durocity:


Lol' badass' why u dy cast me.. I think say na only me sha...

no vex, I no know say your category go join

bokom:
2. Mynd44: Quote Post

Err.....

Can you get a temporary separation or outright divorce?

This is the same thing I will tell a woman whose husband hits her


We have a strong business together. We both play a big role in the company and the company is here in Nigeria.... She cant do her part of the job if we are divorced. Also for the record. she loves me so much, just that she wants it to be just me and her alone...no family or friends around

Said it. Some sick a.s.s. fetish. Buy her black leathers and a horse whip to formalise matters. Hahaha.

missjenna:


No, why not I do you the pleasure
Mama Amaka, give this guy I Noreos biscuit and 2 kulikuli

Don't worry, I will pay

you no even fit order liquid to take step it down.. You no like me oooo.

igbsam:


oh yea.....no vex, I go add am next time. I know say na your category be dat one.

u gerrit
but we are both on d same team. I only cine to nairaland to do all the things u wrote
am not a tailor. .so I dont ave any thread to open

bokom:
2. Mynd44: Quote Post

Err.....

Can you get a temporary separation or outright divorce?

This is the same thing I will tell a woman whose husband hits her


We have a strong business together. We both play a big role in the company and the company is here in Nigeria.... She cant do her part of the job if we are divorced. Also for the record. she loves me so much, just that she wants it to be just me and her alone...no family or friends around

Are you kidding me? Are you a prisoner in your marriage? Please stop making excuses for her.

Only you and her kwa, how possible is that? Hmmm. Anything is possible sha.

bokom:
Hello Guys

My name is UD (not real name), a Nigerian and i am married to European who is 10 years older than me. We met in Europe but got married in Lagos.

Well, after our marriage, we always have family issues and fights like every other couple, but the problem i am having with my wife is that any time we are having our small misunderstanding, she always gets physical.. Initially, its just a small slap to my face and some nail scratching on my body here and there. And when this started in Europe, i will always try to walk away or hold her hands to calm her down, but seems the more i take the beatings, the more courage and bold she becomes in always hitting me during an argument or small misunderstanding with her.

Recently, we both came back to Nigeria for a business we brought down from Europe, and since we started living in Nigeria, i couldn't hold myself any longer as i have tried so in so many occasions to avoid hitting her back, but at a point i couldn't take it any more and i had to hit her back! though not so hard, but like oyibos, her skin where i hit her turned purple color and the next day everybody at our office was looking at me like the devil himself and a woman beater... I felt very very bad that i swore never to touch her again!

But last night she came all out for me again, hitting me, throwing lamps and whatever at me, and i lost it again and had to hit her! This time a bit hard! Please what am i supposed to do because i don't feel good after this fights especially when i have to hit her back.

And some of you might ask, why are we always fighting Well, i happens to be the bread winner in my family, but my wife doesn't understand why i should give money to my brother to help him in his business or pay for a new home for my mum. She said my family is too lazy and they should go and fend for themselves. My family is all i had and i feel obliged to help them even as i have a joint business venture with my wife and we run same account, thus finds out anytime i give them money. My brother was the one who helped and paid for my studies in Europe when his business was moving fine...now i feel i have to support him too because he has some problems with his business, but my oyibo wife will not hear of it and thus leads to our fighting and she getting physical with me..

Please guys, advise me what to do if you are in my shoes...only matured advises needed. Thanks

...I like your initial response of not responding to her. Stop engaging her in any physical combat. Be the cool man, work away anytime there is disagreement...

Commit suicide...

searching4love:


I SUGGEST YOU DRUG HER DRINK THEN TIE HER TO YOUR CAR IF YOU HAVE ONE THEN DRAG HER AROUND AN UNTARED ROAD TILL SHE'S GIVES UP. IF SHE COMES TO A SECOND LIFE, SHE WILL LEARN TO RESPECT MEN

Guy, U wicked gan an ooo... And you dey search 4 Love, wc woman go come love wen she know say if she mess up with you na die....

Mynd44:
Err.....

Can you get a temporary separation or outright divorce?

