slimyem:
I read the first part of the trilogy and I knew I couldn't bring myself to read fifty shades darker and fifty shades free.
The overhype started with the book. I have no thought about seeing the movie. Not worth it.

Trilogy

Op thanks for the info. I am not a sucker for violent Se'x . So i guess i will just keep away from 50shades of ife-nwa.

http://www.cashripe.com/?id=Dareydarex...visit and you will usually be glad

Well you're absolutely right in all aspects except one. The story isn't glorifying the violent sexual behavior. The story,as you may or may not know,is adapted from a book and it has 2 sequels. I think when you read or watch the other parts,you'll realize the story is condemning that type of sexual behavior and trying to teach women to stand up to being treated like that

UjSizzle:


P.S Women are FUNNY creatures sha. They'll say no man should call them 'properties', yet get all tingly when a man treats an imaginary character as such.
Dark fantasies everywhere

1000likes...

dat5starguy:

Trilogy

a typo obviously...
I hope your need to quote me has been satisfied.

slimyem:
a typo obviously...
I hope your need to quote me has been satisfied.

I don't care about your typo. I didn't know the book is a trilogy. I read just one complete part.

BuddhaPalm:


Which age milady?

The age of freedom. I think everything culminates in just that word: Freedom.

dat5starguy:

I don't care about your typo. I didn't know the book is a trilogy. I read just one complete part.

It's a trilogy. Fifty Shades of Grey, Fifty Shades Darker and Fifty Shades Freed.

candygosh:
Lovely write up...It depicts sickening things that people do all in d name of sexual fantasies. But it's just a movie

U say its just a movie but u don't know d damage that its subliminal mesage can do to you later in the future >

If the novel was indeed written by a Woman like I heard, and the screenplay adaptation was also written by a Woman, and the movie was directed by a Woman, and the movie was edited by a Woman, then who is prof800 to comment on this?

I saw it on IMDb but refused to rate it.
After all what do I know about women's conflicting desires.

candygosh:


What is d connection.?

Just like songs can in a matter of seconds change your mood,so does movies have very strong effects on the mind,lets take for instance,a kid watches Spiderman or The Expendables,the gun battles and violent scenes tend to filter into the kids mind,ever wondered why kids that watch lots of these kind of movies tend to like playing with toy gunsits a mind control thing,soon it becomes a trend,guys will see it as a norm cos they've been programmed by these movies that you can make a girl or lady do anything even against her will once you have the wealth,you have the power.You can check Subliminal messages on youtube so you get a better understanding.

I can't believe this OP. You have just overhyped this book/movie.
A friend sent me the eBook and I find it boring, except for the sex-scenes. Even the sex-scenes are badly written, I swear, I can write 'kinkier' than that.
The grammar, the plot and the characters self. I just kept flipping the pages till I got to the end.
Mtcheeeew..
At a point, I wished the book was written by Jackie Collins (Author of Lovers and Gamblers).
The author of Fifty shades of grey just mashed her own fantasies haphazardly together and more than 100 million people have paid for that crap..

candygosh:
Lovely write up...It depicts sickening things that people do all in d name of sexual fantasies. But it's just a movie

That's why we advised all to read the novel before the movie!

One of the most disgusting movies I have wasted money on in a long time.
OP. . . Your letter is soooooooooo out of point.
Judging by the reviews from movie critics and movie goers alike, only one conclusion can be derived.
THE MOVIE IS TRASH

[b]If someone wants to be with you, turning up at your part-time job unannounced when you haven’t ever even discussed that you have one and acting possessive when a co-worker talks to you is not romantic. It’s creepy.

If you say you’re a virgin and he responds by violently deflowering you, that’s not love. That’s assault.

If he tracks your whereabouts when you’re out clubbing and takes you to his hotel when you’re too drunk to make a rational decision, then undresses you and puts you in his bed for the night, that’s not protective. It’s stalking. In fact, stalking is the least of what it is.

If he turns up inside your apartment uninvited, it’s not romantic. It’s breaking and entering.

If you tell him you’re not interested and you ask him to leave and he responds by tying you to your bed and having violent sex with you after you repeatedly say “no,” all the while threatening to do worse if you make a noise, it’s not passion. It’s rape.

