Ha, OP, all these plenty write up, you should have just summarised it to one point only :

I DONT WANT TO SHARE MY MONEY WITH ANYONE.

That's all I could deduce from your write up. Whatever suits you, who cares?

Lizabeth25:
LOL.....dream on...being single means, one remain childless and when he/she dies, nobody will bother him/herself to give him/her a proper burial.

What concerns a dead man with a 'proper burial'

If the living fail to bury the dead then they would live with the stench from decomposing bodies.

Op, you are right joor!

If not because of conji some of us won't be considering marriage.

But what can a nigga do when his testosterone level is on the high side

Al the best dude.


Me will just enjoy my life. If marriage happens, fine and if it doesnt, I wont die. But i will prefer to be with someone who value me.

ColinAdua:


Yes! I do feel lonesome once in a while, but my internet is coming to my rescue so well. And I have someone I go and talk to during those periods or I go to a public library here and read newspapers. Sometimes I start drawing, like today, I will do some drawings.

Please I wasn't hurt by anyone before I took this decision. I took this decision because I got so tired of women, who in the real sense, can't offer much, always being too full of themselves. Moreover, as an introvert, I hate disturbances, distractions, noise and unnecessary unplanned burden or expenses.

Don't try to convince me. My family even extended ones couldn't. My pastors couldn't.. My boss(the man helping me in business) is trying now but he can't succeed.

Its more rewarding to be single, unique and different. I will love money to love me not a woman.

God bless you for this polite post.

I totally agree with you, this whole marriage thing is just over hyped. The only thing I can say confidently that I have gotten from my marriage is my son.
Most people won't admit it, but marriage can ruin a man and reduce his potential for achieving greatness. The people that gain from marriage are ladies because all their needs are taken care of by their husbands.

krystal101:
Ritualist! Stop reading the Bible upside down
...Adete oshi

Me a Ritualist?!!!
Easy o! My dear sister, cos we will give account of what we said or did here in Eternity later. This negative behavior you are now displaying is one of the reasons, I don't want to share my life with any female.

I read my Bible upside down!!! How?

Yes! Bible said in Old Testament/Old Will of God(Testament means WILL OF GOD)
Genesis 2:18; - "it is not GOOD that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him"(NKJV).
Then in New Testament/New WILL OF GOD(A time of full revelation via the Holy Spirit).
1Corinthians 7:26; - " I suppose therefore that this is GOOD because of the present distress (hardship, selfishness, terrorism, kidnapping, famine, economic melt down, apostasy, sinfulness, selfishness, wickedness etc) - that it is GOOD for a man to remain as he is" It mentions that 'GOOD' two times for emphasis.

Jesus Christ Himself even said;
Matthew 19:10-12; - " His disciples said to Him, "if such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry. But He said to them, "All cannot accept this saying, but only those to whom it has been given; ....... He who is able to accept it, let him accept it. " (NKJV)

Is these places not in your Bible? Oh! You have not seen them which means you don't read your Bible or you read it upside down.

donpeey22:
Op, you are right joor!

If not because of conji some of us won't be considering marriage.

But what can a nigga do when his testosterone level is on the high side

God bless you.


KONJI NA BASTARD!! That's what people used to say!
Yes I know that men enter marriage to have cheap sex on demand. But a lot of Nigerian women are horrible in bed, so that aim remains most times, unachieved.
There are so many ways to deal with testosterone rising skyhigh.
I recommend taking bitter lemon drinks regularly (I don't do it though). It contains quinine which is a proven ingredient that lowers male libido by lowering testosterone production.
Research on Google, there are many simple de-aphrodisiac you can use.

The way Jehovah God, in His infinite mercy designed Marriage, it suppose to be a wonderful Heaven on Earth experience. But SIN(Satan In Nature) the nature of Satan in man; selfishness, feminism, wickedness, hatred, unforgiveness etc has made marriage a very horrible experience, that I don't want to be a part of it any more.

I used to be a marriage counselor, way back early 2011, when Auntie Agatha of 'Share a heart' Daily Independent newspaper, published my email to her. My email box started buzzing. Most people I counseled never know am not married, even till today.

So if I tell you the horrible experiences people are passing through in name of marriage, you'll vomit. Man has made a mess of this grand institution. I sincerely believe it is now better to remain unmarried, if you want total peace and happiness.

ColinAdua:


God bless you.


KONJI NA BASTARD!! That's what people used to say!
Yes I know that men enter marriage to have cheap sex on demand. But a lot of Nigerian women are horrible in bed, so that aim remains most times, unachieved.
There are so many ways to deal with testosterone rising skyhigh.
I recommend taking bitter lemon drinks regularly (I don't do it though). It contains quinine which is a proven ingredient that lowers male libido by lowering testosterone production.
Research on Google, there are many simple de-aphrodisiac you can use.