This is the same thing I will tell a woman whose husband hits her

...you are really a naija man...

Babs24:


Guy, U wicked gan an ooo... And you dey search 4 Love, wc woman go come love wen she know say if she mess up with you na die....

Guy i was once a nice guy. Na woman turn me to wild beast. So no blame me

yorex2011:
Wife don finish for naija? This one wey u dey marry oyinbo

Is it a must to marry from your nation?

lonngmann:

u gerrit
but we are both on d same team. I only cine to nairaland to do all the things u wrote
am not a tailor. .so I dont ave any thread to open

Ma Niqqa......

searching4love:



Are you not the bittch that lied on a thread about how a girl was bleeped in church I don't exchange words with liars like u

Oloshi onipata gigan

y don't u come 2 my street n verify d story urself nitwit

gilmaro:
Seat her down n engage her in a heart to heart talk, n make her see reasons why u should help ur bro who sponsored ur studies in europe n made ur parts cross ''u n ur wife''. Retaliating wont help in this case. she's wrong though

Bros only 10% of Oyibo will listen to any reason you will give her for giving money to your family. The guy is not the first person going through this at all. The reason it that they are not brought up that way . Everybody has his or her money. They are not used to giving. Op just divorce her before you kill her.

Iamsynord:
Behave like David in the Bible,whenever she is angry, get a Harp and String and Play her nice tunes..Not Ur bumbum is bigger than Bombay or Dorobucci o, play her like ASA,Adele, Ed sheer an,John legend,Jeremih ehn ..that evil spirit go vammose

Hahahaha. I concur.

Bro, agree with your wife and fix an amount that each of you will get monthly as spending money. That way it will be in your personal account and you can do whatever you want with yours.

We are Africans and thus carry out relatives, friends and even our enemies along.

As per the beating, I can't advice you. If I get slapped, I slap back as many times as possible. If you can't take it, don't give it.

Your wife is just a typical Oyinbo girl. She loves you, no doubt. Appreciate her. She's a good woman. In their culture nowadays, guys receive slaps for breakfast, lunch and supper.

10 years older than you. You be Gold digger?

Haba!!!!

pretydiva:
y don't u come 2 my street n verify d story urself nitwit

Bye. You sound pained. Pele

searching4love:



I rather search for love than approach you ugly and hungry lots. Dirty tramps

keep on searching4love..dis is how u will search 4 love till jesus comes

try this. when she's angry try to make love to her. let her beat u then rape her. she might end up enjoying it. I had a girl who was like that. each time we quarrel I'd be her then she'd calm down n we'd have set but one day I held her hands and got hard and then forced her to have sex surprisingly she came like never before and I realised it was a fetish for her. she loved being raped especially when we had a fight...

bushdoc9919:


Everybody was kung fu fighting....

The nigga was a one-hit wonder

Op u're d cause.

U gave her room to misbehave & become this recalcitrant. U're not even ashamed to create this kind of thread, ur wife beat u! U were looking @ her, ignoring her nasty, officious attitude hoping to be a good man. Probably u were one of those dat confided in specious notions like 'real men don't beat their wife', whereas d converse is d case.

Like I always tell men, there is what I call corrective beating, is part of discipline, & should be implemented @ d initial stage of any vestige of disrespect on her part. Don't forget u're d head, if anything goes wrong, u definitely will be held accountable. U should learn to fix things early enough, because of ur passivity u can now see she is trying to turn u against ur family, which is unacceptable, because of ur being to quiet to a fault.

Women are wired like children, they need iron hand, because they are illogically inclined. Don't be deluded by what they say, u often hear them saying any man that hit a women is less than a man, they say this to enable them do things with impunity.

My advise; put it bluntly, let her know ur family is very important to u, any further interference from her may change her skin, & if she persist with her unruly behaviour, divorce her. Don't feel bad when they call u a wife beater, corporal punishment can sometimes be d only way to redress a woman's wrong.

Don't be a slave by love, never allow her or any other woman to come between u & ur primary family, u knew them before her.

I know the joint account thing must have been her initiative, so she can use it as a manipulative tool @ times like this.
Any kids?

