nairalander2015:
tanks alot... The first option.. Is a no no.. It seems itz normal.. Spoke with youth pastor.. Only said itz "out of fear".. But i wonder.. I dnt look like a badboy or one who will

And do u know what? That first point will be the lead way out of your depression u need to firstly know maybe that is what ur pastor NOT the youth pastor o is teaching parents in the church its when u try that and didn't work out u go for this one u like. But let me tell u the word FREEDOM is not a childs play to get irrespective of the area u want to take it from mine lasted for more than 3yrs with my MOTHER so be fully prepared

@Nairalander2015

You feel depressed because you suppress your anger. I would be very angry if I were you. It is time for you to disengage from your family. You are almost there. You are at university now and once you get a job, you are free. You have something to look forward to.

stevesharon:
Just take it easy! I can understand your pains butu have to be patient with them so that u don't lose focus in life! Keep bearing wat ever ur parents are doing to u and be rest assured that u are not going to be wit them forever! One day u shall grow up and become a man of ur own.

if you push a cow and the end of the wall it will bounce at you.

the best solution here is to provoke at his parents! let them fight to hell and make the community see that he have a dangerous parent even worse than boko haram. and see if the stupidity of the parent won't reduce

Having similar issues but I've moved with my life can't destroy or kill myself Cox of them. Jesus got my back. Life is a personal thing. Think of a right way forward for ur life nd just move on. Bear no grudges with anyone but stay clear nd pray for a change. Somehow this is partly how I've been handling mine. Godremainsfaithful@alltimes.

jjwaterfalls:
Pray about about it. fast and pray for at least 3days. Cry to God about it and i tell u, he will answer.

fasting and prayer is useless without action .



My opinion tho

Everyone is supporting you and you think you are right. The fact is that you were born in Deeper life but you are not yet born again. That's why it's almost impossible for you bend down, obey your parents and serve the Lord. Your parents want the best for you but you are a rebellious child that wants to follow the way of the world. Both of your parents can't be wrong and you are here proving yourself right. Many of us wished we were born in Deeper life with good moderation void of youthful waywardness and rascality and the fortunate one is crying foul.
Surrender your life to Jesus and obey your parents in the Lord. At last you will value the good way your parents have trained you. Some of us are still regretting why we never had such protective parents!

Bro i understand how you feel, but there's a way you can manage the situation effectively. Since tgey have people monitoring you in school, attend their fellowships but you can decide to be absent minded. Then you csn aswell catch all the fun you want in school, date aby girl you want but make sure you make gud grades. When you graduate and start working you show them the other side of you. But for now you can't survive without there assistance. I know of a girl who's dad is a deeper life pastor but she wears Brazil hair n bumshots in skul, she even clubs, but ehen shr is going home she will unplsit her hair n wear long gowns at home. One more thing you must go home during breaks, tell dem you have assignments n other things to do in school. Goodluck bro, dont commit suicide, its just a matter of time.

Wharrappened? No end-time on f.p

Bro i understand how you feel, but there's a way you can manage the situation effectively. Since they have people monitoring you in school, attend their fellowships but you can decide to be absent minded. Then you can aswell catch all the fun you want in school, date any girl you want but make sure you make gud grades. When you graduate and start working you show them the other side of you. But for now you can't survive without there assistance. I know of a girl who's dad is a deeper life pastor but she wears Brazil hair n bumshots in skul, she even clubs, but when she is going home she will unplait her hair n wear long gowns at home. One more thing you must not go home during breaks, tell dem you have assignments n other things to do in school. Goodluck bro, dont commit suicide, its just a matter of time.

two wrongs dont make a right. Even your parents know that heaven would not be only populated by deeper lifers and that not all deeper lifers would even get to heaven. I would not ask you to rebel or take your life, I would just advise that you prayerfully endure and make up your mind when the time is right about where and how you would want to serve your Maker. Once you are out of their care and custody, they cant stop you.
I agree that mummy might be acting out of fear and panic. All moms may not be like Ben Carsons mom but never doubt her best-intentions for you even if she fails to express it in the best way. Dont stop honoring and giving them their due respect because your length of life depends on it. And dont give suicide a second or third thought, because the devil will ensure to grant your wish.
God help you to follow his banner my dear.

