a Nigerian but he made a joke out of it, saying I would never, that I'm his...

U were looking 4 sugar daddy, when...boyfriend?

If you were good at savings as you claimed, you'd have started to save as a student. Being a student is not an excuse for not saving money even if it's #100 you'd be saving monthly which I think most students can afford.

Banilla:
Hm. So I'm wrong? Should I apologize to him? I just want to be certain he's serious. I guess I can't pressure him, right?

What's your advice?

This gold digger is still looking for who to emotionally manipulate. Ole!!!!

Olosho, You're not his wife so he has no business opening a joint account with you. You're just a girlfriend who can dump him tomorrow and abscond with his hard-earned money.

Leave him alone and Hussle for yourself.

Fahvvy:
@rickpat

Does this girl look like she has good intentions for that guy? ... Because why exactly is she suggesting her own bank? ...

Aren't they online saving platforms?
How about a fixed deposit account?

Omorr...
Leave am...

This girl has bad plans for that guy ...
And did you also read the part where she said she "subtly threatened him"? ...

After the guy has saved like 500k in her account, when he decides to leave her, she will also "subtly threaten" him again ...

This time she'll be like, "if you leave me, forget about your money" ... And if them get issues, she will also "subtly threaten " him and be like, "if you don't apologize, forget about your money" ...

In summary...
I see more "subtle threats" in the near future ...

That guy you quoted is a bloody simp. That is how they behave. Go and check all his comments on nairaland you'll be shocked at the level of his Simpson madness.

darkstar6971:
come give me format Abeg make I collect from my oyinbo client too

The cost of living got me admiring yahoo boys and girls! Please come teach me because my gas bill na 6x the original bill! How will I get that kinda money

She is a genius! Op! Elp me!

You are a liar!!! You said you have known him for one year and at d same time you said you have given d best part of your years! Which do we believe! Shuuum

Ishilove:

Aunty be camming dan. Which one is "best years of my life" after just one year?

Cam the fak dan because it seems you are very possessive and you have a lot of growing up to do. You still have stars in yer eyes. Mos def

Auntie, is Mos def still alive?

VicM6:
after u dupe the guy now, u go change ur name to Vanilla for Instagram....we know ur type.

You made me laugh out loud at this time!

doneback04:
Nairaland is the worse place to bring ur problem and seek for advice,

Bit whhhhhhhhy

Obiorahpcfg:
You are a liar!!! You said you have known him for one year and at d same time you said you have given d best part of your years! Which do we believe! Shuuum

Bleeeeeep bleep! She meant Her future investment! She wants this lazy ass drunk! For the future… sad face!

FalseProphet1:

You're not his wife so he has no business opening a joint account with you. You're just a girlfriend who can dump him tomorrow and abscond with his hard-earned money.

Leave him alone and Hussle for yourself.

I wish I could see you and give you some bottles of Heineken for this post.

That girl is a bloody thief.

G00DHardDick:


This gold digger is still looking for who to emotionally manipulate. Ole!!!!

Olosho, You're not his wife so he has no business opening a joint account with you. You're just a girlfriend who can dump him tomorrow and abscond with his hard-earned money.

Leave him alone and Hussle for yourself.

Pickle something… over compensating much

Banilla:
I'm not spending his money! Read the post. One of us has to hold it. We can't open a joint account, too far away to do so.

So what matters is who. And I'm better suited

You are a criminal.

1. Does your boyfriend not have his own bank account? Why can't he save it in his own account then?

2. You guys are just boyfriend and girlfriend, you are not even married and you want him to be Keep nd his savings in your bank account? Are you using JuJu or what?

So that you can dump him later like Nigerian girls do and abscond with his money, right?

You must be a thief.

Naso una dey do. Naso that witch want me to open joint account with her. Person when no they earn 2k o. So that tomorrow she go wipe me dry. Any man having a joint account with a woman in this generation no come here come lament o. Na her ex go enjoy the money. Them go even they look your pics they laugh.

Mhikasa0007:
You should obviously leave him. It is clear that he's not ready to have a future with you. Any man that has a girl and is ready to get married to her would start saving up as soon as possible. There are men out there ready to give you the world. Don't settle for less

Abeg shut up. Who told u the man is not saving? The OP thinks the guy is spending from his savings that's why she is suggesting another way where it will not be touched. What do u mean never settle for the less? What makes u think u ladies are a price sef? What do most of u ladies add to a man's life sef, sex? Does sex credit a man's account or add value to man's life. What the fuc:k is wrong with u ladies mentality sef? U are bringing liability to a man's life and u are still shouting never settle for the less. I don't blame u though, i blame the men that gave u this impression .

Dimples2022:


Bleeeeeep bleep! She meant Her future investment! She wants this lazy ass drunk! For the future… sad face!

With the way and manner you are defending the op, I am very certain you are the op.

That's an alternate account you created this year 2023. Nonsense.

Dimples2022:


Pickle something… over compensating much

Tell your gender to get a job and work and leave that young man alone.

Codes151:
you no Dey read? Shi shi she no get.

You Dey form advice.
Blessingceo

Okay, but I would like u to stand in front of me and say what you just said above, and let me see if you will be able to pronounce "Shi shi" again while shitting that rotten teeth of yours for days. Yeye "less than a madman's pubic hair" human being like you. Anyway I only pity your papa for wasting money on person with brain wey dey develop in reverse.

G00DHardDick:


Tell your gender to get a job and work and leave that young man alone.

Done. They told me to tell you to grow something!

