This problem is very easy, simply attempt to marry another woman and you will see your wife sit-up like a chair.

ADURA123:


Thank you sir No 4 yes, it started after child birth, No 5 she dosent support the idea of second wife, she sees them as someone coming to eat where they never sew.

Sew? Na Ankara abi lace?

descarado:


You are assuming he has.
A man that earn 700k in naija na big man.
Wifey should have her own car.
House fully equipped with modern kitchen gadgets to ease in housework.
Fully functional gen( cos of electricity wahala),then, even though you work, should help when you are at home eg weekend.
Your wife is no slave.

Our low mentality give birth to these skewed thinking and reasoning.
You guys should grow with the world cos you have been left behind.

Not, this is Africa mentality.

Africa that is synonymous with poverty and wretchedness.

Are u joking
Have u gone to their house to know it's not properly equipped?

So, assuming d husband is making just 50k monthly nko? Or u think some families don't live within such amount? Stop sounding silly plzzz...
I personally think d woman is privileged. Any woman dat has a husband da gives her money regularly to take care of home is truly blessed!
Wot about d wives dat get nothing from d husband? ....or u think there's no such thing?

U talking, how much are u giving ur wife or girlfriend... Or rather, (with all due respect) how much is ur father giving ur mother monthly? Just b honest....

Oga stay with your wife, rather get a side chick and let her know that u want to get a side chick since she have decided to starve you with sex. Forget that divorce issue bro

ADURA123:


You dey M*D ni? did you not read the part I said I am investing on a project she is aware of? Does that not tell you it was our agreement to give her that?

Mod: This project is costing me over 7-8 by end of 2024 where the dividend will start flowing in?

Wish she get part of the dividend if you divorce her by the time it arrives?

You wear the shoes and know where it pinches. As long as any decision you make gives you peace. Go ahead.

You need to wait for 2yrs oga.

JONSYN7154:
Then reduce your sex drive.

One is that don't divorce her

How can someone reduce sex drive? You must think sex drive is like a bicycle that someone can just match break and reduce its speed.
What kind of mumu talk is this?

ADURA123:


No...this I can swear with anything...she is not just meeting my sexual needs, simple, she complained I have too much sex drive and she is not ready to be killed.

..you should do investigation if she has another man she is falling in love with and having sex with the man .. maybe she is tired of you

ADURA123:


I am not divorcing to remarry, I want to be alone and be free. Thank you

Once you start living alone.. you will definitely fall in love and get someone pregnant or be charmed by women. I’m not good in English … PLEASE 🙏 I AM BEGGING YOU IN THE NAME OF YOUR CREATOR DON’T DIVORCE HER. True love is all about Tolerance May God us help us.

A lot of marriages are facing this issues and honestly I don’t know because when the dating scene was on y’all fvck like rabbits and pornstars but after couple of kids the whole vibes becomes dead , na only God know Wetin Dey worry African women

chingydaboss:
God Hates Divorce, It is in the Bible. Make peace with your wife and ask God for forgiveness for thinking in that way.

Stop using God's name to lie abeg! Plus, OP tell you say him care wetin God think or no think? Abegi!

Anonymous0001:
■ Once you start living alone.. you will definitely fall in love and get someone pregnant or be charmed by women. I’m not good in English … PLEASE 🙏 I AM BEGGING YOU IN THE NAME OF YOUR CREATOR DON’T DIVORCE HER. True love is all about Tolerance May God us help us.

Stop using the mentions of God to try to justify this silly nonsense of an opinion that has nothing to do with him. What in the world is true love for Pete's sake?

cococandy:
They ask you your qualities and you say you work . Bro really? 😩

Certainly he misused word.
Maybe "attributes" would do better...

JONSYN7154:
Then reduce your sex drive.

One is that don't divorce her

...when konji is holding him....and the weather is very cold... weather for two 🙄

JONSYN7154:
Yes everything is wrong.

Why take advice from your father when him and your mother are enjoying their own marriage?

Think twice before divorcing her so that you won't regret it later.

My ten kobo advice.

Sometimes we don't know exactly what people go through before they make their decision. Such decision most times looks foolish. He wears the shoes and know where it pinches.

As this country had reach na Bleep be dis(married) man problem, instead to divorce go ashewo house go marry 2calabar chicks na you go knack tired.
If you wey dey inside marriage dey complain about Bleep like dis wetin we wey still dey single without any relationship go come do😏
Mumu man.

LLSAINT:
I can sense you are writing from the pillow of fustration;
You should be grateful to God on where He has placed you but it seems you are inviting the devil to destroy what God has given you.
My advice to you is to GROW UP
Your priorities should be less of sex and more of the future of your children
Women tend to have low libido as they grow and you should learn to live with it.
Broz, let your mind be up in the future and forget your childish rant of divorcing which you will regret forever.
Talk to her, sweet talk her, surprise her, take her out often, be ROMANTIC and refuse to be the local macho man that demands sex like Gorilla.
I think you should work on your approach and you will keep having it when you want.

Which God gave him what? Stop using the mentions of God to lie to him abeg!

ADURA123:
Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...

Please and please, I beg you in the name of whatever you believe in. Do not divorce her, get another wife legitimately. You will enjoy your life without hurting anyone.

Both of you should go and see a therapist or better still give her supplements to boost her libido. E get one I know about, just few drops Na she go dey beg you every night

REMEDY REMEDY IF YOU TRULY LOVE HER, READ YOUR BIBLE EVERY DAY AND IT WILL DEFINITELY REDUCE YOUR ALL TIME SEXUAL HUGE . Be reading Psalm

cococandy:
They ask you your qualities and you say you work . Bro really? 😩

The woman accepted that as the only quality he brought to the table, who else can you blame for that?

