brownie10:
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Freecocoa, see my life!! Haaaaaa!

I swear on my grandfathers and grandmothers graves. This is what my eyes have seen today ooooo!
Who will I talk to? Who will hear my cry??

mutiply:
In less than two months, what have you been doing while you were dating? I think you ask and show him because I know you can't live happily forever with such a secret. I wish you all the best anyway.

doxiler:
sister, sorry 4wat happened&i wil tell u to seek for solution not sympathy.hope u havent let this out to people expect this forum?1 go 2hospital 4 test2. buy off time2clam ur nerve in order2avoid mistake what has happened as happened.3.people hav different problems&ur is not distincive dat is nature. 4after u must hv buy urself time4 6 months.then develop1strange behaviour wit maturity(respect him).if he is sensitive,he wil ask u what d problem,then show him wat u saw wit wit courage but can4give

freecocoa:
I'm still trying to digest your story but I need to know.

Do you know your husband to be promiscuous?

What's your relationship with him like?

freecocoa:
I'm still trying to digest your story but I need to know.

Do you know your husband to be promiscuous?

What's your relationship with him like?

brownie10:


Thank you!! But I cant pretend for six months!! Ive never been one to hide my true feelings! I havent told a soul apart from this nairaland. How do I tell? Who do I tell? Is this a good palatable story to hear!! I am even still struggling to believe what my eyes saw!! How can I tell ooo!

focus7:
First of all, do nothing drastic and unreasonable just be calm for now. But then I need to get the calculations right. You said you got married two months back, he deflowered you two weeks back and the second tape was 20days to the wedding right? If this analysis is correct it means 3weeks after your wedding you still remained a virgin and your husband has still not had sex as a married man, your husband only got to have a taste of your sweety 6weeks to the wedding. So what have you been doing all these period? That means your hubby must have been sex hungary after the wedding that he has to return back to his mistress who has always been there to give it to him at will. Well this is my advise to you, calmly call him and discuss with him about your discovery and find out why he has to do that. As a virgin to marriage it is obvious you must lack sexual experience, and since you know now that your husband is loves sex, go and work on your sex life, read books that teaches you sexual techniques, find a decent and experienced senior lady to mentor you on the act of sex, then give it to your husband in a way that when other ladies outside offer it free it won't make meaning to him again. Above all, I pray that God will step into your marriage and calm the situation, there shall be restoration in Jesus name. Please be ready to forgive him, I have seen it where the woman forgave the infidelity of the man, it happened to me and my wife forgave me and today several years has passed it has never happen again and it will never again.

angieberry:
Hian!

angieberry:
Like a foolish person once said , "show me a Nigerian man who doesn't cheat".

brownie10:


My relationship with him was very OK up till today. We pray together most times. He is caring. He opens doors sometimes, he pulls out chairs sometimes. He sometimes even cooks when Im at work for us, because though he is better paid, he has wayyyy more time than i do. Just last evening, he came to pick me after work and we went for a date.

Even now, he has gone out to get some things for the house. He was on my neck that we should go together but I just asked him to go ahead while I cook. He could sense something was amiss as he turned and asked me if something was wrong just after he stepped out of the door. He wears his wedding band proudly.

brownie10:


I honestly do not know him to be promiscuous! Yes, he's not perfect.. Yes he has his faults. But promiscuity is one fault I did not find in him.

I guess I just wasnt smart enough. I should have known.

In fact, it was one thing I should have questioned. I should have dug deep. Carried out my investigation on this particular incidence.

coogar:
another cöck & bull story....

cutiesoglam:
Madam, so sorry. Try n do things dt will make u hapi.. Pls don't b sad. Welcome to the Nigerian marriage where most women take bullshit in their matrimonial n look good forming illusions of perfect marriage outside.... My dear, so pple v seen worse. Now is d Tym u want v to define wat u want. U either stay and get used to it and continue praying for him to change or rise above by moving out and start ur life again... Try n remove ur mind from it, na temptation. u talk him abt it. N he might change since u said he loves u n all... Forgive him.. Marriage entails continuous forgiveness..

brownie10:


My relationship with him was very OK up till today. We pray together most times. He is caring. He opens doors sometimes, he pulls out chairs sometimes. He sometimes even cooks when Im at work for us, because though he is better paid, he has wayyyy more time than i do. Just last evening, he came to pick me after work and we went for a date.

Even now, he has gone out to get some things for the house. He was on my neck that we should go together but I just asked him to go ahead while I cook. He could sense something was amiss as he turned and asked me if something was wrong just after he stepped out of the door. He wears his wedding band proudly.

SAMBARRY:
sounds like some of these telemundos I've watched like passions, gardener's daughter, secret of the sand Maria de los Angeles etc all this nl fiction writers sef don't they know the way to wale adenugas office in Oshodi to drop their scripts for the next super story edition

alberto2k:

Chai! Sorry sister we feel your pain. . .

But the basic truth ladies needs to know is; Men are Polygamous in nature

freecocoa:
Small time you two will turn this thread into a battle field, you too like coogar but won't admit it.