kemachuk:
E-family please advice me on how to make my hubby communicate more. He doesn't like gisting. Prefers watching cnn. Me I like fashion, celebs gist and he isn't interested in stuff like that. I stopped talking about those when he opened up to me that he's not into such gist. Even when I bring up politics his respond is yes, no kind of respond. What do I do about this cos I've even tried talking Football but he isn't interested. Or is that I am the problem? Between we've been married 4 2yrs with a son. I'm not really the talking type too but @least they should be things we should talk about.

mutter:


Like now I am here on NL and he is watching his TV in another room. Every now and then I go to him hug him and return to what I`m doing. He does the same.

mutter:

If he is not complaining you don`t have a problem.
Some people just need their privacy and are not great talkers.
Besides you cannot make an interesting conversation, when you have no interest in the topic.
I and my husband don`t talk that much either. We spend time each doing our own thing. It took some time getting used to but it does the mariage allot of good. We don`t get irritated and we have never gone to bed angry with each other.
Sometimes just sitting together in silence is more that a thousand words.
Like now I am here on NL and he is watching his TV in another room. Every now and then I go to him hug him and return to what I`m doing. He does the same.

elantraceey:
Was he always like this or he just started?



If he has always been like that then you should talk to him that you're not comfortable with it , meanwhile it really shouldn't be everytime you guys must talk , there are times that you can just watch movies or football together and from there the gist will flow .



If it just started then i think it could be for two reason , One is he might be losing interest in you or there's something bothering him , either a from his family friends or work and this still boils down to talking to him at a comfortable time in a conducive calm atmosphere , he might say nothing is wrong at first but he's your husband , you should know how to make him speak up.

kemachuk:
Thank U for ur contribution. He's really not d talking type but it's getting worst by the day. He won't say a thing until I force it out of him. When I told him he's not talking is bothering me he said if it's not important or won't add value to us he won't say it except an event around it brings it up. I get to hear things he's doing or wants to do thru phone conversation with pple that how I saved him from a bad investment thru phone conversation I overheard. I asked him, infact I forced it out by d time I analyse it for him he realize he'll loose money if he invest in it.
I asked him what he likes gisting about he said he's not d gisting type.
I think mutter best describe him

kemachuk:


Very much in love with him and not an arranged marriage.
We've passed thru a lot 2geda. When couples pass thru difficult times, isnt it suppose to make them dem stronger?

bennyrazz:
@op, do you think he's going dumb gradually?

kemachuk:


Hahaha
No oh

bigdiva:

Hmmm, i feel like ive been in your shoes before, luckily i wasnt married to the guy, but we were crazy in love and dating. I switched off and it took a few weeks but he started begging me. I dont think its a good idea to try in a marriage though...anyway i would bug him to death till he gets fruatrated of my questions....i think.

KanwuliaJara:
Men do not communicate, they only phock, eat, shyte and sleep!
Please, grow up!

kemachuk:
E-family please advice me on how to make my hubby communicate more. He doesn't like gisting. Prefers watching cnn. Me I like fashion, celebs gist and he isn't interested in stuff like that. I stopped talking about those when he opened up to me that he's not into such gist. Even when I bring up politics his respond is yes, no kind of respond. What do I do about this cos I've even tried talking Football but he isn't interested. Or is that I am the problem? Between we've been married 4 2yrs with a son. I'm not really the talking type too but @least they should be things we should talk about.

kemachuk:


Very much in love with him and not an arranged marriage.
We've passed thru a lot 2geda. When couples pass thru difficult times, isnt it suppose to make them dem stronger?

bennyrazz:
@op, do you think he's going dumb gradually?

fuzzywuzzy:
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!! What a bunch of wierdos!

kpolli:
Introduce him to alcohol, every man opens up with alcohol in their system




Men you know

fuzzywuzzy:
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!! What a bunch of wierdos!

slimyem:
I don't get why you are complaining since he obviously has always been this way and you've been okay with it all the while.

What exactly are you looking for now? Someone to chitchat with or a connection with him?if it's the former your husband certainly doesn't sound like he'll be it.You have acknowledged him for who he is then be comfortable with that.


Do you derive sustenance and strength from your relationship with him,do you feel seen ,heard and valued as a wife?That's what important..I believe. Communication is not just talking away . You can say a lot to each other without saying anything.
If you can identify you have this with your husband or something similar to what mutter has described,please be content and be happy.