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Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by naijanaso: 7:31am On Apr 04, 2015
suggyspic:
Her conscience has been eating her up for sleeping with another man. She willingly confessed to her husband and asked for his forgiveness, now he wants to end the marriage. Is the husband right in the decision he is about to take. Were is the place for forgiveness in a marriage. is it not for better or worst.

MY opinion, she deserves a second chance. please your advise would be of help.

I think it is not as easy as we say to actually forgive. Have you even forgiven an ordinary girlfriend whom you do not have authority over her actions, let alone a woman you paid her dowry/bride price?
It easier to come here and shout she deserves a second chance and all that, but the trust and feelings have been dented. No matter the forgiveness, I do not think it will be a smooth marriage anymore. Every thing will be acting against the feelings, including imagery. I just pray for them sha.
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by kodlins(f): 7:35am On Apr 04, 2015
But men can cheat abi??
klark3:
d man made d right decision, cheating shouldn't be Condoned by any sane man.

Personally, forgiveness is a sin, when it comes to cheating...
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by ajayiopy: 7:37am On Apr 04, 2015
The man is biblically right if he wants divorce
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by loomer: 7:40am On Apr 04, 2015
Second chance ko, tales by moonlight ni, make she go meet the man she cheat wit na.
Stupid fool
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by erasokafor(m): 7:41am On Apr 04, 2015
Even if u were raped dnt tell ur man.men sometimes could be polygamous in nature but still they hate to share their woman. Sometimes u say ur best wen u say notin at all.the tins we don't knw won't hurt us. Telling him wasn't the best.to feel relieved she had better talked to her blood sister or anybody even her mum to feel that she has talked to someone.the husbnd is the last persn she shld hv told.now the deed is done but wit time a strong hrt can melt but nevertheless she shld be ready to accept any ocnsequence becos before she confessed,she shld hv been ready for the eventuality

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Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by refreshrate: 7:44am On Apr 04, 2015
pretydiva:
Will suggest she gives her hubby enough time 2 think it through. I think she deserves a second chance IMHO, buh it all depends on d hubby. If it were 2 be the hubby in her shoes,i believe she would have forgiven him in no distance time. What ever the outcome may be let her put it in prayer cause there's nothing God cannot do

@bolded forgive sha, just like that? The man would had to bribe her with plenty gifts and trust me she would take every advantage of him possible before "forgiven" in principle.
Can the man have such an opportunity in this case? Never!
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by Nobody: 7:45am On Apr 04, 2015
EggovinMma:


Lmao.See question.
Am I married?! I don't just like the idea of being in demanding relationships.With all the headaches that comes with it.I always prefer the 'no strings attached' thing.No be every relationship dey enter marriage na.I don't date putting money on my head as I may not even last with such person . Why play a guy who loves you because of his money? It's not healthy. If I don't like a guy, I tell him
straight!


The bolded part have twisted everything we have been talking about since last night.

I'm still wondering where the cheating part will come in if always tell a guy that you don't like him if you truly don't.
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by CaptPlanet(m): 7:50am On Apr 04, 2015
EggovinMma:



Lol.Nollywood. grin


Lmao....u know as e dey be now....
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by ngachi: 7:54am On Apr 04, 2015
klark3:
d man made d right decision, cheating shouldn't be Condoned by any sane man.

Personally, forgiveness is a sin, when it comes to cheating...
You are a devil embarassed cool
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by CaptPlanet(m): 7:59am On Apr 04, 2015
Alejhandro:
She's a gud wife, she has a gud hrt, a conscience and most women today lack DAT.

If I were to b d husband, I'll forgive her. Besides wat if she hadn't confessed to him? Won't he stil happily b in d marriage?

D problem now is his mind. He shud use dis opportunity to improve himself and his marriage. Maybe he's no longer fun dats wat made d wife to fall.


And I hope he has been faithful too?

Yeah! You're right, i'll also give her a Grammy award and a crown because she confessed to cheating. She should also be inducted into the UN peace council.

