zizibabe1:



NNE,SERIOUSLY,THERE ARE NO HARD AND FAST RULES TO THIS GAME.WHEN I STARTED DATING MY HUSBAND,HE HAD THIS HIS IN PORT HARCOURT BABE WHO WOULD COME WITHIN THE WEEK,DO HIS LAUNDRY,CLEAN HIS HOUSE,NEARLY SCRUB THE POP CEILING (LOL!) SERIOUSLY,PRACTICALLY CLEAN UP THE PLACE SO MUCH THAT WHEN I COME OVER AT CLOSE OF WORK ON FRIDAY ,EVERY WHERE WAS SPECK AND SPAN.ME,ON THE OTHER HAND HAD MADE UP MY MIND THAT I WON'T WORK HARD AGAIN FOR ANY RELATIONSHIP BC WHAT WILL BE WILL BE.AT LAST,WE ARE MARRIED NOW AND I DONT THINK HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH MY HOUSE KEEPING ABILITIES! THIS IS TRUE

So you're dirty...?

classicB:
He said this after a prolong chat that am not a wife material. He said I dnt display the attribute of one, what I.dnt understand is that must a gf act as a wife even when she isn't? Just to prove she's a wife material

You ladies need more than sex to keep a man ....you are a typical example of my ex-gf, with all dis he mentioned e can't wife you if he sees a gurl that is ready to do the dishes after meal n lay the bed after sex..

bukatyne:
Interesting thread

@OP:

I would say you should have learnt the kind of person your guy was/is and values he hold dear before engaging in a relationship.

Did your guy ever visit you in your house... if yes, how did you treat him?

While I dated my hubby, we cook and clean in each other's house... I am a guest in his house and he is in mine so we treated each other well in our houses. Till date, there are some chores I don't fancy doing which he picks up and there are some stuffs I know he wouldn't do etc.

While we visited, we helped each other with chores and everything....

Anyways, different strokes for different folks

If you are still interested in the guy, discuss with him and meet him halfway

If you are no longer interested in him, use this as a lesson for the next guy

madam Nice concept u and ur hubby had


but if the chat is true , are u suggesting the op and partner should meet halfway over issues like this ? should they even be discusiing who should lay the bed or not ? or even to debate who cooks or not .....The Op needs serious work

In as much as I do not and will never support a bae washing her bf's clothes, it's utterly rude and mannerless to sleep on a bed and not tidy it up,why should you even sleep overnight at his place anyway? That's why he's complaining about you,


Later,they will say guys dump them,u already spending so many nights at his place,he already knows all ur flaws so what else is there to find out?at not laying the bed, so so unheard of.even if you do ur own bed at home like that, u should at least know u are not home and do things properly and right.
As for the cooking part,its wrong for u to just sit there and watch him do everything, u can assist him if u not even gonna do all the cooking.
Conclusion. You are indeed not a wife material.

sluvy4tune:




madam Nice concept u and ur hubby had


but if the chat is true , are u suggesting the op and partner should meet halfway over issues like this ? should they even be discusiing who should lay the bed or not ? or even to debate who cooks or not .....The Op needs serious work

Who lays the bed matters to some, it doesn't to others...

I rarely lay the bed when I wake up in the mornings.... hubby does not mind laying it daily

The OP should answer if the guy ever came to her house and how she treated him.

texybaby:
Dear op ....its not just a wife duty Its in u...thats one thing my ex misses me....if I reach his house at nyt cs of d distance I travel..I wont even wiwi in d toilet...till I wash it in d morning...I wont bath till I clean d bath...even d kitchen always un organised...if u cam stand like staying in dat room untidy...then tufiakwa....abeg its just hygienic u stay somewhere clean bikoo...no b say I like work ooo...but I wont look at d place like that....plsss x guy is right adjust n stop giving excuses for been filty

So Why he become an ex? Why did he let u go?

Op you are lucky the guy even voice out his mind,most won't do that before dumping you,those things mentioned are all common things both male and female should know how to do without even telling them,if he dosnt clean up his room,will you be comfortable going to visit him?not to even talk of sleeping over night

justi4jesu:
@OP dont be his housemaid, please opt out and search for a richer boyfriend with maids

Chai. so you wicked reach this one. You hate the lady I guess. nah Naija be this o , no be dubai.



