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After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by Brownville007: 7:40pm On May 26, 2015
There is this babe I chased for a year (funny right.. And might bring name calling but it's allowed) but despite all she still said no. Everything was alright, we talk fine till she gained admission. On my part I am OK. Works with the Fed Govt and still under 25. She changed almost instantly, my calls became a disturbance to her and I could feel it in her voice. Just to keep to my words, I travelled down from Ibadan to Futo to grace her matric but within me I knew sth bad was gonna happen( the instinct was there). And true to it, I lost my fone on my way back. The one that really broke me up was wen I called her a few weeks later after returning back to my base. She dint pick up. I called later with my other line though without much airtime and she picked but on hearing my voice I told her I will call with my main line wich I did but guess what. She refused to pick up. I parked up, her friend called me 3 days later pleading on her behalf for me to call her. I reconsidered and called, she apologized,. Last mouth, I made up my mind to end all the emotional torment and called her up and ask her straight to tell me if am wasting my time. After every dilly d allying of her not knowing and me insisting on a yes or no ans, she said yes. Since then till now we dint talk except on two occasions I saw her missed calls (yesterday included) and decides to call back. Shockingly I got a text from her this morning at work and guess what.. This is what she sent.

"my dear., I know am not suppose 2 ask u dis, but I can't help it. I want 2 travel home next week Tuesday, but don't have enof cash, pls need your help."
Pls before you comment you need to understand somethings.
-I can afford what any thing I might feel like sending her conveniently
- the girl in question is my younger sister friend
-I feel hurt when I look back at the whole stuffs

What do you guys think, is she trying to use me as a backup up now cos I know she has a new bf in sch.

Am I wicked if I dint help out?. Would appreciate the contributions of the ladies here too. Thanks

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by Nobody: 7:45pm On May 26, 2015
It is your moral obligation to help her if you can, but you have the right to refuse to help her and that isn't a crime.
As for the relationship? mehn just forget it.

As for me I will refuse to help her, but I will tell her that she could talk to me when she has a problem in the future because what I will be looking to plant in her head is
1: I am not her maga: Girls are just silly, when you help her this time she'll keep coming and she'll feel like she deserves to be helped.
2: I am too big to refuse to help her because I'm no longer in a relationship with her: I could have helped her, but I needed her to wake up to the idea of not bugging my life because I simply gave her the money when she needed it.

when you help her you become vulnerable to her because it appears like you are begging her to come back to you.

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by italkpass(m): 7:49pm On May 26, 2015
She has locked you up in a Friend Zone with a BIG padlock and now she's trying to TEST if she can also turn you into an ATM machine.

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by oppybouy(m): 7:49pm On May 26, 2015
lmao....she already sees you as a non sexual entity bro. more like a brother, a lamp or even an ATM machine.





deep down, am thinking ATM machine though!

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by Nobody: 7:49pm On May 26, 2015
May be that is the last acid test she has for you to guarantee your love for her.

If you love her for who she is and you know you can afford the cash, I think you cement your proposals to her with this act of charity.

My2cent
Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by LEvuls(m): 7:50pm On May 26, 2015
Wetin u wan Mek we do with am now
Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by skondo09(m): 7:56pm On May 26, 2015
i guess she's trying to magarize u
tot of my head: he frndz b lik u say dis guy hold bail bt u knw lik am, na james u lik wu cldnt evn recharge ur fone, wel such is luv bt dnt discard dis guy lik dt, he might be 'a frnd in ur tym of nid'
she: dts true
(they laf ur mata n clapped)

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by Nobody: 7:58pm On May 26, 2015
run for ur life o.

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by LadyX(f): 7:58pm On May 26, 2015
Don't mistake her asking you for cash for a change of heart about your proposal. If you decide to give her the money, don't expect anything in return.

I think the girl wants to use you for money.

