As a dating coach over the last 10 years, I’ve talked with lots of single men and discovered these seven reasons why young men find an older woman attractive.

1) For Fun
Cyndi Lauper says “Girls just want to have fun”. So, go ahead and enjoy a younger man who is looking for fun too. Sometimes life brings you an opportunity just for the sake of a good time. Nothing wrong with that. It’s what the movie “How Stella Got Her Groove Back” was all about. A fling with a young man brought Stella back to the joys of her life.

2) For Status
Older women are more accomplished. Many have high-powered jobs and are very affluent, with the coin to enjoy the good things in life. For eons, older men have dated younger women and they still do. So, it stands to reason that today’s younger men are looking for the benefits that come from dating someone older and more established. There’s a certain status that comes with dating a person of power and presence.

And let’s face it, successful women desire what older men have known for years – dating younger helps keep you young and brings back the glow of youth. Sounds good to me! Stop objecting to older men who want “arm candy”. It’s finally your turn. If you want some arm candy, go find some.

3) For Avoiding the Ticking Bio Clock
Women in their 30′s are often worried about their biological clocks ticking and with good reason. However, an older woman is past thinking “family” or already has her family. This takes the pressure off a younger man. With an older woman, he can actually side step the family thing and simply focus on you babe. How nice is that?

4) For Oedipus
The Oedipus complex, a psychological term coined by Sigmund Freud, is actually based on Greek mythology and a tragic play by Socrates. The briefest explanation – when a young seeks the love of his mother – from another woman. Sort of like replaying his family drama.

Maybe he looks up to you. Maybe he appreciates your ability to nurture and the wisdom that only time can foster. It’s flattering when someone looks up to you. One of the best ways to learn life’s lessons is through a mentor and as you play the expert, you can savor the companionship of a delightful younger man.

5) For Lust
Maybe you’re hot and he wants you. Not a bad thing right? After all, nature has played a trick on humans with women reaching their sexual peak later in life and men reaching it earlier. This is a way to balance things out!

Not only that, but if a younger man finds you attractive, whether or not you go for it, his attention can boost your self esteem. Allow yourself to pump up your ego and feel like the attractive, alluring woman that you really are. Revel in it!

6) For Experience
Let’s say you are a younger man who hasn’t been with a lot of women. You’d like the short course from someone who could show you the way. Bingo! Some younger men date older women simply to gain experience. What a service you are doing for the younger women he’ll come in contact with later in life.

The teacher/student type of relationship is a classic. Just keep it out of the classroom and over 21 and you’ll be all set for a eye-opening and inspiring interaction. Plus, this type of relationship gives you a chance to be the chic in charge which can be a real kick. Why not show someone younger how to create romance and connection and benefit from the fun?

7) For Love
The last reason, but not the least, is LOVE. Some younger men can’t help who they fall for. He saw you, was struck by your beauty, charm and confidence, and fell head over heels. It happens. Really it does. Ask Katie Couric and Brooke Perlin, and countless others. It’s all the rage in Hollywood and for good reason.

The May-December romance which was frowned upon years ago, has now become totally acceptable. In addition, I say, let’s here it for those younger men who have the good sense to fall for an older woman like you! They have excellent taste.

Next Steps
Stop fretting about what a younger guy sees in you and enjoy his attention and affection. You deserve every flattering, delicious moment, so sit back and count your blessings.

http://www.datingwithoutdrama.com/dating-rules-explained-younger-men-date-older-women/

bennyraz: just say u're looking for a sugar mummy

Caracta: Oh no...

Why put an old wine in new wineskin?

shymexx:

So, it's a crime to create a thread on nl now, yeah?

WTH is "sugar mummy", anyway?

shymexx:

So, it's a crime to create a thread on nl now, yeah?

Egba girl: agbaya tins

shymexx:



Hun, I'm just trying to help the aunties out and show them why they shouldn't brush aside the "young gunners" trying to speech them..

As for me, it seems like I'm trying to buy a house in "Egba" and take my "talents" there...

shymexx:

Sis, old wines taste somewhat better than new wines - hence why they're more expensive...

Caracta:
Are you trying to say that the new wine can only be afforded by the rich?

Temismith: D reason u guys date older women is simply becos d women will be d one doing d spending while ure shining her kongo. Period!

Egba girl:
Ayt ayt I hear ya. Still... agbaya tins

ahhahahahaahha don't buy your things in "egba" o. please please. stay away.

ShyM-X:
^^^^Interesting read...

Older women need to stop fretting and being shy, it's time to let the "young gunners" in...

Temismith: D reason u guys date older women is simply becos d women will be d one doing d spending while ure shining her kongo. Period!

stint:
just like girls have been choping the money and pomo of the older rich man for centuries . some of us just find girls our age too vain and unrealistic and proud and lacking the loyalty gin . I personally like older women but not for the money.

shymexx:

Hun, I don't do agbaya tins - Egba tins is the world's best kept secret..


^^That's my remix... That's the "Jason's Lyrics" with "Poetic Justice" that'll compete with "Love Jones" for the brother to the night title...

Let me stop there before these mofos start turning a friend chat into thirstiness accusations..

Egba girl:
hehehehe the lyricist is in da building! lol. Whoever let you in on that secret must really want the best for you.

But seriously, it's not about age but maturity. Nothing wrong with a man dating an older woman and vice versa. As long as they are mature and responsible, then they good.

shymexx:

Hehehehehe... I used to be a rapper in my past life, just wasn't good enough... I still have a few tunes, wanna listen to them? Egba people gat the juice and Egba_girl brought me in on the secret..

Maturity - that's a confusing word because the definition varies depending on your consciousness... I think "maturity" is overrated and too cliche... But I agree with your assertion, though...

Egba girl:
I hate that word when it comes to relationships but that's the truth. C'est toujours la maturité. C'est la vie. Cliché, oui mais la maturité est la maturité. Bien qu'il aie bcp d'interprétations, tu sauras quand qq'un est mûr ou non. c'est la maturité qui vient avec l'experience de la vie et la responsabilité.

Toi? Rappeur? D'accord. hahaahhaah je n'ai aucune doute. hahahahha me? you must be referring to another egba girl

shymexx:

I agree with your assertion... Maturity should be about experience and responsibility, and not the way most people use the word loosely... Trust me, if you ask 100 people to define "maturity"; 90 will allude to expression, temperament and appearance - hence why I don't really take the word seriously, to be honest...It's just a cliche word that everyone just like to throw around loosely...

Damn!! You gat brains!! Perhaps, that's why a bruddah's leaning towards Egba and Abeokuta... Egba people produced some of the greatest women in naija history and I see you're like those great women of yore...

Oh, I think it's you. I had a dream like MLK last night, and the "Egba_girl" I saw in my dream looks like you...

J'aime votre français. Devons-nous parler en français, l'amour?

Egba girl:
Yea I agree it's used too many times and it's almost lost its meaning. But it is still what it is.

Hehehehe you know how we roll we egbas are the best. But erm... Me? Dream? Hmmmm we need to see a pastor ASAP! This is strange. Lol.
Lmao!!!! @ dream like MLK. smh. You would tho lol. Et bien sur, on peut parler français si tu veux. Pas de problème.

biafranqueen: Young guys these days are indeed very bold not a day goes by that one is not trying to hit on me at the gym, store or even the mall while shopping. I am happily married but I must admit it is very flattering to get all this attention in my mid 30's from youngun's.

lynpetra: Nice thread.Some young guys get experience oooo.Met one young dude and.... ;DAfter making him feel like a kid,he decided to teach me a lesson I don't wanna forget.