Kimoni:
Except you are talking of outliers, the general view is that the higher you go in your career or business, the more money and comfortable you become. But with the word "ultimately" you added, well yes, financial status would even out ultimately but she won't also be young by then.
First, my point is "younger". Secondly Does marrying younger mean your earning cease to grow or your potential goes unfullfilled?

[quote author=Kimoni post=36395308] Right and wrong. Yes, finances and other qualities shouldn't outrightly determine headship but where you are officially ceding your manly responsibilities to your wife, there would be consequences. It's like selling your birthright. I believe this is where feminists get a lot of their strength from

First, there are a number of scenarios and a number of responses;
1. A man provides all
2. A man provides majorly
3. A man provides minorly
4. A woman provides all.

In none of the first 3 does a man have to cede headship due to finances. Yes, it can and does lead to issues, but the mans approach was probably suspect to begin with.

Secondly, whatever the case, there are still women socialised though culture or religion that will not challenge the husbands headship.

As for feminsits, their push for equality is not based on earnings. Otherwise you are saying that feminists only demand equality in marriage where the wife earns as much or more. Independent earnings by a wife help it though.


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naijababe:


Se turenchi! Men oh, woman oh when in heat will do whatever ................accoding to my friends in the romance section konji na bastard. Women at 40 are exhibiting menopausal symptoms? Now you are pulling stuff outta thin air

but do you agree a man @40 is on heat 24/7 provided he's healthy and his female counterpart cannot match his libido?

njokusboy:


dats for boys, doesnt mean they are age mates, else id be age mates with my two brothers.. whaat about my older sister, were she a boy, we'd have been in the same age group..... Are we mates too? or are you attempting to imply that only boys that are 5 years older than any girl are age mates with her and not the other way around?

Calm down

People within 5yrs range was considered age mates irrespective of sex.

A 23yr old lady with a 27yr old guy are still considered in the same age range.

coogar:


but do you agree a man @40 is on heat 24/7 provided he's healthy and his female counterpart cannot match his libido?

Yes.

naijababe:


Not according to Samantha and Miranda in Sex and the City

Do you mind them.

Samantha is a case,i swear.I almost moved to New York because of her.....

Kimoni:
Coogar, matured married sef dey now. Yetunde Bustline is a good example of mature married . (Matured and once married)

And we can see the men flocking to her and how she has her pick of available and unavailable men - oh wait, he left her for a younger woman and never had a long term interest in her to begin! A man her age will still collar a hot young(er) wife.


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edwife:


That 's the problem i have with men, they refuse to acknowledge the fact that women are very much sexually active even after menopause.

Yes most women might experience a decline in their sex drive but it is only temporary. The world has evolve and women are fixing the problem.

Medical treatments are now available, oestrogen creams, pessaries, tablets,lubricants and many more.

MEN shine your EYES.

I saw a thread where a guy asked if ladies had sexual fantasies.

I am sure they are mistaking what the women project to what the women really feel

I hear my senior colleagues talk, I know that older men and women are just kids in adult bodies

bukatyne:


Calm down

People within 5yrs range was considered age mates irrespective of sex.

A 23yr old lady with a 27yr old guy are still considered in the same age range.

is a 28 yy lady same age as a 23 yr dude??

so i am age mates with my older sister...
i have never heard of this one before oh
i think you are wrong

bukatyne:
A 23yr old lady with a 27yr old guy are still considered in the same age range.

Bukatyne please na.

An "age range" can be set at any point one chooses. Like school years are from September to August. "Age mates" is much more narrowly defined and is nowhere given as up to 5 years. Next we will hear those of the same generation are age mates.

To join a regberebge it's range, does not make you all mates.

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coogar:


of course, they are not asexual....
at least they get the itch 3-4 days in a month. men of that age still get the itch on a daily basis. that's the difference!



you would be the first to see that video - i solemnly promise!

@Bold, carry out a survey

bukatyne:




I saw a thread where a guy asked if ladies had sexual fantasies.

I am sure they are mistaking what the women project to what the women really feel

I hear my senior colleagues talk, I know that older men and women are just kids in adult bodies

Reminds of one thread Ileke created on sexual positions, I was very active on thread o. Come and see people begin question me like say I tell them I be Rev. Sis Naijababe

bukatyne:
I hear my senior colleagues talk, I know that older men and women are just kids in adult bodies

Most people stop maturing mentally around age 26. Not long to go now !


