Lovilla:
all i can say is Men are polygamous in nature, so i dont blame him.

Bcause this maid in question doesnt even come close to my sister in terms of beauty.

the problem doesn't seem to be about beauty bt food. it seems the man likes her cooking and he won't want to leave thst to eat food he doesn't like. I can clearly understand him on that.


However make sure to be sure its nothing more than the ordinary with the food cos people including maids do strange things. Bt if the situation is just that the maid is a good chef then pls tell ur sister to go and learn how to cook rather than u trying to poison ur maid for nothing because of the wickedness of ur heart and jealousy.

advanceDNA:
Learn how to cook better food...mba!!! ..... you say "i am a feminist..my husband-to-be should also go and learn how to cook to satisfy me"....

But u sabi only snake in the eagle and hold burglary style.... the sex seff...u are always tired, asking him "is it food"

Okay naa..food matter don come...now u are crying and hating on another girl that can cook accusing her she wants to crash your home.... nothing should happen to that poor girl ooo...

Bro, you are wise beyond your years. You hit the nail no the head

Lovilla:
trash..

if i am to be in my sister's shoe, i would ve poisoned that girl on a lowkey.

Don’t give your sister this advice..,

You are fighting from the wrong point. Most of you girls don't even know how to prepare ordinary indomie, not to talk of other African continental foods. I dvice you better start a training and learn how to prepare all these foods, if not you are in for a long thing. How come he prefers to eat the maids food and dump yours. Marriage is an institution, you don't just come and cross your legs and expect your house maid to do your biddings, while all you do is to come and kpensh or doke. Better wake up to reality. My wife foods taste better than those of Radisson Blu and eko hotels, so I have no business to eat another person's food.

Thank you.

Lovilla:
she told me that her husband kicks against all her efforts to throw the girl out

I will prepare a charm for her ..

The maid is not ordinary

Sammy5413:
If not laziness, you why would a woman need a house maid?
Since she wants to be lazy, she must be thought a lesson
The husband is my kind of man, I will so Bleep you up, ignore you, give all manner attitude (though will never touch the house maid) that you'll be forced to start doing those kitchen stuffs yrslf, nobody will tell you to send the maid packing, and never wish to have a house maid again

Marriage is for mature people not for people who give attitude and ignore when simple communication will suffice.

To Have a maid is convenient especially if they can afford it and has nothing to do with laziness.

Maybe your sister don't know how to cook,and take care of her husband,let her check where the lapses is coming from and try to amend

Lovilla:
give your opinion Mr Man

It doesnt matter if its me or my sister.

Either you or ur sister is a lazy ass housewife who can't cook a nice meal for the husband man, clean the house and meet up with bed matters. If the husband man find the mate worthy, then let him go ahead mate the maid and make her a wife provided she is a wife material

Lovilla:
My married sister kept complaining how thier house help is about to bring her marriage to the mud.

She said her husband is no longer giving her attention like before just few months the maid arrived.

The maid is taking over her marriage slowly, as her husband only eats food prepared by the house girl.

She has been crying all day.
She said she has tried everything possible to chase the girl away but her husband always kicks against it.

She is afraid of loosing her marriage.

Please, what must she do?

who employed the maid in first place and how can your sister make the mistake of allowing the house maid prepare her husband's meal. 🙆

Lovilla:
when did i come to nairaland?

I dont even like the site.

I only visits, once in a blue moon

You don't like the site but you are here asking for advice or solution to stop your marriage from crashing. Keep deceiving yourself you hear. Blue moon Princess

New marriage, what's the use of housemaid at the very time you are just bonding?

Now, if you're afraid of housemaid taking most of the attentions due to you, then you should check yourself, or you check if you marry the right person.

Now this is happening, after checking all, be prepared to adjust your expectations.

"Snatch away the good man from the careless (bad)woman"

No husband deserved a careless woman

Cook no

House core never

Love making- nah food

Let your sister allow the poor man enjoy for once

Feeling like a king in his domain.

That means your sister doesn't know how to cook.
Let the Maid teach her

Lovilla:
My married sister kept complaining how thier house help is about to bring her marriage to the mud.

She said her husband is no longer giving her attention like before just few months the maid arrived.

The maid is taking over her marriage slowly, as her husband only eats food prepared by the house girl.

She has been crying all day.
She said she has tried everything possible to chase the girl away but her husband always kicks against it.

She is afraid of loosing her marriage.

Please, what must she do?

Why does she want to throw the girl out? Because she cooks better or because she bleeps better?

Most of these antiquated Madam's with their smelly pussy and unbecoming attitudes are the reason their marriages fail.

The husband is simply tired of her. Some women attitudes smell.

Send the maid packing, how difficult can that be.

Good food and good sex is an easy way to any man's heart, crowned with good character. Which one is your sister lacking.

