edwife:


I am telling you!

When i was in Nigeria,my sis in law who was 23 by the time lived with me and anytime i go out with hubby,i have to call her at least 5 to 6 times to know how my baby is faring.She even said i did not trust her but later appreciate what i was doing.

I don't know why such people have kids....when you decide to have a kid when no one force you to,please you need to stop being selfish!

You owe your child your life,time,devotion and attention.Parties can wait!

simplemach:
I smell yoruba woman arround. Dem too like wedding. Imagine leaving these kids all by their selves because she want attend gbedu.

Chillisauce:


I'm sure she didn't wanna miss the opportunity to get some Abuja gigolo. And traveling with the kids is no no because they will arrest her if the kids misses school.

3 weeks ?
She get mind sha. What if there was fire at home .

mmsen:


Your comment highlights a common issue in Nigerian culture - namely, ignorance of the term 'parental responsibility'. It is why so many of you will find yourselves in hot water should you travel abroad holding onto your savage and destructive parental practices.

patrickdarlins:
why are so pained about my comment??.....i dont like this your harsh tone!!

please when next you wana address an issue...have some courtesy...not for me...but for the world reading your comment....


stay well!!!

auntymi:
Too bAd

mmsen:

Your comment was worthy of my 'tone'.

Redoil:
Guess the tribe the woman is from and win urself a plate of amala and ewedu with redoil soup.

Iamsynord:
Every one condemning the woman ..Nobody gave the Consideration that she might have gone to Nigeria for the wedding as it will provide money for her that she will use to come back and take care of the same children . ....What! are you serious?

mmsen:


You suggested that children should be left to fend themselves.

That a mother should be free to abandon her responsibilities for three weeks.

Your comment was worthy of my 'tone'.

patrickdarlins:
ok....sorry for that...

and besides..thats not what i meant..that "fend"...for themselves.....i dint mean that..

read my comment again...u will noticed i said..at least the mother might have gotten the fridge stock up with food for at least two weeks na.....understand me.

then at least the kid of 13yrs should do the cooking and can take care of his/her self with the younger one when the mother is not around...

i for one will spank my kids...if at the age of 13....they cant cook properly...or at least range the sitting room when scattered...seriously...

but in the other part...i wasnt supporting the woman....get me wright ok....

and thanks for the reply tho...but u quick dey vex oo...lols

mmsen:


No worries.


But are you saying that you would spank a 13 year old because you did not effectively teach them how to cook?

And that you would leave a 13 year old, home alone, for weeks?

Aren't you Nigerians always going on about how you love your families, have close links with your families, especially compared to the oyinbos? Why if you have such a close knight unit, can you not find a family member to take care of your children for a few weeks?

What kind of love is that? To leave children home alone for weeks.

mmsen:


Aren't you Nigerians always going on about how you love your families, have close links with your families, especially compared to the oyinbos? Why if you have such a close knight unit, can you not find a family member to take care of your children for a few weeks?

What kind of love is that? To leave children home alone for weeks.

nextstep:


In Nigeria, it's no problem at all to find a family member to take care of our children. Abroad, it's an entirely different kettle of fish:
1. your family may not be in the same city or country
2. if they were in the same town, they've all got to get to work innit? Still nobody home to take care of kids
3. everyone is over-stretched and over-worked. It's not easy starting from the bottom as an immigrant

We love our kids and have close family ties, that is undeniable, but na condition bend crayfish

nextstep:
Seriously? So 10 and 13 year old are underaged? My only blame is that she should have trained them better and left food in the house. We're you not able to keep house at 13?

I'm not condoning what she did, but I think there's too much overreaction. 10 and 13 year olds in naija can cook, turn on heat, wash plate, go to school and back home. They can be in charge of buka and they can keep correct change while dashing in between traffic selling abalumo. Again, those are not necessarily good situations, but I fear we're raising a bunch of wusses abroad, and the UK government is only too happy to capture the kids at any slight misdeed. No wonder, after all this coddling, the average uk teen has nothing better to do than vandalize and take drugs. Who dash naija kids?

Is the UK that dangerous that 10 and 13 year olds cannot be safe at home for 3 weeks?

I wish they'd just let her off with a warning instead of doing further damage by dragging off the kids and further punishing her. It's so easy for us to sit and judge others without actually being in her shoes.

Anyway, let me get off this soap box...

mmsen:


If your circumstances change then your mentality must also change. That would mean not spending weeks away from your children if you do not have someone else to care for them

I don't mean to pick on Nigerians for the record, every week there is a tale (usually in the Daily Mail) of a mother leaving her children at home for weeks (or months) so that they can go on holiday.

masseratti:
trust me am Very sure it's a yoruba woman,
Btw am yoruba myself.

obapol:
na ibadan or Ijebu woman. Am dead sure

harffie:
moana or. Moaner*

simplemach:
I smell yoruba woman arround. Dem too like wedding. Imagine leaving these kids all by their selves because she want attend gbedu.

nextstep:
Seriously? So 10 and 13 year old are underaged? My only blame is that she should have trained them better and left food in the house. We're you not able to keep house at 13?

I'm not condoning what she did, but I think there's too much overreaction. 10 and 13 year olds in naija can cook, turn on heat, wash plate, go to school and back home. They can be in charge of buka and they can keep correct change while dashing in between traffic selling abalumo. Again, those are not necessarily good situations, but I fear we're raising a bunch of wusses abroad, and the UK government is only too happy to capture the kids at any slight misdeed. No wonder, after all this coddling, the average uk teen has nothing better to do than vandalize and take drugs. Who dash naija kids?

Is the UK that dangerous that 10 and 13 year olds cannot be safe at home for 3 weeks?

I wish they'd just let her off with a warning instead of doing further damage by dragging off the kids and further punishing her. It's so easy for us to sit and judge others without actually being in her shoes.

Anyway, let me get off this soap box...

ileobatojo:


So If you lived in the safest environment known to the world, you can live your 10 and 13 year old by themselves in a house for 3 weeks while you travel?