Thank you bro. I may give your recommendation a try. Hope it works tho.

tron23:
I totally agree with you, this whole marriage thing is just over hyped. The only thing I can say confidently that I have gotten from my marriage is my son.
Most people won't admit it, but marriage can ruin a man and reduce his potential for achieving greatness. The people that gain from marriage are ladies because all their needs are taken care of by their husbands.

Its a pity that our eyes always open after we have entered. I have analyzed marriage inside out, upside down, outside in. One thing I noticed, almost every marriage is unhealthy.

I don't know why people are crazy to rush into it, thinking marriage is high class wedding ceremony.

It's been seriously blown out of proportion.

God have mercy on us.

Be with a great woman, who fasts and prays fervently for you; you'd achieve your potentials. Be with an average woman, who takes life as it comes, you'd remain the same. Be with a below average woman who can't strategically plan only to attend parties and buy clothes...and being a regular wife, your life will be sad. The maths in marriage is quite simple. Just that many people want to eat their cake and have it. Till my dad died, he told me countless times that the best thing to have happened to him was my mum because even as I am typing this, I can hear her voice in her room praying fervently. God bless.

As annoying as the whole idea is, I ll like to respect d op's decision.... whatever Rocks ur boat man.

Presently u re still young and sure know how to catch ur fun ; Except u choose to die young. You will end up not liking this ur decision @ ur old age....

Nothing kills faster Than boredom/ depression. You will need ur someone intimidate to share ur thoughts with, you will wish u had a child even if it's just one, but it will be too late then. Mind you, ur siblings re engrossed with their own family, so they wnt be there for you. Your friends and families will be inviting you to their son/daughters graduation party and u will be there wishing u did not make the decision, But pride wnt allow u confess ur depression!

Balderdash! The op is jess too stingy for his own good!!!

I hate to cook and eat it alone how much more aving d whole foodstuffs to myself ...
I dnt think I want too many children though, but two is perfect for me so I can adopt one or two less privileged in d society!

Iyalasisi:


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Wow

jaybee3:

Wow

re u considering staying unmarried too?

Iyalasisi:
re u considering staying unmarried too?

Na your picture do me badt thing oooo

I don wake up sharpish

jaybee3:

Na your picture do me badt thing oooo

I don wake up sharpish

u seff fine

Iyalasisi:
u seff fine

Na you fine pass

Toolz don get rival

Adufetohposh:
As annoying as the whole idea is, I ll like to respect d op's decision.... whatever Rocks ur boat man.

Presently u re still young and sure know how to catch ur fun ; Except u choose to die young. You will end up not liking this ur decision @ ur old age....

Nothing kills faster Than boredom/ depression. You will need ur someone intimidate to share ur thoughts with, you will wish u had a child even if it's just one, but it will be too late then. Mind you, ur siblings re engrossed with their own family, so they wnt be there for you. Your friends and families will be inviting you to their son/daughters graduation party and u will be there wishing u did not make the decision, But pride wnt allow u confess ur depression!

Typical scare tactic.

So the 'promise' of servitude in seniority, and thoughts of obscure future graduation parties are reason enough to have children you don't otherwise want?

What if you've just never wanted them?

EnlightenedSoul:


Typical scare tactic.

So the 'promise' of servitude in seniority, and thoughts of obscure future graduation parties are reason enough to have children you don't otherwise want?

What if you've just never wanted them?

There's no way to rationalise a person motive for not wanting to have children...it's nt too far from madness as the desire for reproduction is our nature

macof:


There's no way to rationalise a person motive for not wanting to have children...it's nt too far from madness as the desire for reproduction is our nature

Perhaps not to someone who wants them terribly, but otherwise, it's perfectly rational.

Madness? I completely disagree...but why madness (of all things)??

Obara Jisos! OP Nna its very very wa to you o! Anyway that's your stroke about life. Jisike

macof:


There's no way to rationalise a person motive for not wanting to have children...it's nt too far from madness as the desire for reproduction is our nature

Sorry?

Did you just type that?

OMG

Don't confuse the desire to copulate with reproduce Sir/Ma

jaybee3:

Na you fine pass

Toolz don get rival

the babe gather

Yes, the Bible stated in the passages you quoted that not all will be married. Some have been given the grace from above "FOR THE SAKE OF THE GOSPEL" to remain unmarried.

However, your reasons for wanting to be unmarried are centred totally on SELF. I can assure you that a decade from now you will weep over this decision cos every reason you have supplied and from the tone of your post, you running from marriage to have a STRESS FREE LIFE AND TO MAKE IT MATERIALLY. That's a delusion. God instituted marriage for a reason. A very important reason that's why its one of the first lines the devil attacks. The devil knows more than you there, cos he is cunning and been around much longer than u. "He who finds a wife finds a good thing AND OBTAINETH FAVOUR FROM THE LORD". I am sure you know where that is in the bible. Do you know that there are certain blessings and open doors you will never get except on the altar of marriage?

