Joavid:


And why bring it here? That's not nice.

Why didn't you reply with the same question you type here and if the answer isn't satisfactory, you just ignore any more mails from him/her.

he/she has no single post to her/her name. Else I would have quoted him/her where available. You don't expect me to reply via e-mail to someone like that do you?

iwatch:
he/she has no single post to her/her name. Else I would have quoted him/her where available. You don't expect me to reply via e-mail to someone like that do you?

What do u hope to gain by this?

Floodgater:
It seems you still have problem posting it. Come out and state it, someone might not give up helping you if you dont give up asking for it. Trust me you are not the alpha of such posting problem, you wont be the omega either.

sorry for replying late, the issue has been settled. please can I send u a pm?

Yadoctora:

What do u hope to gain by this?

this is where I often hang out with this handle and I am guessing the person behind the handle may have contacted me from this thread.

Personally, if I have never had a little chat with someone here and he sends me a PM, I rarely reply.

jerg1:


sorry for replying late, the issue has been settled. please can I send u a pm?

Ok.

fxbot:
Never be carried away by physical attributes of a woman because you don't see what the mind says. What if I tell you that someone on this thread is getting married soon to another guy to which I was never aware of until my friend called me to see. We had been dating for some months now but I never knew she had another guy elsewhere. In fact, based on my calculation, she has been with the guy long before she met me. I have been reading with silence and smiling. We still met a few weeks ago, yet she didn't mention it to me and I also feigned ignorance.

That's life brother, that's fvcking life. Do I feel hurt? NAH! Boys have learned to be smart long ago. I only feel sorry for the dude she will end up with who thinks she is "innocent" and if he can't give her like I did or do, she will definitely cheat on him. It's very obvious in her person. Nuff said

This is so disheartening but it's really happening. You can never know anyone wholly speaking from experience.

[quote author=jerg1 post=34149114][/quote] Go check.

fxbot:
Never be carried away by physical attributes of a woman because you don't see what the mind says. What if I tell you that someone on this thread is getting married soon to another guy to which I was never aware of until my friend called me to see. We had been dating for some months now but I never knew she had another guy elsewhere. In fact, based on my calculation, she has been with the guy long before she met me. I have been reading with silence and smiling. We still met a few weeks ago, yet she didn't mention it to me and I also feigned ignorance.

That's life brother, that's fvcking life. Do I feel hurt? NAH! Boys have learned to be smart long ago. I only feel sorry for the dude she will end up with who thinks she is "innocent" and if he can't give her like I did or do, she will definitely cheat on him. It's very obvious in her person. Nuff said

Chai
Someone on this thread did you like that
That is terrible
What page is she on beeko




_{Just kidding}

yluv, seen your messages?

remsonik:
My cousin was telling me of his predicament tonight and I feel sorry for him. He has a child by mistake. Impregnated the girlfriend 4 years ago and ever since his baby was born he hasn't seen his child. Now he wants to marry as he's in his mid thirties already but no girl wants to settle down with him once he tells them he has a child.
His babymama has refused to get married to him cos she's Muslim and can't convert to Christianity.
The girl relocated abroad with his child.

Any advice for him?

Are you certain your cousin handled the pregnance well then remember you said it was a mistake. I just cant believe that she will refuse him seeing his child like that, atleast she did not remember she was a muslim when they did it so why will she not let him see the child?
For the sake of his child, your cousin should still try to reach and be friends with her so that he can see his child unless she has proven beyound reasonable doubt that she does not want him to see his child.
Your cousin should not be selfish, he should also extend his search to single mums. I hope is has a reasonable means of livelihood.

Lol.........correct babe.ur cousin must have messed up

@floodgater
I got it Sis

Herzumpther:
Hmmm. I told my dad of a man coming for me and he asked me where he is from, as soon as I said Yoruba he just looked at me and asked me to specify his state and I said Lagos state. Dad looked at me again and said Herz, you better remove your mind from there, I will never allow you marry a man from the west. I won't give my blessings so the earlier you stop seeing him the better for everybody.

So you didn't end up getting married to the guy because of his tribe?






Following.....

