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Juliaann:
seriously is that all u can come up with?Some people don't bother to read what I wrote up there before commenting who told you am after his money,like I said I have my own car and am not after his money he knows that himself I might not be a millionaire or a billionaire but am OK so please its better u don't say anything than giving me this nonsense as an advice

my dear...to be frank with you....its gonna take a long time before he stops.say 5-10 years unless God touches them..He is addicted to it already and if you know you cant cope with his bad habits....QUIT..Its as simple as that, any bad habit you know you cant endure from your partner during marriage ,its better to leave while dating or in courtship ..My 2 cents

Juliaann:
OK I have been seeing this guy for a while now in short we are dating its been up to a year close to a year we started dating and I love him yes I do but the issue here is that whenever we are going out maybe to buy something or to chill out around the town it happens that if we run into a friend (his friend) he will ask me to go to the back seat for the guy to seat in the front but for what? the first day he did that I respected him and did exactly what he said but he has been doing this every time we see any of his friends on our way going out and I don't like it,,,,,assuming we all left home at same time including the friend I can seat at the back I don't mind but asking me to come down in the middle of the road just for his friend to enter I don't think I can take it any more and mind u for those of u that will start asking me to go get my own car if I don't like what he is doing I have my own car it won't be nice going out with different cars on a date since we can easily use one either his or mine

another one is that he is a hard smoker he smokes anything smokeable just name it,he drinks too but not much tho I'm OK with that one the worst is that he stays out late almost every night, I have tried discussing that with him on several occasion he always promised to change but for where he is getting worst everyday I really don't know what else to say or do to change him because I think I have done everything possible to atleast to make him reduce it but its not working,am thinking of quitting still having a second thought about it that's y I opened this thread for u guys to help me out

NB:::if u know you have nothing reasonable to say please am begging don't comment matured advice only

So my fellow NL'ers what do u suggest I do?

You have far more important issues, healthwise, in your relationship than who rides shotgun.

If you're dating for ONLY a year and you're noticing unacceptable then the time to KHTTC is sooner than later.

I still for the life of me can't figure out why people settle. Of the millions of eligible bachelors in Nigeria surely you can find one that is acceptable.

Classicalmusic:
That is totally true. My brother experimented with that and the girl turned him down. Not knowing that my big bro is very tricky

Now she regreted ever turning down my brother.

Some girls are just plain inept.

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And girls always like to tell us they are not after a man's money.

Maybe they think we live on mars.

We see the truth everyday.

My dear u love someone who is not proud of u. Asking u to go to the back seat means that you are nobody before him. If within one year of dating him you are disregarded then expect the worse when he marries you. As for his smoking habit which according to you " smokes everything smokeable"" thats red flag according to Charles B. I don't know of your age anyway but its better you search for more responsible guys out there

MORNDEW:
When i see stories like this from ladies i don't spare them. I advise but with lots of criticisms. You met a guy nd u know he smokes nd u go ahead to tell us u ar inlove with him. As if thats not enough, he treats u like any other girl he picks on the road nd u tel us u ar in love with him. Thats the bad habit u let us know o. Because i know such guys have other bad qualities but ladies like u wont leave. To be frank with u, you are in love with his money and when anyone loves money he will get any treatment and call it love. Are there no good guys who dnt drink, smoke nd would treat you like a queen? There are but u wont give them chance cos they walk on foot. Am still waiting for the day u will open a thread telling us he picked up a lady on the way nd told u to go to the back. You are asking us weda to continue or not? Pls continue this is just 1 year maybe by 2 years he would have changed or ur age would hav decreased. There are good men look for them money is not everything. Thanks.

Guy, take it easy on her. Shuuuu! She said that she didnt know d guy smokes when she met him. Isn't dat possible? She own her personal car. What's it about d ride? Dis is a serioz issue dat nid delicate solution. I dnt mean 2 b personal. Just an observation!

Juliaann:
OK I have been seeing this guy for a while now in short we are dating its been up to a year close to a year we started dating and I love him yes I do but the issue here is that whenever we are going out maybe to buy something or to chill out around the town it happens that if we run into a friend (his friend) he will ask me to go to the back seat for the guy to seat in the front but for what? the first day he did that I respected him and did exactly what he said but he has been doing this every time we see any of his friends on our way going out and I don't like it,,,,,assuming we all left home at same time including the friend I can seat at the back I don't mind but asking me to come down in the middle of the road just for his friend to enter I don't think I can take it any more and mind u for those of u that will start asking me to go get my own car if I don't like what he is doing I have my own car it won't be nice going out with different cars on a date since we can easily use one either his or mine

another one is that he is a hard smoker he smokes anything smokeable just name it,he drinks too but not much tho I'm OK with that one the worst is that he stays out late almost every night, I have tried discussing that with him on several occasion he always promised to change but for where he is getting worst everyday I really don't know what else to say or do to change him because I think I have done everything possible to atleast to make him reduce it but its not working,am thinking of quitting still having a second thought about it that's y I opened this thread for u guys to help me out

NB:::if u know you have nothing reasonable to say please am begging don't comment matured advice only

So my fellow NL'ers what do u suggest I do?

