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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:35pm On Feb 05, 2015
raumdeuter:


We both do it. We both work and we take turns depending on whose schedule works, when she leaves earlier I take to sitter and she picks up, when I leave earlier she drops and I pickup

ANything that is not convenient we pay for it.

Sounds like you have a good marriage. smiley God bless your home.

As you both work and both take care of the kids and the rest, how would the splitting of your properties in 50 / 50 be unfair after divorce?

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 8:35pm On Feb 05, 2015
Babymama1:


Let that be a motivation for you to make that marriage work because if u mess up and she leaves,you certainly will pay to take care of that child
That is the law
Simple

WHy would it be a problem to take financial care of a child I sired? No law needs to tell me to care for my child.

Paying spousal support is what I wont and I have taken measures alredy against that. My wife is a high earner and wont ask for my money
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 8:36pm On Feb 05, 2015
Nonso23:


And what if the husband decides to take a week off too.

Off from what? He leaves the house daily and back at night, when he is back, he is served from the kitchen to living room and bedroom . .

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:36pm On Feb 05, 2015

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Dragonking: 8:36pm On Feb 05, 2015
Nonso23:


As usual, most women cannot handle the truth.

Honestly ..women prefer you tell them lies..
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 8:36pm On Feb 05, 2015
carefreewannabe:


Sounds like you have a good marriage. smiley God bless your home.

As you both work and both take care of the kids and the rest, how would the splitting of your properties in 50 / 50 be unfair after divorce?

Properties jointly acquired 50-50 would be split 50-50. If we jointly acquire a property, I would be a thief to want it all for myself
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:37pm On Feb 05, 2015

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:37pm On Feb 05, 2015
Nonso23:


That is what you would like to believe.
I asked a simple question, if i can get all i want, what use is a wife and you have decided to dance around in circles.

No dancing around in circles. If this is what you want, I am perfectly ok with it. Why would I even care?

Do you want me to tell you what advantages there are in having a wife and a mother for your kids? Not my job. If you can't see any, that's your business.
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:37pm On Feb 05, 2015
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:37pm On Feb 05, 2015
Nonso23:


Please stop talking about your family before some witches start documenting it for future sinister purposes.
cheesy

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 8:38pm On Feb 05, 2015
Dragonking:


You didn't answer the question...also you advise I walk away but you support the woman who goes to report her own maltreatment to the police and who eventually come up and arrest the husband, then the woman gets a divorce and walks away with more than 70% of the man's assets..

so why sing two different tunes? aren't you being biased?

You think the woman has no pride as well, you think it is easy for her to walk or call the cop that she has been beaten? Then, sum up the courage and dont worry about your ego to go and report if that is what you would rather do.

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 8:39pm On Feb 05, 2015
Nonso23:


Please stop talking about your family before some witches start documenting it for future sinister purposes.

Noted. cheesy

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:39pm On Feb 05, 2015
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:39pm On Feb 05, 2015
raumdeuter:


Properties jointly acquired 50-50 would be split 50-50. If we jointly acquire a property, I would be a thief to want it all for myself

And this is what happens in the West for MAJORITY of couples. They share bills and they acquire properties together. You can't look at these laws from a purely Nigerian perspective.

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:40pm On Feb 05, 2015
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 8:40pm On Feb 05, 2015
raumdeuter:


We both do it. We both work and we take turns depending on whose schedule works, when she leaves earlier I take to sitter and she picks up, when I leave earlier she drops and I pickup

ANything that is not convenient we pay for it.

Then, you would NOT understand what we are talking about here . . . why NOT tell your wife to stay home and not work?
Those things that MIGHT have been paid for cos it is NOT convenient is what your wife would have been doing either she likes it OR not if she was a stay home mama.... Anyhow, i wouldn't wanna be using your home as example cos i pray it will NOT break . . . so my brother, let us just back off the yarn jare.
A woman that put her life on hold for the family MUST be rewarded if wahala hots the fan

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:40pm On Feb 05, 2015
Nonso23:


You are dancing in circles. I never said that was what i want. You MANUFACTURED that as usual. I asked for a comparison between my options and you had no solutions to proffer. simple

You are dancing in circles my dear.

I will repeat myself, if you don't see any use in having a wife, don't marry. Simple. If you do, then that is your business.
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:40pm On Feb 05, 2015
Una don hear am
[size=18pt]If you don't comply your behind is ending up in the slammer
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All this back and forth is moot

Officers with the Harris County Precinct One Constable's Office have arrested more than 40 individuals accused of failing to pay court-ordered child support.

Constable Alan Rosen said Operation Take Care kicked off Saturday at 5 a.m. and will continue for several weeks, focusing on individuals who have active warrants for delinquent child support payments. He said there are currently an estimated 575 open and active warrants.

“There are far too many kids that are not being taken care of because one of the parents are not meeting their court-ordered obligation to pay child support,” said Rosen.