What is wrong with "our" parents?
You do not want your child to marry out of your tribe, why? Today, on two different radio stations the same issue was what two callers complained about.
The most important is they are both happy.

MissIndependent:
So you didn't end up getting married to the guy because of his tribe?






Following.....

she did. so no need for that.

iwatch:
she did. so no need for that.

Really? What page was that will like to read about it. Please quote it for me...thanks

iwatch:
she did. so no need for that.

Thanks.

iwatch:
https://www.nairaland.com/anthonnnny

This handle signed up today, followed me today and sent me a PM to expecting me to reply?

anthonnnny, do you care to explain yourself? What's the reason for the PM?

This is so immature.

Learn to keep certain things private. Whatever happens outside Nairaland should remain firmly outside nland.

Hello everyone. I must say a big thank you to so many wonderful people on this thread. I started from page 0 to this level and I must say I have learnt a whole lot. I wish I can call every one's name but its not possible. Even people who posted issues here ended up encouraging me as well.

Now straight to my issue (that’s if I have one) I have been married for a little over 3 years. I got married as a virgin and my first full blown sexual experience was on the wedding night (you'll soon understand why I'm explaining all this) in a short while. Hubby was sort of a rookie as well although he had his fair share with girls but he said he wouldnt really have called himself a stud then. He was quite reserved and he claims he probably did it twice, thrice or so (dont really know about that and i don't care about it honestly) Lets just say we both learnt on the marriage bed.

Before then the boyfriend (now hubby) and I did a lot of petting, necking and the whole 9 yard apart from penetration. I liked what we did then and still do. I can say we have an okay sex life but …

I am satisfied sexually but sometimes I notice he comes rather quickly (let's say if we have sex 4 times in a week, he'll come quickly twice) Let me quickly add he makes up with good fo.replay session and he is not a selfish lover. I will be a bit explicit please pardon me here. Most times he makes sure I come (as in o.rgasm) before the penetration itself. However the penetration act is usually short. I don’t really really mind because most times when he makes me cum, I am actually tired at that point. However, I read somewhere a while back that the average sex act (penetration itself) is 5 minutes or so. Then women on that blog went on and on about 6, 7, 10 minutes. Someone said if your man is averaging 2 to 3 minutes that’s an indomie guy!

I swear by God on that day, I was mildly stunned. That was the first time it occurred to me that perhaps just perhaps what I always thought was okay was not. I will say hubby averages 2 to 3 minutes on most occasions. Even though I knew he could be a bit quick at times, I never bothered because he satisfies me nearly ALL THE TIME. Another thing that raised a red flag for me is this - I have never ever had him say he wants a second helping after the first act. I thought this was a bit odd after the first year but I never thought too much of it. Like I say I am generally content with the sex life because it is frequent and he makes me come. He initiates sex nearly all the time and I do sometimes though he beats me hands down.

Please mature women be honest with me. Am I fishing for trouble where there is none? Is this normal sexual behaviour? Could there be something here? I once tried to make him go a second time not because i was starved on that day but to kill my own curiosity. As usual, he was fagged out (after 2 minutes penetration) and I couldn't really care less though I would have wanted it to prove a point and put my mind at ease.

In the over 3 years no second helping so should I be concerned. I'm not a sex freak or anything but I'm beginning to wonder if my man's engine is truly working at full capacity. (where is the sweat pouring out of face icon?)

Please feel free to be brutally honest with me. I opened this moniker for this purpose and I intend to deactivate once I am sated. We are both in our early thirties and we work.

CC: Babyosisi, Bukatyne, Mutter, Efemenaxyz, Thorpido (I really really need the men to talk here) Floodgater, Forexmart and all you wonderful contributors. Thanks

silverbox177:
Hello everyone. I must say a big thank you to so many wonderful people on this thread. I started from page 0 to this level and I must say I have learnt a whole lot. I wish I can call every one's name but its not possible. Even people who posted issues here ended up encouraging me as well.

Now straight to my issue (that’s if I have one) I have been married for a little over 3 years. I got married as a virgin and my first full blown sexual experience was on the wedding night (you'll soon understand why I'm explaining all this) in a short while. Hubby was sort of a rookie as well although he had his fair share with girls but he said he wouldnt really have called himself a stud then. He was quite reserved and he claims he probably did it twice, thrice or so (dont really know about that and i don't care about it honestly) Lets just say we both learnt on the marriage bed.