If he sells your car and buys you a new one without your permission “to surprise you,” it’s not romantic. It’s theft and manipulation.

If he monitors your phone calls and threatens you with physical harm because another man calls you, he’s not in love with you. He’s abusing and controlling you.

If beating you with a leather strap until you cry is what gives him pleasure and he asks you to do it despite your distress because it turns him on and then plays the victim to explain it all away, there is no soundtrack in the world that should quiet the voice in your head that yells out that love and romance were never in the picture and they never will be.[/b]

I doubt any child in his or her sane mind would NOT believe all these INSTINCTIVELY. . . UNLESS HE OR SHE WAS INDOCTRINATED BY A SICK ADULT in his or her life.

My children, this film was deeply disturbing to me, and I have life experience on my side. I shudder to think that you are going to grow up with stories like this to model relationships on and that you or the people you date will mistake this for ‘normal.’

Please, my precious children, know this: Love is gentle. Love never takes. Love does not demand. Love waits for consent. Love doesn’t need helicopter rides and expensive gifts. Love is enough.

When there’s love, the voice in your head doesn’t yell. It simply doesn’t have to.

My children, listen to me on this, if nothing else.

And, if you choose not to listen to me, then listen to the voice in your head.

Please, give the children credit.
Apparently, you forgot 2 VERRRRRRRRRRRRY important things.

1. THE SEXUAL-DEVIANTEE portrayed by JAMIE DOMAN aka CHRISTIAN GREY was ONCE A CHILD MOLESTED AND TORTURED BY A FEMALE-MONSTER-RELATIVE-AUNT in his youth and NO ONE IN HIS FAMILY KNEW/KNOWS ABOUT IT. The demon was created by a PEDO-PHILE within the family. HE NEEDS HELP. . . .I MEAN LIFE-LONG THERAPY!!!!! As you could well tell. . . HIS NUCLEAR FAMILY SEEMED VERY NORMAL and could not wait for him to SETTLE DOWN. They could never understand why he changed partners and could not seem to settle down

2. The fact that 15 WOMEN had rejected such a SEXUAL-PSYCHO, AND HIS INFAMOUS 'RED ROOM OF S&M' in the past, and DAKOTA JOHNSON aka ANASTASIA STEELE also REJECTED HIS ADVANCES in the guise of 'LOVE AND ROMANCE'. . . . makes the world believe that women and are not as gullible as your letter makes them out to be, even as children. As a child, HE DID NOT HAVE A CHOICE to be PSYCHOTIC, but he was decent enough to offer his VICTIMS the choice he NEVER HAD. The women WERE NOT CHILDREN. . . .and they had freeeee will WITH A WRITTEN CONTRACT to back out at anytime. Christian Grey never went after children, but grown women with FREE WILL!!!! I think that was very noble of him and I was sooooooooooooooo, very thankful for that!!!

Instead of writing your letter to 'YOUR CHILDREN'. . . ,

You need to address your concerns to THE PEDO-PHILES within A FAMILY UNIT. . . .the real victim is CHRISTIAN GREY. . . WHO SEEMED TO BE LOOKING FOR LOVE ENDLESSLY, WHILE CRYING FOR HELP. He expressed love, the only way he knew how to. He even realized he was not 'normal' and warned all females about the 'terms of the contract'. . . . HE DID NOT FORCE ANY FEMALE TO ABIDE BY HIS TERMS. . . HE DID NOT KILL ANY OF THEM!!!! AMEN!!!!

CHRISTIAN GREY is a VICTIM and product of his environment, like ALL SERIAL KILLERS AND PEDO-PHILES IN THE WORLD!
ADULTS USUALLY SOW THE SEEDS OF EVIL IN THE HEARTS AND MINDS OF CHILDREN.
All I could see is a handsome, young man struggling so hard to be normal, despite his PSYCHOLOGICAL TRAUMA he had to endure and can't seem to break free from!

We, as adults have to deal with the MONSTERS we create and breed in our dysfunctional world.

Thank you!

oluafolabi:
Nigerians and their never ending hypocrisy. The movie is rated 18+ meaning it's not meant for children. You probably saw the trailer and yet still went ahead to watch it. You have probably read the book too.

