devour129:
she felt sorry for the man Singles girls stop feeling sorry for any guy both married and single .they just want to drill you with their pity stories . Which married man will not give you story that touch just to chop and run ? Close your legs umu ashawo .

carefreewannabe:


I see nothing wrong in marrying someone who was married and divorced. The girl was deceived. It is not her fault.

Ishilove:

Source: http://www.stelladimokokorkus.com/2015/01/new-years-day-chronicles-of-blog.html?m=1

devour129:
she felt sorry for the man Singles girls stop feeling sorry for any guy both married and single .they just want to drill you with their pity stories . Which married man will not give you story that touch just to chop and run ? Close your legs umu ashawo .

nebukadnezzari:


ONLY GOD KNOWS WHO SHE DUMPED AND SMASHED HIS HEART INTO A GAZILLION PIECES, MAKING HIM A MONSTER TO OTHER GIRLS. CRAP!!!

jaybee3:
You got scammed so move the Bleep on with your life na abi wetin you want make we do?

We can't basically yank him off from the other home nor can we help you plead that he increases the time he spends with you.

byvan:



The Gold has dug her out.

Amjustme:
Dont knw y am nt even moved by dis. D guy was married, u went ahead to marry him nw ur ranting dat u didnt snatch sm1's husband? U tink d wife wld jst fold her hands n watch u steal her husband away frm her simply cos she no get children? Ur d wicked 1 my sister and dnt even bring GOD into dis cos na u HE go punish.
And to ladies, grow up jor! Get ur own man n stop settling for 'crumps'.
NEXT? rolling my eyes.

Wendy80:

Yes oh. She has even stopped gisting me abt her relationship cos she can't stand d truth I tell her. How can a man be telling u I wanto divorce my wife so I can marry U and u believe him. And she'll even be asking him how far with d divorce thing now.. so disgusting.
I give up on some girls

sholikay:
What soever you sow,thou shalt reap..dnt worry ma'am,karma wil come on them..

abbey621:
Nairalanders will always amaze me. See useless responses, some even calling her greedy. Do you people read at all or are your brains clogged up due to the amount of pollution in Nigeria. I will not be so quick to condemn the poor woman based on a few things.

1: Nigeria operates in both the physical and spiritual realm. ( Who knows maybe the guy was told that in order for his wife to bear children for him, he must mate with another woman)

2: We all know how Nigerian bosses are. They get really close to their employees and sometimes take advantage of them easily.

3: If you developed a friendship with a guy and after a while he informed you that his situation has changed(often times thru a sad, pathetic format), you would feel pity for him. If you like the guy a little before, the likeness will multiply times 100 and feelings develop.

4: It is possible the guy's family were in on it, this makes it very believable!

My advice to any woman is to always insist on a court wedding. This way you can be rest assured of at least the possibility of a court settlement followed by a divorce. Also shey the woman no get family ni, if someone did this to my sis, na war o!

Ishilove:
They used her star to open the first wife''s womb, because how else can you explain the four months difference in both their children's ages?

When a man tells you about issues with his wife, jump and pass. Marriage is not the beginning and end of life.

iampartyboy:



KAI, u too dey watch naija film

easy4beno:




Bro..I understand your points clearly and I think the way forward is what should be suggested to her, as I did on the page 4 of this thread.. and still to me your claims are not logical enough..reasons below..:

1. So does it mean that she should be the one to fall into such trap of being deceived? If she had said no I'm sure she would have saved her head and be happier today, every woman should wise up..if she was wise enough she wouldn't have fallen for that bait..its very simple..he's married, don't go near married men..this is the kind of result you may end up getting..

2. You need to re-read the story all over again..she only did her IT for few weeks at the man's or boss's office..and they grew close which is normal..and immediately after completing the IT..she left..and they met again somehow..to tell you he didn't use any form of office threat or force on her..

3. Well being a friend, developing feelings and going into marriage are different things, what you should understand is that life is too delicate to pity someone for marriage..enough with sentiments..to me that's doing things for the very wrong reason and we both know that once the foundation is destroyed..there's apparently nothing anybody can do about it..

Ishilove:
They used her star to open the first wife''s womb, because how else can you explain the four months difference in both their children's ages?

When a man tells you about issues with his wife, jump and pass. Marriage is not the beginning and end of life.

Ishilove:

Source: http://www.stelladimokokorkus.com/2015/01/new-years-day-chronicles-of-blog.html?m=1

abbey621:
Nairalanders will always amaze me. See useless responses, some even calling her greedy. Do you people read at all or are your brains clogged up due to the amount of pollution in Nigeria. I will not be so quick to condemn the poor woman based on a few things.

1: Nigeria operates in both the physical and spiritual realm. ( Who knows maybe the guy was told that in order for his wife to bear children for him, he must mate with another woman)

2: We all know how Nigerian bosses are. They get really close to their employees and sometimes take advantage of them easily.

3: If you developed a friendship with a guy and after a while he informed you that his situation has changed(often times thru a sad, pathetic format), you would feel pity for him. If you like the guy a little before, the likeness will multiply times 100 and feelings develop.

4: It is possible the guy's family were in on it, this makes it very believable!

My advice to any woman is to always insist on a court wedding. This way you can be rest assured of at least the possibility of a court settlement followed by a divorce. Also shey the woman no get family ni, if someone did this to my sis, na war o!

Fourwinds:
as much as we were not dere u inclusive. She did her IT dere. Do u know whether d Slot for IT was given as favour for marriage? Even with d status of d man? I once asked a girl out, do u know what she told me? Dat anyone dat guarantee her placement for IT she will date d person. I asked her several questions concerning her reasoning. She kept insisting on dat conditions. Now supposing i have such power to fix her up. What do think will be happening. U cannt defend d actions of girls sometimes because d way dey act keep u wondering

dondiggy:
And someone I know is threading this path. I tried talking to her to leave the married man alone, he has nothing to offer her on the long run (though the man is giving her money for upkeep sha) but she won't listen

abbey621:



The bolded statement does not make sense to me. If you read the description well, the guy was married when they met and she only did her I.T there for a few weeks. You can't blame someone based on assumptions, like you said we were not there so anybody condemning her should keep quiet!

MizMyColi:


Clearly, she was already coveting the man and thought she could be the solution to his problems.

Which is why she didn't take the pains to find out the truth for herself --- if only she applied some brain.

Now, what do we blame her current predicament on?

Her desperation and gullibility or greed?

**modified**

Someone quoted me and talked about going with his family --- that's a good point.

Is there a possibility the "family" was deceived too?
Or were they in on the whole thing?
The human race isn't particularly known for "Goodness."


This isn't me trading blames. Trust me, I feel this woman's pain, I'm just not willing to put it all in writing at the moment.

But as ladies, we need to learn. We need to stop taking things at face value and put on our thinking caps.

It's okay to live and love like your life depended on it.

However I believe that there is a spirit in man, the inspiration of the almighty gives us understanding - of what is right, of what is wrong, of what to do, of what not to do.

I can bet my Nairaland account that before she decided to go on with this man, there were red flags, ones she ignored for whatever reasons there might be. That's if she even took time to court him first or thoroughly listened to her inner light.

Fourwinds:
fine knowing dat he is married is enough to keep her distance. Is she a divorce'. So y going for divorcee. As a Christian, it is forbidden to marry a man or a woman whose partner is still alive. Can u see y marriages should be taken seriously. It is not four years course or partner job

carefreewannabe:


God also hates people who judge others.