Before then the boyfriend (now hubby) and I did a lot of petting, necking and the whole 9 yard apart from penetration. I liked what we did then and still do. I can say we have an okay sex life but …

I am satisfied sexually but sometimes I notice he comes rather quickly (let's say if we have sex 4 times in a week, he'll come quickly twice) Let me quickly add he makes up with good pre-intimacy session and he is not a selfish lover. I will be a bit explicit please pardon me here. Most times he makes sure I come (as in o.rgasm) before the penetration itself. However the penetration act is usually short. I don’t really really mind because most times when he makes me cum, I am actually tired at that point. However, I read somewhere a while back that the average sex act (penetration itself) is 5 minutes or so. Then women on that blog went on and on about 6, 7 10 minutes. Someone said if your man is averaging 2 to 3 minutes that’s an indomie guy!

I swear by God on that day, I was mildly stunned. That was the first time it occurred to me that perhaps just perhaps what I always thought was okay was not. I will say hubby averages 2 to 3 minutes on most occasions. Even though I knew he could be a bit quick at times, I never bothered because he satisfies me nearly ALL THE TIME. Another thing that raised a red flag for me is this - I have never ever had him say he wants a second helping after the first act. I thought this was a bit odd after the first year but I never thought too much of it. Like I say I am generally content with the sex life because it is frequent and he makes me come. He initiates sex nearly all the time and I do sometimes though he beats me hands down.

Please mature women be honest with me. Am I fishing for trouble where there is none? Is this normal sexual behaviour? Could there be something here? I once tried to make him go a second time not because i was starved on that day but to kill my own curiosity. As usual, he was fagged out (after 2 minutes penetration) and I couldn't really care less though I would have wanted it to prove a point and put my mind at ease.

In the over 3 years no second helping so should I be concerned. I'm not a sex freak or anything but I'm beginning to wonder if my man's engine is truly working at full capacity. (where is the sweat pouring out of face icon?)

Please feel free to be brutally honest with me. I opened this moniker for this purpose and I intend to deactivate once I am sated. We are both in our early thirties and we work.

CC: Babyosisi, Bukatyne, Mutter, Efemenaxyz, Thorpido (I really really need the men to talk here) Floodgater, Forexmart and all you wonderful contributors. Thanks

Hi Silverbox,

I would say you are fishing

Different strokes for different folks and the important thing isthat he satisfies you.

Take it as a weakness that he cannot go a second round... Ever heard 'not How far but How well'?

Surprisingly, Some whose men go second rounds might still not satisfy their wonen

Count your blessings
1. You have a lovely husband
2. He is an unselfish lover.
3. He knows he doesn't stay long during penetration so he makes you come during pre-intimacy
4. You guys get down regularly
5. You are spent So it is not like you want more than he is giving.

Have a great time

P.S.: @ the 7 mins rule, never heard it.

silverbox177, don't start down this road. It will never end well. When you are satisfied with your spouse but you are still wondering if you can get more, that's greed. It doesn't end well. Careful. You have a marriage that many are wishing for. Nairaland alone should make that clear. Enjoy what you have, love. Don't mess it up.

@silverbox.. Girlfriend one advise!! Don't always believe all u read online, some of it are not real , but just some ppl"s imaginations put down in writing to create same in you...

Its not about ur hubby lasting forever or just 1min, d most important thing is that u re both satisfied after it all. I ll advise u stop fishing for trouble, there's more to marriage than sex u know...
U guys re working and would need to conserve energy for other things in life, don't go looking for perfect. Wen u have good, u may end up wit worst!!

@silverbox177. 'Trouble dey sleep, iyanga go wake am, wetin he dey find'. My dear, we av similar story, just dat I've bin married for about 5 years now. My hubby is good at pre-intimacy and makes sure I cum before penetration which last for about 5mins. D day I asked for a 2nd round, hmmm my eyes saw d back of my head he didn't cum for over 20 mins(I'm not exaggerating) and he was just pounding on. I had an asthmatic attack dat day. From dat day, I respected myself . just be satisfied, wen u cum, wot else do u want?