I don't know how una no go fit dey cook for una own house . Una go leave maid to do everything while una go dey press phone.. see the result. The only way na prayers o

Lovilla:
give your opinion Mr Man

It doesnt matter if its me or my sister.

Oya na, continue crying

I think the story ain't detailed enough, everything seem like just a cooking thing but may not be.
Did your sister have a quarrel with her husband?
Are they having issues aside the maid issue?
Does your sister know how to cook well?
Whose idea was it to bring in the maid?
Is your sister the very busy o career minded type?
Is your sister the "i don't care type"?
Does your sister have good character?

These questions needs answer in other to give better advice, if your sister has positive answers to all these question, then she may have to go spiritual. Crying won't solve anything.
If it's a case of a man trying to discipline and humble his proud wife, she would have to look inwards and make amends.
If it's just a food issue, she should learn to cook and take care of her home better, shame nor dey, spy on the maids cooking style and possibly enroll with a catering school,in few months she would be through.

So, you need to know the real genesis of the whole issue to know how to remedy it. A honest Self reflection is needed.

Why the house girl in the first instance.

It looks like the maid has started tasting your husband gbola

Lovilla:
trash..

if i am to be in my sister's shoe, i would ve poisoned that girl on a lowkey.

Go ahead n poison her, I de ur back

echepops:


If you guys are Christians, will advise you to see your Preacher or visit a counsellor. Meanwhile, the wife should be very prayerful. Pray at midnight, it works!. Good luck

Counsellor is better

Preacher or pastor is a no no...


E get why

BloomingDale:
Until Nigerian women begin to understand that marriage is a contract to these Nigerian men, they will keep getting blindsided.

Nigerian men are looking for the best cooks, house-helps, nanny, prostitutes and child bearers in the guise of a wife. That’s why they go looking for such women to marry, and it’s also easy for them to cheat because they are not looking for a companion, but a house slave. Once you can no longer fulfill those conditions he will terminate the contract or go looking for another like your househelp (maybe she is a better cook).

The question is what are you as as a wife gaining from that marriage? The best solution is whatever you are gaining from him, try as much as possible to squeeze and extract as if you are running out of time and make sure you are not giving much more than him.

All that crying is just a waste of your time and effort. Think strategically and stop the foolishness.

Hmmmm

Another feminist spotted.

And some ladies will listen to this one and expect their marriage to be strong.

there most be something your sister is not telling you because for that short period the maid arrived and such this has started happening omo I smell fish somewhere.

there most be a space your sister isn't ready to occupy that the maid is glad too or an attitude or character.

omo ask your sister questions.

Call your pastors or the elders. Time is running out. Especially on the gwuogwuo part

Wetin be gwuogwuo

Lovilla:
she told me that her husband kicks against all her efforts to throw the girl out

She has cooked that thing for your husband to eat. He is even nacking the maid sef.
Do your own by exposing her else she will become the maid

ShaqFu:
who employed the maid in first place and how can your sister make the mistake of allowing the house maid prepare her husband's meal. 🙆

The sister or the OP is not wise.

advanceDNA:
Learn how to cook better food...mba!!! ..... you say "i am a feminist..my husband-to-be should also go and learn how to cook to satisfy me"....

But u sabi only snake in the eagle and hold burglary style.... the sex seff...u are always tired, asking him "is it food"

Okay naa..food matter don come...now u are crying and hating on another girl that can cook accusing her she wants to crash your home.... nothing should happen to that poor girl ooo...

Op c the best advise for you and don’t quench the poor girl love affair, u r just destined to bring them together. And go n learn what this man said

adewumiopeyemi:
Your married sister or you

Go to the point so that people can advice you in the comment section

Somebody solicited advice; and the best you could offer is try to twist the object of the narrative in the name of appearing all-knowing!

And how would advice be different if it's the OP that's the "victim" in the story? You have no basis to want to accuse the OP. If you have no reasonable word to tell the OP, keep mute.

BloomingDale:
Until Nigerian women begin to understand that marriage is a contract to these Nigerian men, they will keep getting blindsided.

Nigerian men are looking for the best cooks, house-helps, nanny, prostitutes and child bearers in the guise of a wife. That’s why they go looking for such women to marry, and it’s also easy for them to cheat because they are not looking for a companion, but a house slave. Once you can no longer fulfill those conditions he will terminate the contract or go looking for another like your househelp (maybe she is a better cook).

The question is what are you as as a wife gaining from that marriage? The best solution is whatever you are gaining from him, try as much as possible to squeeze and extract as if you are running out of time and make sure you are not giving much more than him.

All that crying is just a waste of your time and effort. Think strategically and stop the foolishness.

See the coded house girl here, she too dey advise u. 2much sense

Maybe your sister should do some introspection, no housemaid will crash a marriage, the behaviour of one or both parties will. The housemaid is just a convinient excuse.