Mhikasa0007:
You should obviously leave him. It is clear that he's not ready to have a future with you. Any man that has a girl and is ready to get married to her would start saving up as soon as possible. There are men out there ready to give you the world. Don't settle for less

What an idio**t you are. Entitlement mentality Kee u there.

I pity men who date broke and poor girls like you. You dey find man wey go give you the world? Idio***t what happens if you work and get the world yourself? Or are you cripple? Did they cut your hands? You should be ashamed of yourself

Kajaard:


With the way and manner you are defending the op, I am very certain you are the op.

That's an alternate account you created this year 2023. Nonsense.

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Banilla:
I'm not spending his money! Read the post. One of us has to hold it. We can't open a joint account, too far away to do so.

So what matters is who. And I'm better suited

I guess you are looking for security in ur relationship and this happen to be ur contingency plan should Incase he decide to leave u. Lol! Madam learn to be independent and go make ur own money if u want the young man to take u seriously.

Banilla:
Mods, take this to the front page. Thank you.

Hi everyone! I have a boyfriend, we've been together for a year. I absolutely love him, he's my whole world! And that's the reason I'm pressuring him to save, if we're going to have a future together. And he's down for it, he makes nothing less than 200k monthly. I'm still a student, searching for a decent job. I can't invest sh** presently but I hope to start soon. Yesterday, I brought it up. I want him to send money monthly to my bank account, no matter how little. I'll save it for him. He's hesitating. He said I should be patient, he'll give me everything I need but he wants more time. I don't want to ruin our relationship but I need his co-operation. I'm scared he might leave me, after I've given him the best years of my life. I subtly threatened him that my family would force me to marry a Nigerian but he made a joke out of it, saying I would never, that I'm his...

What should I do?

NB: I've never taken a dime from him. He drinks often and I don't want him spending 'our future' on alcohol! I'm way better at saving.

I'm worried if I press the subject, he'll get mad at me.

I also told him I want to leave Nigeria, he thinks it's a good idea and I also told him I can't afford it alone. He said he needs time.

Doesn't he love me? Should I let it go? Or insist we resolve this?

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Please have some pity for him. Since he is not living in nigeria and earn 200k equivalent. He is barely surviving. You should consider putting the pressure of yourself Development on your parents not on him. He has his şilent battles please don't add yours to it.since you have plans to live abroad go and be learning some skills like hair braiding it will come handy. His current work money is for his bills and personal upkeep. When is time for marriage don't plan a big ceremony

Women are just unimaginable.
His sp*m u have been saving is not enough but also want to save his money?

You are not far from scammer. this gender that cannot be trusted fear them!!!

"I'm scared he might leave me, after I've given him the best years of my life"
So when he eventually leaves you, what happens to the money?
I think u are doing it for selfish interest.

Dimples2022:


You made me laugh out loud at this time!

Na truth i talk o....wait and see na

You're a thief. Save in your bank so you can wake up one day and serve him breakfast? �

This is how my male friend was making good money and his girlfriend then told him to save or even buy land then at Lekki, he preferred living in hotels. When she persisted, he told her she can buy for herself.

The small, small change he gave her, she gathered it and bought a land. Later, their friendship went sour and she met another guy who married her and built on that land.

Banilla:
I suppose. We weren't born rich, so I absolutely want us to live better. When I had a job, I saved but I don't think he did. And it's frustrating. He talks alot about the future but all this time, we haven't really started working towards achieving any of our goals, atleast I'm trying despite living in the poorest country. He's doing better, so I expect some effort but I'm getting nothing.

I'll encourage him to save, I did when he first got the job, five months after we started dating. I know he'll quit again, he keeps doing it. All I need is stability.

Or I should just risk it? Stop planning, depend on fate? Trust him to make the best decision for us both?

From all you have said, you are a better planner than him, however, the idea of persuading him to save his money in your account don't only send a wrong signal but a domineering disposition.
You sound as though being engaged to someone you love is a do or die affair that should lead to marriage, or he's the only man on earth.

My advice is this, please take it easy and pay more attention to your studies and build a career for yourself while saving your own money for your long term plan which you may eventually join with your spouse, that's the only way any man can take you seriously and may align his plan with yours.

Men don't like being pushed around or forced to make a move or plan their lives, they are rather challenged in the face of circumstances to do so.

Nevertheless, his attitude right now could be a red flag, please watch out to avoid premium tears and regrets in the future.

Joe4real1988:
Abeg shut up. Who told u the man is not saving? The OP thinks the guy is spending from his savings that's why she is suggesting another way where it will not be touched. What do u mean never settle for the less? What makes u think u ladies are a price sef? What do most of u ladies add to a man's life sef, sex? Does sex credit a man's account or add value to man's life. What the fuc:k is wrong with u ladies mentality sef? U are bringing liability to a man's life and u are still shouting never settle for the less. I don't blame u though, i blame the men that gave u this impression .

LOL! Broke speech! Forever blame men who do better than you! Broke and broken people we don hear you but matters are still real and they cost dollars! You get dollars? I didn’t think so!

ironkurtain:



Okay, but I would like u to stand in front of me and say what you just said above, and let me see if you will be able to pronounce "Shi shi" again while shitting that rotten teeth of yours for days. Yeye "less than a madman's pubic hair" human being like you. Anyway I only pity your papa for wasting money on person with brain wey dey develop in reverse.

Best believe me when I tell you the woman is wiser and better than him! LOL! They think we are mates? It’s a joke!