i have a friend we have dated for a year and now, but he now tell me that he want to marry, while i`m in love with him, but i never open up. so i now told him that i love him, he feel very sorry about it and told me that i should have let him know, that he is now committed to the girl he want to marry. i told him that why i never open up is that it is not good for a girl to make the first step. but why i want you pple to advice me is that, since we know each other we have not have sex, but now he want to marry, anytime i stay with him we must romance our selves and even wanted to have sex, so advice me on what to do because i love so much

Hmm,Stay away from him. He is about to get married. Get over ur feelings. U guys are only friends not lovers. If u keep on seeing him,he's going to use and dump u!

since u ppl always romance urself, and u love soo much,
when u know that he want to marry,
well i will only tell u not to hope in ur dreams tht u will make him change his mind by sleeping with the dude.
u had ur chance, but u waited cos u felt he shud make the move.

Think of yourself in the other girls shoes.

Ask yourself:

Would I want my soon to be husband to sleep around with a friend?

Would I want that friend to always be around my husband?

How would you feel if you found out that your husband slept with one of his female friends before we were married but she still had to nerve to come around you and act as if nothing happened?

How would you feel taking another womans scraps?

How would you feel being the other woman?

If you still feel good about it then by all means sleep with him.

I hope all you ladies learn from this

akaa:

but why i want you people to advice me is that, since we know each other we have not have sex, but now he want to marry, anytime i stay with him we must romance our selves and even wanted to have sex,

u better "disromance" yourself completely from that guy,na wetin

what kind of "dating" were you doing where the guy ends up marrying someone else

Im sincerely confused

They weren't dating. . . just friends.

akaa:

i have a friend[b] we have dated for a year [/b]and now,

SOmeone who failed to play the game by the rules
Gets hurt and then isasking for what she should not do
Jeez!!!. . . . .

the truth is,the poster is very confused and not mentally ok

@poster:

Babes, my honest opinion is that you should run as fast as your legs can carry you. Dont give yourself to the guy else you would only join the list.

If he liked you, he should have made the move but he did not. Whether you sleep with him or not, he'll marry the other girl and you'll end up losing not only the guy you never had, your dignity also.

A word is enough for the wise!!!

@ Poster: Me I'm confused oh, how can you date a guy for 1yr+ and he wont know you love him??

Then you also said you dint want to make the first move.

Were you guys really dating or was the dating part just wishful thinking on you part?

Anyway forget the guy, he's lost to you forever.

My dear, you played the conservative babe and allowed that guy slip by you. Okay o o o o o o oo. Just enter the next drug store and bandage your wounds. Otherwise, they could turn into sores.

whatever90:

the truth is,the poster is very confused and not mentally ok

Yeah me thinks itz more like mental instability and disorientation!

@ poster, can love divert work? cox its like u r a good girl so divert his love to me instantly ok

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If they were dating, why would she make her feelings know. Wouldnt it have been mutual?

I no get this story jare

Don't attend his wedding before you cause kolomentation for the man on the happiest day of his life.Case settled

I will advise you to sleep with him . . . . . . .as a souvenir

Girl you want him so sleep with him, he may change his mind because he loves you but he is a guy and he need assurance which you havent given him yet so when you do everything will fall into place

I pray she ignores you.

Too bad for you. This is why i advocate women "toasting" men. You had feelings for him and didn't tell/show him. Too bad. He found someone who does.
There are 1 billion men out there. Go look for one to marry. Hurry up though because men are being outnumbered!!!!
Most births nowadays are females. If you give birth to a male child, dem go celebrate like crazy for hospital, lol

women do not neccesarily have to verbally toast men. unless a lady is inexperienced, there are over a 1000 body language signs to make known her feelings for a guy without feeling rejected afterwards. Check out KarmaSutra. Poster might simply have been friends with d guy but fantasized abt him.

YOUR PIECES OF ADVICE IS OK, BUT HE SAID THE OTHER GIRL TRY HARD TO GET HIM THAT I SHOULD HAVE DONE SO, BUT IF I DID IT, I WILL NOT HAVE MY RESPECT IN FUTURE. IS NOT THAT I`M OK WITH THE ROMANCE BECAUSE WE HAVE NOT DONE SO SINCE WE ARE FRIENDS, WHY SHOULD IT HAPPEN NOW. I`M NOT HAPPY WITH THE SITUATION BUT I LOVE HIM SO MUCH. AND ALSO WHY SHOULD HE HAVE ROMANCE WITH ME SO FAR HE HAVE SAID HE HAVE FIND SOMEONE TO MARRY.

I would suggest that you stay away from him. I know its hard for you, but believe me, its the best option. He's getting married and you're aware of that. So if you keep getting too close to him, something awful might just happen and you might not be able to live with the consequenses.

poster, if the guy was really inlove with you and wanted to date you during your friendship, he would have wooed you for a love relationship instead of being friends , since a whole one year. So, it clearly shows that if  even though you love him , he doesnt feel the same way , he simply sees you as a friend; and telling you that hogwash story of why didnt you reveal your feelings to him earlier? My dear, that was just a smart diplomatic answer for not blaming himself of why he's not marrying you instead , as you've made the huge move to say how much you care about him
  Just lick your sour wounds and move on, cause he will only have sex with you and still marry his fiance without batting an eyelid.
don't mind any guy that says , you should have made the first move , when you guys were friends , c'mon, the guy does not have any romantic feelings for you, simple!,  move on, forget him, no matter how hard.

i have a friend we have dated for a year and now, but he now tell me that he want to marry, while i`m in love with him, but i never open up. so i now told him that i love him, he feel very sorry about it and told me that i should have let him know, that he is now committed to the girl he want to marry. i told him that why i never open up is that it is not good for a girl to make the first step. but why i want you people to advice me is that, since we know each other we have not have sex, but now he want to marry, anytime i stay with him we must romance our selves and even wanted to have sex, so advice me on what to do because i love so much

You have just lost the first one. You'll also lose the second and the third until you are left to settle with the least if you don't change your attitude.

You are passively pathetic!

I think she's confused.

my sister, u better forget about the guy do not waist your time ,look for your own to hook up with
my prayer for you is that God should give u your own that u will even him more than that.take heart.

hook up with this guy ok