So what are you complaining about? I have never seen an article from you condemning po.rn in Nigeria but you can proudly show how much of an hypocrite that you are by condemning a movie into which so much effort was put into.

SMH.

how many movies rated 18+ did you watch when you were above 18 Lets face d fact when d population of those teenagers who watch this movie is compared to that of adults, you would be surprised at what the amount of teenage underages would be.

This shyt is so boring, I fell asleep while reading it. Reads like a law text, the author can't write to save her own life.
And to think that people are here thinking its all that...
Even the sex-scenes are not well delivered.
All I see is a sexual predator and a young lady (Ana) getting blown away by all the new sensations, nothing special, nothing at all.
I will not watch the movie for free cos I'm sure I'm gonna be so irritated watching Grey punishing Ana all in the name of Fantasies...
Cane na cane, koboko na koboko and punishment na punishment jare. No one should mix pleasure with stupidity

The eBook is TRASH
The movie too will surely be TRASH..
Yes, I say so!

***
The dominant shall do this...
The submissive shall do this...blah blah blah
Boring like heck.

UjSizzle:

It's a trilogy. Fifty Shades of Grey, Fifty Shades Darker and Fifty Shades Freed.

Thanks

KingEbukasBlog:
too much hype ... it will disappoint some people ... just like 'Friends with Benefit' , no actual nu.dity

I'm telling you..that's always the problem with movies with too much hype, disappointing. They started singing this 50 Shades of "cray" rubbish 2 years ago and from the preview, I don't see anything interesting about it except the expensive set

Timbuktou:
Women are a confused bunch. The book this movie was adapted from has sold over 100 million copies worldwide and has been translated into over 50 languages. The book was mostly bought by women, about 90% .

The OP does not speak for women worldwide. If she doesn't like it, she doesn't have to condemn it. Stop the hypocrisy.

The OP is confused... bla bla sounds better

One woman acting 'confused' is not equal 'women are a confused bunch'

And even if she is an hypocrite, her write up has invaluable lessons on what love is..

So in the midst of her 'confusion', she did us good

Timbuktou:
I don't think people understand what it means to sell a hundred million copies of a book in this day and age. Not forgetting that it was poorly written, as in, the grammar was atrocious, plot was wayward, charaterisation thoroughly rudimentary.

This book should not have sold ten copies for its faults, but no, tens of millions of women saw past its literary failings and went on to procure and consume anyway. Now we get a clown trying to tell us the book isn't set in reality. It may be a fantasy but, that speaks about what reality people really want, doesn't it? If they could get it, they would go for it. And if it seemed like they could, they'd move heaven and earth to have that experience.

A word should be enough....

Bros,

Let's imagine the tens of millions of women all want it... (which in reality does not hold water

In Nigeria alone, we have about 170million people, say about 40million women .... now imagine the population of women worldwide

What percentage of women like S & M compared to the world population of women

candygosh:
Lovely write up...It depicts sickening things that people do all in d name of sexual fantasies. But it's just a movie

movies aren't just movies.
Never read d book nor watch the movie.it is still a pity thoughm the way people think because of LOVE esp. Girls

ethylene:

U say its just a movie but u don't know d damage that its subliminal mesage can do to you later in the future >

Oh pls whats it with everyone quoting me. I hv read d book n not seen d movie n I won't.

So what itS still a movie. Or isn't that what it's called. I'm not saying stuff like that doesn't exist and it definately not the first time I'm seeing such a movie. So try to understand my post well.

It's still a movie!

harffie:
That's why we advised all to read the novel before the movie!

Seriously? Did I say I haven't read the book

i hated the whole story concept. promoting immorality, cant watch it for free sef ..



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macaphan007:
Just like songs can in a matter of seconds change your mood,so does movies have very strong effects on the mind,lets take for instance,a kid watches Spiderman or The Expendables,the gun battles and violent scenes tend to filter into the kids mind,ever wondered why kids that watch lots of these kind of movies tend to like playing with toy gunsits a mind control thing,soon it becomes a trend,guys will see it as a norm cos they've been programmed by these movies that you can make a girl or lady do anything even against her will once you have the wealth,you have the power.You can check Subliminal messages on youtube so you get a better understanding.

