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Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by Deehvahrzz(f): 9:37am On May 31, 2015 |
hamilton62:Oooh please. What happened to saying "beside every man is a successful woman. So women can't be successful? What happened to two people walking side by side achieving success? Don't bring the neck talk. The neck holds the head ND all that sounds like something coined to make women feel good about relegation. Noone is asking u guys to remove your balls and hand it over to the ladies. They are simply saying let the ladies measure up to their potentials too. And why can't women break the kola not? They are good enough to fetch it in and kneel while placing on a table but not good enough to break it? We are good enough to give selflessly and forgo our dreams and aspirations for the family, to be the woman behind the successful man, the good mother who at d end of d day will still get displaced by d man claiming the children. But we are not good enough to ask? Charity they say begins from home. If we cannot successfully claim our equal rights at home, how then will we claim it on a bigger scale. If we cannot convince our brothers, boyfriend's, husbands that there's more to a woman than a home keeper, marriage aspirant, property, how can we claim equality to stop female mutilation? How can we stop violence or issues on the bigger scale? Women should ve equal rights to be human and be given equal chances in life 3 Likes |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by Bluffly: 9:41am On May 31, 2015 |
[quote author=5minsmadness post=34268770 [/quote] The truth is a woman can't be same with a woman except the deluded ones belief. Now a man makes money, goes to the battle field or strongly desire to, always at alert in the home to protect everyone. Can a woman apart from making money becauase all achievements stil boils down to making money, do the war while a man snores? |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by tomy5: 9:44am On May 31, 2015 |
The simple fact that men are the head is that women don't know what they want.But few that know what they want become known for it.I still haven't seen a situation in my family or university that a female was denied something because of her gender.if a woman shouldn't cook because she is a woman,who would feed the children.i cant remember going to my father and telling him i am hungry it always my mum.I don't know if she has kids and if she has let her be your ideal model but if not read between the lines and choose for yourself.Being married with no kids is different from one. Question for next month.What do women want? 3 Likes |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by 5minsmadness: 9:46am On May 31, 2015 |
FrancisTony: A husband doesn't keep you company at night or help you when you are down or write your eulogy when you die? FrancisTony, what kind of husband are u planning on becoming? If your idea of a husband is none of those things above then please remain single! It's like you have really been disappointed by a lot of men in your life. Well dear, the majority of men are good people. Ask ALL your married nairaland feminists and followers and likers. They will tell you how WONDERFUL all thier husbands are to them. None of them are as lonely as fvck, though I can tell you there are countless single elderly females that cry themselves to sleep every night yearning for that special someone to fill the void! Of course any woman can sh1t out a child but it takes a responsible mother who will want to give birth to a child in the most conducive and loving atmosphere possible, which is a stable and happy marriage union instead of the farce of single motherhood or the arrangement of adoption. Oh,and how do you know genevieve is happy? Do you live with her? Or are you basing your superficial assumptions on the many 'suffering and smiling' pictures she takes in public Nobody said missterious said she hates marriage. Stop putting words in people's mouths. You know, I honestly think you need to fall in love, preferably with a woman(one who is not your mom or grandma) . A lot of things about you will change. TV01 has his work cut out for him in rehabilitating you. I pray you meet someone that will show you true love! Amen! 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by Nobody: 9:51am On May 31, 2015 |
iPopAlomo: only Okonjo Iweala and Dora Akunyili will get my vote should they ever want to be president. I agree with her that a woman doesn't have to be exceptionally good for her to be hired just as men do not have to be exceptionally good to be hired (once again, we are seeing a comparism with the man just to drive home a point. And some people still believe this isn't about man-jealousy). But the truth, which she did not tell you, is that these not exceptionally good men that get hired also put so much effort in pushing their way through. At the last SUG election here, i see nothing particularly exceptional about the candidtates for president, but the truth is...these people did alot to get their votes. They actually HUSSLED. Why did they have to hussle that much? It is because they are not particularly good. What about Atiku Abubakar? Because he wasn't exceptionally good, he has to hussle in the two elections he contested in. We all know how he had to wrestle with OBJ in order to be able to stand in the 2007 election. We know how much money he threw around. We know he was among those people that nearly ran Oceanic bank into bankrupcy as a result of his political ambition. We also know what he did four years on. We saw his manifesto and campaign ads everywhere. He literally hussled and this is because he is not a formidable