whitejs:
What should I do to break out?

I can't give a speech in public.

I blank out at times when trying to express myself.

Also rapid heartbeat...

I feel more relaxed when alone.

It is normal. Anxiety. Go online and there are many coping suggestions out there. Just know that this is not unusual.

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whitejs:
What should I do to break out?

I can't give a speech in public.

I blank out at times when trying to express myself.

Also rapid heartbeat...

I feel more relaxed when alone.

It happened to me on my first time talking in public, I went blank and started talking gibberish. It was embarrassing and sad.
That was the turning point in my life because my senior insisted I do it again.
I tried working on my speech, by looking at the mirror, anytime I wanted to speak in public, I practice twice as hard as anybody, but the next time I went it was not something spectacular, I just managed to spew some words, it's a little improvement than the first time I couldn't talk.
Then I kept working hard, and rehearsed everything I will say. With time I became better, if not the best.
My coordination, my relaxation, my rising and falling of tone, my emotional and logical engagement became peaked.
I could even look people in the crowd and react flexible and do things out of script.
It takes time, make sure any opportunity to speak in public make sure you avail yourself.
I promise you, you will fvck up, but the more you fvck up, the easier and better you get.
That's life.

parkervero:


Get a teaching job. You will catch up from there. Your students or pupils will at the beginning intimidate you and if you are really to learn as you grow up you will need to as adjust yourself to certain situation.

The teaching job must be in one of the grade A or B private school.

This was what helped me!

whitejs:
What should I do to break out?

I can't give a speech in public.

I blank out at times when trying to express myself.

Also rapid heartbeat...

I feel more relaxed when alone.

I was in ur shoes for so many years. from pry school till Secondary. When I got into NCE school, I unleashed the beast in me and today, there's no crowd in this world I can't face. I had to kill that shyness and timidity because I knew I was going to do my teaching practice in my finals. I became the best in my TP as recommend by my supervisor. Just mingle with like minded people. Trust me, u will overcome every Shyness and timidity.

You have to start with those close to you but take it easy one step after the other. You just have to build ur confidence and also prepare for negative comment abt u sometime it is just normal .

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whitejs:
What should I do to break out?
I can't give a speech in public.
I blank out at times when trying to express myself.
Also rapid heartbeat...
I feel more relaxed when alone.

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I was in that place before many years ago and I lost out on some promising jobs at the final interview stages because of the problem. Those were many very unpleasant times and I understand the disappointment and pain.

But I went from that place to another where I have given public speeches and presentations at different levels and before different kind of audiences, local and international.

And you know the funny thing. I still get the butterflies and pounding heart from time to time. But I have learned the art of delivering regardless of the feeling.

Quick suggestions will be:

1. Master whatever you want to talk about. It will bring added comfort and confidence as well as ensure that your words, ideas and presentations become the focus - not you.

2. Practice and rehearse your presentations and conversations before the mirror, in the bathroom when taking your bath, and at any given opportunity. Sometimes it works like auto pilot or emergency backup when the rubber hits the road.

3. Watch, listen and learn from good speakers. You can acquire some oratory skills. Discover the styles and approaches that work for you

4. Learn to socialise and interact outside your comfort zone and familiar faces.

5. Learn to handle panic attack. Find your own way of dealing with stage fright. Mine is to zone out my environment and be in a place where I am standing alone.

If you need further advice on specific s, ask here or DM me.

You are sick and you know the solution to the illness and yet you are not taking your drugs. what do you call yourself again? speak up my friend.

whitejs:
What should I do to break out?

I can't give a speech in public.

I blank out at times when trying to express myself.

Also rapid heartbeat...

I feel more relaxed when alone.

I was like you b4, but I started building my self-confidence by reading books, engaging in intelligent discuss like politics, football and how to succeed in life with my friends and other people.

But while engaging in discussion dont be in a hurry to talk, settle down and give your own opinion. But think b4 you talk dont just talk anyhow.

You'll get out of it, it's just time. Just work it out out gradually.

parkervero:


Get a teaching job. You will catch up from there. Your students or pupils will at the beginning intimidate you and if you are really to learn as you grow up you will need to as adjust yourself to certain situation.

The teaching job must be in one of the grade A or B private school.