Rosen said about 24 officers went door to door Saturday. Since announcing the roundup earlier this week, Rosen said many individuals have come forward to make arrangements rather than go to jail. He's encouraging others to do the same. grin grin grin grin

“We'll knock on doors, we'll come to your business – wherever we need to find you. We would rather not have to do this, we would much rather you come in and make arrangements,” said Rosen.

http://www.click2houston.com/news/dozens-arrested-in-child-support-roundup/26710434

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:41pm On Feb 05, 2015
carefreewannabe:


You are dancing in circles my dear.

I will repeat myself, if you don't see any use in having a wife, don't marry. Simple. If you do, then that is your business.

Didn't I say that earlier
The only reason you get a divorce and get slammed with child support and alimony is because you got married and had kids
To make sure that never happens,let them not marry
As simple as abc
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 8:42pm On Feb 05, 2015
Nonso23:


Oh i forgot, the most important factor - money happens to fall from the sky whenever madam needs it.

You go to work to make the money and you as the MAN told her to stay home and manage the home, you are paid for managing things at work and she ought to get paid for managing the home, while she is not paid, if you decide to kick her out, no wahala, pay her just like your employer will pay you off when they wanna fire you.

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:42pm On Feb 05, 2015
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:42pm On Feb 05, 2015
raumdeuter:


None of us stay at home and we are both top professionals We both decided to have kids because we want to not because we seek to profit from them

I am sure that this is true for more than 90% of all marriages in the West.
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by pickabeau1: 8:43pm On Feb 05, 2015
Babymama1:
Una don hear am
If you don't comply your behind is ending up in the slammer




http://www.click2houston.com/news/dozens-arrested-in-child-support-roundup/26710434

When will you understand what is being discussed


No one here has any issue with child support

If a woman has two legs and a Brain, why is she angling to get the mans wealth pre marriage

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:44pm On Feb 05, 2015
Nonso23:


And i ask you for the umpteenth time. Why is a wife important??. My decision to marry or not is not the bane of this conversation.
If you cannot answer just admit it and stop playing to the gallery.

Why should I tell anyone why a wife is important. Having a wife is important for some people and not important for others for different reasons.
I don'T have to tell anyone why it is important or unimportant. You should be able to answer this question for yourself and all by yourself.
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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Dragonking: 8:44pm On Feb 05, 2015
Fhemmmy:


You think the woman has no pride as well, you think it is easy for her to walk or call the cop that she has been beaten? Then, sum up the courage and dont worry about your ego to go and report if that is what you would rather do.

you still haven't answered the questions...

I ask, what do you think will happen when I go to the police station to report my wife who is maltreating me by slapping my face and hitting me on the head (even though it wasn't easy for me to do so)? what do you think will be their response especially from this part of the world we are in?

Also, why do you advise men to walk away from such marriage but support the women to report similar incidents to the police, then get divorced and carry about 70% of the man's assets? why the biasness?
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:45pm On Feb 05, 2015
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:45pm On Feb 05, 2015
pickabeau1:


When will you understand what is being discussed


No one here has any issue with child support

If a woman has two legs and a Brain, why is she angling to get the mans wealth pre marriage

Is pre marriage wealth the subject of discussion here
When did that come in?

How many men in all sincerity had shishi to their names before marriage?
Abeg

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Fhemmmy: 8:46pm On Feb 05, 2015
Nonso23:


The free food, clothing, shelter and affection are more than sufficient payment for her. When she is ready to leave she should gather her properties and go. You cannot pay him back for your freeloading.

Sad you see it as those, i hope you would be proud to get home and open this thread for your wife to read all that you have said . . My brother, you will from that day kill something from her, cos she is as human as you are.

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Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:46pm On Feb 05, 2015
Babymama1:


Didn't I say that earlier
The only reason you get slammed with child support and alimony is because you got married
To make sure that never happens,let them not marry

I have a better solution. If, like they say, life is so easy for women and marriage a lucrative job, then they only need to find a working woman who earns much money, marry her, impregnate her and look after the children, then divorce her and ....... voilà ..... they are rich. grin

Easy, isn't it? wink
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by raumdeuter: 8:47pm On Feb 05, 2015
Fhemmmy:


Then, you would NOT understand what we are talking about here . . . why NOT tell your wife to stay home and not work?
Those things that MIGHT have been paid for cos it is NOT convenient is what your wife would have been doing either she likes it OR not if she was a stay home mama.... Anyhow, i wouldn't wanna be using your home as example cos i pray it will NOT break . . . so my brother, let us just back off the yarn jare.
A woman that put her life on hold for the family MUST be rewarded if wahala hots the fan

Some of these things we pay for include lawn mowing which is done every 2 weeks, Handyman work which is a daily thing, carrying the heavy load when we go shopping(Use Mexicans).

We decided no one would stay at home and both would work. She put a lot into getting where she is and I wont be fair to tell her to stop working. WHy study for MCAT, PCAT, LSAT GMAT and all those exams and later sit at home.

I wont want any boy to do that for my daughter
Re: Concern As More Us-based Nigerians Murder Their Spouses by Nobody: 8:48pm On Feb 05, 2015

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