You mistake me for someone who cares about your opinion.

Pls swerve.

TribalEAST:
your first comment on this thread started you off as a neutral observer who feels both parties' pains, now you are shifting towards dislike for comments who reason in line with the man. Very soon, you'll let us know how much you hate the man and MEN. yuck yuck yuck @topic. As long as the man still provides for his family and not in a lesser manner, I'll see no reason why he should be saddled with house chores. Who among you won't mind having your husband as the housemaid just cos he lost his job? Oh, the feminists. House chores might dumb the man down. Imagine him waking up early in the morning to sweep the big house and wash the dishes while his male counterparts and wife are on their way to work. It will be a huge shame to a virtuous woman as her neighbors will make mockery of her. He ought to be on the streets looking for a new job. Perhaps, he's scheming in his bedroom on how to float a business of his. I think the girl is not appreciative enough even after their enrolling her in a school, paid for her acquisition of skills and even got her a job. Perhaps, she now feels since the man is the jobless one, he should take chore responsibility. I understand the work might be too much for her but wanting the husband to chip in while the sister is there, without informing her is were she got it wrong. You can't order a man under his own roof.

crackhaus:

You have an interesting way of thinking that I thought was lost on this section...good to know there are still some women keeping it real on here.

that's how I was taught by mum. My mum Is the last and 3rd of my dad. my dad loved her so much due all these virtues she taught me. Amongst all the wives, he opened a big shop for my mum, stocked it up with wares, he also built a house for her, and she inreturn built 2 more houses from the profits coming out from her shop. My dad was so proud of her, while other wives were dying with envy. Thank God, my mum is up to the task of tackling the 2 first wives. anytime, its my mum's turn to cook, she will stock my dad's plate with orisirisi meat and fish ,with vegetables, my dad will smile and call one of the wives, you see.... why wont I spend on her , when shes not stingy with her money
my dear, am happy abt the orientation from my mum... it has taken me a long way and open lots of doors for me.
other women talking sarcastically, and opposing my view, well its a free world and I simply wanted 2 know other pple's view about the scenario. but its all good...more opinions are welcome, but pls lets be civil in passing out messages, we are adults here

moca:
Ok,maybe I didn't get it.
Let me rephrase.
Its an insult to ask hubby to do housechores.

Better now

Abeg I can't meddle.

@op is newly married?
Congrats o.
I prefer good news.

yes o, am newly married

thanks my dear....its the Lord's doing

This girl will not kill me

Amelian:




that's how I was taught by mum. My mum Is the last and 3rd of my dad. my dad loved her so much due all these virtues she taught me. Amongst all the wives, he opened a big shop for my mum, stocked it up with wares, he also built a house for her, and she inreturn built 2 more houses from the profits coming out from her shop. My dad was so proud of her, while other wives were dying with envy. Thank God, my mum is up to the task of tackling the 2 first wives. anytime, its my mum's turn to cook, she will stock my dad's plate with orisirisi meat and fish ,with vegetables, my dad will smile and call one of the wives, you see.... why wont I spend on her , when shes not stingy with her money
my dear, am happy abt the orientation from my mum... it has taken me a long way and open lots of doors for me.
other women talking sarcastically, and opposing my view, well its a free world and I simply wanted 2 know other pple's view about the scenario. but its all good...more opinions are welcome, but pls lets be civil in passing out messages, we are adults here

Amelian:




that's how I was taught by mum. My mum Is the last and 3rd of my dad. my dad loved her so much due all these virtues she taught me. Amongst all the wives, he opened a big shop for my mum, stocked it up with wares, he also built a house for her, and she inreturn built 2 more houses from the profits coming out from her shop. My dad was so proud of her, while other wives were dying with envy. Thank God, my mum is up to the task of tackling the 2 first wives. anytime, its my mum's turn to cook, she will stock my dad's plate with orisirisi meat and fish ,with vegetables, my dad will smile and call one of the wives, you see.... why wont I spend on her , when shes not stingy with her money
my dear, am happy abt the orientation from my mum... it has taken me a long way and open lots of doors for me.
other women talking sarcastically, and opposing my view, well its a free world and I simply wanted 2 know other pple's view about the scenario. but its all good...more opinions are welcome, but pls lets be civil in passing out messages, we are adults here

Polygamy is just wonderful.
What a lovely, united family.

Some women learned to compete in the globalized world, others learned to compete against their own family members.

@ cococandy, am serious o

@ carefree, unfortunately such is life

Amelian:
@ cococandy, am serious o

@ carefree, unfortunately such is life

Fortunately not for my family.

lol@ carefree... ..yur funny...am not saying its for all families... children, when they are conceived cannot choose the family 2 join. God place us in families, or family He wants us to be.
but I thank God for mine.

Amelian,

Your mum was actually killing your dad slowly with the plenty of meat....

Amelian:
lol@ carefree... ..yur funny...am not saying its for all families... children, when they are conceived cannot choose the family 2 join. God place us in families, or family He wants us to be.
but I thank God for mine.

You cannot choose your family but you can choose whether you proudly tell everyone, who cares to know, that envy is normal in your family.

