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Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by gidjah(m): 8:29pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
I keep telling parents these,and won't stop until our kids get pretty toughened by circumstances |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by Nobody: 8:34pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
OP...this is a lovely write up. this post is also multifaceted, however i will treat your post as such. this post is for the elites, polithiefcians, civil stealers e.t.c who has for many years been destroying this beautiful country for many years through their action and inactions to the extent that most of the public facilities such as tertiary institutions, hospitals, schools are in such a decripit and decadent condition. every where you turn you see chaos and things not working normally. for the records situation of the country instead of improving is getting worse esp in the public sector, take for example in the 80s and 70s, a primary school cert holder could communicate in english properly and was capable of writing a good letter. but now a graduate cannot even spell their name. if the head of leaders of this great country was correct by now pupils and student should have been sitting to recieve learning and instruction from air conditioned classes. they should not be sitting on the ground or walking barefoot for kilometres like their father did. you talked about summer jobs, where are the jobs in this country in the first place, what you are saying are obtainable only in countries that work. this post again is for the children of these elites 1 Like |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by Esdb3: 8:44pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Biliamin: That is just the side of life the writer is seeing. Kylie Jenner owns a ferrari. Birdman's daughter owns one and a bmw xseries. Bill Gates bought a mansion for his daughter so she'll be closer to the town she plays polo at and she is 17 thereabout. I hate it when Nigerians write shittttsss with a spark in their context. Feeling like they are offering something major. More like mansplaining things to other Nigerians. Where is the sense in the write-up please? Flying first class makes you what? Instead of addressing the real issue of parents not teaching their kids not to be greedy, staying home and not being all about business, scolding them when they tell a lie, allowing others to correct them by not being overprotective and pampering. Teaching kids values. This is rubbish!! So parents should not help their kids? If they get the job will the parents work for them? How many kids are jobs hunted for? How does this even apply to a Nigeria where rich people are hard to find? Hell parents should send their kids to substandard schools they went to so they won't appear to be suffering the 'not wanting their kids to suffer what they suffered' syndrome. If their was a forum for just rich people then this rubbish is meaningful. FxDuke 4 Likes |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by emsheddy(m): 8:46pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Biliamin Sir, God bless you for this wonderful piece. Am glad I was raised to earn every penny in my pocket. The bad thing is that these are the same parents looting the future of our unborn kids away through stealing of our national cake. I am so scared of naija as we speak because the gap between the rich and the poor, has stopped being a gap a long time ago. It is now a continent. If we couldn't bridge a gap, how do we bridge a continent? God help us....Thanks once again. Respect infinito! |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by sonnie10: 9:01pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
bla bla bla! hard work this, hard work that, where is the work self in Nigeria to start with? In all honesty, I won't send my child to go do petrol attendant all in the name of working, if I am rich. Modesty should be the key word. For example, Obasonjo's daughter is a PhD holder working in US, Atiku's daughter is a medical doctor working in a hospital in Abuja, Achebe's son is the MD of a clinic in the US. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by Topman0001(m): 9:07pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
ladyF: I think Rich parents are caring and jealously protective- infact, i'll say over protective towards their children. My dad is not very rich but still, he's not poor. He's one of the few parents that wants his children to learn being hard working and coping with any current condition. Despite the cars in his yard, he did not give me any, mummy pleaded bot dad was firm with his' NO' i collected mum's SUV and was doing big boy during my school time. When t'was time for NYSC, i had to return mum's car, now struggling begings. After my service year, I got a small job with a construction firm as a site Engr, now i've learnt to live on the little i earn, i cook for myself as a bachellor and no more giving my dirty cloths to dry cleaner. My parents are proud, my company is proud of my hardwork and commitment. I disliked my dad and called my upbringing a millitary training. For the sake of this post alone, i forgive my dad today. 6 Likes |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by sundayslim(m): 9:11pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