Then quit the relationship, not because of the car thingy, but because of the late nights, smoking.. You might be thinking of the years spent with him and how to start a new relationship... It's better to be single and happy than be unhappy in a relationship.

Sweetheart, what is your definition of advice? you are asking for advice cos you don't like d situation you are in n yet you are attacking all those not telling you what you want to hear.in every nonsense there is sense!pick d sense n leave d nonsense. As for Dat guy d combination of drink,smoke n asking you to go to back seat cos of his friend doesn't depict a man that respects a woman,cos he could come home one day with a woman n ask you to go to d guest room!he might even be high n if you disobey he could give you d beating of your life, s next day wen his eyes are clear he will tell you it was alcohol. he doesn't have respect for you, relationship is not all about love but respect also!!!

Mprex:
It really beats me when i see a thread like this. You met the guy smoking and drinking, you fell in love with him that way, now you are complaining. What are we expected to do?

As for the car ish, maybe you should talk him about it. Prolly, he doesnt even know he is hurting you

Thank you... It happens to guys also... Thinking they can change a girl when they start the relationship...

Sweetheart, what is your definition of advice? you are asking for advice cos you don't like d situation you are in n yet you are attacking all those not telling you what you want to hear.in every nonsense there is sense!pick d sense n leave d nonsense. As for Dat guy d combination of drink,smoke n asking you to go to back seat cos of his friend doesn't depict a man that respects a woman,cos he could come home one day with a woman n ask you to go to d guest room!he might even be high n if you disobey he could give you d beating of your life, next day wen his eyes are clear he will tell you it was alcohol. he doesn't have respect for you, relationship is not all about love but respect also!!!

I have not recieve my December salary up till date, therefore, i need rest of mind.

You have said it,He is smoker, smokers value der fellow smoker more than any oda ppl,girl d guy is not gud for u just leave him n find anoda coolguy ,as for me no body wil sit wit me in my car wen my gurl is around d front seat wil be her permenant seat

cy4cent:
Sweetheart, what is your definition of advice? you are asking for advice cos you don't like d situation you are in n yet you are attacking all those not telling you what you want to hear.in every nonsense there is sense!pick d sense n leave d nonsense. As for Dat guy d combination of drink,smoke n asking you to go to back seat cos of his friend doesn't depict a man that respects a woman,cos he could come home one day with a woman n ask you to go to d guest room!he might even be high n if you disobey he could give you d beating of your life, s next day wen his eyes are clear he will tell you it was alcohol. he doesn't have respect for you, relationship is not all about love but respect also!!!

So girls like this dey Nairaland? Thank God

Small girls with front of cars....tufiakwa .. (spits)

Eddyken:

Guy, take it easy on her. Shuuuu! She said that she didnt know d guy smokes when she met him. Isn't dat possible? She own her personal car. What's it about d ride? Dis is a serioz issue dat nid delicate solution. I dnt mean 2 b personal. Just an observation!

Which solution? That she opened her eyes nd was dating a smoker, abuser, drunkard etc nd kept quiet? Guy be sincere if its a broke guy will she continue? She have a car why not get a good guy nd let him drive her in front seat. Beside she did not list reasons she love the guy so much.

The signs are always there, Yet they neglect such signs...

I chose to be a hater, the guy obviously has no respect for you, all you babes dating g boys, the guy hammer small bar come dey treat u like slave, mtcheew oshi

sexyseun:
As per the car issues. i don't support that, it just shows he doesn't respect you, about if you two were married? is that how he will tell you(his wife) to get down and go to the back seat? whats wrong with his friend(s) staying at the back seat and gisting? i really don't support that move..
Now concerning the smoking aspect... damn girl i don't think i will marry a guy that doesn't value his health. Smoking is really bad, i have tried smoking before, believe me its not healthy, what i advise is that you should talk to him about everything, Tell him about his smoking habit and the way he treats you when he meet his friends. Am sure if he is a mature guy he will see reasons with you.
But please dont allow it to get into a hot argument.
Peace!!!

well said!...just to chip in seun u look smooky on ur dp...*wipes sweat off his face and runs out of thread

God punish u!!!
Watz ur own with my own?
If I view topic he concern u?
Abi weyrey labiso e nii?
Uncultured Toad

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The Bible says " Thou shall not fornicate" ...yet una dey straff like dogs for mating season...smoking wey no dey 10 commandment na all of una dey kick against...walahi hypocrites na dem full this nairaland o
I smoke and drink ...yet respects my woman... its a character issue no that of a habit so na smoking bad pass the 69 wey all of una dey do?

