Relationships these days, is nothing to write home about.. Initially when I see posts of men seeking to have kids only without being married, i often think at that time, that they could be making a huge mistake.. Like someone said marriage is not for everybody. 98percent of my relationships are with guys, who I thought are hardworking , good heart and have prospects, but unknown to me they are just coming to get what they can, also to make one's life miserable after marriage.... I wonder how a guy who claims works, will be asking of recharge cards?.... How to eat your food..? Claiming he is so broke at this time to even buy a meal...there is no day, he is buoyant to take care of himself..... Am not saying, spend on me... But please take care of yourself... Don't carry your load and place on my shoulders, cause u feel society expects me to be married.... Well, society expectation, is different from my peace of mind.
My most cherished and peaceful moments , is when am single....oh lord, the peace and money I usually save , then is incomparable....marriage is not for me, cos I can't be the only one taking care of my kids, the lazy husband and my good self.....nah, I can't carry that load... Married peeps, I hail..l. But count me out of being married.. At least, I command respect at my office, my environment, my church.. People hardly know am not married, unless I tell them so...
Am not in for all this cat and mouse games , between men and women.... Peace out.
Thses are my thots tonight ,while talking to my aunts that has been pestering me to get married...... Feel I have to share it, with my fellow Nlders.

Na wa for this your post o.
I no even understand you sef.

You sound like all men are lazy, irresponsible and not worth marrying.
I just confuse for you sha .

With the experience av gone through, it's not worth getting married....I can't be a man in a relationship and also forthcoming marriage... I know my capacity. I can help but not be an overall breadwinner.

^Good for you.

Thank you.....and am at peace with it.

my dear, not all men are the same, is just unfortunate you're meeting the gold digging ones. don't cross marriage out of your mind, cos the right one will surely come. but till then, tie your money jeje, don't let them have a peak at it. we're making our own money, they shud go make theirs!

I used to think you were elegant. Apparently you aren't. From every indication, you wish you were married, but you can't just point to why you are not in spite of your supposed success.
Don't worry I'll tell you. It's because you are just yet to get a life. Hurry, go get one!

Fear of marriage is wisdom.

Don't be that negative though. It's not all bad. There are nice guys out there.

ok.

Congratulations!!!

Don't let a few losers mess up the idea of marriage for you. You just haven't found the right guy yet who can change your mind.

U ve never been married, so I don't know d yardstick u used in making a gross assessment that ur most cherished moment is when u r single. Anyway, good 4 u, I think u r still very young cos only girls say such.

Op don't give up,there are still guyz that are Men in dis country.

Your problem is your money. I can deduce you flaunt it everywhere to boost your ego. Many guys are attracted to you because of it. If you want to get a husband tighten your purse my dear, be less flamboyant and talk less of your achievements. Also, reorientate yourself on using gifts to attract men. Be prayerful and watchful as well. Real men hate it when the woman is the bread winner.

As you wish so shall it be for you in Jesus name. Dont worry, dont marry ok? Then your prayers are answered.

Personally im a good guy but all I require is a faithful girl.

If you don't wanna marry, dont.

Ha please don't ever marry o, and if u eventually do, u might regret it.

And you think a REAL man likes it when his partner is the bread winner? Woman, you'd better swallow your pride, be less egoistic and keep looking out for the best (which will surely come if you are patient and willing).
You'd prefer never to get married? Then ask those who are happily married about the joy of matrimony.
There are many woman out there who are far richer than their husbands and yet very happy in their marriage.
I as a man don't care if my partner is richer than me so long as I can afford to take care of my home, raise my kids and show my love and care to her.

victorian: Relationships these days, is nothing to write home about.. Initially when I see posts of men seeking to have kids only without being married, i often think at that time, that they could be making a huge mistake.. Like someone said marriage is not for everybody. 98percent of my relationships are with guys, who I thought are hardworking , good heart and have prospects, but unknown to me they are just coming to get what they can, also to make one's life miserable after marriage.... I wonder how a guy who claims works, will be asking of recharge cards?.... How to eat your food..? Claiming he is so broke at this time to even buy a meal...there is no day, he is buoyant to take care of himself..... Am not saying, spend on me... But please take care of yourself... Don't carry your load and place on my shoulders, cause u feel society expects me to be married.... Well, society expectation, is different from my peace of mind.
My most cherished and peaceful moments , is when am single....oh lord, the peace and money I usually save , then is incomparable....marriage is not for me, cos I can't be the only one taking care of my kids, the lazy husband and my good self.....nah, I can't carry that load... Married peeps, I hail..l. But count me out of being married.. At least, I command respect at my office, my environment, my church.. People hardly know am not married, unless I tell them so...
Am not in for all this cat and mouse games , between men and women.... Peace out.
Thses are my thots tonight ,while talking to my aunts that has been pestering me to get married...... Feel I have to share it, with my fellow Nlders.