Be an African and throw her out. She doesn't love you if she wants you to abandon your real family that obviously helped you were nobody. She needs to go back to Europe with the nuclear and selfish system of family.

searching4love:



Bye. You sound pained. Pele

pained? In ur wildest dream

@OP stop making excuses for the violent beast you married. I am sorry I have to refer to her thus. When I said 90% of domestic violence cases are perpetrated by women, some mofos will be arguing with me!
Now I have to appreciate you as most men are unable to speak out because of societal expectations. Your violent abusive wife have no excuse for raising her hand against you. Even if you sort out the money issues she will still find another reason to hit you. Divorce her immediately. She is evil!

pretydiva:
pained? In ur wildest dream

Will u marry me so i can end my search for love?

He shud tie otapiapia round his waist him wife no go fit beat am again lol

Dragonking:
Am patiently waiting for Nairaland ladies to say something sensible about this issue...

if it was the other way round, they would have swamped here like say tommorow no dey..

Sure. You'd have heard, he's just the beast from the east, or a pest from the west or a grouch from the south or the real hurt from the north. Corruption is widespread you know.

TrishaP:

I used that "stronger vessels" because that's what you guys use to term yourselves.

If guys are exactly that "stronger vessels" they called themselves then i don't see how this matter should be difficult to solve.

If the man decides to use the strength to solve the problem, people like you would be the first to call him a beast, monster etc...you can see why I called you a hypocrite... Now the woman beats the man, she is not a beast or monster and divorce isn't the best option..mtchheeeww.

Justfollowit:
She will understand African way of life because she is more caring and empathetic

Caring with uppercuts abi. Ma'am, 60% of the text is about domestic violence. Is this all you can say. See blatant kwarraption.

igbsam:


I came here to look at people's profile picture

and to read comments

and to occupy frontpage

and to look at the thread

and to see the silly man whose wife is beating him

and to see the op that posted this topic

and to see the mod that moved it to the frontpage

and to see how many views the topic gets

and to see who gets the highest number of likes

and to see how people will yab each other

and to see those that will shout GEJ till sh.it comes out

and to see the sai buhari crew

and to see the adverts people

and to see myself.

In a nutshell you need job abi?

bokom:
Hello Guys

My name is UD (not real name), a Nigerian and i am married to European who is 10 years older than me. We met in Europe but got married in Lagos.

Well, after our marriage, we always have family issues and fights like every other couple, but the problem i am having with my wife is that any time we are having our small misunderstanding, she always gets physical.. Initially, its just a small slap to my face and some nail scratching on my body here and there. And when this started in Europe, i will always try to walk away or hold her hands to calm her down, but seems the more i take the beatings, the more courage and bold she becomes in always hitting me during an argument or small misunderstanding with her.

Recently, we both came back to Nigeria for a business we brought down from Europe, and since we started living in Nigeria, i couldn't hold myself any longer as i have tried so in so many occasions to avoid hitting her back, but at a point i couldn't take it any more and i had to hit her back! though not so hard, but like oyibos, her skin where i hit her turned purple color and the next day everybody at our office was looking at me like the devil himself and a woman beater... I felt very very bad that i swore never to touch her again!

But last night she came all out for me again, hitting me, throwing lamps and whatever at me, and i lost it again and had to hit her! This time a bit hard! Please what am i supposed to do because i don't feel good after this fights especially when i have to hit her back.

And some of you might ask, why are we always fighting Well, i happens to be the bread winner in my family, but my wife doesn't understand why i should give money to my brother to help him in his business or pay for a new home for my mum. She said my family is too lazy and they should go and fend for themselves. My family is all i had and i feel obliged to help them even as i have a joint business venture with my wife and we run same account, thus finds out anytime i give them money. My brother was the one who helped and paid for my studies in Europe when his business was moving fine...now i feel i have to support him too because he has some problems with his business, but my oyibo wife will not hear of it and thus leads to our fighting and she getting physical with me..

Please guys, advise me what to do if you are in my shoes...only matured advises needed. Thanks

Simple tell her ur a repaying loan u took for your studies.


Women prefer lies