Arsenate:
I just explained that lack of feasibility of the whole arrangement in my last post.

How did you explain it? Like she can't take in again after giving birth?

Who told you everyone marries to have children btw?

Lilimax:

But I've always hear this saying : Men are polygamous in nature but not women Women folks should not catch up with them in this case.

Don't mind me o, I was just trying to figure out how a married lady can decide to choose that type of life

They say that to justify their wandering 3rd legs, women can be just as polygamous.

It's not a married woman choosing that life per se, she has to be married to more than one husband, otherwise it's not polyandry.

Seems you are confusing it with a married woman sleeping around, they are two different things.

Who are these so-called feminists anyway, and why haven't i met them in real life?
As an engineer, i come in contact and interact with a lot of top-class female professionals, and i have not seen them practising feminism, or atleast the kind of feminism being propagated on NL.
Watching a feminist display in real life would be fun.
I would probably laugh my hearts out while she fools herself to stupour.

ileobatojo:


Gender equity can never be divorced from gender equality. It is really pointless to claim to support one but not the other because they are both closely intertwined. Gender equity is like the 'affirmative action' through which true gender equality is achieved. It simply gives women extra benefits to help them achieve equality. Levels the playing field. So thanks to all the "anti gender equality" people who support gender equity. More benefits for disadvantaged women? We'll take it.

Yes we will as long as we agree that

equity means fairness and it is also a recourse to principles of justice to correct or supplement law. It is in this sense that specific measures must be designed to eliminate inequalities between women and men, discrimination and to ensure equal opportunities. Gender equity leads to equality.

In a simultaneous equation, you need two variables which may not necessarily equal each other but both are equally needed to make the said equation. Therefore, their functions in the equation are equal but their values may or may not be equal.

Equality does always mean equity, equity however is equality everyday, all day and all times.

cococandy:
We name okonjo, Dora et al because they had husbands who worked with them as a team until they got to where they are/were.

On the other hand we have men who won't encourage or let their wives further or even finish their education. Of course they always have "good reasons" for such decisions and 'woe' betide the wife who decides to go ahead and do otherwise.even though they might be the next kema if given the needed support.

We can blame the other party as much we like, but the truth remains that just as there are rude and obnoxious women in existence today,there are also men with fragile balls who everyone has to be careful in dealing with because everything seems to emasculate them. It has to be their way or they feel they are not being man enough.

u assumed that those women have supplying husbands that dont feel emasculated, you might be wrong. those women you mentioned a strong, domineering, they might be gentle and meek behind closed doors o but i doubt.
nkojo for example, i can tell u dat woman has know her place in this word early in her life, he father is a well educated traditional ruler, she schooled in Harvard, if u now say its her husbands support that took her to the top... even if those women refuse to marry they will dominate. look at that oby ezekwesili, she be man o. lai lai that one no fit humble to any man .

if u have female bosses you know that if a woman is always flexing her muscles in the office, her husband is also suffering the same fit at home #fact

freecocoa:
How did you explain it? Like she can't take in again after giving birth?
Who told you everyone marries to have children btw?

you mean one of the men will have to wait for over a year before he mates with his wife. never mind.
I've come to realise that on nairaland even the most insane illogical things or ways of life can have support from some posters. interestingly they always put fort seemingly intelligent argument.... which still doesn't make I right. I never fall for that any way.
two or more men that are cool with marrying one woman should go ahead and suit themselves.

F117AA:
Who are these so-called feminists anyway, and why haven't i met them in real life?
As an engineer, i come in contact and interact with a lot of top-class female professionals, and i have not seen them practising feminism, or atleast the kind of feminism being propagated on NL.
Watching a feminist display in real life would be fun.
I would probably laugh my hearts out while she fools herself to stupour.

They are here to chat and it all ends here.