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bukatyne:




I saw a thread where a guy asked if ladies had sexual fantasies.

I am sure they are mistaking what the women project to what the women really feel

I hear my senior colleagues talk, I know that older men and women are just kids in adult bodies

I read the thread,one guy even said-any woman who has sexual fantasies is a nymphomaniac .

I died just there......

TV01:

Bukatyne please na.

An "age range" can be set at any point one chooses. Like school years are from September to August. "Age mates" is much more narrowly defined and is nowhere given as up to 5 years. Next we will hear those of the same generation are age mates.

To join a regberebge it's range, does not make you all mates.

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Chisos!!!

edwife:


If it is due to her fault,she won't be needing sex but if it is his,it is difficult but personally i don't like the idea.

I don't know.it 's just that thought of giving pleasure to oneself,no kiss,touch,caresses....ewww

Her fault meaning she has grown fatter and bros has moved on

Difficult however still better than adultery

[quote author=TV01 post=36395569][/quote]

Sincerely, headship shouldn't be depend on finances, even when she provides all. I have a few friends that are temporarily providing all (shit happens) and it's still not affecting the headship but they will rather not be in that situation. Hence, it should never be permanent.

As long as a woman is working, there is no way the man will be said to providing all. The "miscellaneous" she is using her money for sef in the house could be more than what the guy is spending. And that's why I keep saying providing the basic needs is what matters and not having to officially share that part of the finances with a woman.

For the feminist part, I hear them say anybody can do anything at home, there shouldn't be any role associated to anybody. So where she is able to and runs the home, majorly or totally, then the headship is naturally compromised which is also one of their stands. (Pls don't response to this feminist part, it's not my intention to bring that subject up).

TV01:

And we can see the men flocking to her and how she has her pick of available and unavailable men - oh wait, he left her for a younger woman and never had a long term interest in her to begin! A man her age will still collar a hot young(er) wife.

TV

. She is an outlier jor

(you have taught me to blow grammar when required )

Kimoni:


But sincerely Damiso, I would not also have married a jobless person oo and even while dating in school, I had to satisfy myself of your potentials. But the funny thing is I got married to my age mate and I never ever dated anyone that was over a year older than me. I never even gave it a thought to date someone much older, maybe they never came my way sha. I met people from my classes, youth meetings and Orientation camp. But it still didn't change the fact that whoever I was going to get married to would be able to provide at least the basic needs for his family, not that his plan in life will be to provide meat and ask me to buy pepper.

I was just trying to highlight that times are changing and men are beginning to look at the earning potential of their future wives. These same guys were in Unilag,Osu etc at weekends but would most likely prefer earning wives.

I also don't think its wise to marry a jobless person.

It depends on who comes your way jare .and the individuals involved. I know couples with different age differential( and even one where the wife is older ) and I think its more about meeting that person that complements you.

TV01:

As for feminsits, their push for equality is not based on earnings. Otherwise you are saying that feminists only demand equality in marriage where the wife earns as much or more. Independent earnings by a wife help it though.

But that's usually the underlying reason for their fight. Didn't the fight actually start from the demand for "equal pay for similar work" ish?

Kimoni:


. She is an outlier jor

(you have taught me to blow grammar when required )

Which outlier? If Yetunde bustline was a big girl pocketwise, Tunde woulda gone nowhere. Na dashed expectations make the man run jare

His response to her was all about how she is on benefits and whatever else

damiso:


I was just trying to highlight that times are changing and men are beginning to look at the earning potential of their future wives. These same guys were in Unilag,Osu etc at weekends but would most likely prefer earning wives.

I also don't think its wise to marry a jobless person.

It depends on who comes your way jare .and the individuals involved. I know couples with different age differential( and even one where the wife is older ) and I think its more about meeting that person that complements you.

Sure I got you.