Shiningmama:



I've begged him sevrally to pls stip chatting with all his babes once he is at home. Instead, it was in his mum presence that he abused me. He called me all sorts ofnames. He said he had affairs with them and I can't stop him from chatting with them. His Mum came to me later and said and I quote " he is just sampling those girls, you are the main wife”
It is now 10months we had sex last, he has moved out of the bedroom we shared to a separate room. I am ok that because it is not only HIV that is sexually transmitted, cancer virus is also sexually transmitted.
I've moved on with my life even though. We still live under same roof. Just room morning and bye bye.
Thanks to people like EfemenaXY

My dear, I applaud you Oo. I know how hard it is to leave your hubby in Nigeria, specially if he threatens to take your kids. I pray you are able to flourish under such negative circumstances. Try to make yourself happy despite such circumstances. Get some self help books, at least you know where you stand which is very important. Take your kids out, meet up with friends sometimes, go to the cinema, gym, country club etc, never cheat though. Just look forward to when your kids are a lot more grown and he cannot keep them away form you. If things have not improved by then you can leave him and who knows if you can still find love. Be happy, live and love your life, you only have 1, hugs

[quote author=Shiningmama post=33873789][/quote]

My dear I like you, you have found peace. You are like a flower that is growing on a rock, it is well

emeraldoe:
@silverbox177. 'Trouble dey sleep, iyanga go wake am, wetin he dey find'. My dear, we av similar story, just dat I've bin married for about 5 years now. My hubby is good at pre-intimacy and makes sure I cum before penetration which last for about 5mins. D day I asked for a 2nd round, hmmm my eyes saw d back of my head he didn't cum for over 20 mins(I'm not exaggerating) and he was just pounding on. I had an asthmatic attack dat day. From dat day, I respected myself . just be satisfied, wen u cum, wot else do u want?

@bolded LOLZZZ! I swear you killed me with laughter there. I am glad you came out unscathed.

@all thank you so much for your input. I am naturally reserved by nature so I don't know how or who I would have asked my burning questions. I am so glad I found this wonderful thread. I know how much these sort of issues are to men so I decided to keep my mouth shut before deflating the hubby's ego by saying or suggesting something silly. I am very glad I took that decision.

Like I said before, I am okay with hubby's performance but curiosity was beginning to make me sweat and worry needlessly. I think I have enough to worry about for now; the job and baby is enough. You guys may not know but you are helping families out there. Once again big thanks to everyone.

Silverbox 177 as far as i see, you'v got a good man with a good performance too. The benefit of having a virgin also at play.
Contentment is the key thing here and i also think you are a contented person. That said, when you have a good life with contentment it doesnt also mean you cant aspire better with contentment. I'm saying this because your first or first few attempts at more failed doesnt mean thats all there can be unless over lifetime proven. The only thing is you should not strive for that better with greed, competition and its like but with contentment and for the harmless sake of exploring. If your man still doesnt go further with the trying differently or breaking routine, no loss at all, but if one day he surprises himself and you then its your gain. I push to you contentment not complacense.
Please do this atleast for his health, see to it that he exercises regulary and eat right. Dont do it just for the sex but for his welbeing and you can join him too. I STRONGLY believe that exercise will help him in measures you both havent imagine since he tires easily.
Again dont let that your curiosity be the main reason for a better and healthier him.

. Ka o di etu ahu

emeraldoe:
@silverbox177. 'Trouble dey sleep, iyanga go wake am, wetin he dey find'. My dear, we av similar story, just dat I've bin married for about 5 years now. My hubby is good at pre-intimacy and makes sure I cum before penetration which last for about 5mins. D day I asked for a 2nd round, hmmm my eyes saw d back of my head he didn't cum for over 20 mins(I'm not exaggerating) and he was just pounding on. I had an asthmatic attack dat day. From dat day, I respected myself . just be satisfied, wen u cum, wot else do u want?