Arsenate:

you mean one of the men will have to wait for over a year before he mates with his wife. never mind.
I've come to realise that on nairaland even the most insane illogical things or ways of life can have support from some posters. interestingly they always put fort seemingly intelligent argument.... which still doesn't make I right. I never fall for that any way.
two or more men that are cool with marrying one woman should go ahead and suit themselves.

For starters I'm not in support of polygamy but let's not okay it for one party and then say it's not supposed to happen for another because one carries a baby. Who says he has to wait for a year? Don't pregnant women have sex? Or are you worried about a pregnant woman sleeping with a man who isn't her baby's daddy? Well, the sperm doesn't affect the baby in any way and again if you are worried they might not be able to tell who the real dad is, then there's DNA testing, better still, if the man's genes are strong like that of tuface, then there you have it..

Yea, I know it sounds ridiculous and all but it's feasible just like a man marrying more than one wife is.

freecocoa:
For starters I'm not in support of polygamy but let's not okay it for one party and then say it's not supposed to happen for another because one carries a baby. Who says he has to wait for a year? Don't pregnant women have sex? Or are you worried about a pregnant woman sleeping with a man who isn't her baby's daddy? Well, the sperm doesn't affect the baby in any way and again if you are worried they might not be able to tell who the real dad is, then there's DNA testing, better still, if the man's genes are strong like that of tuface, then there you have it..
Yea, I know it sounds ridiculous and all but it's feasible just like a man marrying more than one wife is.

two guys regularly having seexx with one pregnant woman.... eeewww.
ehhhh....only the lowest of the lows or psychopaths or sociopaths will feel it's OK for some other man to regularly "bathe" their unborn child with their fluid.
what do I know sha....to each their own

Arsenate:
two guys regularly having seexx with one pregnant woman.... eeewww.
ehhhh....only the lowest of the lows or psychopaths or sociopaths will feel it's OK for some other man to regularly "bathe" their unborn child with their fluid.
what do I know sha....to each their own

And it's not 'eeewww' for one man to be putting his junk in different women abi? There's no bathing of any child, the little one is safe in his space, the sac shields him my friend.

Mondisweets:
ochon they want to know where you are

Know thee, o Mondisweets, that I am also available.

ochon:


Wear something sexy while coming.

i give up on you! you are supposed to be my son

carefreewannabe:


Really?

What did you get your pay raise for? For your absence?

No carefree, she was given a raise for her past contributions, her current dedication to the job and the trust that she will continue to maintain high standards when she resumes.

This is a typical example of how equity is a step ahead of equality because it seeks to be fair, if not for the pregnancy which is a natural cycle a woman has to go through, she would not have taken that time off and would have contributed the same level of productivity that her male colleagues gave to the organisation.

Her bosses applied equity and treated her fairly, if they had applied equality, she would have lost out on the pay raise through no fault of hers and then become demoralized. Naijababe gave an another excellent example of how equity is different from equality in how athletes are not made to start from the same mark when running round an oval field. I didn't see any discussion on that.

On a general note, let's not think that when a woman does not support feminism or gender equality, she is an enemy of female advancement or she wants women suppressed. I see that a lot on NL, eg the way Omotola was torn to shreds because she said she doesn't support equality. Some women just think equity gives everybody a better deal especially women.

Is PEG a strong woman or a disrespectful woman?

I just watched CNN, male scientists are trying to land a satellite on a comet while azz licking women are here fighting for equality. Beasts of burden!

naijababe:
I am not a fan of stereotypes, so in general I often avoid people who like to use labels. That particular trait has and I believe will continue to serve me well.