So her husband wasn't fun that's why she fell for another man and will probably fall for another guy when the new guy becomes less fun......awWw undecided
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by josite: 7:59am On Apr 04, 2015
she has done the right thing and the husband too may in that circumstance elects a divorce.the woman should accept the divorce.a better man deserving of her she will find.
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by godoluwa(m): 7:59am On Apr 04, 2015
d best thing is 4 d husband to 4give her & 4get her. the man should move on & let d wife continue doing what she knows how to do best. theres no reason 4 a wife to av #extramaritalaffairs. my opinion
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by CaptPlanet(m): 8:01am On Apr 04, 2015
jcmaiah:

Truth be told, the man might have cheated some time too. Personally, I wouldn't divorce her but I will punish her emotionally for like 1year. Every month I will tell her she going for HIV test and other STDs, trust me, that's one of the ways to punish her emotions. I get plenty tips for head, but I get strength to write am here. Sending her home will only pain her for a while then she start the thing in professional level.

What's the point in making her miserable? You'll still end up hurting her and the kids too.
Just end it once, no need to drag it on, there'll be no joy in that house.
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by CaptPlanet(m): 8:06am On Apr 04, 2015
erasokafor:
Even if u were raped dnt tell ur man.men sometimes could be polygamous in nature but still they hate to share their woman. Sometimes u say ur best wen u say notin at all.the tins we don't knw won't hurt us. Telling him wasn't the best.to feel relieved she had better talked to her blood sister or anybody even her mum to feel that she has talked to someone.the husbnd is the last persn she shld hv told.now the deed is done but wit time a strong hrt can melt but nevertheless she shld be ready to accept any ocnsequence becos before she confessed,she shld hv been ready for the eventuality

Bros, cheating is different from rape. She consented to cheating.
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by CaptPlanet(m): 8:09am On Apr 04, 2015
josite:
she has done the right thing and the husband too may in that circumstance elects a divorce.the woman should accept the divorce.a better man deserving of her she will find.

Yeah. She had a better man but she blew it by opening her legs to the better man....lol please!
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by princejayboss: 8:13am On Apr 04, 2015
AlphaGentMan:
If i was d man..forget d marriage.. Men can cheat and get forgiven but not women cheesy ...

Africa... We still have a long way to go... What if she never opens up?... What if she continues in the act? But she chose to air the truth, its not like the husband caught her in the act.. I put it to ever person writing poo here about the young woman that men often cheat too and never say sorry and heavens don't get lose .... We must treat ladies with respect, we must understand the principle of life ..... Most ladies remain in cheating life because they felt its better to remain in the act than to speak about it ..... How many husband/men are faithful including I typing... You can bet 99.9 of us does that behind our relationship... So before you type here in support of the husband to divorce ... Ask yourself .... Am I faithful? If it were to be my sister ? If it were to be my mother ... Would she have had the chance to have me as a child?
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by stingbreed(m): 8:14am On Apr 04, 2015
SAMBARRY:
How typical . no wonder they feel so insecure with the idea of open marriage tongue
U think u can compete with a man shey,,,,? U forget u can only get pregnant once in 9months & in that same 9months a man can impregnate over 10 women,,,,,
I would be glad to have an open marriage with u let's see who becomes jealous first... undecided

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Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by eightsin(m): 8:16am On Apr 04, 2015
She should have confessed to a priest since she knows how husband would react this way. I'm sure it was expected cos she wasn't expecting the man to congratulate her.
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by Nobody: 8:16am On Apr 04, 2015
No forgiveness at all.....the thought that ANOTHER man has pushed my woman to the bed, spread her legs apart, and burrowed into her like an earthworm, can be more tormenting than hell. It's over.

Cased decided. Sealed. Closed.

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Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by Jeolight: 8:18am On Apr 04, 2015
if Nigerian government say that every family should come for a free DNA test, there will be chaos in d country because out of 10 families, u will see a family that the man is training up to 2 children that is not his. all the men saying that he shouldn't forgive might still train children that are not theirs thinking it is theirs. if he divorces her won't he marry again? does he knows the type of woman he will marry again? all these should be considered.

