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Some parents can make life very frustrating for their children. I have seen a host of parents who fall within this category but irrespective of how deserving a parent is of our hate, I don't think it is worth it to hate either of them otherwise we may just turn out to be that which we detest.

u need to patience with. God will touch her one day.

U nid nt advertise your mum on public forums. Find wea d problem is nd try solving it @ohm.
I pray God leads you through

A course without a cause is ineffective, not binding, none and void. Move away from her to a new location and give your life to Christ, pray for her and try not to disrespect her.

Goodluck!!!

EmptinexTune:
My mum is so wicked.She does evrything to make my life and dat of my siblings miserable.She places curses on us evry little opportunity she gets.She contributes nothing to our life.When u ask her for money wch evryone knws she has,she wuld find the tiniest excuse nt to giv it to u.She is d kind of parent that doesnt want any of her children to be better than her.She has turned my brother into a tout with her wicked ways.My parents are separated and we live with her.She doesnt care about us even a little bit She is the kind of parent that can make u commit suicide.Evry1 is tired of her.Different family members av talked to her yet no improvement.Am trying so had not to hate her bt its becoming difficult by the day.

Hating your mum will not solve your problem rather it will complicate it and make you a failure in life.
The easiest way to fail in life is when you have someone you blamed for you misfortune.
Take this as a challenge to overcome all odds and rise above it. If you are real I don't mind helping you with the little I can do.
God Bless.

Has she always been like this?



She's probably suffering from depression that followed the separation, please try and talk to her and don't give up on her.

Ur parent remains d best thng u can get no matter hw wicked s/he mihgt looks.Try pay him/her back wit evn more kindness, obedience and respect irrespectiv because am SURE a day is coming u'll b happy u did...@ least u wont regret it on d long run. #My Take#

PHAYOL81:
[b]Ur parent remains d best thng u can get no matter hw wicked s/he mihgt looks.[/b]Try pay him/her back wit evn more kindness, obedience and respect irrespectiv because am SURE a day is coming u'll b happy u did...@ least u wont regret it on d long run. #My Take#

Your comment does not make sense. The best thing, no matter how wicked? Like really?


@OP

Move out if you can.

PHAYOL81:
Ur parent remains d best thng u can get no matter hw wicked s/he mihgt looks.Try pay him/her back wit evn more kindness, obedience and respect irrespectiv because am SURE a day is coming u'll b happy u did...@ least u wont regret it on d long run. #My Take#

Dont be ridiculous. If you dont understand one's plight because you haven't suffered their fate, then dont comment at all

@OP.. although your mother might have failed you as a parent, you can still move on to a better life. Find a mentor e.g a pastor, uncle, aunty etc.. that can play the role of a guardian your life. Get closer to God, learn some skills, work hard to make something of your future. Dont let this affect you mentally so that you wont continue the cycle into your children's life. Stay positive and remember that you deserve to be loved. You may not have gotten that love from her but the beauty of life is that you can create your own loving family with ur future wife

carefreewannabe:


Your comment does not make sense. The best thing, no matter how wicked? Like really?


@OP

Move out if you can.

lolaredvelvet:


Dont be ridiculous. If you dont understand one's plight because you haven't suffered their fate, then dont comment at all

@OP.. although your mother might have failed you as a parent, you can still move on to a better life. Find a mentor e.g a pastor, uncle, aunty etc.. that can play the role of a guardian your life. Get closer to God, learn some skills, work hard to make something of your future. Dont let this affect you mentally so that you wont continue the cycle into your children's life. Stay positive and remember that you deserve to be loved. You may not have gotten that love from her but the beauty of life is that you can create your own loving family with ur future wife

Calm down ladies.1st of,I understand hw painfl it kuld b avng a wicked parent 4 i av a dad who wasnt (iz nw coming round) any better.He left us 2 liv on nothng while we were quite young bt Mama (now late) wuld make sure we paid him iz due respect coz we will nevr get anoda father,she'd oft stated. And aint we d better 4 it?Methnk he only braced us up 4 upcoming challenges and we v nt bn doin bad facng dem. Nw i thnk he z d 1 seekng us nt d oda way round.
And am an die hard fan of religion/faith and God maintainin dat we respect and obey our parents is sure anoda reason 2 consider.Again i maintain ,JUX OBEY AND SUBMIT,U AINT GONNA REGRET IT!

I smell fp

PHAYOL81:


Calm down ladies.1st of,I understand hw painfl it kuld b avng a wicked parent 4 i av a dad who wasnt (iz nw coming round) any better.He left us 2 liv on nothng while we were quite young bt Mama (now late) wuld make sure we paid him iz due respect coz we will nevr get anoda father,she'd oft stated. And aint we d better 4 it?Methnk he only braced us up 4 upcoming challenges and we v nt bn doin bad facng dem. Nw i thnk he z d 1 seekng us nt d oda way round.
And am an die hard fan of religion/faith and God maintainin dat we respect and obey our parents is sure anoda reason 2 consider.Again i maintain ,JUX OBEY AND SUBMIT,U AINT GONNA REGRET IT!

I respect your attitude but I don't share your views.

EmptinexTune:
My mum is so wicked.She does evrything to make my life and dat of my siblings miserable.She places curses on us evry little opportunity she gets.She contributes nothing to our life.When u ask her for money wch evryone knws she has,she wuld find the tiniest excuse nt to giv it to u.She is d kind of parent that doesnt want any of her children to be better than her.She has turned my brother into a tout with her wicked ways.My parents are separated and we live with her.She doesnt care about us even a little bit She is the kind of parent that can make u commit suicide.Evry1 is tired of her.Different family members av talked to her yet no improvement.Am trying so had not to hate her bt its becoming difficult by the day.