I love black men; in fact I love Nigerian men . When I was shipped to Britain at 18, I knew within a few years that nothing but a cocoa brown of the naija variety would cut it for me . Some of my friends were keen on white men because they wanted biracial kids and they supposedly make better husbands. I was having none of that, it had to be a nucca and a naija nucca for that matter, it didn’t matter if he descended from the east, west, south or sahel. All I wanted was a naija man with his usual special brand of swag and ‘toasting!’ Certain lines are particular to Nigerian men, I have not heard non-naija men use those lines

If I am interviewed today and asked what mould of men I consider Nigerian enough to be married to if I wasn't married to my true Naija hubby of course , my first answer would be King Sango of the old Oyo Empire, he may have been arrogated all sorts of mythical powers but any man who could marry women as strong as Oba, Osun and Oya was no weakling and certainly didn't need to demand respect from his wives. From contemporary times, I can only think of the Late Rev. Oludotun Kuti, husband of Mrs Olufunmilayo Kuti and father of Olikoye, Fela and Beko Kuti. Rev Kuti in particular is ultra-special because he made all his marks in education while his wife Mrs Kuti was all about politics, a mean feat for their times. The other man that comes to mind is Dr Ekpo, the husband of Margaret Ekpo; in fact the history of NCNC as a political party would not be complete if the names of these two women’s were omitted, what Mrs Kuti did in the West, Mrs Ekpo did in the East. Two strong Nigerian men married them and did not stop them from achieving dreams; the fear of their wives stealing their thunder apparently did not come into play.

The history of Babangida’s regime as terrible as it was will not be complete without mentioning Maryam’s mark. She is behind the creation of the ‘Office of the first lady’, maybe someone here can convince me that Babangida simply could not control his wife. We can't possibly have forgotten Stella and Turai so soon; strong women even if their strength was to our detriment. I have heard many oral accounts of the rifts between Awo and Akintola being largely fuelled by their wives, might have been hearsay but mama HID and late Mrs Faderera Akintola were no pushovers even if the office first lady was non existent.

The truth is that Nigerian women have always been strong and independent even if there are good and bad kinds. That some women are all about money is not new, many of our musicians sang about it, I remember the apt descriptions of some women as a kid as being 'Olorunsogo' women, but the men who coined the that term also described their opposites as 'Surulere' women.

Has the world changed so much that some of our men only want ‘yes’ women as wives? So much so that strong women can only be described as rude and disrespectful. I can’t think of anywhere else where Nigerian women in particular are bashed as they are here on NL. Some of these men need to start taking responsibility for their behaviour. You are what you attract after all.

..STORY.....are u light skin??

elobyobi:


Know thee, o Mondisweets, that I am also available.

oya come here for examination

This "sexism" can be taken to crazy level at times, even in very mundane things by the feminazis.

For such people, ANYTHING and EVERYTHING is AGAINST WOMEN AND THEY MUST FIGHT TO CHANGE IT!

For example, in Germany, something as simple as "Street Lights" has become the next object of attention of these "attention-seeking" feminazis.
As far as a lot of people are concerned, street lights should guide you into when it is safe to cross the road, not whether it is shaped like "Daddy" or "Mummy" but the Feminazis would have non of that.
Wherever a "male" is represented, a female equivalent/EQUAL has to come up!

Maybe they need to have something more worthwhile to do with their time and energy!

Lastpage!

freshdude2:
What these women haven't realised is that they can't be men. Gender equality may have started as a noble pursuit, and I use may discreetly but, it has become a monster ideology where women think they have to become men to be signified as humans and all I can do is shake my head. Look at the Jay Z-Solange incident and recall the unfortunate comments by women, the general gender equal statement is that he must have done something to deserve such treatment. I shudder to think what Jay Z's fate would be if roles had been reversed.

There's so much wrong with the ideology that it threatens our existence as humans.

PS: Never knew you were the Oba of Ife . Kabiyesi o.

What can I say, I love and respect modern Men who manages to successfully keep some of our old Yoruba flag hoisted in these times

Here in the US, the feminists movement has managed to completely turn family courts into a war zone where the women are automatically victorious or at least given certain rights and privileges that are not even offered to Men.

I know Nigeria and Nigerian people like to copy certain American societal mannerisms and activities.

Nigerian men I beg of you please keep alert and watch legislation, be educated on laws that are being proposed and make sure none is given idiotic powers to women.