political power as such. What are the moderate female political powers doing? They are waiting to be handed the presidency just like that? Are the men being handed the presidency? Even Gowon that was gifted power had to work to keep it. He fought a war for it! We know what Jonathan did in 2011. We also know how much TAN put into his failed reelection bid. This shows these people hussled. Where was KOWA's manifesto anywhere? Can anyone pls mention what her intentions were for Nigeria? Do you even know the woman? Did you see her campaign ads anywhere? She didn't hussle like the other guys did and you want her to become Nigeria's president? The guys wey even hssle sef, where them dey now? But she got substantial number of votes. I think those who voted for her must have read Abimbola Adelakun's (the Punch thursday woman) article when he said: "if you are looking for a PhD president, vote for her; if you feel it doesn't have to be men handing women power, vote for her; if you feel it is commendable of a woman to venture into men's stronghold, vote for her". 2 Likes |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by AskProf: 9:54am On May 31, 2015 |
FrancisTony: Yes... Dr. Ivara Alistair Esege, MD, University of Maryland, Baltimore, U.S.A. 2 Likes
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Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by hensben(m): 9:55am On May 31, 2015 |
Joavid:They have been told? my dear it's the fact.. |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by Nobody: 9:56am On May 31, 2015 |
https://m.facebook.com/WomenAgainstFeminism?_rdr you guys can go here and argue with the women there. And in chimamanda's own words, i hope you can disagree with the substance of their arguement. |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by tmosco(m): 9:58am On May 31, 2015 |
hensben: Go and tell your mum that she is the weaker sex and see who is. 2 Likes |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by gj22(m): 10:05am On May 31, 2015 |
This is soo true. By saying it's remarkable, you are implying that women are naturally weak which is sexist. |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by Nobody: 10:25am On May 31, 2015 |
Joavid: How is what I said different from scrapping the office? Your inability to read the right meaning shouldn't be my problem. The programs first ladies run can be taken care of by ministaries. Ministaries can even ensure their continuity, something lacking with first ladies programs. |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by Nobody: 10:28am On May 31, 2015 |
Winner01, stop posting trash to drive home a point. None of these women you posted claimed they are not feminist except Omotola. 1 Like |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by iPopAlomo(m): 10:30am On May 31, 2015 |
5minsmadness: That FrancisTony na gay feminist... very useless wonker... 4 Likes |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by iPopAlomo(m): 10:37am On May 31, 2015 |
Thanks Winner01... |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by adbokus(m): 10:37am On May 31, 2015 |
The words of this lady seem rich in profundity&substance but there couldn't be a better way to mislead people with soundness&gusto. These feminism bunkum being bandied by her will destroy our societies, if that is not already happening. Rewriting the Maker's script! Providence wasn't on some hard drugs when He decided to create man&woman, two completely different entities the way He did. Adichie writes&speaks impressive stuffs, but women should listen to her feminism chants at the peril of their peace&prosperity! It's high time some folks stopped this insiduous&incursive charade of hers!... |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by missterious(f): 10:43am On May 31, 2015 |
repogirl: Marriage is a beautiful thing. I would love to get married. It is possible to be rich & married & that is what I pray for. But if I had to choose, I would choose money. Being single is not a sin. FYI, this "feminist crap" is the reason women can vote, the reason your daughter can go to school. Feminism is advocacy for social & economic equality of the sexes. 3 Likes |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by Nobody: 10:48am On May 31, 2015 |
5minsmadness:Stop leaving in self denial. There are many stories of Nigerian women suffering in the hand of their husband. Is that happiness? Family section women don't make up 1% of Nigerian women and you can't deny it. Actually you're the one who opined single lady are lonely and i'm telling you marriage doesn't determine happiness for all people. You're the one who need love from female from your hateful posts towards female gender. Sayanora! 3 Likes |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by Nobody: 10:50am On May 31, 2015 |
iPopAlomo:Get off my mention, prostitute patronizer. STDS breeding fellow. 3 Likes |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by smileysmiles(f): 10:56am On May 31, 2015 |
iPopAlomo: Reasons please Modified* Its you. I know you. You are indeed "chauvinistic" infact if i saw the moniker ontime i wouldnt have replied.. 1 Like |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by smileysmiles(f): 10:57am On May 31, 2015 |
iPopAlomo: And you know this because? 2 Likes |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by 5minsmadness: 11:00am On May 31, 2015 |