Where mentions button. missmayorall come read this topic kiakia.

k9ine:

k9ine from IG?

texybaby:
Kk ooo...but at least laying a bed u slept on shdnt b a wife duty..u slept on that bed plsss...even if u dont do any other thing

by their comments u shall know them

I think, the OP just wanted to spell it out to her man that she's not under any OBLIGATION to do his chores. Probably, the guy has been making it look like she MUST do it. I understand her kinda lady. It doesn't make her less of a potential good wife!

You're not even a bestfriend material, if na wetin you wan hear be that. C'mon bed you nor fit spread after you comot am? Smh!

classicB:
He said this after a prolong chat that am not a wife material. He said I dnt display the attribute of one, what I.dnt understand is that must a gf act as a wife even when she isn't? Just to prove she's a wife material

the wife material in u can't even sew a g-string....girl u dirty o...the guy even tried...I won't get into a relationship with a person with such an attitude....

You are simply a lazy, dirty girl.

zizibabe1:



NNE,SERIOUSLY,THERE ARE NO HARD AND FAST RULES TO THIS GAME.WHEN I STARTED DATING MY HUSBAND,HE HAD THIS HIS IN PORT HARCOURT BABE WHO WOULD COME WITHIN THE WEEK,DO HIS LAUNDRY,CLEAN HIS HOUSE,NEARLY SCRUB THE POP CEILING (LOL!) SERIOUSLY,PRACTICALLY CLEAN UP THE PLACE SO MUCH THAT WHEN I COME OVER AT CLOSE OF WORK ON FRIDAY ,EVERY WHERE WAS SPECK AND SPAN.ME,ON THE OTHER HAND HAD MADE UP MY MIND THAT I WON'T WORK HARD AGAIN FOR ANY RELATIONSHIP BC WHAT WILL BE WILL BE.AT LAST,WE ARE MARRIED NOW AND I DONT THINK HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH MY HOUSE KEEPING ABILITIES! THIS IS TRUE

Sister,permit me to address you.For starters dont assume you were better than your hubbys ex that made him to marry you.We all marry for various reasons; benefits,parental demand for inter-tribal marriage, pregnancy out of wedlock,beauty,etc.
If your hubby overlooked the dometic penchant of his ex to stick with you,count your stars lucky.However let me drop this on your table, dont be angry if you found out your oga is stil in touch with her,financially supporting her (even if shes married) while you the "madam" could be completely unaware of all this. Unless she no iota of meaningful contribution to his being. Same applies with somewomen,no matter how naughty,you still remember that "good boy" you turned down for the current mister and if given a chance,wont mind re-living the past moments discreetly.

KpagoGIN:

I kind of buy into your point especially washing of a bf cloths, I for one really don't feel comfortable having pple wash for me, but having a lady come over and sleep and not dress the bed in the morning, cleaning of the house ok that can be factored out and the part she doesn't cook definitely means that washing of those plates is just out of the question here. she isn't so different from a LovePeddler cos that which joins them is the cash and fun they get from it.

Well, she "worked it" the whole night. Kikikiki

I agree. It's just nasty & = bad guest.

missjenna:
Op what I don't understand is why you posted this here.
Do you derive some sort of weird pleasure in showing people your flaws and short comings?
Or don't you know that what you did was wrong?

Of course no guy would tolerate a lazy lady. So you go to his house and you still expect him to cook for you?
The fact that he said you don't wash his clothes means that you have never even tried to wash his clothes for once.

Despite the fact that I am an advocate for women rights and gender equality, I believe that there are things that women are obliged to do.
You don't even lay the bed you slept on? Definitely, any man would be annoyed by this. Its spells laziness and immaturity on your part. It also shows that you are not an organized person

Op this guy loves you an he wants to marry you, that is why he is saying all this. The best you can do for yourself is change.
Prove to him that you have changed so that he doesn't leave you for another woman
Thanks

OMG.,...Cant believe a lady said all this...God bless you so much this year...You spoke sense !!!! May God give you the man of your dreams and family you desire Amen !!!

vhickky:
So Why he become an ex? Why did he let u go?