"Igboran O San Ju Ebo Ruru"

birdman:


You could argue the same for men. Truth is bad news or salacious news sells more, hence the kinds of characters you see achieving fame via news media. I cant count the number of real estate investors or accomplished engineers loaded with patents that are black women. Granted Im speaking from a yankee point of view, but you get the point. I can also assure you that many of the females arguing left and right on this thread will have mellowed in the next 5-10 years as they start to understand the wisdom of "less equal women" that went before them.

You might be right. But I try as much as possible to follow the progression of African Americans, especially their academics and achievers cos you know when it comes to black diaspora, they always create the blueprint for everyone else to follow. And you have to get on the wave early. Still don't know that many, tbh

Anyway, there is nothing ground breaking about real estate investors...but I agree with those who have patents though.

Lol, that is the truth lol. Hence I told one of our feminists on here to go read about Angela Davies and Alice Walker - the pioneers of black feminism who got on the wave after the civil rights movement. And these were brave women who actually marched with MLK daring racist pigs to shoot them. Angela Davies also marched Huey P. Newton. When they grow in wisdom, knowledge, and experience - they will see the light looool.

naijababe:


Yes we will as long as we agree that



In a simultaneous equation, you need two variables which may not necessarily equal each other but both are equally needed to make the said equation. Therefore, their functions in the equation are equal but their values may or may not be equal.

Equality does always mean equity, equity however is equality everyday, all day and all times.

Exactly what I just described (except that equity is not necessarily equality all day, but that's just by the way)

So how then can you say gender equality is the worst thing that possibly happened and on the other hand say you love gender equity when gender equity is just the tweak that helps achieve gender equality?

F117AA:
Who are these so-called feminists anyway, and why haven't i met them in real life?
As an engineer, i come in contact and interact with a lot of top-class female professionals, and i have not seen them practising feminism, or atleast the kind of feminism being propagated on NL.
Watching a feminist display in real life would be fun.
I would probably laugh my hearts out while she fools herself to stupour.

Lol, that is what I do most times when I see these chics acting funny. I always ask them if they are feminists. And the funniest thing is that: they always deny it, claim they agree with a few things about feminism, or say they are traditional. However, I just tell them to stop acting like men cos it is unattractive lol. Clown their ar.ses and laugh my ar.se off.

Ain't no one got time for manly ladies with too much testosterone trying to overdo things. Steve Harvey done raise a lot of clowns in trying to sell a book. Think like a man, yano lol. Nah, think like a woman and maintain ya position, with ya estrogen.

naijababe(f): 2:37pm On Nov 11
I am not a fan of stereotypes, so in general I often avoid people who like to use labels. That particular trait has and I believe will continue to serve me well.

I love black men; in fact I love Nigerian men kiss kiss kiss. When I was shipped to Britain at 18, I knew within a few years that nothing but a cocoa brown of the naija variety would cut it for me grin. Some of my friends were keen on white men because they wanted biracial kids and they supposedly make better husbands. I was having none of that, it had to be a nucca and a naija nucca for that matter, it didn’t matter if he descended from the east, west, south or sahel. All I wanted was a naija man with his usual special brand of swag and ‘toasting!’ grin Certain lines are particular to Nigerian men, I have not heard non-naija men use those lines grin

If I am interviewed today and asked what mould of men I consider Nigerian enough to be married to if I wasn't married to my true Naija hubby of course , my first answer would be King Sango of the old Oyo Empire, he may have been arrogated all sorts of mythical powers but any man who could marry women as strong as Oba, Osun and Oya was no weakling and certainly didn't need to demand respect from his wives. From contemporary times, I can only think of the Late Rev. Oludotun Kuti, husband of Mrs Olufunmilayo Kuti and father of Olikoye, Fela and Beko Kuti. Rev Kuti in particular is ultra-special because he made all his marks in education while his wife Mrs Kuti was all about politics, a mean feat for their times. The other man that comes to mind is Dr Ekpo, the husband of Margaret Ekpo; in fact the history of NCNC as a political party would not be complete if the names of these two women’s were omitted, what Mrs Kuti did in the West, Mrs Ekpo did in the East. Two strong Nigerian men married them and did not stop them from achieving dreams; the fear of their wives stealing their thunder apparently did not come into play.

