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Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Nobody: 9:49pm On May 07, 2013
As a dating coach over the last 10 years, I’ve talked with lots of single men and discovered these seven reasons why young men find an older woman attractive.

1) For Fun
Cyndi Lauper says “Girls just want to have fun”. So, go ahead and enjoy a younger man who is looking for fun too. Sometimes life brings you an opportunity just for the sake of a good time. Nothing wrong with that. It’s what the movie “How Stella Got Her Groove Back” was all about. A fling with a young man brought Stella back to the joys of her life.

2) For Status
Older women are more accomplished. Many have high-powered jobs and are very affluent, with the coin to enjoy the good things in life. For eons, older men have dated younger women and they still do. So, it stands to reason that today’s younger men are looking for the benefits that come from dating someone older and more established. There’s a certain status that comes with dating a person of power and presence.

And let’s face it, successful women desire what older men have known for years – dating younger helps keep you young and brings back the glow of youth. Sounds good to me! Stop objecting to older men who want “arm candy”. It’s finally your turn. If you want some arm candy, go find some.

3) For Avoiding the Ticking Bio Clock
Women in their 30′s are often worried about their biological clocks ticking and with good reason. However, an older woman is past thinking “family” or already has her family. This takes the pressure off a younger man. With an older woman, he can actually side step the family thing and simply focus on you babe. How nice is that?

4) For Oedipus
The Oedipus complex, a psychological term coined by Sigmund Freud, is actually based on Greek mythology and a tragic play by Socrates. The briefest explanation – when a young seeks the love of his mother – from another woman. Sort of like replaying his family drama.

Maybe he looks up to you. Maybe he appreciates your ability to nurture and the wisdom that only time can foster. It’s flattering when someone looks up to you. One of the best ways to learn life’s lessons is through a mentor and as you play the expert, you can savor the companionship of a delightful younger man.

5) For Lust
Maybe you’re hot and he wants you. Not a bad thing right? After all, nature has played a trick on humans with women reaching their sexual peak later in life and men reaching it earlier. This is a way to balance things out!

Not only that, but if a younger man finds you attractive, whether or not you go for it, his attention can boost your self esteem. Allow yourself to pump up your ego and feel like the attractive, alluring woman that you really are. Revel in it!

6) For Experience
Let’s say you are a younger man who hasn’t been with a lot of women. You’d like the short course from someone who could show you the way. Bingo! Some younger men date older women simply to gain experience. What a service you are doing for the younger women he’ll come in contact with later in life.

The teacher/student type of relationship is a classic. Just keep it out of the classroom and over 21 and you’ll be all set for a eye-opening and inspiring interaction. Plus, this type of relationship gives you a chance to be the chic in charge which can be a real kick. Why not show someone younger how to create romance and connection and benefit from the fun?

7) For Love
The last reason, but not the least, is LOVE. Some younger men can’t help who they fall for. He saw you, was struck by your beauty, charm and confidence, and fell head over heels. It happens. Really it does. Ask Katie Couric and Brooke Perlin, and countless others. It’s all the rage in Hollywood and for good reason.

The May-December romance which was frowned upon years ago, has now become totally acceptable. In addition, I say, let’s here it for those younger men who have the good sense to fall for an older woman like you! They have excellent taste.

Next Steps
Stop fretting about what a younger guy sees in you and enjoy his attention and affection. You deserve every flattering, delicious moment, so sit back and count your blessings.

http://www.datingwithoutdrama.com/dating-rules-explained-younger-men-date-older-women/

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Nobody: 9:50pm On May 07, 2013
^^^^Interesting read...

Older women need to stop fretting and being shy, it's time to let the "young gunners" in... grin

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Nobody: 10:10pm On May 07, 2013
just say u're looking for a sugar mummy grin grin

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Caracta(f): 10:20pm On May 07, 2013
Oh no...

Why put an old wine in new wineskin? cheesy

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Nobody: 10:44pm On May 07, 2013
bennyraz: just say u're looking for a sugar mummy grin grin

So, it's a crime to create a thread on nl now, yeah?