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by Holatunde007(m): 8:02pm On May 26, 2015
Young full
U r dating a girl that just got admission, u r on a pay roll.............send her as much u hav in ur back acct so she could throw a birthday party for her bf in campus

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by Harmthe(m): 8:03pm On May 26, 2015
brotherly, afta rendering dat assistance T.B joshua will nt be able 2 save u again frm dat bondage cuz she will upgrade ur friendzoning 2 "MUGULICIOUS MAGA". abeg park well nd start dating anoda gal.

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by Whizzcute(m): 8:06pm On May 26, 2015
Guy no try am











If every guy will start reasoning like me , girls will stop doing shakara for guys

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by kaycexx(m): 8:07pm On May 26, 2015
Oooooops! Bro, just free the babe since one year..



#dont try to date a girl in skul, while u are nt in the same. Skul with her.

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by Nobody: 8:09pm On May 26, 2015
The ladies are really being honest here. Truth be told, there are a million and one other persons who could help her out! Why you?! For the fact that she choose you spills out something... (she don c you finish)

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by Nobody: 8:10pm On May 26, 2015
hmm,u hv bin friendzone a long time ago.u dnt force love bcus its a natural law which must be allow to take its course naturally.i insist dt talking to a girl is an art,u must make her see things u want her to see and make her not 2 see tins u dnt wnt her 2 c.williams shakespeare once opine dt,wu is he wu is a man dt cannot use his tongue to woo a woman?i say he is no man.even a lion gvs up if he fails to catch its prey,bro you hav known wen to end d chase.psychologicaly,a girls can like u 5 seconds afta meeting u,20 seconds 2 no if she can date u.u hav bin chasing her for a year nw,she be world cup?,if mikel train 4 1yr doing extra work,hm go win ballondor.guy,if i were u i wil help her out thereby putin mud in her feelings.its high tym u fish elsewere,or do u wnt her to drop d bombshell bfr u no whats up.wetin i sabi sef,i should be in d sportsection were i blng,salama

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by jamex93(m): 8:12pm On May 26, 2015
tell ha to trek back home

no b ha mate dey trek hundreds of KM ni

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by MrDojo(m): 8:20pm On May 26, 2015
Treyson..bro dnt try it......d@ girl is testin if u r potential maga.....jst leave wit yur small dignity remaining b4 she crushes u totally.....N bro u chased a girl u dnt even ave intentions of marryin for a whole year...... Chisos is Lord..

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by Nobody: 8:21pm On May 26, 2015
Meanwhile, she might have told her friends after you end the call.. "them no born am well make e no send am"..

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by jnrbayano(m): 8:21pm On May 26, 2015
What's that her name? Is it

Amaka begi begi?

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by MrDojo(m): 8:21pm On May 26, 2015
jamex93:
tell ha to trek back home


no b ha mate dey trek hundreds of KM ni

Hehehe grin

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by MzzTega(f): 8:24pm On May 26, 2015
You are now her new ATM. Trust me when i say her friends cajoled her.


Bros,u aint wicked

For you to think about it before falling into her trap shows that you are SMART.

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by Brownville007: 8:25pm On May 26, 2015
LadyX:
Don't mistake her asking you for cash for a change of heart about your proposal. If you decide to give her the money, don't expect anything in return.

I think the girl wants to use you for money.

Not at all dear. The feeling is long dead

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by toyeoye(m): 8:29pm On May 26, 2015
adeitoro:
May be that is the last acid test she has for you to guarantee your love for her.

If you love her for who she is and you know you can afford the cash, I think you cement your proposals to her with this act of charity.

My2cent


Acid test my yansh

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by ireneony(f): 8:30pm On May 26, 2015
looking at ur post, I will say what she did was very bad.
bro in everything u do apply wisdom.
let me tell u what to do...
send her the money infact send her more than she asked for, but remember not to tell her u want to send the money. after u might have send the money, don't call her....when she calls don't pick her call.
then she will begin to judge herself and come begging..
guy, the problem with u, is u are too nice to her and some girls hate nice guys
n.b: before doing this confirm from ur sister if she really in of need the cash for the said situation. if yes, u can u ahead. with ur plan

second advise:
my final and sincere advice is for u to dump her...
please dump her and move on.

pick the best as the spirit leads u smiley

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by orimsamsam(m): 8:33pm On May 26, 2015
adeitoro:
May be that is the last acid test she has for you to guarantee your love for her.