Good question, jawe! The answer is "ladies been forming NO BOYFRIEND since time immemorial". I hope you like my honest answer
BTW, you re too beautifully petite for my liking...

bosun11:


OMG.,...Cant believe a lady said all this...God bless you so much this year...You spoke sense !!!! May God give you the man of your dreams and family you desire Amen !!!

Calm down, Bros eeee!

The only thing I find disturbing is the bed issue...

franciskaine:
it's an individual thing and not all guys. Personally, I hate people washing my clothes, I won't wash urs and pls dont wash mine. Aside the cloth washing stuff, the girl in question bleep big time. No responsible person would wakeup in a room and leave it untidy. For me, the girl in question is way far from a wife material.

I agree with you my brother hence I used SOME in my statement. I know not all guys expect to be babied by their GFs.

CoCoLav:


Are you kidding me? I am your girlfriend not your wife. Why would you insist I wash your clothes? that's ridiculous. So your decision to marry me would be based on whether or not I agree to wash your clothes? Then I can boldly say you need a washing machine not a wife.

Let's contribute and buy one for him

PunkyBrewster:


Well, she "worked it" the whole night. Kikikiki

I agree. It's just nasty & = bad guest.

ashawo no be work.

vhickky:
So Why he become an ex? Why did he let u go?

Simple... There's no hard and fast rule about relationships. What works for A might not work for B.

And, what if she let him go?

bosun11:


OMG.,...Cant believe a lady said all this...God bless you so much this year...You spoke sense !!!! May God give you the man of your dreams and family you desire Amen !!!

Thank you very much Sir, God bless you
If you don't have a wife, may God find you the wife of your dreams
But if you already do, may God richly bless your marriage.

Thanks

You shouldn't sleep in his house as a wife material You shouldn't sleep in his house as a wife material

PunkyBrewster:


I agree with you my brother hence I used SOME in my statement. I know not all guys expect to be babied by their GFs.

well said friend.

eleko1:
God created woman as Our helper NOT AS UR MAID to be TOAST around cus u pay her bride price/provide for d family upkeep.Why complaining over petty household work U'll do without eye twitching.U dnt sit down and watch TV while she cook,wash,clean,bath the kids without concern.My own parent teach me moral but NEVER ALLOW UR WIFE SUFFER cos U ARE the bread WinnerWatch MR/MRS

What is this one saying?
Did he say that should be her permanent duty?
How can she wake up in the morning after sleeping and not make the bed?
How can he be the one cooking every time she comes around and she can't even help?
so, what will she be doing before and after marriage?

You either being insincere or you are deluded!

Chazzyboy:
are u in the same league?

Lol...nah

classicB:
He said this after a prolong chat that am not a wife material. He said I dnt display the attribute of one, what I.dnt understand is that must a gf act as a wife even when she isn't? Just to prove she's a wife material

Pls dont be offended sweetie, take his observation with good faith. He probably spoke the truth which I believe if u see it as an eye-opener, should change ur lif positively and make u a better lady.




Ladies don't act 'wife material' cos there is no script for it. It is inborn. Guys notice 'wife material' even in ordinary female friends or collegue, so work more on ur self. You don't necessarily have to become a wife before the attribute is written over u. This is one of the reasons guys dump pretty girls for less pretty ones for marriage. Beauty and 'bedroom skills' arent everything.

slap1:
For the time being, yes.

lol, good sha. Am also not the sex type.

Dear Op, i've read the responses so far, but remember what works for one will not work for the other.....so ill advise you to chill...there are some ladies that will do everything and the guy will not still marry them, as for me, i never did anything for dh, infact, he wouldnt allow me touch anything even if i offered, and he still married me, because of the immense love he had for me. Now after marriage, whenever he sees me working, cooking, he always has this surprised look on his face, he says he didnt know i could do all these, when im making plenty delicacies for him ehn......so my dear, who wants to marry you will still marry you abeg! Dat guy no be your husband...fullstop.