acidtalk: I do everything especially number 5.
But human being will always take advantage of those who are too nice and crave for the mean and wicked.

bibigirl07:


See your mouth! Financially ko? Barawo! Lazy man like u waiting on ur wifey's pay check. Shameless, utterly shameless. As if devouring her body isn't enough for u. She cooks, cleans, grocery shopping, laundry, diaper duty and all, yet, u want her money. Men like u are the scum of the earth. Go get a good job and stop spewing yuck on NL

INFO70: These are not to be done always cos they will take u for granted. And when u stop doing for a sometime, u will be in trouble with ur woman

dzak: nonesense getout

Lexoria:

Angry u're not as man enough as my MAN so ur wife don't/won't praise u?Sorry,its not my fault but urs.

SELFWORTH:

Stupid generalisation. Stop being a bitter divorcee and let God choose for you next time. Next time you may just be happy if you show love and support rather than harshness which a lot of guys favour. Women respond to love not a dictator!

Lexoria:


You see why I'm hating Nigerian men for my daughters everyday.So because a man does these things for his wife that means he's a slave to her.Well if cooking,cleaning,birthing and sex is all ur wife/wife-to-be does/will do for u then u deserve d wife u got/get with the mentality u have,I also pity her cos she's a slave (according to u)for doing all that for u.I don't have to tell u what I do for my MAN,it's none of ur business.

Lexoria:

Angry u're not as man enough as my MAN so ur wife don't/won't praise u?Sorry,its not my fault but urs.

SELFWORTH:

So the person who risked her life to give you the son you are so proud of is worth less than the son. You are not making sense.

I have to be a female to understand women's plight. You are the only male on the planet who doesn't have a female relative. You all expect all men to treat women with disrespect . This is a new decade where you are accountable to God. As you treat your wife so it is another worwor Niger man would treat all your female relatives.

Super worwor Niger man!

Mrs.Chima:
A man should do for his wife that he wants done to him. Simple.

mondi_cheeks: well said

honeric01:

100% in agreement as long as its vice versa.

Mrs.Chima:

the point of my comment has nothing to do with the gender war you guys are on...it is simple logic and common sense....do what you eant others to do to you. In Nigeria homosexuals arent allowed to marry so I couldnt make a broad statement however we have to be conscious of the things we say and do to our partner because they do not have to put up or deal with us.

Real talk.

davidylan:


I'm sorry but it appears you have your idea of "leadership" horribly twisted.

Please help me understand how doing things with your wife, affirming your love for her once in a while, cooking for her, opening doors for her, helping her around the house or talking with her diminishes you as a man? How does that affect your position as the power in the home?

I believe strongly that many of you are inherently insecure and need to have your woman cowering under you to feel empowered.

Secondly i dont think you truly understand the bible. If i get you, your point is that the bible enjoins a woman to do all that is on that list for a man but a man doing same for his wife is being a sissy? And you claim to get that from the same bible where Jesus was busy washing the feet of His disciples and asking us to do likewise to our wives? And people wonder why many marriages are nothing but empty shells today. I pity whoever it is you end up with as a wife.

Yes it is true that Sarah called Abraham Lord but i bet you she did it out of deep respect for a husband who led by example. A godly husband who is willing to go above and beyond to make sure his wife is treated like the queen she is wont need to beg his wife to call him Lord...

honeric01:


This has nothing to do with gender war, it's about removing anything like "double standard". simples.

Timijo:
This article is for you if you are a guy that is married or are in a very committed relationship with a woman. If you love your girl and want to have a good relationship with her, then here is a list of ten things a man should do for his wife all the time in order to not only promote harmony and happiness but to show her you truly do love her.

1 - Talk to her. One of the things women really want from their men is for him to talk to her. What this means is that she wants meaningful conversion with you. Tell her how you're doing; your hopes and dreams. Tell her what you're thinking about when she's not around. Tell her about what's on your mind, and listen to her when she responds.

2 - Touch her without expecting more. Women like to feel like they are more than a receptacle for your desire. If you want her to know you love her for more than what she can provide, touch her in gentle ways. Rub her back or feet. Caress her cheek. Things like that.