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Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by ElFenomeno1: 8:22am On Apr 04, 2015
suggyspic:
Her conscience has been eating her up for sleeping with another man. She willingly confessed to her husband and asked for his forgiveness, now he wants to end the marriage. Is the husband right in the decision he is about to take. Were is the place for forgiveness in a marriage. is it not for better or worst.

MY opinion, she deserves a second chance. please your advise would be of help.

So you went around and bounced on another unwashed di ck and you expect your husband to forgive you?
Deal with whatever happenS...... good luck
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by princejayboss: 8:27am On Apr 04, 2015
Emaprince:
you are busy feeling too proud. I think you are the woman. But then, its the man's choice to stay or seperate. Not all men can live with a promiscous woman. I won't even advice any man to do it. Its dangerous and the thought of the woman being shameless enough to spread her legs for another man is enough to quit.

As for the confession part..there are many reasons why she may do that. Its possible her bubbles were about to burst and she decided to confess. Maybe somebody very close to the hubby caught her and she felt the right thing to do is to confess than allowing the man to find out by himself. One pastor's wife who sleeps with her driver confessed after the guy left her due to a quarrel. He threatened to expose her to the hubby with pics, na so the woman run go confess sharpaly...lol..

It's your opinion but look friend .... Am a man and I know what we do ... Lets not hide behind the shadow here... Am not saying the hubby cheats around too but its very common for us to cheat... When a man cheats it's normal but when a woman cheats its the end of the world, I imagine if your sisters hubby is the cheating type how do you react to it ? She is a human, can male mistakes, she realized she screw up and she opened up to forgiveness .... How many time did you ask your wife or girlfriend forgiveness for bleeping the girl next door? My brother if women begin to treat us the way we deserve alot of men go dey die of heart attack everyday

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Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by klark3: 8:31am On Apr 04, 2015
kodlins:
But men can cheat abi??
In a realistic sense, when a man cheat, it's pardonable, but unpalatable, should incase d untoward happens, d man can take d lady in as his wife, but dis doesn't apply to women.

The society restrain a woman from getting married to two men at d same time & permits a man to marry as many wives as he can. Women are d direct channel for procreation, so there is a contingency of a woman cheating on her husband to be carrying another man's child.

Raising another man's child unknowingly is one of d worst thing dat can happen to a man when he eventually finds out.

It's indefensible when a woman cheat on her man.

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Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by Nobody: 8:33am On Apr 04, 2015
emmyrichie:
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The bolded part have twisted everything we have been talking about since last night.

I'm still wondering where the cheating part will come in if always tell a guy that you don't like him if you truly don't.


Well, there are relationships like that.Not all relationships start with a gurl loving the guy . Sometimes there are suggestions like,"let's date and see how it plays out".In this case, it now becomes dating to see if it may work out.There are several relationships like that, which eventually leads compatibility. And any relationship that's compatible is the best, as I believe love isn't everything.

This brings us back to the predicament of the op.That marriage lacks a lot of ingredients. There is no communication/dialogue. Her husband isn't her friend . Love isn't only the ingredients in relationships especially in marriage, because I believe she loves her husband. What about other ingredients like understanding, friendship, loyalty, communication, matured approach to sensitive issues? If all these things I mentioned her in place in that, she wouldn't have had the guts to cheat.She has too much time on her hands, as the marriage may lack those ingredients.I have seen so many happy couple, and one close look at them, I found out it's because they have good and healthy communication skills and matured approach to issues.

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Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by Neatboy(m): 8:34am On Apr 04, 2015
Mehn! Eleyi gidigan o! But the questions is: how can a man with all his ego lives continually with the imagery of his wife being bedded? Nwanyi nji eko!! Unless he'll go for mind and brain transplant. In fact, it's possible to forgive, but a man that can forgive such act will easily make heaven, Shikina!
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by Emaprince: 8:47am On Apr 04, 2015
princejayboss:


It's your opinion but look friend .... Am a man and I know what we do ... Lets not hide behind the shadow here... Am not saying the hubby cheats around too but its very common for us to cheat...
smh...I pity you and even your wife..look at how you go about preaching on how cheating is common to you and who You think every man is as randy as you are? Speak for your sef dude, I'm not like you!!