WTH is "sugar mummy", anyway? undecided undecided

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Nobody: 10:52pm On May 07, 2013
Caracta: Oh no...

Why put an old wine in new wineskin? cheesy

Sis, old wines taste somewhat better than new wines - hence why they're more expensive... grin

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Nobody: 11:26pm On May 07, 2013
shymexx:

So, it's a crime to create a thread on nl now, yeah?

WTH is "sugar mummy", anyway? undecided undecided
www.google.com.ng would give you the right answer..

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Egbagirl(f): 12:04am On May 08, 2013
agbaya tins tongue grin
Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by DeHero1: 12:56am On May 08, 2013
shymexx:

So, it's a crime to create a thread on nl now, yeah?

Some people like complaining on NL.... get used to it.

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Nobody: 1:48am On May 08, 2013
Egba girl: agbaya tins tongue grin

tongue tongue tongue

Hun, I'm just trying to help the aunties out and show them why they shouldn't brush aside the "young gunners" trying to speech them.. grin

As for me, it seems like I'm trying to buy a house in "Egba" and take my "talents" there... tongue tongue grin
Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Egbagirl(f): 5:53am On May 08, 2013
shymexx:

tongue tongue tongue

Hun, I'm just trying to help the aunties out and show them why they shouldn't brush aside the "young gunners" trying to speech them.. grin

As for me, it seems like I'm trying to buy a house in "Egba" and take my "talents" there... tongue tongue grin

Ayt ayt I hear ya. Still... agbaya tins tongue

ahhahahahaahha don't buy your things in "egba" o. please please. stay away. angry
Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Caracta(f): 6:19am On May 08, 2013
shymexx:

Sis, old wines taste somewhat better than new wines - hence why they're more expensive... grin
Are you trying to say that the new wine can only be afforded by the rich? shocked shocked
Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Temismith: 7:08am On May 08, 2013
D reason u guys date older women is simply becos d women will be d one doing d spending while ure shining her kongo. Period! tongue tongue tongue

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Nobody: 8:44am On May 08, 2013
Caracta:
Are you trying to say that the new wine can only be afforded by the rich? shocked shocked

Nah, it's the opposite - everyone can afford new wines but only the rich and wealth can afford vintage wines... grin

I guess you're not really into wines. Vintage wines are like a luxury and they're quite expensive. And you they give the type of pleasure you don't really get from new wines... lipsrsealed

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Nobody: 8:46am On May 08, 2013
Temismith: D reason u guys date older women is simply becos d women will be d one doing d spending while ure shining her kongo. Period! tongue tongue tongue

Cougar things... grin

You can't deny the fact that some cougars are hawt..

Anyway, I'm not really on none of that, just created the topic because I find it interesting...
Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Nobody: 8:53am On May 08, 2013
Egba girl:
Ayt ayt I hear ya. Still... agbaya tins tongue

ahhahahahaahha don't buy your things in "egba" o. please please. stay away. angry

tongue tongue tongue Hun, I don't do agbaya tins - Egba tins is the world's best kept secret.. tongue

[size=2pt]Here she is
Someone who's just like me
And I'm alone, and I realize that when I get home
I wanna go through my red and my cherry[/size]

^^That's my remix... That's the "Jason's Lyrics" with "Poetic Justice" that'll compete with "Love Jones" for the brother to the night title... tongue tongue

Let me stop there before these mofos start turning a friend chat into thirstiness accusations.. wink tongue
Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Nobody: 8:58am On May 08, 2013
ShyM-X:
^^^^Interesting read...

Older women need to stop fretting and being shy, it's time to let the "young gunners" in... grin

[size=13pt]Older women are shy? I think they're the most forward breed of women known to mankind. One would wish they were shy. They can be quite flirtatious, especially the freshly divorced.[/size]

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by stint(m): 9:00am On May 08, 2013
Temismith: D reason u guys date older women is simply becos d women will be d one doing d spending while ure shining her kongo. Period! tongue tongue tongue
just like girls have been choping the money and pomo of the older rich man for centuries . some of us just find girls our age too vain and unrealistic and proud and lacking the loyalty gin . I personally like older women but not for the money.