PEOPLE SAY TRUTH IS BITTER BUT IT MUST BE SAID.THE FACT IS THAT YOU MUST FIRST OF ALL ACCEPT JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR LORD AND PERSONAL SAVIOR.YOU MUST BE BORN AGAIN FIRST.IF NOT,YOU WILL NOT APPRECIATE YOUR PARENTS.THANK GOD FOR YOUR PARENTS ALWAYS.THEY ARE GOOD PARENTS.I BECAME BORN AGAIN BY THE GRACE OF GOD AND DEEPER LIFE WAS INSTRUMENTAL TO MY SPIRITUAL GROWTH.I WILL FOREVER BE GRATEFUL TO GOD AND DEEPER LIFE.WHENEVER I REMINISCE,I ALWAYS GIVE THANKS TO GOD.THROUGH DEEPER LIFE,I CAME ACROSS THE BIBLE VERSE WHICH IS JOSHUA 1 VERSE 8.TODAY I THANK GOD BECAUSE GOD HAS BLESSED ME GREATLY ALL BECAUSE I BECAME BORN AGAIN EARLY AT 18 YEARS IN 1991 AND BECAUSE I OBEYED MY PARENTS.NOW I HAVE SUCCESS THAT MANY OLD MEN DO NOT HAVE.BY THE GRACE OF GOD,I HAVE SOME PROPERTY THAT ARE BEYOND MY POWER.NOW I HAVE HOUSES AND OTHER THINGS.READ MATTHEW 6 VERSE 33.I PRAY THIS WRITE UP LEAD TO YOUR SALVATION IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS AMEN.

minasota:
1) proverbs 22:6
New International Version
Start children off on the way they should go,
and even when they are old they will not turn
from it.

2) proverbs 13:24
New International Version
Whoever spares the rod hates their children,
but the one who loves their children is careful
to discipline them.

Op is under demonic attack, and needs deliverance

Fanatic Alert!

I don't even know what to say to you, but you know being under demonic attack is better than being under another man's bondage right?

Nigerians are unbelievable, denying your child care because he failed to attend "midweek fellowship", I can imagine what that guy is passing through. Threatening to disown him if he ever marries someone that wears wigs, what kind of man does not want to give his kid rope to grow and become his own man? It's laughable, meanwhile the daddy G.O's son married a model, why are some people too blind to see?

I wish you'd give birth to rebellious kids so that you'd know it takes the grace of God not some punitive deeper life measures to raise a child.

nairalander2015:
Good day nairaland.
As I write this... I am depressed, simply depressed.. If suicide led to heaven mayb i would have been a victim.
Truly itz nt everyone who smiles that is happy.
MY story
I was born into a deeper life family 20yrs ago.. And I can say i regret being born into deeper life.. I would ave preferred been converted there than being born there.
My travails started in secondary school.. Wen i failed to attend a fellowship, my mum talked harshly, slapped me an said i was a dishes disgrace.. Just because i failed to attend a school fellowship.. And I knew that I wasn't a bad kid.. Jes the gentle type.. Since then it has been bad... When others celebrate their mum.. I can't.. I am as far from my parents as anything.. Jes because they are deeperlifers.. I can't seat comfortably with my parents.. Cos of principles. Next was the battle concerning trousers.. She woke me up one black night with a thundering slap over a slim trouser.. Imagine dat was @16.. I cried and cried dat day.. Dat God made a mistake borning me in deeper life... Jes because i walked with a girl.. She banned me from going out..
Even at a young age... Threatened me that she"ll disown me if I marry a lady who wears wigs, trousers.. Omg.. Now.. I am in the university.. I never want to go home. I hate home.. I am depressed.. So so depressed.. My dad didn't send me any cash for a month cos a friend told him I failed to attend a midweek service.. Imagine.. Yet i am not rebellious. I know fellow guys like me who had big problems with their children but they were rebellious.. But i am not
I feel depressed writing this.. Spirituality without love is a disaster.. Aw i wish i wasn't born to a deeper life's family.. Itz a curse.. I am tired.. Itz threat all the time. I am not close to my parents.. Imagine.. Seems i should just die.. I now see my mum as a enemy.. Anytime i see her i am sad.. Talks too much about simple things in a bad manner quoting Bible over needless things.. Watching ball outside is a sin.. Visiting friends is a nono.. Cos they are highly placed in the church.. Yet no one to share my burdens with.. So sad... Yet they think i am happy..i know many out there experience something similar but are helples.. Oh God have mercy on me.. Itz calamitous to be the child of a fanatic especially if you don't wanna be a fanatic also.... Advice pls.. What can I do? So so depressed.. Feel like dieing to be reborn elsewhere