Bro, if you have been given this grace to run with a vision(especially for gospel sake). By all means carry on. But if you have taken this decision and believing its from your own WILL, to pursue "comfort and peace" in material things I can tell you that this will be the most terrible decision you took. "BY STRENGTH WILL NO MAN PREVAIL". Peace.

Op u made d right decision... I once came across ur comments on a thread created by killjoy. The purpose for marriage has been fulfilled, d world is even over populated. Welcome to singleness...

How is life?

Op categorically said for guys only. How come the female are the ones commenting?

I saw "You" more than 50times, "All" "Someone" and "When"

ENDTIME THINGS!!!

"for many would refuse to marry...."


I think there's a very valid reason the word "Us" came into being, isnt it?


Soon the idea of "no need for kids" would soon become popular.

(wondering and pondering)

Adufetohposh:
As annoying as the whole idea is, I ll like to respect d op's decision.... whatever Rocks ur boat man.

Presently u re still young and sure know how to catch ur fun ; Except u choose to die young. You will end up not liking this ur decision @ ur old age....

Nothing kills faster Than boredom/ depression. You will need ur someone intimidate to share ur thoughts with, you will wish u had a child even if it's just one, but it will be too late then. Mind you, ur siblings re engrossed with their own family, so they wnt be there for you. Your friends and families will be inviting you to their son/daughters graduation party and u will be there wishing u did not make the decision, But pride wnt allow u confess ur depression!

Are you sure I won't be flying around the world in my private jet then?

Adufetohposh:
As annoying as the whole idea is, I ll like to respect d op's decision.... whatever Rocks ur boat man.

Presently u re still young and sure know how to catch ur fun ; Except u choose to die young. You will end up not liking this ur decision @ ur old age....

Nothing kills faster Than boredom/ depression. You will need ur someone intimidate to share ur thoughts with, you will wish u had a child even if it's just one, but it will be too late then. Mind you, ur siblings re engrossed with their own family, so they wnt be there for you. Your friends and families will be inviting you to their son/daughters graduation party and u will be there wishing u did not make the decision, But pride wnt allow u confess ur depression!

Are you sure I won't be flying around the world in my private jet then?

Iyalasisi:
Balderdash! The op is jess too stingy for his own good!!!

I hate to cook and eat it alone how much more aving d whole foodstuffs to myself ...
I dnt think I want too many children though, but two is perfect for me so I can adopt one or two less privileged in d society!

How do you know? I love to cook small delicious and nutritious food. I did it this evening.

I enjoy my food alone.

Am not stingy even though I don't give out much again cos a lot of pple I have given in the past repaid me with evil.

klark3:
Op u made d right decision... I once came across ur comments on a thread created by killjoy. The purpose for marriage has been fulfilled, d world is even over populated. Welcome to singleness...

How is life?

GREAT!!!

TheFury:
Yes, the Bible stated in the passages you quoted that not all will be married. Some have been given the grace from above "FOR THE SAKE OF THE GOSPEL" to remain unmarried.

However, your reasons for wanting to be unmarried are centred totally on SELF. I can assure you that a decade from now you will weep over this decision cos every reason you have supplied and from the tone of your post, you running from marriage to have a STRESS FREE LIFE AND TO MAKE IT MATERIALLY. That's a delusion. God instituted marriage for a reason. A very important reason that's why its one of the first lines the devil attacks. The devil knows more than you there, cos he is cunning and been around much longer than u. "He who finds a wife finds a good thing AND OBTAINETH FAVOUR FROM THE LORD". I am sure you know where that is in the bible. Do you know that there are certain blessings and open doors you will never get except on the altar of marriage?

Bro, if you have been given this grace to run with a vision(especially for gospel sake). By all means carry on. But if you have taken this decision and believing its from your own WILL, to pursue "comfort and peace" in material things I can tell you that this will be the most terrible decision you took. "BY STRENGTH WILL NO MAN PREVAIL". Peace.

This verse has been misquoted a lot. I think its the most taken out of context verse in the Bible. I will tell you a little story and then explain that verse.

Sometime ago, I was living in this poor neighborhood in Abuja. I noticed almost everybody is married and still suffering, then I started asking in my spirit, why?

I thought the Bible says in Proverbs 18:22 - "whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD"(KJV)

One day, a voice spoke to me inside, in my spirit and told me to go and read the verse very well over and over again. I did and I noticed that the word "FAVOUR" didn't have an 's' at the back, ie its not written "favours" but "favour".

Then my eyes opened. I saw its singular not plural. I also noticed that its present conclusive not present continuous, because it didn't have an s at the back. Like 'I goes to school everyday' is present continuous, meaning something that happens daily. If it has been 'favours' it means everyday favour. I hope you understand?

So I noticed that God is talking about only one favour here not favours and that favour is only and only the good wife. Gbam.

That's why lots of married men are wretched.

Stop taking this verse out of context.