Hi.
I am 32 and in luv with a 25 year old guy. Altho, I hve someone who works abroad to marry but hve not set ma eyes on him xcept his pics(matchmaking). He said he wld be home dis dec. I hve known him for a year plus now. Communication is vital in every reltionship, ther4 he calls once a week at most twice, claims he is always busy. And I complained to him dat his communication is poor. I used to be d one to call sometimes and I stopped so it won't seem asif m desperate.I now wonder if I get married to him, is dis what I will face cos he said I wld be in nija till he gets his papers which wld be in 3 - 5 yrs time or God knows wen. Now, I recently met a 25 year old guy and he shows me all wht I need in a man(name it ) and I m now so in LOVE with this guy and this guy too is not in d same state wt me but we do see and he proposed marriage to me.mehn! I am madly in luv with this guy. Right now I am confused. First, m older dan this guy or else I won't giv his propsal a second thot. Second, do u think I shuld marry abroad guy.
Pls I need candid and mature advises. No insults pls but feel free to air ur views
Thanks landers!

Na bcus of these nonsense,na em make u join nairaland

I think u should tell the Ben 10 what is really happening in your life and tell him that has changed the name of the game. Wait til December maybe to make your decision because sometimes we get carried away and chose someone then over time regret it in a matter of months at times.

I hope the 25yr old guys takes care of you cause these boys lately...they wanna be taken care of financially.

You don't even sound 34

a bird in hand is beta than ...............

How do people fall in love with someone they've not seen before

Odilafta:
You don't even sound 34

Lol! How do 34 year olds sound?..

valmunich:
How do people fall in love with someone they've not seen before

It happens all the time guys. Since there's special media and instant messaging/Skype . Unfortunately u just won't know each other too well bit it works for some couples...even if they meet much later on. Its all about how they get along . Once in a while you can meet a stranger and they can become one of the best people you've ever known.

How long have u and d guy being dating?

To me, it seems like initial love gra gra.
When reality sets in and u two encounter a challenge, then u can decide.

To me, looking at reality, both aren't a good choice.

Sis, the truth is; yes, you're way too old for him, maybe not on your part but he sees you that way, irrespective of the love you profess. If you ask him [I mean the 25 year old] deep down if he could marry you, his obvious answer would be 'No' and that's because you're too old for him and his parents may frown at the idea of him getting married to someone who is way older than him. My suggestion is that you find someone who will not see you as a sugar mummy and find bliss. Wish you the best

Nkan be

I think you should keep searching, you've not found him

Niwdog:
Na bcus of these nonsense,na em make u join nairaland

Bros easy na

op pm me

I think your age is making you want to bend backwards too much.
There's nothing wrong in dating and marrying a younger guy but the age gap between you two is much.Most 25yr old guys are not mentally matured for marriage so you would do well to get to know this guy well and be sure this is what he really wants.

follow your heart.

Sanchez01:
Sis, the truth is; yes, you're way too old for him, maybe not on your part but he sees you that way, irrespective of the love you profess. If you ask him [I mean the 25 year old] deep down if he could marry you, his obvious answer would be 'No' and that's because you're too old for him and his parents may frown at the idea of him getting married to someone who is way older than him. My suggestion is that you find someone who will not see you as a sugar mummy and find bliss. Wish you the best

good and matured advice/comment

32 - 25 mehn ....thats a gulf.....u never reach ur resting place. ...I dont see any future in that long distance relationship.

sorry

Age is just a number...f u guys truly love each oda...go ahead n tie d knot




But wait o...y 25 25 na?

Erase the Two guys from your memory card.
Or wait for the abroad broke guy

aunty dat age is a sugar mummy grade.

Pls I want to knw the MORALE of this thread

rammyluv:
Hi.
I am 32 and in luv with a 25 year old guy. Altho, I hve someone who works abroad to marry but hve not set ma eyes on him xcept his pics(matchmaking). He said he wld be home dis dec. I hve known him for a year plus now. Communication is vital in every reltionship, ther4 he calls once a week at most twice, claims he is always busy. And I complained to him dat his communication is poor. I used to be d one to call sometimes and I stopped so it won't seem asif m desperate.I now wonder if I get married to him, is dis what I will face cos he said I wld be in nija till he gets his papers which wld be in 3 - 5 yrs time or God knows wen. Now, I recently met a 25 year old guy and he shows me all wht I need in a man(name it ) and I m now so in LOVE with this guy and this guy too is not in d same state wt me but we do see and he proposed marriage to me.mehn! I am madly in luv with this guy. Right now I am confused. First, m older dan this guy or else I won't giv his propsal a second thot. Second, do u think I shuld marry abroad guy.
Pls I need candid and mature advises. No insults pls but feel free to air ur views
Thanks landers!

u need cane u dis old woman live dat small boy alone nah nw u dey find love wen u don dey reach menopause!

3cycle:
Erase the Two guys from your memory card.
Or wait for the abroad broke guy

Wicked

jayedu108:
u need cane u dis old woman live dat small boy alone nah nw u dey find love wen u don dey reach menopause!

daddy yu re too hash,your words could hurt her,she is not too old if she maintain hersef wel,
but spiritually,sista go meet ur pastor,tel him ur situation,then tel him to pray 4u and while u pray 4ursef.
but rationally,age is a numba,dnt let it weigh u down if the guy is dying to be your husband and to be with you.
Internationally,as per the abroad guy 4get am because him neva balance wel and yu know sey time no dey to be lonely in naija for 5yrs b4 him go setle down yankee,wow na wa o ,bby i forbid am 4 u.

jus observ d 25yr old guy first and to knw how serious he is.
Gudluck

YungwizzzyChina:
op pm me

Is it a crime if you first send her a pm

Deactivation button is back?

arimahoseloka:
follow your heart.

and if the 'heart' follows more than one option?

chimerase2:
Pls I want to knw the MORALE of this thread

lol dis guy sef
y always ''i want to no d morale of this thread''

una don yab d lady she don comot fr the thread and stil comot for nairaland...

Wait o! This is double dating na!

If na guy post this tin, una go dey criticize am. Na wa o. See double standard of NL critics. Especially that 3cycle lady.

Well, OP you are not too old for him. He may be 25 but when a man decides on his woman that decision is solid. Go for the younger guy and don't wait on that guy abroad who doesn't have your time.