Anonymous0001:
REMEDY REMEDY IF YOU TRULY LOVE HER, READ YOUR BIBLE EVERY DAY AND IT WILL DEFINITELY REDUCE YOUR ALL TIME SEXUAL HUGE . Be reading Psalm

Stop deluding yourself!

Open the windows at night and let cold catch her.. weather for two ..she will even be the one begging you for sex sef....and come and thank me later 🙄

[quote author=ADURA123 post=125671601]Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...

Don't ever divorce her cos of children n other women too have their peculiar action.

Keep a side chic or visit a brothel ( be very careful cos of STI) who will be giving you sex. Live with her n pay bills for the family Don't ever fight her. When she asks for sex, consent to it.

You just have to be in the marriage cos of the children n no other better lady outside, I tell you. Once again, no other better lady outside.

You may get a single mother. When you give her money, she will give you sex

ADURA123:


If she will change I am ready to take her back in my heart the way it use to be, but right now I don't even feel like I am living with someone at home, I just fell I am accommodating her pending when the all my plans is out in public..but she has a up till next month to prove she can stay.
How can you not meet your wife 4-5 times a week and someone is telling me to be calm, all I do now is eat, play with my phone and sleep...I stay in Gwarinpa I know where to go and have girls for free, even kubwa is not far from me, I dey AbJ for almost 20yrs now so I am not new here...but thanks alot

Hainest!!! Oga

5 times a week? 😳
Are you a lion? I was just reading and scrolling until I got to this part and I decided to log in and comment. 5times a week for the past 10 years and you don't think you are the problem? Divorce her and remarry and believe it even the next one will run away because of too much sex. Are you addicted to sex or you don't have a hobby to distract you? Maybe you should turn one of your rooms into a mini gym and exhaust your energy because you need it. Chai!!

JONSYN7154:
Yes everything is wrong.

Why take advice from your father when him and your mother are enjoying their own marriage?

Think twice before divorcing her so that you won't regret it later.

My ten kobo advice.

...I have told him to open the room windows at night and let cold catch her.. weather for two..and she will even be the one begging him for sex... simple 🙄

Op, Sanu.

100k a month in Abuja! This time!

She keeps the house squeaky clean! Everyday?!

She cooks! Does the laundry! Take care of kids and all!

She doesn't have parents. Guess she doesn't have friends either. You are her best friend.

From your post, you dictate everything in the house, to places you visit with the family. She doesn't have a say!

2hours of intimacy but 1 hour of penetration and pounding! Ha! Morning! Night! 4times a week!!!!

WHEN YOU FINALLY DIVORCE HER, YOU WILL JUST GIVE HER A MONTH TO FIX HERSELF UP. (AS A MUSLIM! REALLY?!!!)

BUT YOU CLAIM TO LOVE HER. SHE IS EVERYMAN'S DREAM YET YOU WANT TO BE ALONE AND FREE. Hmm...

Free to do what? What do you intend to do with your kids? Oh! You, alone, have the 'perfect' plan for them. Once their mummy is out of the equation, you will provide the best plan for them. Interesting.

Ya Allah! Please provide for our children spouses who will respect their minds, bodies and views. Spouses who will be considerate, loving and understanding. Spouses who will allow our children to express themselves, explore their innate strengths and abilities and spouses who will support our children to fulfill their purposes in life, aamin.

Thank you, op, for giving us another direction of prayers 🙏

ADURA123:
Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...

Ops,
Divorce is a serious decision that will alter the future and perhaps the destinies of all parties involved in that union, but especially your kiddos.
Child bearing brings some biological and physiological changes in women, which essentially impact on their psychology and mental health.
I am not a doctor, but I have a twin brother who’s an obstetric and gynecologist . I know that some of his patients undergo these mood altering changes after birth( postpartum depression).And that can bring unintended consequences into marriages.
Here are my suggestions:
1. If you have relatives who are trusted well enough to care for your kids, let your wife take some times away from home, get somewhere and unbundle herself with family or trusted friends.I agree with you that cheating is a terrible idea. Don’t let sex ruin your beautiful home, because from your explanation, you appear to have one.
2. Try and arrange with your wife to visit mental health expert/ marriage counselor.
3. I don’t know your faith, but I’m assuming you’re a Christian. If my guess is right, study the Bible with your wife and kiddos and pray together.
4 Even in your tight schedule, create time and interact with your wife. Let her understand how deeply you love and care about her. Reassure her that she means everything to you.
Be more communicative. And even when she’s eventually open to love making, be very passionate and loving about it.
I hope this helps.

.

Why will divorce be an answer just because she has no interest in sex anymore.

She gave u all the qualities you desire. Now along the line she lost taste of sex and all u want is to divorce her


Come bra.....u don't need to divorce her.
All u need is a sex partner.
A very discreet sex partner
Dat will never know your bio or were you from.
Cos u will keep it all hidden

Pls take a break to a neighbouring state near you.
Get a hook up girl and make her ur sex partner.

And visit her every 4days in a month to get ur self relief 😌.

And once madam is back on default.
Then you do away wit ur secret sex partner.

ADURA123:
Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...

I will advice u to think twice before yielding to your father's advice because you claimed in your write up that u loved ds woman so much n dt u re d best of friends to her n ur kids, then why this drastic plan of yours? Left to me u are't having problem. Cheat on her with wisdom n keep your home for the sake of your kids else u might regret ur next line of action. D devil u know dey say is better than d angel u don't know. Just my take. Thanks