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Egbagirl(f): 7:21pm On May 08, 2013
stint:
just like girls have been choping the money and pomo of the older rich man for centuries . some of us just find girls our age too vain and unrealistic and proud and lacking the loyalty gin . I personally like older women but not for the money.

HAHAHAHHA is this a tit for tat typa thing? hehehehe. As long as the woman is not married, there is no biggie and she is not a sugar mommy. lipsrsealed
Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Egbagirl(f): 7:33pm On May 08, 2013
shymexx:

tongue tongue tongue Hun, I don't do agbaya tins - Egba tins is the world's best kept secret.. tongue


^^That's my remix... That's the "Jason's Lyrics" with "Poetic Justice" that'll compete with "Love Jones" for the brother to the night title... tongue tongue

Let me stop there before these mofos start turning a friend chat into thirstiness accusations.. wink tongue

hehehehe the lyricist is in da building! lol. Whoever let you in on that secret must really want the best for you.

But seriously, it's not about age but maturity. Nothing wrong with a man dating an older woman and vice versa. As long as they are mature and responsible, then they good.

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by jidestar: 7:40pm On May 08, 2013
OP, u don fall ma hand, no be small. I no be murthafucker O
Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Nobody: 10:32pm On May 08, 2013
Egba girl:
hehehehe the lyricist is in da building! lol. Whoever let you in on that secret must really want the best for you.

But seriously, it's not about age but maturity. Nothing wrong with a man dating an older woman and vice versa. As long as they are mature and responsible, then they good.

Hehehehehe... I used to be a rapper in my past life, just wasn't good enough... grin I still have a few tunes, wanna listen to them? tongue Egba people gat the juice and Egba_girl brought me in on the secret.. lipsrsealed lipsrsealed tongue grin

Maturity - that's a confusing word because the definition varies depending on your consciousness... I think "maturity" is overrated and too cliche... grin tongue But I agree with your assertion, though...

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Egbagirl(f): 10:59pm On May 08, 2013
shymexx:

Hehehehehe... I used to be a rapper in my past life, just wasn't good enough... grin I still have a few tunes, wanna listen to them? tongue Egba people gat the juice and Egba_girl brought me in on the secret.. lipsrsealed lipsrsealed tongue grin

Maturity - that's a confusing word because the definition varies depending on your consciousness... I think "maturity" is overrated and too cliche... grin tongue But I agree with your assertion, though...

I hate that word when it comes to relationships but that's the truth. C'est toujours la maturité. C'est la vie. Cliché, oui mais la maturité est la maturité. Bien qu'il aie bcp d'interprétations, tu sauras quand qq'un est mûr ou non. c'est la maturité qui vient avec l'experience de la vie et la responsabilité.

Toi? Rappeur? D'accord. hahaahhaah je n'ai aucune doute. hahahahha me? you must be referring to another egba girl
Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Nobody: 11:13pm On May 08, 2013
Egba girl:
I hate that word when it comes to relationships but that's the truth. C'est toujours la maturité. C'est la vie. Cliché, oui mais la maturité est la maturité. Bien qu'il aie bcp d'interprétations, tu sauras quand qq'un est mûr ou non. c'est la maturité qui vient avec l'experience de la vie et la responsabilité.

Toi? Rappeur? D'accord. hahaahhaah je n'ai aucune doute. hahahahha me? you must be referring to another egba girl

I agree with your assertion... Maturity should be about experience and responsibility, and not the way most people use the word loosely... Trust me, if you ask 100 people to define "maturity"; 90 will allude to expression, temperament and appearance - hence why I don't really take the word seriously, to be honest...It's just a cliche word that everyone just like to throw around loosely...

Damn!! You gat brains!! tongue Perhaps, that's why a bruddah's leaning towards Egba and Abeokuta... tongue tongue Egba people produced some of the greatest women in naija history and I see you're like those great women of yore... wink wink

Oh, I think it's you. I had a dream like MLK last night, and the "Egba_girl" I saw in my dream looks like you... lipsrsealed lipsrsealed

J'aime votre français. Devons-nous parler en français, l'amour?