She's probably under enormous pressure or transferring aggression from your father to you. I'd advise you to get a job, no matter how low-paying and commence plans to move out from under her. This abuse isn't good for your development, you need space from that environment. Good luck bruh.

EmptinexTune:
My mum is so wicked.She does evrything to make my life and dat of my siblings miserable.She places curses on us evry little opportunity she gets.She contributes nothing to our life.When u ask her for money wch evryone knws she has,she wuld find the tiniest excuse nt to giv it to u.She is d kind of parent that doesnt want any of her children to be better than her.She has turned my brother into a tout with her wicked ways.My parents are separated and we live with her.She doesnt care about us even a little bit She is the kind of parent that can make u commit suicide.Evry1 is tired of her.Different family members av talked to her yet no improvement.Am trying so had not to hate her bt its becoming difficult by the day.

All I see while reading through your post is extreme negativity and an entitlement mentality to someone who provides a roof over your head, food for you to eat, and possibly the clothing on your back. Your grouse is that she doesn't line your pocket with spare change...to be used for what exactly?

Anyway, how old are you?

EfemenaXY:


All I see while reading through your post is extreme negativity and an entitlement mentality to someone who provides a roof over your head, food for you to eat, and possibly the clothing on your back. Your grouse is that she doesn't line your pocket with spare change...to be used for what exactly?

Anyway, how old are you?

please don't start again, why are u talking like dis? I have seen a woman who went to church where her own daughter was rehearsing with fellow choir members and attacked her., tore her clothes to pieces and called her pr.ostitute in church. everyone couldn't believe it was her own daughter. some mothers are evil straight frm hell. dont defend her

Op leave that house and go and squat with friends till you get a job and an accommodation. EOD!

Give your life a focus and set goals for yourself. Let your goals spur you on daily and her attitiude will become less relevant by the day.

One of your goals should be trying to attain financial independence as soon as possible so you can be on your own and possibly shelter your siblings. Good Luck!

SAMBARRY:
Op leave that house and go and squat with friends till you get a job and an accommodation. EOD!

I dont agree. let him remain there till he can fend for himself. squatting is worse especially when he has no penny to his name

carefreewannabe:


Your comment does not make sense. The best thing, no matter how wicked? Like really?


@OP

Move out if you can.

m still a stdnt..cant move out

lofty900:
I dont agree. let him remain there till he can fend for himself. squatting is worse especially when he has no penny to his name

SAMBARRY HAS SPOKEN. END OF DISCUSSION

EfemenaXY:


All I see while reading through your post is extreme negativity and an entitlement mentality to someone who provides a roof over your head, food for you to eat, and possibly the clothing on your back. Your grouse is that she doesn't line your pocket with spare change...to be used for what exactly?

Anyway, how old are you?

You call wat i posted extreme negativity.Plz put ur self in my shoes.Oh no!..i doubt if u wuld be able t bear the pains even for a few seconds.The fact dat she provides a roof over my head doesnt mean she iz allowed to frustrate me.And for your info i work,av been taking care of my self for God knws how long.

lofty900:
please don't start again, why are u talking like dis? I have seen a woman who went to church where her own daughter was rehearsing with fellow choir members and attacked her., tore her clothes to pieces and called her pr.ostitute in church. everyone couldn't believe it was her own daughter. some mothers are evil straight frm hell. dont defend her

my mother is capable of doing things like dz.infact she has done it several times.She wuld embarrass us in d presence of our frnds.I cant even even invite my frnds to d house for fear of wat she wuld do.

lekejob:
u need to patience with. God will touch her one day.

I pray He does

Is that not what THE WORLD. . . .your #1 H-enemy wants?
To have a good laugh at your family problems?
Don't give it the slightest chance!

All you can do is damage-control.
Go and learn it!

EmptinexTune:
my mother is capable of doing things like dz.infact she has done it several times.She wuld embarrass us in d presence of our frnds.I cant even even invite my frnds to d house for fear of wat she wuld do.

absolutely, some mothers hate their kids u will even have doubts about her. i.'ve seen a lot of them

KanwuliaJara:
Is that not what THE WORLD. . . .your #1 H-enemy wants?
To have a good laugh at your family problems?
Don't give it the slightest chance!

All you can do is damage-control.
Go and learn it!

hope u dnt mind teaching me

KanwuliaJara:
Is that not what THE WORLD. . . .your #1 H-enemy wants?
To have a good laugh at your family problems?
Don't give it the slightest chance!

All you can do is damage-control.
Go and learn it!

and who's his enemy?

SAMBARRY:
and who's his enemy?

THE WORLD!

lofty900:
absolutely, some mothers hate their kids u will even have doubts about her. i.'ve seen a lot of them

tho' i knw she z my birth mun.smtimes i wish she isnt

EmptinexTune:
hope u dnt mind teaching me

Kill your mom with LOVE!
She needs it!!!!
No matter how BAD she may be, always be in HER CORNER WITH LOVE AND KINDNESS!!!!!

EmptinexTune:
You call wat i posted extreme negativity.Plz put ur self in my shoes.Oh no!..i doubt if u wuld be able t bear the pains even for a few seconds.The fact dat she provides a roof over my head doesnt mean she iz allowed to frustrate me. And for your info i work,av been taking care of my self for God knws how long.

So why are you still living with her if you can comfortably fend for yourself?

Unpalatable as it might seem, as long as you live under her roof, it's her house, her rules and you've got to comply...but judging by the sheer anger in your post, it's better you move out and support yourself before you kill her out of frustration.