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Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by Nobody: 8:50am On Apr 04, 2015
princejayboss:


It's your opinion but look friend .... Am a man and I know what we do ... Lets not hide behind the shadow here... Am not saying the hubby cheats around too but its very common for us to cheat... When a man cheats it's normal but when a woman cheats its the end of the world, I imagine if your sisters hubby is the cheating type how do you react to it ? She is a human, can male mistakes, she realized she screw up and she opened up to forgiveness .... How many time did you ask your wife or girlfriend forgiveness for bleeping the girl next door? My brother if women begin to treat us the way we deserve alot of men go dey die of heart attack everyday
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by johnsonpolice: 8:52am On Apr 04, 2015
She deceve to go cos she is a bitch. fucking around with another guy is a complate no Idea to me.
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by Nobody: 8:53am On Apr 04, 2015
EggovinMma:


Well, there are relationships like that.Not all relationships start with a gurl loving the guy . Sometimes there are suggestions like,"let's date and see how it plays out".In this case, it now becomes dating to see if it may work out.There are several relationships like that, which eventually leads compatibility. And any relationship that's compatible is the best, as I believe love isn't everything.

This brings us back to the predicament of the op.That marriage lacks a lot of ingredients. There is no communication/dialogue. Her husband isn't her friend . Love isn't only the ingredients in relationships especially in marriage, because I believe she loves her husband. What about other ingredients like understanding, friendship, loyalty, communication, matured approach to sensitive issues? If all these things I mentioned her in place in that, she wouldn't have had the guts to cheat.She has too much time on her hands, as the marriage may lack those ingredients.I have seen so many happy couple, and one close look at them, I found out it's because they have good and healthy communication skills and matured approach to issues.

That still is not enough reason for her to open her legs to some random fvcker.
That been said, from my deductions, you'd cheat on the guy whom you chose to try the relationship thing out with? What happens to outlining to him his flaws with the view to working on it so as to achieve the desired result?

Why do you easily give up on people?

Supposed you find out the level of compactibilty
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by Nobody: 8:54am On Apr 04, 2015
EggovinMma:


Well, there are relationships like that.Not all relationships start with a gurl loving the guy . Sometimes there are suggestions like,"let's date and see how it plays out".In this case, it now becomes dating to see if it may work out.There are several relationships like that, which eventually leads compatibility. And any relationship that's compatible is the best, as I believe love isn't everything.

This brings us back to the predicament of the op.That marriage lacks a lot of ingredients. There is no communication/dialogue. Her husband isn't her friend . Love isn't only the ingredients in relationships especially in marriage, because I believe she loves her husband. What about other ingredients like understanding, friendship, loyalty, communication, matured approach to sensitive issues? If all these things I mentioned her in place in that, she wouldn't have had the guts to cheat.She has too much time on her hands, as the marriage may lack those ingredients.I have seen so many happy couple, and one close look at them, I found out it's because they have good and healthy communication skills and matured approach to issues.

That still is not enough reason for her to open her legs to some random fvcker.
That been said, from my deductions, you'd cheat on the guy whom you chose to try the relationship thing out with? What happens to outlining to him his flaws with the view to working on it so as to achieve the desired result?

Why do you easily give up on people?

Supposed you find out the level of compatibility is very ok, would you still sleep with other suitors?
Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by Nobody: 8:57am On Apr 04, 2015
Personally stuffs like dis hurt. It would only take the grace of God for her husband to forgive her...


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Re: She Confess To Her Husband, Now........ by mmsen: 8:57am On Apr 04, 2015
This is how women will bring another's man's child to the husband and expect the man to raise that which is not his.

Some people are too feckless to be trusted with anything.

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