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Egbagirl(f): 10:46pm On May 09, 2013
shymexx:

I agree with your assertion... Maturity should be about experience and responsibility, and not the way most people use the word loosely... Trust me, if you ask 100 people to define "maturity"; 90 will allude to expression, temperament and appearance - hence why I don't really take the word seriously, to be honest...It's just a cliche word that everyone just like to throw around loosely...

Damn!! You gat brains!! tongue Perhaps, that's why a bruddah's leaning towards Egba and Abeokuta... tongue tongue Egba people produced some of the greatest women in naija history and I see you're like those great women of yore... wink wink

Oh, I think it's you. I had a dream like MLK last night, and the "Egba_girl" I saw in my dream looks like you... lipsrsealed lipsrsealed

J'aime votre français. Devons-nous parler en français, l'amour?

Yea I agree it's used too many times and it's almost lost its meaning. But it is still what it is.

Hehehehe you know how we roll wink cheesy we egbas are the best. But erm... Me? Dream? Hmmmm we need to see a pastor ASAP! This is strange. Lol.
Lmao!!!! @ dream like MLK. smh. You would tho lol. Et bien sur, on peut parler français si tu veux. Pas de problème.
Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Nobody: 10:04am On May 10, 2013
Egba girl:
Yea I agree it's used too many times and it's almost lost its meaning. But it is still what it is.

Hehehehe you know how we roll wink cheesy we egbas are the best. But erm... Me? Dream? Hmmmm we need to see a pastor ASAP! This is strange. Lol.
Lmao!!!! @ dream like MLK. smh. You would tho lol. Et bien sur, on peut parler français si tu veux. Pas de problème.

Hehehehe. Egba's gatts the juice! However, they need the Ijebu for the money! tongue tongue

Damn! I need to put Pastor Offering on speed dial, my cheeky Egbalious girlie. tongue tongue lipsrsealed

MLK gatts the dream, just trying to emulate him. lipsrsealed

Mon français est terrible, mais je vais utiliser l'Internet pour traduire tout ce que je veux écrire. J'espère juste que vous serez en mesure de comprendre. grin grin Comment allez-vous? J'étais crevé hier.
Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by biafranqueen: 9:56pm On Jun 06, 2013
Young guys these days are indeed very bold not a day goes by that one is not trying to hit on me at the gym, store or even the mall while shopping. I am happily married but I must admit it is very flattering to get all this attention in my mid 30's from youngun's. wink

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Nobody: 12:07pm On Jun 11, 2013
biafranqueen: Young guys these days are indeed very bold not a day goes by that one is not trying to hit on me at the gym, store or even the mall while shopping. I am happily married but I must admit it is very flattering to get all this attention in my mid 30's from youngun's. wink

How old are you?

You definitely need some young blood to give "bladder infection" from time to time and put a smile on your face. grin tongue
Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Nobody: 1:14pm On Jun 11, 2013
Nice thread.Some young guys get experience oooo.Met one young dude and.... grin grin ;DAfter making him feel like a kid,he decided to teach me a lesson I don't wanna forget. lipsrsealed

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by boobyman: 3:03pm On Jun 11, 2013
lynpetra: Nice thread.Some young guys get experience oooo.Met one young dude and.... grin grin ;DAfter making him feel like a kid,he decided to teach me a lesson I don't wanna forget. lipsrsealed
lynpetra hummmmm I would love to teach u a good lesson sexy why I hear u scream my name with joy
Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Feedmemore(f): 3:45pm On Jun 11, 2013
Hmmm...

little wonder the young once are all after me tongue

I must be vintage! cool

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Re: Younger Men Dating Older Women - Reasons by Les(m): 4:52pm On Jun 11, 2013
You lots dont know how hard it's been on me when ladies dont wanna date younger guys...

The reason for it, possibly can turn out to be d 8th reason why men date older ladies, NATURE!!

Right from my early stage of puberty, i've never been attracted to my age mates not to talk of younger girls. I hope it aint psychological but it's tru, tink u can add dat to your list, op. cool

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