Maintain a positive mindset , maintain your dignity and be true to yourself. A good man will come your way God-willing.

Note: I said "good" not "rich". However, the two aren't mutually exclusive.

Instead of this over grown woman to tell us that no man is looking her way, she decided to tag men as pests and lazy *spits at her face*

D-Explorer:
Instead of this over grown woman to tell us that no man is looking her way, she decided to tag men as pests and lazy *spits at her face*

Don't derail

OP change gear, mind the kind of guys you meet. when e b say na swag, 6 pack abs, model-kind una dey run after, why e no go b like this? ehn?

define what you want in a man, write down if you wish and tailor your mind to spot them where possible.

NAFDAC advised: SHINE YA EYES!

So we still hav lazy men?
Chai
Naija ooooo

victorian: With the experience av gone through, it's not worth getting married....I can't be a man in a relationship and also forthcoming marriage... I know my capacity. I can help but not be an overall breadwinner.

Whatever mehn,whatever.Me thinks the mistake is from you. Where and how do you make friends?When you are friending people who have no ambition, prospect, work. What do you expect. Thanks. for saving another divorce cos your attitude is bad itself.

victorian: With the experience av gone through, it's not worth getting married....I can't be a man in a relationship and also forthcoming marriage... I know my capacity. I can help but not be an overall breadwinner.

Whatever mehn,whatever.Me thinks the mistake is from you. Where and how do you make friends?When you are friending people who have no ambition, prospect, work. What do you expect. Thanks. for saving another divorce cos your attitude is bad itself.Makes it look like all men are after your money How much are we even talking about?

Dyt: So we still hav lazy men?
Chai
Naija ooooo

yeah, there are lazy men everywhere bt i think she is comin across d gold digger. Frm her post i think d OP is some1 witin 30's or 40's, rich, desperate to marry bt attract d golddigger. I hav seen ppl lyk her.
@OP, i think d u shld stop flautin ur wealth and maintain a positive outlook. Sincerely speakin, many golddigger will come to u to jus sleep wit u and chop ur money. Look for matured guy and nt all dos small small boys, although u may still get young men who are responsible bt they are rare. Sorry babe, i understand ur plight.
As some1 say b4 SHINE UR EYES

Don't count yourself out, just live, feel and breathe what life presents to you everyday

Between what kind of men do you hang around with?

i wont say u are frustrated, but u have to realy understand wat yu realy want. what kindda man do u wish for?
were do u meet all dose so-called lazy men u meet?
wat are yur prorities in a relatiionship?

ask yurself all dese, cos i ve met some ladies wishing to have some kinda individual dey tot would be best for dem while de real MEN slip past cos dey chase shadows.

u need some re-orrientation about men, relationships, marriage and being a financially independent lady.

Nigerians are hard working people, real MEN dont find joy in a lady paying his bils, guess de way u present yurself is also a contributory factor.

sit down, think, clear yur head of yur negative tots , re-package yurself and look forward to de best to come.

be humane and humble and not brag around.

wish u well

victorian: Relationships these days, is nothing to write home about.. Initially when I see posts of men seeking to have kids only without being married, i often think at that time, that they could be making a huge mistake.. Like someone said marriage is not for everybody. 98percent of my relationships are with guys, who I thought are hardworking , good heart and have prospects, but unknown to me they are just coming to get what they can, also to make one's life miserable after marriage.... I wonder how a guy who claims works, will be asking of recharge cards?.... How to eat your food..? Claiming he is so broke at this time to even buy a meal...there is no day, he is buoyant to take care of himself..... Am not saying, spend on me... But please take care of yourself... Don't carry your load and place on my shoulders, cause u feel society expects me to be married.... Well, society expectation, is different from my peace of mind.
My most cherished and peaceful moments , is when am single....oh lord, the peace and money I usually save , then is incomparable....marriage is not for me, cos I can't be the only one taking care of my kids, the lazy husband and my good self.....nah, I can't carry that load... Married peeps, I hail..l. But count me out of being married.. At least, I command respect at my office, my environment, my church.. People hardly know am not married, unless I tell them so...
Am not in for all this cat and mouse games , between men and women.... Peace out.
Thses are my thots tonight ,while talking to my aunts that has been pestering me to get married...... Feel I have to share it, with my fellow Nlders.

@op you sounds like a lesbian to me. If 98% of your relationship are with guys, what about the remaining 2%?! Obviously, you are a Lez just beating about the bush.

I blame feminism