I know quite a few too oo and you wouldn't even know. Don't mind TV jare. If all men were like TV, so many women will not be married in this world. His list is endless - single mothers, matured singles, matured married...widows and divorces should not even bother...awon aye

naijababe:


Which outlier? If Yetunde bustline was a big girl pocketwise, Tunde woulda gone nowhere. Na dashed expectations make the man run jare

His response to her was all about how she is on benefits and whatever else

Nahhhhh

What if all tunde wanted from the onset was to get his stay even if she was as rich as dangote?

He would have still gone ahead to divorce her and get paid for the years they stayed together.

He probably never really loved her and used her to get whatever he was after and it doesn't help that his new chic is way more younger than the old one

jaybee3:
But that's usually the underlying reason for their fight. Didn't the fight actually start from the demand for "equal pay for similar work" ish?

Two slightly different things. Earnings in marriage against pay in the workforce. Earnings in marriage is not what predicates the feminsit push for equality in marriage. It's an absolute, they do not beleive a man should lead.

A "gender" pay gap due to structural faults/bias is discriminatory. Equal work for equal pay. But any structural impediments have been removed a long-time ago, and any pay gap is now due to womens choices, not discrimination.


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naijababe:

Which outlier? If Yetunde bustline was a big girl pocketwise, Tunde woulda gone nowhere. Na dashed expectations make the man run jare
His response to her was all about how she is on benefits and whatever else

you people wont kee me

That yetunde bustline sef no try the guy even had pot belly yuk yuk eewwwww

naijababe:


Which outlier? If Yetunde bustline was a big girl pocketwise, Tunde woulda gone nowhere. Na dashed expectations make the man run jare

His response to her was all about how she is on benefits and whatever else

Ase damo. TV taught me something yesterday ni, anytime I am about to be cornered in an argument, I should just blow one grammar and dagbaru the whole thing

Kaka komode pami layo...


But seriously, she is an outlier

damiso:



you people wont kee me

That yetunde bustline sef no try the guy even had pot belly yuk yuk eewwwww

Excuse me If it wasn't what the guy was after - papers acording to Jaybee- she could not have snared him in the first place. Belly is not a disqualifier for men . Isn't the new woman younger and hotter. The bro' has some sort of status. You lot won't gree me !


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damiso:



you people wont kee me

That yetunde bustline sef no try the guy even had pot belly yuk yuk eewwwww

She tried for her type.She is not good looking and not so rich so she had to limit her choice.

Which six pack handsome chap will go for her?

TV01:

Excuse me If it wasn't what the guy was after - papers acording to Jaybee- she could not have snared him in the first place. Belly is not a disqualifier for men . Isn't the new woman younger and hotter. The bro' has some sort of status. You lot won't gree me !

TV

The new woman is younger but not hotter...for real

jaybee3:


Nahhhhh

What if all tunde wanted from the onset was to get his stay even if she was as rich as dangote?

He would have still gone ahead to divorce her and get paid for the years they stayed together.

He probably never really loved her and used her to get whatever he was after and it doesn't help that his new chic is way more younger than the old one

If that was what he wanted how would have married her, I personally think it was more about money given that Tunde's almost washed up career is now non-existent.

damiso:

you people wont kee me
That yetunde bustline sef no try the guy even had pot belly yuk yuk eewwwww

I tire for the woman o, she shoulda taken a lesson from the likes of MEE Mofe Damijo on how to be a cougar and be successful at it

Kimoni:

The new woman is younger but not hotter...for real

I thought I was the only one that wanted to question the hotter part. Bustline even with her koroba hairdo is slamming in comparison to his new beau

Kimoni:


Sure I got you.

I know quite a few too oo and you wouldn't even know. Don't mind TV jare. If all men were like TV, so many women will not be married in this world. His list is endless - single mothers, matured singles, matured married...widows and divorces should not even bother...awon aye

it's a market. I help men properly package, price and market their goods. All things being equal, why would you advise your brother to marry a single mum or a divorccee or an older woman Part 2 is coming.


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edwife:


She tried for her type.She is not good looking and not so rich so she had to limit her choice.

Which six pack handsome chap will go for her?

She is not good looking?? She is very pretty to me ooo

Pls don't look at that crying video alone. That was her worst state that should never have gotten out to the public. The guy is so silly.

Kimoni:
The new woman is younger but not hotter...for real

My sister, younger is necessarily hotter !


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