missdebs:This babe fine abeg |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by SmartMugu: 9:34pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
I'm surprised to hear that even the queen in the UK flies commercial flights. I'm not sure if that makes any sense for security reasons particularly. Certain things that work in the UK or the US will definitely not work elsewhere. Is it greed or something? I'm sure the royal family can afford the convenience of a dedicated means of transportation. |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by spill(m): 9:40pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
This is what I call rich and educative article. |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by lepasharon(f): 9:42pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
blank: Na wa o ! Who originally wrote this article ? |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by Nobody: 10:11pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
i have read this article before... 1 Like |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by saggat2(m): 10:24pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Good writeup. It is good to give our kids a better life than we had but we should be mindful in doing it. The british royals are trained from birth to live a modest life and their system see to it that public servants live a modest life. I know some wealthy Nigerian parents out there that actually teach their kids the virtue of hardwork. |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by Nobody: 10:29pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Mbkite:@ ur moniker, seems u are a product of PS mbk |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by avaa(m): 10:33pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
dearpreye: Yea bro. The principle of hardwork is simply the key to real success. Nigeria has the potential to rule Africa, but sadly, we can't attain that feat if we continue like this. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by sleekymag(m): 10:37pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Biliamin: The OP isn't the originator of this write up. I have come across it before. Anyways ww can relate to most of the points stated, and can say it's food for thought. 1 Like |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by thegoodone2(m): 10:44pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
ladyF:Why only you this LADY F? is like i am falling in lost for u oooo |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by Nobody: 10:55pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
too much of anything is bad |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by Ugosample(m): 11:16pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
The punchline here is to teach your kids hard work, to value things and be grateful. That is the most important. I don't believe in depriving my child the perks of my sweat, they would fly first class conditionally, etc. Teaching them hardwork is the most important. The method differs. |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by Bowaley17(m): 11:17pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
Huuuh... I dont pray my children to pass through what am going through now. I have to hustle hard,so they dont suffer. Though i have to let them know what it takes to provide for them too. |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by verygudbadguy(m): 11:45pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
[quote author=Esdb3 post=37166805] That is just the side of life the writer is seeing. Kylie Jenner owns a ferrari. Birdman's daughter owns one and a bmw xseries. Bill Gates bought a mansion for his daughter so she'll be closer to the town she plays polo at and she is 17 thereabout. I hate it when Nigerians write shittttsss with a spark in their context. Feeling like they are offering something major. More like mansplaining things to other Nigerians. Where is the sense in the write-up please? Flying first class makes you what? Instead of addressing the real issue of parents not teaching their kids not to be greedy, staying home and not being all about business, scolding them when they tell a lie, allowing others to correct them by not being overprotective and pampering. Teaching kids values. This is rubbish!! So parents should not help their kids? If they get the job will the parents work for them? How many kids are jobs hunted for? How does this even apply to a Nigeria where rich people are hard to find? Hell parents should send their kids to substandard schools they went to so they won't appear to be suffering the 'not wanting their kids to suffer what they suffered' syndrome. If their was a forum for just rich people then this rubbish is meaningful. FxDuke[/quote I don't usually use abusive words in my post but I think this nite can be pardoned. You wrote as an uneducated fella yet u know what's happening in d country. Pls, re-read d OP's post again. The rate of decadence in Naija is immeasurable. The rich ones have so spoilt their children that it has become so glaring that they have no mercy for the "have-nots". God bless the OP. 1 Like |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by lordhugo(m): 11:48pm On Aug 20, 2015 |