3 - Open doors for her. Show her you not only love her, but cherish her as well by opening the car door for her before getting in yourself. Open the door at home for her too. Help her with her coat when she comes home. Get her chair for her when she sits down for dinner. All those corny things men used to do in movies. Do it and she'll see you mean it when you tell her you love her.

4 - Compliment her. Tell her how nice she looks. Or smells. Tell her what a great job she's done with dinner or in helping you with some errand. Tell her how important she is to you and how your life wouldn't be nearly as sweet were she not there to share it with you. Whenever she's done something well or special, tell her so she'll know you've noticed and appreciate what she's done.

5 - Cook for her. You might be the kind of guy that cooks for her all the time, but you're probably not. So, occasionally cook an entire meal for her while she relaxes in the tub or in another room. Set the table, cook the meal and then clean up afterward. She'll love that.

6 - Tell her you love her. Most people don't tell the people they love often enough how much the other means to them. Break that tradition. If you truly do love her, tell her you love her at least once every single day. More is even better.

7 - Help her. When you marry someone, you're agreeing to be with them through thick and thin. For better or worse. While generally people see that as being there through the hard times, it also means being there and helping with the small things. Like running errands, or reaching for something on the top shelf. Or buying her a stool for when you're not around. It means helping with the cleaning and the maintenance of the home. When you help her, you're making your life a team effort, and this is what builds strong bonds between couples.

8 - Do things with her. Quite often as time passes, couples begin to find more and more things that they like to do individually which leaves less time and energy for doing things together. Keep that from happening by choosing to make doing things together a priority. Go to the grocery store with her, or Christmas shopping. Find things you both enjoy doing for fun and do them. Make your life feel like you're both in it together no matter what is going on.

9 - Let her make her own decisions. A lot of times men have a way of seeing things and come to decide that their way is right and any other wrong. This can result in men taking over a lot of the decision-making that goes on in the home. Fight this. If you make decisions without consulting your wife, you're silently telling her that her opinion doesn't matter to you, which generally leads to a loss of closeness between couples.

10 - Be dependable. Most women have a need to feel like they can count on their men to come through for them when they need it. To ensure that your girl feels this way about you, be dependable in the small things. Be where you say you will be, when you say you will be. And if you say you are going to do something, do it. Don't let things slip away. It's the small things in life that add up to someone being considered dependable.

These ten things a man should do for his wife all the time are tips for men who are either married or in a serious committed relationship with a woman. If you are such a man, and wish to sow the seeds for a happy contented marriage, I hope these things will help you. Good luck.

bukatyne:

I know this is three years late but what is the double standard in the OP?
He has not said women shouldn't do such, has he?

honeric01:


late comer, go n do frogjump outside

bukatyne:


Come and carry me!
Oya answer my kwestion

aljharem:



Lol my brother/sister I did not generalise but said majority of them. I might be wrong in my accession but that is upto you to prove with facts that I was wrong. Here are my own facts.

1. The rate of divorcees in Nigeria is on a raise and even more is the rate of mothers with 1,2,3 children before finally settling down

2. Unlike the days of our forefathers where being a virgin was a woman's pride and honour to the man who marry's her. The women of now are day actually sort out to be "disvirgined" before leaving their tertiary institute be it university or polytechnic. This is a fact

3. How many virgins do we have that are marrying now ?

Now these are the reasons for my saying "most" which is not generalisation as I did not use "ALL"

aljharem:



Lol my brother/sister I did not generalise but said majority of them. I might be wrong in my accession but that is upto you to prove with facts that I was wrong. Here are my own facts.

1. The rate of divorcees in Nigeria is on a raise and even more is the rate of mothers with 1,2,3 children before finally settling down

2. Unlike the days of our forefathers where being a virgin was a woman's pride and honour to the man who marry's her. The women of now are day actually sort out to be "disvirgined" before leaving their tertiary institute be it university or polytechnic. This is a fact

3. How many virgins do we have that are marrying now ?

Now these are the reasons for my saying "most" which is not generalisation as I did not use "ALL"

honeric01:


e.g : Women should start opening doors for their men..

bukatyne:


Is that all

You seriously fall my hand.