Amelian:
@ cococandy, am serious o

No wahala at all.
Enjoy

bellong:
Amelian,

Your mum was actually killing your dad slowly with the plenty of meat....

hahahahahahahahahaha oh my Lord,
and in real life, my dad died @ age 90yrs , while mum @ 70yrs..... he lived long... over dose of meat no kill am, he loves 2 eat well.. my dad like food ehn!.....no be small...he worked hard for it anyways... so make he enjoy am
may both their souls rest in peace, amen

Amelian:

hahahahahahahahahaha oh my Lord,
and in real life, my dad died @ age 90yrs , while mum @ 70yrs..... he lived long... over dose of meat no kill am, he loves 2 eat well.. my dad like food ehn!.....no be small...he worked hard for it anyways... so make he enjoy am
may both their souls rest in peace, amen

Amen...

Meanwhile, maybe he could have lived for 120yrs if not for the meat.

carefreewannabe:


You cannot choose your family but you can choose whether you proudly tell everyone, who cares to know, that envy is normal in your family.

my dear, envy is everywhere. not only in polygamous homes. Even on your street, u will amazed the number of pple that cud envy you, but u wont know. how abt church environment? they are there...workplace nko? them plenty there. One of my best frnds was killed by one of her colleagues in d bank, but that's for another day. So, envy is everywhere o... just be prayerful that one hidden or known enemies will not capture one unaware.

Amelian:




my dear, envy is everywhere. not only in polygamous homes. Even on your street, u will amazed the number of pple that cud envy you, but u wont know. how abt church environment? they are there...workplace nko? them plenty there. One of my best frnds was killed by one of her colleagues in d bank, but that's for another day. So, envy is everywhere o... just be prayerful that one hidden or known enemies will not capture one unaware.

Let envy be in church, in the neighborhood and even on the moon but not in my family.

My mother didn't have to compete against other women for my father to appreciate her.
And my father didn't have to worry that envy will eat up his wife and their children.

well, envy did not eat us up ..and other wives, their children are all doing well , married with good careers.

we are doing well, all our parents are old and gone 2 rest...we the children from different wives are grown ups, living our lives with our different spouses.

carefreewannabe:


You cannot choose your family but you can choose whether you proudly tell everyone, who cares to know, that envy is normal in your family.

Well-done. Really well-done.

Typical. Very typical of you. You just have to try your best possible to ridicule this woman by finding lapses in her life, finding fault in something she has no power over just to achieve your aim because she has a differing opinion to yours?, now that is very low of you. If doing this brings peace and serenity into your life, go on.

All the best.

Talon05:

Well-done. Really well-done.

Typical. Very typical of you. You just have to try your best possible to ridicule this woman by finding lapses in her life, finding fault in something she has no power over just to achieve your aim because she has a differing opinion to yours?, now that is very low of you. If doing this brings peace and serenity into your life, go on.

All the best.

She has no power over PUBLICLY taking pride in the competition and envy among her father's wives?

my dear Talon, abi o..... that's some pple for us.... I know where she's heading... av met pple like carefree b4, her case is very easy 2 handle

thanks dear.

carefreewannabe:


She has no power over PUBLICLY taking pride in the competition and envy among her father's wives?

I take pride in it, cos the competition didn't kill any of us but made us stronger and successful in handling life. go figure

Amelian:





I take pride in it, cos the competition didn't kill any of us but made us stronger and successful in handling life. go figure

I can see.

carefreewannabe:


Let envy be in church, in the neighborhood and even on the moon but not in my family.

My mother didn't have to compete against other women for my father to appreciate her.
And my father didn't have to worry that envy will eat up his wife and their children.

carefreewannabe, kindly let it go

I am sure Amelian did not mean it from that angle, was just trying to respond to crackhaus regarding her source on her outlook to life.

I agree with her that we do not choose the family we are born into and will do well to learn something useful out of it.

If she learnt how to be a good wife to her husband through her family, then good

It is well

carefreewannabe:


She has no power over PUBLICLY taking pride in the competition and envy among her father's wives?

And just how is that a social problem?

bukatyne:


carefreewannabe, kindly let it go

I am sure Amelian did not mean it from that angle, was just trying to respond to crackhaus regarding her source on her outlook to life.

I agree with her that we do not choose the family we are born into and will do well to learn something useful out of it.

If she learnt how to be a good wife to her husband through her family, then good

It is well

I will let it go when I get bored.

Talon05:

And just how is that a social problem?

Who said it was a social problem?

alutacontinua...i see u

Women should understand men, some were brought up doing chores and see nothing in it while some aren't just that way, but however he is, to be peaceful just leave him abeg!

In the case of this girl, she has a bit of growing up to do, a man provides you shelter, pays you and pays for your education and you still want him to do chores?? What is he helping you for then? She is selfish, if the house is too big, she should request for extra help or her sisters help. She is very selfish and ungrateful!

I don't mean a man shldnt do house chores but if you see he isn't that type, then you leave him or if the work is too much, move out abeg, it isn't by force!

carefreewannabe:


Who said it was a social problem?

Then tell me exactly your problem with her publicly taking pride in something that made her so successful in life (I wouldnt know if she's really successful but i'm taking her word for it).

carefreewannabe:


I will let it go when I get bored.

Actually, you are boring.

cococandy:
You mistake me for someone who cares about your opinion.

Pls swerve.

when cococandy can't counter a strong and sensible opinion, she does the above.

Talon05:

Then tell me exactly your problem with her publicly taking pride in something that made her so successful in life (I wouldnt know if she's really successful but i'm taking her word for it).

I don't care whether she is successful or not, everyone is successful on NL

I just think that envy in a family is nothing to be proud of.
A family should be a supportive and not a competitive system.
If there is envy and competition in a family, then something is very wrong with it.

Talon05:

Actually, you are boring.

You are free to ignore me if you think that I am boring.