I actually never wanted to consider this but..
From gathered experiences, some 2minute men usually go further and do better the next or subsequent round. Therefore some having realised it, release during forplay before penetration so that the second round then become the first.
That your 20 minutes experience is also common with them during the second round but the patient and smart ones continue till they learn or master stabilising it. For some when it is taking 20mins or more, they stop and let their partners finish up with their hands. With time they get to learn and master their body and its relation to the sex game to achieve that stability. Some even go 3rd rounds before they get the trick for their own body.
IMO you closed the door for improvement too soon. I dont know whether past times would have stiffen the door completely, but i think a trial can tell.
As for Silverbox177's case, i have seen the great strength, vigour, stamina exercise can give even a slim person that seems light outside but is actually heavy and fatigued inside for years so that activities tires him/her easily than others.

xox

https://www.nairaland.com/2346654/cant-satisfy-wife-bed

had to repost this thread,its sooo funny .the suggestions have almost killed me with laughter oo
sooo nice

Hello everyone. I must say a big thank you to so many wonderful people on this thread. I started from page 0 to this level and I must say I have learnt a whole lot. I wish I can call every one's name but its not possible. Even people who posted issues here ended up encouraging me as well.

Now straight to my issue (that’s if I have one) I have been married for a little over 3 years. I got married as a virgin and my first full blown sexual experience was on the wedding night (you'll soon understand why I'm explaining all this) in a short while. Hubby was sort of a rookie as well although he had his fair share with girls but he said he wouldnt really have called himself a stud then. He was quite reserved and he claims he probably did it twice, thrice or so (dont really know about that and i don't care about it honestly) Lets just say we both learnt on the marriage bed.

Before then the boyfriend (now hubby) and I did a lot of petting, necking and the whole 9 yard apart from penetration. I liked what we did then and still do. I can say we have an okay sex life but …

I am satisfied sexually but sometimes I notice he comes rather quickly (let's say if we have sex 4 times in a week, he'll come quickly twice) Let me quickly add he makes up with good fo.replay session and he is not a selfish lover. I will be a bit explicit please pardon me here. Most times he makes sure I come (as in o.rgasm) before the penetration itself. However the penetration act is usually short. I don’t really really mind because most times when he makes me cum, I am actually tired at that point. However, I read somewhere a while back that the average sex act (penetration itself) is 5 minutes or so. Then women on that blog went on and on about 6, 7, 10 minutes. Someone said if your man is averaging 2 to 3 minutes that’s an indomie guy!

I swear by God on that day, I was mildly stunned. That was the first time it occurred to me that perhaps just perhaps what I always thought was okay was not. I will say hubby averages 2 to 3 minutes on most occasions. Even though I knew he could be a bit quick at times, I never bothered because he satisfies me nearly ALL THE TIME. Another thing that raised a red flag for me is this - I have never ever had him say he wants a second helping after the first act. I thought this was a bit odd after the first year but I never thought too much of it. Like I say I am generally content with the sex life because it is frequent and he makes me come. He initiates sex nearly all the time and I do sometimes though he beats me hands down.

Please mature women be honest with me. Am I fishing for trouble where there is none? Is this normal sexual behaviour? Could there be something here? I once tried to make him go a second time not because i was starved on that day but to kill my own curiosity. As usual, he was fagged out (after 2 minutes penetration) and I couldn't really care less though I would have wanted it to prove a point and put my mind at ease.

In the over 3 years no second helping so should I be concerned. I'm not a sex freak or anything but I'm beginning to wonder if my man's engine is truly working at full capacity. (where is the sweat pouring out of face icon?)

Please feel free to be brutally honest with me. I opened this moniker for this purpose and I intend to deactivate once I am sated. We are both in our early thirties and we work.

CC: Babyosisi, Bukatyne, Mutter, Efemenaxyz, Thorpido (I really really need the men to talk here) Floodgater, Forexmart and all you wonderful contributors. Thanks

@ colored, exactly.

You're satisfied. He's satisfied.
What else are you 'wanting'
For him to fit the stories you hear?
Some people embellish tales of their lives to suit their fantasies. Don't go comparing yourself and what you have to what you hear.

If you're satisfied and you're sure he is. Drop the matter. Full stop