MadCow1:




Think about this carefully before you answer as I am very interested in hearing what you have to say:



The Guy... The Overseas living, Big Jeep driving, Land and house building guy that got away.. _{Still Kidding..}

Knowing everything you know now; As in his life today, his wealth, his everything... and I put you in a capsule and warp you back in time, would you have followed through with the relationship and married him..


Be honest..

Ilovenigeria:

Honestly no.

chaircover:


It is well my dear

The truth is that many men at one point in time in their life are tempted and it is the Grace of God and their integrity that stops them from falling.

Many always start off with “I can handle it” & “I know what I am doing” “we are only friends” but before they know it they are sucked up into it all, especially when the other woman’s motive may be a lot different from the innocent friendship that the man thought that he was getting into
That is why I am an advocate of look if you have a gut feeling or feel the need to. You may be catching and nipping something in the bud early on.

My advice to you is to have a chat with your husband. I don’t think that any topic should be out of bounds between husband and wife.

Explain to him that what he may feel is just innocent reminiscence with an old girlfriend, may very soon become too big for him to handle.

Explain to him that its inappropriate and ask him how he will feel if he found out that you were exchanging old correspondence with an ex.

He will probably try to put the blame on you for snooping on him, but just tell him that if you hadn’t seen the messages, it’s not likely that he would have told you anything and by the time you found out it may be too late.
You can also tell him that he too is free to check on you if he too feels suspicious about anything.

bellong:
Happy birthday to me....

Happy wedding anniversary to us...

It has been three years of marital bliss and fulfillment.

Thanks sweet for walking the journey with me....

Please celebrate His grace with us..

Oahray:
@ hispinkolo, I admire your honesty. In an age when it's fashionable to scream out the flaws/mistakes of our partners and leave out our own flaws/mistakes, you have chosen to be different. It takes maturity to accept that we are not always the victims, that we too can make mistakes.

Kimoni:
@breadplanets - truthfully, I'll say to you that ur oga to be has a right to be angry with you and that doesn't make him bad at all. Infact, I prefer a guy who is very upfront abt issues.Telling him you went to check means you weren't so sure of what it was before which is wrong. Telling him you went to do it so you can have a physical proof is much better.

The genotype issue is a deal breaker for many intending couples so it's not something he wants to joke with or make a light issue of. Imagine if a guy tells you he has no kids outside and then, one day he wakes up and tells you he needs to go and reconfirm as he might have some twins boys outside by one of his ex-girlfriend. You would likely get mad isn't it, even if it's not confirmed yet, but the mere fact that it's a possibility which he never brought up before will most likely get you mad.

Anyways, just let him cool off and explain to him you were very sure of it but you just needed a physical proof to present anytime. And it's not like you've lied to him before so it shouldn't take long to convince him. And once the result is out, he will bounce back to his normal self. And pls don't entertain any fear jor, you are AA and that's what it is.

Good luck dear.

Oahray:
how can you even compare a genotype test with having kids outside? That's lame (offence very much intended). If the man is all that interested in their genotypes, he ought to have made them take it together before marriage, given her story of her first test (unless she didn't tell him before). He's equally culpable.

Saying she wants physical evidence is the same thing as what she said. She didn't see the result herself then but wants to see for herself now. That's wanting physical evidence. He just has a quick temper and doesn't look at all sides of an issue before reacting. She's obviously more practical and realistic than he is.

The best time for the test was before marriage, but the second best time is now, except they prefer to run away from potential problems rather than face them.

Kimoni:


Sorry to disappoint you, I'll take no offence and keep it civil. It will be criminal to derail this beautiful thread.

I thought you were going to explain how they are different? Both issues are deal breakers in a marriage discussion. That's the similarity I was inferring. Tell me they are not.

He is culpable in what sense? Believing a lady he wants to get married to? Should he have been demanding evidence of everything he tells her? Pray tell.

Lastly, saying I want to reconfirm is different from saying i just need to hold the physical proof. The former is for yourself, meaning you doubt what you think you know, the latter not is not for her but for any external party who might need her to prove what she already knows and say, just like a birth certificate. There was less reason to say she wants to reconfirm what she already told him cuz it would only sow the seeds of doubt which it already did.

breadplanets:
Come and join me sing halleuia... Jehovah Jireh has done me well..... Hehehehehe. Im AA!!!!! Thank you all for waiting with me and all your comments. @moca my fiance explained why he was angry last night infact he was more scared than angry. The babe he almost married turned out to be AS after they had been in the relationship for long. That was why he asked for my genotype just 2days after we met. To prevent history repeating itself. He has apologised though. Kimoni and oahray its alright. As individuals we look at things differently. Maybe d way i presented it was wrong on d other hand maybe it wasnt. All is well that ends well jare. Make i chop breakfast abi na brunch. Couldnt eat earlier. Cos it would have been jumping into the river tinz according to hispinkolo!

breadplanets:
Come and join me sing halleuia... Jehovah Jireh has done me well..... Hehehehehe. Im AA!!!!! Thank you all for waiting with me and all your comments. @moca my fiance explained why he was angry last night infact he was more scared than angry. The babe he almost married turned out to be AS after they had been in the relationship for long. That was why he asked for my genotype just 2days after we met. To prevent history repeating itself. He has apologised though. Kimoni and oahray its alright. As individuals we look at things differently. Maybe d way i presented it was wrong on d other hand maybe it wasnt. All is well that ends well jare. Make i chop breakfast abi na brunch. Couldnt eat earlier. Cos it would have been jumping into the river tinz according to hispinkolo!