The history of Babangida’s regime as terrible as it was will not be complete without mentioning Maryam’s mark. She is behind the creation of the ‘Office of the first lady’, maybe someone here can convince me that Babangida simply could not control his wife. We can't possibly have forgotten Stella and Turai so soon; strong women even if their strength was to our detriment. I have heard many oral accounts of the rifts between Awo and Akintola being largely fuelled by their wives, might have been hearsay but mama HID and late Mrs Faderera Akintola were no pushovers even if the office first lady was non existent.

The truth is that Nigerian women have always been strong and independent even if there are good and bad kinds. That some women are all about money is not new, many of our musicians sang about it, I remember the apt descriptions of some women as a kid as being 'Olorunsogo' women, but the men who coined the that term also described their opposites as 'Surulere' women.

Has the world changed so much that some of our men only want ‘yes’ women as wives? So much so that strong women can only be described as rude and disrespectful. I can’t think of anywhere else where Nigerian women in particular are bashed as they are here on NL. Some of these men need to start taking responsibility for their behaviour. You are what you attract after all.

Abeg! make una no crucify all Naija men naa...

The beautiful ones are not yet born ...

The wise ones are hiding themselves far far away so that they don't fall prey to the many heart snatchers waiting to empty their pockets and ruin their destiny all in the name of true love

Love today is not blind o... "Shine your eye well well", before you take the leap of faith and crash inside the mud

It is difficult to find true women in Nigeria today who will love you not because of your pocket like you said. So also its difficult to find true men who are true in every sense of the word.

But that does not mean that true men do not exist in Nigeria. that does not mean that true women do not exist in Nigeria

The fact that 'Most' men are sleeping around does not mean all men sleep around. The fact that 'Most' men bully their wives at home does not mean all men are the same. It's all about Understanding and Values which a lot of people claim to have but do not have.

You cannot give what you do not have. You cannot be what you have not trained yourself to be.

Love is ever bearing, love is ever forgiving, love is always looking out to complete what is missing in the beloved.

Many Men today are living in a fake life because they were told ' its a man's world' where the man is always in control

Your sweet husband can never inspire you or help you achieve greatness, if your husband does not understand what it really means to Great or to share in Greatness.

The fact today is that many see their wife as just a mere commodity or contract partner they paid for and not as a true friend / best partner in Success / best partner in failure

I have seen a handful of men who have been true to themselves and to their role as husband, or friend and I will always respect them for the brave choices they made in their life to be good for the sake of being good, to a true friend rather than being a boss, even if society tears itself apart with vice and male dominance.

As it is today, Marriage has been bastardized, Family has lost its true meaning, its values and 'togetherness' as it is supposed to be. Most people today are just trying to patch it so it does not fall apart openly in public.

The rate of domestic violence inferiority complex against married women in Nigeria, the rate of divorce, the rate of heart breakers, the rate of immorality amongst guys and gals, married and unmarried makes me wonder what this generation is turning into.

True Love is actually dead ....as far as I am concerned unless you can prove me wrong otherwise with your good behaviour which I know can also be faked.

Most men on the street today toasting girls are just catching fun for the sake of it or rushing off to catch a sweet apple so they can quickly answer the name 'Married'

But the reality of it is that the Marriage they think is an easy stuff is more than an Encyclopedia which one needs to study carefully before getting into it. They are acting a script they were already told that ' its a man's world' . The woman has no right to know where you have been all day. The woman has no right to follow you all day.

And as they bounce into marriage ---they will soon bounce out of it when they are tired even if they are the best of celebrities that people admire.

Sometimes I think it's better not to get married at all in the first place than to live in this false 'shell' called marriage.