Oh pls. Movies or moving pictures have no effect on my mind. Only sick people I guess. When I say sick, it's not illness. The mentally disturbed people necrophilia n co.

And yes I know what subliminal messages are. If u have visited a porn site u would see that there's a section called BDSM so what I visit there. Does it mean I fantasise about it? It has no effect on me.

And I still say it's just a movie!

UjSizzle:
I found the books deeply disturbing and couldn't even complete them. If what Christian Grey did to Ana is love, then I suggest men kept their emotions to themselves.

It's weird the kind of things we glorify in this age. Lack of respect. SM (?). Bad behavior accompanied by excuses.
Or the date a bad guy and try taming him hogwash. That's nonsense.
And to imagine the books sold over a 100 million copies with a very unattractive plotline and bad storytelling. The world is crazy

Anyway, I applaud the writer of this piece. Violence is not love. Irrespective of 'sexy' fantasies, no man should have to manipulate and disregard a woman like Mr Grey did, and no woman should have to listen to useless excuses like he gave, nor let him talk her into believing she's really in charge (But of course she enjoyed it up to the point he used an actual whip on her )

Already made up my mind not to see the movie. Can't imagine how disturbed I'll be if I have to put a face to the disturbing images from the books.


P.S Women are strange creatures sha. They'll say no man should call them 'properties', yet get all tingly when a man treats an imaginary character as such.
Dark fantasies everywhere

I'm telling you! You are right. The world has really gone crazy!

A girl I had a very high opinion of read the book and couldn't stop praising it so I decided to read it too.

I must say I only managed to complete the first part of the trilogy and till date I'm yet to understand what the whole hullabaloo about the book is all about.

For all the hype surrounding it, I didn't find the book engaging at all.

But maybe, like a reviewer of the book once stated, girls who go gaga about the book do so probably because the Christian Grey character fulfills some fantasy in their minds since he's a billionaire, he's very good in bed, and of course, he's so damaged and needs someone to work on him.

OtunbaJega:
My Precious Children,

Tonight, I succumbed to peer pressure (exactly what I caution you NEVER to do) and went with a bunch of girlfriends to see Fifty Shades of Grey. I ignored the little voice in my head that implored me to just say “no!” because, after all, it’s just a silly movie, right? Well, I wish I had done as I always tell you to do and given that voice credit because it was right. The thing is, I’m also kind of glad I didn’t because now I have these words for you.

One day, in the not very distant future, I’m going to blink and gasp as I realise you’re suddenly old enough to see movies like Fifty Shades of Grey, yourselves. Of course, you or your friends may even decide that curiosity wins and risk sneaking a peek even earlier than that. Either way, I have to accept the hard fact that your innocent eyes and your uncorrupted minds are going to see this drivel sooner or later.

I am writing this so that when that day comes, you’ll recognise Fifty Shades of Grey for what it is, rather than what it pretends to be.

Let me begin by telling you what Fifty Shades of Grey is not.

It is not a love story.

It does a pretty convincing job of masquerading as one, for sure, but please believe me when I say that love doesn’t even have a cameo role in this plot.

It is also not a romantic fairy tale with a harmless bit of naughtiness sprinkled on top.

Romance is glaringly absent, in fact. As for harmless S&M, please understand that this screenplay’s message is the polar opposite of harmless. In this ‘harmless’ piece of fluff movie, a rich, handsome, experienced man uses his power to seduce and manipulate a young, innocent student into doing a lot of things she is extremely uncomfortable doing.

They are not equals. They are not partners. There is, in fact, no ‘they’ to speak of at all.

Rather, it’s a movie about a narcissistic man’s controlling and violent sexual desires and his sense of entitlement to use and abuse a vulnerable young woman’s body and mind as tools for his own gratification. It’s all about his needs, coupled with the arrogant expectation that she should comply, regardless of her discomfort, to please him.

I sat in the theatre and looked around me at hundreds of women, buying into this so-called ‘sexy love story’ and I felt sick. If an entire theatre of women three times your age couldn’t see how damaging this plot line is, how on earth are teenage girls and boys supposed to?

Please, my daughters, don’t allow this romanticizing of sexual domestic abuse fool you into believing that you should ever allow yourself to be treated like Anastasia Steele. Please, my son, don’t watch this one day and believe that it’s ever okay to intimidate, manipulate or disrespect a woman like the ‘hero,’ Christian Grey. Nobody, male or female, wants or deserves to be disrespected, manipulated or violated against his or her wishes.