ur age is usually associated with freedom seeking and dat is exactly what u r doing.ur parents are extremist,it's so unfortunate but they r not totally wrong.see things frm their own perspective as being protective n caring and work hard twds ur education for it ur weapon of liberation.Do also b mindful of friends u keep n sections u visit on NL so it doesn't spur u on.be gud.

You said you areman undergraduate (in the university), if so.
Rejoice, for your freedom is near.

I will say, it's sorry you have such fanatics as parents, denying you of financial right is evil itself.

My advise is this, dance to their tune for the remaining years you have with them, work hard in your academics.
Soon you will be independent.

Manage till marriage....don't allow proposal from d same church

Benoxvals:
Deeper life members are funny sometimes,their way of serving God is beyond my comprehension...they practice Christianity in a military kind of way and some of their rules are way too funny.Some of the rules which includes--
A member MUST marry a member(they are so serious about this one).
No celebration of birthdays but they sponsor it.
No celebration of Xmas.
The day a friend invited me to their church,I was told that I will not be sitting with my friend at the main church because he is a full member but am not..I was like WTF!! and a bunch of funny reasons where given to me to back up their actions.
O.P,read the Bible very well and you will see that there is no aggressiveness in the modern Christianity and there is no military kind of rule.
You know your rights from wrong,good from bad and it's all about your Head,eyes and your heart(what u think,sees and what you decide to do).
At this point,all you need is ENDURANCE until you are independent enough to make your own decisions and back them up(it will get easier with time).

the longer you endure that pain, the more you will most likely think of evil way to deal with it.


deal with this kind of people by doing the opposite things and provoking on them with serious anger, and if it escalate let the same STVPID church intervene, no parents will want to be corrected at the church cause there believe it is a shame.

but nowadays, the church are even more STVPID than anything.....

so I advance he change denomination and become a black sheep in this case.

nairalander2015:
Good day nairaland.
As I write this... I am depressed, simply depressed.. If suicide led to heaven mayb i would have been a victim.
Truly itz nt everyone who smiles that is happy.
MY story
I was born into a deeper life family 20yrs ago.. And I can say i regret being born into deeper life.. I would ave preferred been converted there than being born there.
My travails started in secondary school.. Wen i failed to attend a fellowship, my mum talked harshly, slapped me an said i was a dishes disgrace.. Just because i failed to attend a school fellowship.. And I knew that I wasn't a bad kid.. Jes the gentle type.. Since then it has been bad... When others celebrate their mum.. I can't.. I am as far from my parents as anything.. Jes because they are deeperlifers.. I can't seat comfortably with my parents.. Cos of principles. Next was the battle concerning trousers.. She woke me up one black night with a thundering slap over a slim trouser.. Imagine dat was @16.. I cried and cried dat day.. Dat God made a mistake borning me in deeper life... Jes because i walked with a girl.. She banned me from going out..
Even at a young age... Threatened me that she"ll disown me if I marry a lady who wears wigs, trousers.. Omg.. Now.. I am in the university.. I never want to go home. I hate home.. I am depressed.. So so depressed.. My dad didn't send me any cash for a month cos a friend told him I failed to attend a midweek service.. Imagine.. Yet i am not rebellious. I know fellow guys like me who had big problems with their children but they were rebellious.. But i am not
I feel depressed writing this.. Spirituality without love is a disaster.. Aw i wish i wasn't born to a deeper life's family.. Itz a curse.. I am tired.. Itz threat all the time. I am not close to my parents.. Imagine.. Seems i should just die.. I now see my mum as a enemy.. Anytime i see her i am sad.. Talks too much about simple things in a bad manner quoting Bible over needless things.. Watching ball outside is a sin.. Visiting friends is a nono.. Cos they are highly placed in the church.. Yet no one to share my burdens with.. So sad... Yet they think i am happy..i know many out there experience something similar but are helples.. Oh God have mercy on me.. Itz calamitous to be the child of a fanatic especially if you don't wanna be a fanatic also.... Advice pls.. What can I do? So so depressed.. Feel like dieing to be reborn elsewhere