I can't imagine myself staying 1 minute away from my true friend, the one whom I entrust my heart to. Forget about what the world wants to say. its 'our' life not 'theirs'.

Better not to give my heart away at all (remain Single forever) than to give it to someone who cannot take good care of it and motivate me to succeed as I constantly motivate her.

The Best way to live life, i think should be to be yourself and keep doing good, be smart and don't get carried away by first impressions of beauty, wealth, sweet talks etc. All that glitters is no longer gold.

The best way to live life is to train yourself to tolerate any kind of person (personality types) as long as you have built your strong heart, with a patience and sweetness that can change even the worst of men into your best buddy. But that does not mean you should just accept anyone that comes your way. If you can't change their attitude, values and view about life before marriage, then you will have to live with it for the rest of your life or join the popular club called 'divorced' .

Alternatively if you have have built yourself up with a strong heart and values to tolerate any kind of person, you stand a better chance of being able to patiently and carefully convert that person into the type of person you want ....but you may need to learn a lot about human psychology (what makes people act the way they act).

From my experience in dealing with people, i've learnt that those who prove to be wicked or tough on the outside are really very weak inside (its just an outer covering they are displaying - defense) as a result of the type of harsh environment /wisdom they grew up in , the over expression of love received (betrayed love) or absence of love (no one to share or truly care) and their system has naturally built its defense wall...(wickedness / fear me) ..to change that attitude in them you have to be extremely careful before you can earn their trust as a good friend (who is not self seeking, earthly reward seeking, one who is your friend because he wants what is best for you even if he or she is not a part of your life or happiness, they still help you gladly to find your happiness) and then you can gradually dismantle that outer shell so it becomes easier for them to accept other people the way they are..(without feeling that all are the same - bad ).and now they are free to look out for or help others achieve their goals in life .....its a mindset thing that you can with patience and wisdom change gradually as I did with one of my bosses at work. If you are obeying them now out of respect, ok...but how long with that continue... they will continue to act that way towards you forever unless you do something about it .

Have you ever seen two good friends arguing about which important assignment they will do first. A says to B ----lets us do your own; assignment first before we start to do mine later. B says to A ----No! lets us do your own assignment first before we start to do mine later.

That should be the ideal character of true friends, a man and woman who truly love each other and want the best for each other. But when you love or marry someone who sees your interests as inferior, then you have to spend the rest of your life doing his own assignment since he doesn't see the need for your own assignment.


As of now all they see is 'Me', My World, My Happiness, My Satisfaction. And even if you are legally or rightfully married to them...they do not see 'you' in their inner world and so their attitude is to always think about 'Me' . Even ladies too can exhibit this attitude which usually leads the guy to frustration or to seek love elsewhere.

Young boys or girls like me still searching. Don't loose hope - the good guys and good girls still exist but it may take time to find. Don't be carried away by this thing called 'love'. it kills. sweet talks...or toasts....its bitter in the end.....You need time and wisdom to look carefully, look carefully and look beyond the surface and determine if that guy really means what he is saying, if his mouth and his heart mean the same thing.....or he just wants to cover up and use you as he has done with so many. Or he just wants to use you to climb up to the next stage in his life 'Married' even if both of you are not compatible, or he just wants to keep you at a corner as a full time house wife or sx satisfaction machine.

Anyway I think you should hide your heart far far away in a safe place as you listen to their toasts so that anyday you happen to find that true man (whom you have tried and tested to prove he is original) you can dust it up and both of you can start a good life together ...

vicchi12:
How I hate gender equality, turning men to homosexuals since....

Oi, this is my type of black woman.

Check her profile and she is rocking that Afro, natural hair and her full African features. Especially the full lips. Looking like a young Angela Davies. Black queen right there, yo.

Deya.

ileobatojo:


Exactly what I just described (except that equity is not necessarily equality all day, but that's just by the way)

So how then can you say gender equality is the worst thing that possibly happened and on the other hand say you love gender[b] equity when gender equity is just the tweak that helps achieve gender equality[/b]?