If you love her for who she is and you know you can afford the cash, I think you cement your proposals to her with this act of charity.

My2cent

with ur comment. person go no say u don become maga for too long

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by DEIFIED(m): 8:35pm On May 26, 2015
Guy dont even think of it, dont be surprise if the money is for her bf in school. And she is only making up such story.

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by alaricsaltzman: 8:36pm On May 26, 2015
Help those in need for they will come back when next they are in need...

come to think of it, if she wants to go home, I believe she is going home to meet her parents or family members of some sought. If they can put her in school and pay for her necessities, I see no reason why they cant send her TP. There is no harm helping a friend when you can but when it borders on being played, please don't do it...

These kind of girls end up being played by someone who isn't worth it. They become heartbroken and will now say all guys are the same. Labbish of life angry undecided

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by yorubaboiy: 8:37pm On May 26, 2015
dont give her anything
Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by misreal(m): 8:38pm On May 26, 2015
Brownville007:
There is this babe I chased for a year (funny right.. And might bring name calling but it's allowed) but despite all she still said no. Everything was alright, we talk fine till she gained admission. On my part I am OK. Works with the Fed Govt and still under 25. She changed almost instantly, my calls became a disturbance to her and I could feel it in her voice. Just to keep to my words, I travelled down from Ibadan to Futo to grace her matric but within me I knew sth bad was gonna happen( the instinct was there). And true to it, I lost my fone on my way back. The one that really broke me up was wen I called her a few weeks later after returning back to my base. She dint pick up. I called later with my other line though without much airtime and she picked but on hearing my voice I told her I will call with my main line wich I did but guess what. She refused to pick up. I parked up, her friend called me 3 days later pleading on her behalf for me to call her. I reconsidered and called, she apologized,. Last mouth, I made up my mind to end all the emotional torment and called her up and ask her straight to tell me if am wasting my time. After every dilly d allying of her not knowing and me insisting on a yes or no ans, she said yes. Since then till now we dint talk except on two occasions I saw her missed calls (yesterday included) and decides to call back. Shockingly I got a text from her this morning at work and guess what.. This is what she sent.

"my dear., I know am not suppose 2 ask u dis, but I can't help it. I want 2 travel home next week Tuesday, but don't have enof cash, pls need your help."
Pls before you comment you need to understand somethings.
-I can afford what any thing I might feel like sending her conveniently
- the girl in question is my younger sister friend
-I feel hurt when I look back at the whole stuffs

What do you guys think, is she trying to use me as a backup up now cos I know she has a new bf in sch.

Am I wicked if I dint help out?. Would appreciate the contributions of the ladies here too. Thanks

funny post..she wants to use you for money rituals oh. grin

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by Nobody: 8:38pm On May 26, 2015
so dearie,u chased a gal 4 a year n she put u tru all dat n nw she wants 2turn u in2 her ATM?wow! am not gonna tell u wat 2do bt i blv u can stil save urself from future finger biting if u knw wat i mean.y make a guy chase u 4 a yr,who stil does dat?i knw some peeps may wanna say morals bt Zap morals.if u love som1 u beta let'em knw.

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by Ewizard(m): 8:40pm On May 26, 2015
adeitoro:
May be that is the last acid test she has for you to guarantee your love for her.

If you love her for who she is and you know you can afford the cash, I think you cement your proposals to her with this act of charity.

My2cent



naw diz d bigga maga.... grin

kidz everywhere!

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Re: After Saying No, Look At What She Sent To Me (advise) by jamex93(m): 8:40pm On May 26, 2015
MrDojo:


Hehehe grin




serious mata o

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