Same thing here bro... No one to share ma thoughts with... They only kinda thinkbof their prestige rather than our happiness

op u big end time pikin?

musicwriter:


How old are you?

Why not discuss with your parents all these things you've said?. Your parents are overzealous christians and probably are missing the point of belief in God. If you could say your age it would help me figure out the best advise for you.

he is 20 yrs old according to his write up

All the comments above is somehow unfair to me, sorry for your pains op, am not a fanatic rather a pagan, I thought the Bible says we should train our Child in the way . Of the Lord, when he grow up he will not depart from it, poster,, don't see your parent as wicked souls, I think they are moulding you, I know most readers will castigate me but that wouldn't stop me from telling you my mind. By the way I think you are a xtian like to them. Attending, fellowship shouldn't be your problem, and I also guess that you need to reach a certain age, level before doing some things like making female partner, one step after the other. Always make hay while sun is shining.

Ama80:
ur age is usually associated with freedom seeking and dat is exactly what u r doing.ur parents are extremist,it's so unfortunate but they r not totally wrong.see things frm their own perspective as being protective n caring and work hard twds ur education for it ur weapon of liberation.Do also b mindful of friends u keep n sections u visit on NL so it doesn't spur u on.be gud.

you are a woman! you can see things at anybody perspective and adjust to it, we are dealing with a man who always see things in a LOGICAL way. you can't say let a man adjust to something that won't suit him, the longer a man endure WHAT don't suit him the more likely he will become miserable and the more likely he become miserable, the more he will bounce that miserable on his family with harsh way and very brutal


look the world most suicide attempt or who commit suicide the most and you will find out that men do it more than the female, and you know why!

frustration!.

one thing you WOMEN don't know is that when training a child both male and female, you train them differently!

op, now lemme drop my advise.

Just play along with their religious dictatorship until you are COMFORTABLY INDEPENDENT off them.

Dats being smart.

While you are doing that, build your life based on the best moral values that life can offer.

Because that is what will make you stand out of the crowd tomorrow.

Donald Duke did not become an exceptional governor in recent years due to RELIGION.

MORAL VALUES did the magic.

If you doubt me, go and find out for yourself. Its a free world.

What we have nowadays are RELIGIOUS PARENTS USING THEIR CHILDREN TO SCORE HEAVENLY POINTS FOR THEMSELVES.

Once you are on your own, you are now free to air your mind to them; that is if you still feel like.

Cos you might not even want to allow the memories of the past disturb you.

More strenght to you, brooo!!!!

your world is bigger than ur mum,
your world is bigger than your horrible bosss
your world is bigger than anyone.

The world is too big to quit because of a mortal because one day you shall all depart.

firstly I'm NOT happy that I'm commenting at the tail end Og the fourth page, because I've been through the op's current experience - same deeper lyf parents - and it also built a bridge between my mother and I.

Back to the crux of the matter: the only solution now is to play along, be patient, pretend like you are on their side of religious fanatism, quote scriptures to them at every given opportunity to buttress any point, prove to them that you know as much as they know and even better - remember, to catch a monkey, you have to behave like a monkey. they probably have been policing you around and asking others to snoop on you because you have shown them signs of an infidel - signs that you do want to live by their doctrines - and they are ready to fight and frustrate you to a stand still. intact if you are a good pretender, and anyone comes reporting you, they'll NOT believe that person and might never even ask you whether such allegations are true - they'll simply dismiss it as false.