Yes. In the absence of equity, equality can't be achieved. However, blanket equality does not necessarily translate to equality for all. We'll probably go around in circles let's just agree to disagree.

SirShymex:


Oi, this is my type of black woman.

Check her profile and she is rocking that Afro, natural hair and her full African features. Especially the full lips. Looking like a young Angela Davies. Black queen right there, yo.

Deya.

c'mon bro! Open your eyes ,that hair isn't natural - it's called Bohemian hair or something like that.
Don't tell me you're the kind of guy that ladies lie to about their virginity when reality is that they've taken more than ten pipes at a go.

Truckpusher:
c'mon bro! Open your eyes ,that hair isn't natural - it's called Bohemian hair or something like that.
Don't tell me you're the kind of guy that ladies lie to about their virginity when reality is that they've taken more than ten pipes at a go.

Lmao...are you sure about that? Then my phone lied! I will check it on the PC in a bit.

Shiit, hymen doesn't represent virginity in today's world. As long as the pum is super tight you are a virgin loooool.

SirShymex:


Lmao...are you sure about that? Then my phone lied! I will check it on the PC in a bit.

Shiit, hymen doesn't represent virginity in today's world. As long as the pum is super tight you are a virgin loooool.

That's a bohemian.
Ask bananabender ,I think she knows better

Have you noticed that almost all the ladies nowadays are super tight? Keeps me wondering what manner of lies they are peddling these days for an unsuspecting and naive brothers.

Truckpusher:
That's a bohemian.
Ask bananabender ,I think she knows better

Have you noticed that almost all the ladies nowadays are super tight? Keeps me wondering what manner of lies they are peddling these days for an unsuspecting and naive brothers.

its natural, what do you know?

smh..

Kimoni:


No carefree, she was given a raise for her past contributions, her current dedication to the job and the trust that she will continue to maintain high standards when she resumes.

Exactly! She was given a pay raise because of her contributions and nothing else. She was given what everyone else would be given for the same performance. This is equal treatment and equity is "a situation in which everyone is treated equally". She was treated like everyone else. She did not get anything for being absent.

http://www.oxfordlearnersdictionaries.com/definition/english/equity_1

There is no need to make matters more complicated.

This is a typical example of how equity is a step ahead of equality because it seeks to be fair, if not for the pregnancy which is a natural cycle a woman has to go through, she would not have taken that time off and would have contributed the same level of productivity that her male colleagues gave to the organisation.

Her bosses applied equity and treated her fairly, if they had applied equality, she would have lost out on the pay raise through no fault of hers and then become demoralized.

If she was not given any pay raise for her contribution then she would have been treated differently, unequally and THEREFORE unfairly.

Naijababe gave an another excellent example of how equity is different from equality in how athletes are not made to start from the same mark when running round an oval field. I didn't see any discussion on that.

If athletes had to start from the same position when running an oval field, then they would be given UNEQUAL chances and therefore treated unfairly. Because they start from different positions, they have the same distance to run, it is equal and THEREFORE fair.

Fairness and equity are therefore a result of equality.

On a general note, let's not think that when a woman does not support feminism or gender equality, she is an enemy of female advancement or she wants women suppressed. I see that a lot on NL, eg the way Omotola was torn to shreds because she said she doesn't support equality. Some women just think equity gives everybody a better deal especially women.

A woman who thinks that there can be equity without equality is not logical. The example with athletes running in an oval circle is a very good example to illustrate it. They are placed in different positions so that the distance they run is equal and the outcome of this equality is equity.

Omotola should be ashamed of herself. She says she does not believe in gender equality but she enjoys every privilege that women who fought for equality gave her. I don't care what she does with her husband, she should just be aware of the message she sends to women in a country, in which females have to go to court to be included in their father's inheritance just because they are female.

Tashamania:


its natural, what do you know?

smh..

Who invited you here ?
Go home woman,you're drunk already.