I hope, when the day comes that you’re grown up enough to be in a relationship, that you’ll understand that what goes on behind bedroom doors should always be pleasurable for both of you, regardless of your tastes. I hope you’ll understand that consent given under duress isn’t consent at all. I hope you’ll demand respect and that you’ll give respect in return.

Tonight, I walked out of the cinema feeling terrified and a little sad for your generation. If this is the movie that you base your ideals of love and romance on, then I need to make some things very clear and I hope you’re listening.

[b]If someone wants to be with you, turning up at your part-time job unannounced when you haven’t ever even discussed that you have one and acting possessive when a co-worker talks to you is not romantic. It’s creepy.

If you say you’re a virgin and he responds by violently deflowering you, that’s not love. That’s assault.

If he tracks your whereabouts when you’re out clubbing and takes you to his hotel when you’re too drunk to make a rational decision, then undresses you and puts you in his bed for the night, that’s not protective. It’s stalking. In fact, stalking is the least of what it is.

If he turns up inside your apartment uninvited, it’s not romantic. It’s breaking and entering.

If you tell him you’re not interested and you ask him to leave and he responds by tying you to your bed and having violent sex with you after you repeatedly say “no,” all the while threatening to do worse if you make a noise, it’s not passion. It’s rape.

If he sells your car and buys you a new one without your permission “to surprise you,” it’s not romantic. It’s theft and manipulation.

If he monitors your phone calls and threatens you with physical harm because another man calls you, he’s not in love with you. He’s abusing and controlling you.

If beating you with a leather strap until you cry is what gives him pleasure and he asks you to do it despite your distress because it turns him on and then plays the victim to explain it all away, there is no soundtrack in the world that should quiet the voice in your head that yells out that love and romance were never in the picture and they never will be.[/b]

My children, this film was deeply disturbing to me, and I have life experience on my side. I shudder to think that you are going to grow up with stories like this to model relationships on and that you or the people you date will mistake this for ‘normal.’

Please, my precious children, know this: Love is gentle. Love never takes. Love does not demand. Love waits for consent. Love doesn’t need helicopter rides and expensive gifts. Love is enough.

When there’s love, the voice in your head doesn’t yell. It simply doesn’t have to.

My children, listen to me on this, if nothing else.

And, if you choose not to listen to me, then listen to the voice in your head.

With abundant love,

Mum

http://www.bonbonbreak.com/letter-children-fifty-shades-grey/

Insightful! Drawing clear lines! If we do not teach our children, something/someone else will. A mans (ofcourse a child's ,,mind stretched to a new idea, never goes back to its original dimensions.

Op op op... U just succeeded in convincing me and a whole lot of oda pple to go watch this movie. Can I download it?

candygosh:


Seriously? Did I say I haven't read the book

Did I write that you said you haven't read the book?? I wrote "ALL" is that ur name? unnecessary attention! Abeg!

candygosh:


Oh pls. Movies or moving pictures have no effect on my mind. Only sick people I guess. When I say sick, it's not illness. The mentally disturbed people necrophilia n co.

And yes I know what subliminal messages are. If u have visited a porn site u would see that there's a section called BDSM so what I visit there. Does it mean I fantasise about it? It has no effect on me.

And I still say it's just a movie!

Don't get me wrong,its not everyone that has much control over their minds,some people have feeble minds hence they can easily be manipulated,and not matter how strong a mind is,constant exposure to these visual may distort it.whatever you feed your eyes,goes straight into you mind,how do you think Terrorist are made?brainwashing and constant exposure to violent scenes,its the same way they can programme someone's mind with having physical contact with them.So sis don't get me wrong at all.its could be "just" a movie to you.

I read a lot of people sayin it's jst a movie. Movie and music hv powerful influence on our heart.If u wnt 2 really understand d power n influence of a movie, see hw our Nigerian girls dress n our boys sag,check out hw our teenagers defile demselves. Last 2 weeks,I saw 2 children btw d age of 4-6 tryin 2 experiment sex behind a big speaker at d back of a church.Its more dan a movie