And let him also join a hint in church it helps alot

whitejs:
What should I do to break out?

I can't give a speech in public.

I blank out at times when trying to express myself.

Also rapid heartbeat...

I feel more relaxed when alone.

It happens to the best of us, it's fear of making mistakes and this keeps you from trying at all.
Social skydiving might help, try to make new friends, have face to face conversation. Listen more to people to garner more experience and make your conversation simple..
Face your fear use your fear to your advantage, whenever your inner self is trying to hold you back, that's time to make a move. Don't be too hard on yourself when you make mistakes, learn and move on.

You better be unshy shyness no gain you anything brother wise up.

sheddyboy01:
You are completely okay.

The problem is not that you can't speak in public

The real stuff you need to work on is your self image;

Chances are that, you are a perfectionist

You are too serious on yourself,, life is too short, leave room for mistakes, take a time to laugh at yourself

You feel mistakes are bad, and you want to be as perfect as anything

Again you value people's opinion more than yours

Self-love is a struggle for you, work on it, true love is letting people including yourself and things be the way they are while acknowledging the fact that you are a work in progress

I would recommend the following book;

✓7 habits of highly effective people

✓The four agreements

✓Spiritual solutions to all problem by Wayne Dyer

You've said it all.

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Amaoforka:
There is high probability you have social anxiety disorder

100%

whitejs:
What should I do to break out?

I can't give a speech in public.

I blank out at times when trying to express myself.

Also rapid heartbeat...

I feel more relaxed when alone.

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How old are you?

whitejs:
What should I do to break out?

I can't give a speech in public.

I blank out at times when trying to express myself.

Also rapid heartbeat...

I feel more relaxed when alone.

Go and buy propranalol for stage fright and thank me later. It will stop your rapid heartbeat and fight or flight response

whitejs:
What should I do to break out?

I can't give a speech in public.

I blank out at times when trying to express myself.

Also rapid heartbeat...

I feel more relaxed when alone.

Of course you can succeed.

You need to sart estimate alot of poultry birds and other birds

Ibime:


Go and buy propranalol for stage fright and thank me later. It will stop your rapid heartbeat and fight or flight response

Hope the heart won't be too relaxed

whitejs:
What should I do to break out?

I can't give a speech in public.

I blank out at times when trying to express myself.

Also rapid heartbeat...

I feel more relaxed when alone.

I believe some young boys and girls will learn from your situations. Now your training process started from primary school through secondary school to the university.. But many a time young men and women don't take advantage of this. As a student, you are expected to participate or contribute to the learning process. About 65% of the students shy away from this responsibility. That is the quagmire you have found yourself. I don't know the educational level you are. If you are still in secondary or university, you need to find a way to involve yourself in students activities such as in church or mosque, departmental as in university, debate, quiz if your still in secondary school. But if you have gone all through the stages mentioned early, then you have to look inward and help yourself..

I stated my schooling poorly in the north. I had a problem in English language. I help myself with brighter grammar. That was my break through. Self development

This is me, I have been battling depression because of this. I'm 34, I dread speaking in the public. I have attended public speaking classes to no avail ( I stopped going when it was getting practical). I avoided speaking in class till I graduated. I have never had a girlfriend that I toasted myself. I used to be a chronic mastubator, I'm trying to overcome that. Many times I wish I could end it all. I feel worhless, I'm always alone, being amongst people scare me. I always feel awkward and ashamed. The irony of it all is I do my own business and It's going well. I don't have friends. It's difficult to make friends with me as I always appear to be frowning. I know one day I would have the courage to end it all.

You are not yet ready to succeed. Or should I say poverty never strike you.

Take up a street sales job do it for a year and see the transformation

Yes.

Start dey smoke Igbo bro.

whitejs:
What should I do to break out?

I can't give a speech in public.

I blank out at times when trying to express myself.

Also rapid heartbeat...

I feel more relaxed when alone.

whitejs:
What should I do to break out?

I can't give a speech in public.

I blank out at times when trying to express myself.

Also rapid heartbeat...

I feel more relaxed when alone.

hit the gym bro. Stop acting like a pussssy waiting to be fffucked.
Hit the gym and develop your muscles

This might sound crazy but try and get a marketing job. Shyness will disappear. Talking from experience.

Your self confidence is missing; go get it back please!