This thread has been on the front page before by another poster ages ago. Word for word! The original article is 'parenting in Nigeria' by Tolu Ayorinde. This is a mere copy and paste and while not disagreeing with any of the points "copied", I think the op of this thread should quote the former. Shalom. |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by DocAdray(f): 12:00am On Aug 21, 2015 |
Great piece OP. Awesome! |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by NEROSKY(m): 12:28am On Aug 21, 2015 |
Atlantian: You need cognitive therapy 1 Like |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by Esdb3: 1:16am On Aug 21, 2015 |
[quote author=verygudbadguy post=37172102][/quote] I wrote like an illiterate? Well illiteracy does not mean one lacks wisdom. Your reply is a proof that education is not wisdom. Did I reply otherwise? Did you not see me ask that parents their wards not to be greedy? I simply simpleton, meant that the thread does not belong here! It shouldn't be directed to all Nigerians like it is. Jonathan was poor from birth, Obasanjo too, Buhari too, Atiku also and even Abacha. How does the write-up address these people? |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by Atlantian: 2:01am On Aug 21, 2015 |
NEROSKY:That is a new grammar you just learnt. And you are looking for how to express it. |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by Mcslize: 2:44am On Aug 21, 2015 |
Atlantian: Ya the piece is gibberish only to a myopic slow thinker |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by Nobody: 4:04am On Aug 21, 2015 |
kingstylo01: & if your children fly,what would become of your grandchildren¿ |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by Enki40(m): 4:22am On Aug 21, 2015 |
I totally agree with this informative piece of writing. But then, some questions pop up in my mind. Which industry or parastatal in our present Nigeria would employ a university undergraduate, let alone an SSCE graduate? I know some people work while in the university, but most of them are those who already have either a diploma or an OND and are only furthering their education to get their B.SC or BA. Industralization and socio economic infrastructures need to be put in place for these kind of situations to start taking place in Nigeria. So many graduates are roaming about the streets every day in search of jobs, and an undergraduate or O' level holder will get a job? Let's not deceive ourselves. Let's call a spade a spade... these countries that have such platforms for people to work during vacation have put what's meant to drive such ideas in place. Is it the UK(which you have mentioned) or America, where I have friends who travel there WITHOUT any credential, yet they find jobs. Not in Nigeria, unless the SSCE holder doesn't mind working as a "loader" at block industries, Dangote Cement, paint factories etc. The only reliable place I know someone can work "somehow comfortably" during vacation as an SSCE graduate or university undergraduate are shopping malls which have just started growing in Nigeria, and some few pharmacies - though they won't be employed to dispense drugs as this is solely for pharmacy undergraduates or graduates, they will be employed in their variety stores to sell provisions and the likes. But you're spot on as regards other issues like the difference in the cars wealthy people overseas drive and the ones we drive here in Nigeria - as most of their wealth here were gotten from dubious means. Also, that of a wealthy man's child looking for a job and already hoping to be well paid. You're right about these points. Thanks for sharing, I've learnt a whole deal already. Bless. Biliamin: |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by Mbkite(m): 5:58am On Aug 21, 2015 |
Castroii:Exactly |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by Ewuro4: 5:58am On Aug 21, 2015 |
sonnie10: Tell dem jor |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by Ewuro4: 6:34am On Aug 21, 2015 |
sauceny: SOAR |
Re: A Call To Change "My Children Will Not Suffer What I Suffered" Syndrome by mutter(f): 6:53am On Aug 21, 2015 |
A good write up but as someone said above how many Nigerians does this relate to. As regards youths getting a part time job. I would have loved to do that as a student but where and how in Nigeria. In England or America according to the OP youths work but he forgot to mention that there are structures in place for this to happen. Laws that regulate jobs taken by minors, age, hour and nature of job. Also there are jobs available for minors and students in the holidays and there are opportunities to get at those jobs. The also the pay is worth the job. MY son at 19 has a part time job in the holidays and he is going to have about 2000 Euro at the end of the holidays. As a student it wouldn't be taxed so he gets to keep the whole amount. I also have to add that the cost of cloths and feeding in Euro is much cheaper than in Nigeria - if you compare this with the amount of money they have access too. Also the standard of living for the youths is much higher because the infra structures are simply in place. If the Nigerian Government would put all the facilities in place parent`s wouldn`t be in this dilemma. |
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