mya1:How did I miss this? And how many of these women have you talked to? Pls don't take your sample from the headstrong teenage girls on this forum who thinks cooking is enslavement. I happen to be privileged to be exposed to a lot of couples by virtue of what I do and I assure you the average Nigerian woman has no qualms in carrying out her wifely duties like cooking and cleaning the house as long as the man also carries out his duty of providing and protecting the household. In fact I am dealing with a case right now in which a man has been cooking for himself for the past three weeks. Wifey is alarmed and upset as he has refused to iterate what the problem is. He simply said he is tired of her cooking and knew how to cook during his single days and wants to go back to it. It is an opportunity for Wifey to kick back and relax, he says. You'd think the wife would use this opportunity to watch telemundo right? Who cares, let him suffer in the kitchen right? Wrong! She is following him about and trying to learn from whatever mistakes she thinks she has made though the man insists there is nothing inherently wrong. Men want to marry women, not warriors. If you don't want to cook for your husband then find a man who won't mind cooking for the house. He might also feel there is no need to provide for the house and make you the woman the provider and protector instead. Whatever makes you happy. 4 Likes |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by Chinom(m): 11:02am On May 31, 2015 |
FrancisTony: In other words, a woman should be given the Kolanut to break just because she has a Phd. If I slaaaap you there now..!!. Are u out of your senses. By the way, has Chimamanda ever gotten pregnant ?. Does she have a child ?. 4 Likes |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by Nobody: 11:03am On May 31, 2015 |
smileysmiles:You should have asked him which Nigerian male president has been great or equivalent to German female Chancellor Angela Merkel. 3 Likes |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by smileysmiles(f): 11:07am On May 31, 2015 |
jorlons: Males dont loot? Oh yea! Alameghsia has boobsies akala too. Okonjo dat was recently recognised by yale cuts her hair... she must be a man? Anybody can loot sir 1 Like |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by winner01(m): 11:09am On May 31, 2015 |
FrancisTony:I dont argue with homosexuals >: 3 Likes |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by Kay17: 11:10am On May 31, 2015 |
thorpido: in as much as equality brings everyone to an equal footing, it also regresses the exceptional to the ordinary. i think we should support a system whereby everyone gets a fair opportunity but like a race, the best man wins. |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by ssuccess(m): 11:13am On May 31, 2015 |
Cutehector:Bastard! She is married and more achieved than you can ever be. 3 Likes |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by Chinom(m): 11:13am On May 31, 2015 |
Women are always quick to play the 'feminist card' when it suits them. When they will be positively favoured. But when the crazy terrorist or kidnapper decides to shoot me first just for being a man, the women will never step in the name of equality to be shot as well. Men bear a lot in this world just for being a man. Women should just be happy and grateful for being a woman because the world favours them in a million ways. We, men don't get 10% of the sort of protection women get. 5 Likes |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by abbey621(m): 11:14am On May 31, 2015 |
Velocitron: Once again I disagree with you! If success to you is about making money and losing your self respect in the process then yes Asians make the most money but not as much as Jews. I worked in HR for a couple of years and have friends with many years of experience in EEO and affirmative action programs, they can tell you first hand the many loopholes which allows companies to pay female or minority workers less. Your reasons for paying them less are unjustified and unconstitutional. On a personal level, I've worked for a company in which I was the most qualified in my department, with the highest work ethic and years of experience but due to being black and a foreign black to make things worse, I was often overlooked for middle management positions. Racism is real here in America, only an ignorant person would deny that and the more people like you try to undermine its severity, the more unjustly people of color or other minorities are treated. No one is asking for a handout or a free pass just equal opportunity. Finally you seem to be out of touch with reality on the issues women face in the workplace, juggling between home and work, trying to balance health issues with societal values. The reason we have fewer women CEOs than men is because women must give up a whole lot to be successful at that position while men have their wives to rely on to pick up the pieces when they are not around. Most female CEOs either don't have a family or live a very complicated lifestyle and if that's what must happen in order to be successful then we are in big trouble as a society! 4 Likes |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by ssuccess(m): 11:15am On May 31, 2015 |
tintingz:Explain please... |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by shaybebaby(f): 11:17am On May 31, 2015 |
FrancisTony:You debase yourself when you resort to using the kind of language he understands. Best to ignore him and others who speak/ think like him. Chalk and cheese eh? And we both know he most definitely not the cheese. |
Re: Being A Strong Woman Isnt Remarkable, It's Normal - Adichie by 5minsmadness: 11:21am On May 31, 2015 |
missterious: @bolded,not true m'am. My grandfather never heard the word feminism and yet he sent all his 7daughters to school. And he wasn't the only one. Others in the village did so as well. It was his choice. He wasn't forced by feminism to do it. 4 Likes |
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