All you should do now is pretend to conform, so you can get all you need in terms of finance and resources to graduate. make sure you finish well with a Google grade and then, Get a GOOD job, after which you show them your true colour - also make them realise that you have for long tolerated their excessive whimsical and religious control - its time to stand as a man! - Turn the tables around

At 20 you can make your own decisions.... But my advice is, Don't you ever regret being a part of that family, that will be telling God what to do... You can be that agent of change, try and discover why you had to be in that family and the records you need to set straight... Remember this, the name of your church is not a criteria for making Heaven, but believing on the finished work is... God loves you.

Don't use nairaland for promoting Biafra........ I ll caption your article 9 on the media....... So no more freedom of speech .......... Bann me I ll create a thousand account in this your motherfucking forum...

Bros, really sorry abt ur situation.I can imagine wht u r going thru. D way ppl quote bible verses these days mk me ask myself whether I am a christian at all. Bt I am. Cos I hv seen many elders n sunday school teachers that will hv front row ticket to hell. That's if we follow wht we hv been taught since we knew jonah was in d belly of a fish for 3days. That's for religious matters. Hope u understand my drift. As per u, was 17yrs old when I had an issue when someone told me to BE A MAN. Pls u hv to be a man. Don't let d money they send to u hold u back. I hated my dad cos of disciplinary issues. Bt now he doesn't take a decision wtout asking my opinion. Pls reason like a man. If u know where u r going, d end is wht matters. D world mks way for d person who knows where he is going. Good luck

I was born into a catholic home. You cannot miss Sunday mass for anything. In 2001, I got tired and I refused to go for mass, though I was afraid of what my dad will say. As soon as my dad got back, he screened "why did you not go to church?" I told him point blank for the first time, "I am tired, I cannot continue to do the same thing over and over again. If God is God, all the once I have been doing from birth, should be sufficient for my life time"

He was shocked and today, I attend the church I attend now genuinely and not by parental choice.

You are even lucky to be born in a christain home if you were a Muslim and you want to change, do you know the level of persecution you will go through?

So, confront your parent with love. Tell them that you are just going to church because of them and that theyshoukd learn from the redeem guy that butchered his dad because of morning prayers.

Tell them that you want to serve God genuinely and not by fear of them. Don't be depressed.

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Sijo01:
I'll advise you pay her pastor a visit and pour your heart out to him or her just as you did here.



Be strong n clear suicidal thought out of your head.

wrong move!

you can't just meet the overhead madness and start pouring your heart. it won't work.

unless he is at another denomination

doveda:


You are a liar

Westerners are more likely to follow simple instructions than Africans

Keep deceiving yourself with that BS. I hope your children do not turn out to hate you.

You are now telling me what i know? No need arguing with you then, if you already feel I'm lying. If not for reasons, i could have given you numbers of my ex co workers to call and confirm it by yourself.
Yes westerner follow instructions,but which type? My Chef instructed everyone not to smoke in a certain places, yet some keep smoking there and got fired by my chef.Don,t answer calls during working time,they disobeyed. He told everyone too when you know you won't be able to come to work for example tomorrow, make sure you call earlier to inform him, yet they disobeyed. You are talking rubbish here calling me a liar.
The only instructions they keep is (time).Or anything that will bring them ilto jail full stop. I hope you do watch football and see how they set fire in stadiums? Are they not introductions given to them not to do so? Like as i said earlier no need arguing with you.

black man, devils offspring, naturaly endowed with wickedness, dishonesty,and stupidity.christianity in the dark continent is now turned to wickedness and greed...God dosent even like us while we are here wasting our precious time deceiving ourselves worshiping man of God...cursed race...

VivianBlogs:
This is serious but bro, you need Grace

they no want make him follow girls. Grace might cause another thing. Mayb he needs daniel instead.