Juliaann:
OK I have been seeing this guy for a while now in short we are dating its been up to a year close to a year we started dating and I love him yes I do but the issue here is that whenever we are going out maybe to buy something or to chill out around the town it happens that if we run into a friend (his friend) he will ask me to go to the back seat for the guy to seat in the front but for what? the first day he did that I respected him and did exactly what he said but he has been doing this every time we see any of his friends on our way going out and I don't like it,,,,,assuming we all left home at same time including the friend I can seat at the back I don't mind but asking me to come down in the middle of the road just for his friend to enter I don't think I can take it any more and mind u for those of u that will start asking me to go get my own car if I don't like what he is doing I have my own car it won't be nice going out with different cars on a date since we can easily use one either his or mine

another one is that he is a hard smoker he smokes anything smokeable just name it,he drinks too but not much tho I'm OK with that one the worst is that he stays out late almost every night, I have tried discussing that with him on several occasion he always promised to change but for where he is getting worst everyday I really don't know what else to say or do to change him because I think I have done everything possible to atleast to make him reduce it but its not working,am thinking of quitting still having a second thought about it that's y I opened this thread for u guys to help me out

NB:::if u know you have nothing reasonable to say please am begging don't comment matured advice only

So my fellow NL'ers what do u suggest I do?

so Чou have a bf ??

passionate88:
So girls like this dey Nairaland? Thank God

passionate 88, I no understand what you mean ooo

I honestly don't understand how one can put up with a guy who derives joy in being an a$$hole, the fact that he's not changed after always promising to, is enough to tell you he isn't changing any time soon, if he ever changes.

andromida:
He will only change if and when he is ready to do so. Do what is best for you, you may have to leave this guy.

Make she leave d guy mk u pass her back collect am abi?

andromida:
He will only change if and when he is ready to do so. Do what is best for you, you may have to leave this guy.

Make she leave d guy mk u pass her back collect am abi?

Juliaann:
OK I have been seeing this guy for a while now in short we are dating its been up to a year close to a year we started dating and I love him yes I do but the issue here is that whenever we are going out maybe to buy something or to chill out around the town it happens that if we run into a friend (his friend) he will ask me to go to the back seat for the guy to seat in the front but for what? the first day he did that I respected him and did exactly what he said but he has been doing this every time we see any of his friends on our way going out and I don't like it,,,,,assuming we all left home at same time including the friend I can seat at the back I don't mind but asking me to come down in the middle of the road just for his friend to enter I don't think I can take it any more and mind u for those of u that will start asking me to go get my own car if I don't like what he is doing I have my own car it won't be nice going out with different cars on a date since we can easily use one either his or mine

another one is that he is a hard smoker he smokes anything smokeable just name it,he drinks too but not much tho I'm OK with that one the worst is that he stays out late almost every night, I have tried discussing that with him on several occasion he always promised to change but for where he is getting worst everyday I really don't know what else to say or do to change him because I think I have done everything possible to atleast to make him reduce it but its not working,am thinking of quitting still having a second thought about it that's y I opened this thread for u guys to help me out

NB:::if u know you have nothing reasonable to say please am begging don't comment matured advice only

So my fellow NL'ers what do u suggest I do?

Its obvious he has little or absolutely no respect for you nor the relationship..........as for the smoking you either can live with it or you can't,and if you can't be hard on yourself enough to move on .

#The Fact dat he drink n smoke dnt min he's a bad guy abi ?
#He witout sin alwys cast da 1st stone, mny here wil misguard u on da pssble way forward.
#You or anybdy can't stop him 4rm doin wat he's already into....only God and/or mayb him as well.
#U can only b source of encouragement, support e.t.c to him e.g if he do tak lik 5 sticks a day, help him reduce to 3 or 2 sticks if possble n wit tym it wil over madam n same goes to the drink madam... It a matter of tym, keep the faith
And on the issue front my sis.....
U can play politics in evry xpect of ur life. u knw ur guy is da type dat alwys say, babe abeg leave da front seat 4 my padi....my advce here is, as soon as he stops 4 his frnds, kindly open door n say bros com tak da front seat ..he may say No or he may accpt base on hw coded da guy is sha..bt if he accpt it, use da the bck seat...use the middle btw the two front seats n relax ur shoulder dear. I guess is even more romantic than setin at da front ....
Finally don't 4gt, God is the answer !

GUESS PLEASE?

Communicate with ur partner. #dats all

Juliaann:
seriously is that all u can come up with?Some people don't bother to read what I wrote up there before commenting...so please its better u don't say anything than giving me this nonsense as an advice

This is your reaction to the best advice on this thread?
Your problem must be from the village. Don't ask for advice if you aren't ready to take one. Peace!

Girls love bad guys, this is another case study. As for the car thingy, make sure anytime you are going out, be the driver; that way even if he want his friend in the car, they can occupied the back sit if they want to.
if the guy get shame, he will stay in the front with you.
Regard the smoking stuff, he wont change, even prayer cant stop him from smoking. Accept him or leave.

DesChyko:


This is your reaction to the best advice on this thread?
Your problem must be from the village. Don't ask for advice if you aren't ready to take one. Peace!

Mr man swerve

I just don't know why many girls are clueless and funny

I do that ..my wife knows that she goes behind once I pick my friend and we are okay with that
Its my car
..now I still smoke and she aunt happy on that

So if your not okay with the heat pls leave the kitchen