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Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by GraceBestowed(f): 6:47pm On Jan 05, 2016
This is a great read!

Too many women depend on men financially for NO reason. They expect from a man what they cannot provide for themselves. This is why most of them marry guys for the wrong reasons. Many girls find it hard to spend on their spouses, when they have the money; why, because 'it's the man's responsibility to take care of the woman'. So who will then take care of the man?

Be wise ladies, provide for yourselves and don't expect anything from a man. If he does provide for you financially, it will be a bonus not a necessity!

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Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by kelvyn7: 6:48pm On Jan 05, 2016
bookworm07:
Still waitin for a lady to kick against dis thread, make i use plank scatter her back

grin grin grin
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by ladyF(f): 6:50pm On Jan 05, 2016
Jelo4kul:
If ladyF can be independent, I see no reason why other spinsters shouldn't be?
Lol. True tho. There's no money like your own money at the ene of the day. But awoof money sweet sha, make I no lie grin

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Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by Jelo4kul(m): 6:53pm On Jan 05, 2016
ladyF:

Lol. True tho. There's no money like your own money at the ene of the day. But awoof money sweet sha, make I no lie grin

Lolz. @awoof money.
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by Nobody: 6:58pm On Jan 05, 2016
Monalisa185:


so you want to SISTER-ZONE me now abi?
your "personal text" though. :Ddont let that coward get to you.
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by maryhaam(f): 6:58pm On Jan 05, 2016
So onpoint,primitive lady put there life on a guy......work huzzle n support.

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Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by Luukasz(m): 7:00pm On Jan 05, 2016
This are the type of women i admire not women that places all their lives on a mans shoulder.
Most women of nowadays are deadweight all they want is a guy that will provide everything for them up to their panties etc.
Independent women out there *winks* love y'll
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by tosyne2much(m): 7:27pm On Jan 05, 2016
Waiting for lady that has contradictory opinion about this write-up cheesy
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by kaycodes: 7:37pm On Jan 05, 2016
tosyne2much:
Waiting for lady that has contradictory opinion about this write-up cheesy

Bros they all know the truth, and will not counter this write up.

Majority of ladies are now romantic beggers, that's why they don't appreciate the little you can provide, if they work for their own money they will be more appreciative of little things.

Always sitting on the passengers seat of cars and snapping pictures like say na curse to dey drivers seat...

God will deliver then from poorverty.

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Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by babyboss001: 7:42pm On Jan 05, 2016
That is so right even a lady in her right sense nowadays want to b financially independent

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Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by Nobody: 7:43pm On Jan 05, 2016
Toks2008:
It is widely believed that it is a man's responsibility to take care of the lady in his life and in my opinion i see absolutely nothing wrong in this and i always tell any guy that even if his lady makes 1million naira a month,he should still make it a duty to take care of her and give her whatever he can afford to make her feel happy and also to maintain his place as the man hence the need for any real man out there to understand that taking care of your woman is sacrosanct in order to be a real man and not a figure head.

However,it has become very appalling that many ladies have taken this for granted and have put their hope in getting a man who is financially prepared to take care of them and have totally forgotten the fact that they are also expected to be an independent entity and even more worrisome is the ideology of some ladies that they now prefer to be with a man that has "potentials" as though they are totally hopeless in getting the best out of life.

This write up is not for greedy vultures who despite making a decent living will still want to suck a man dry but for the decent average disciplined Nigerian lady so i present to you 6 good reasons why it is very vital for our unmarried ladies to have something doing that can at least bring in a daily profit as little as N2,000 on the average for a start.

1. You have the confidence to be with a man for the right reasons: I have seen many ladies claim they love a guy they would never have considered in their dreams And this has nothing to do with the man in love with them but he is ready to spend on them and because they are so financially vulnerable,they easily fall prey to a man who has no desire for them but just their body.But if you have something doing that at least takes care of your minimal needs,you will be able to say YES to man for the right reasons and not because of what he has.

2. Unmarried men now prefer a financially independent lady: Yes it is no longer a fashionable thing for guys to crave for ladies who have nothing doing just as ladies have phobia for guys in same category.I am not talking about secondary school or campus romance but if you really need a man who has a sincere desire to make you his,then you better get your ass right and start doing something to earn a living no matter how small.

3.It boosts your self value:Do you know that guys respect a lady who does not ask for recharge cards,money to make her hair,money to buy this or that? Oh Yes that guy may not care and i really don't too but trust me,even if i have to give you a weekly or monthly allowance,you better be making something for yourself no matter how little so that i will give you that allowance with some respect for you knowing that if i don't give you,it won't affect you in anyway.Ladies who are financially independent are hardly jilted by their guys because men see them as great assets and not liabilities.

4.You have the propensity to follow your dreams:Oh yes when you make your money,no man can make you his puppet(Not saying you should be arrogant) because he will hear you when you speak and you can decide to make your own decisions about your life and aspirations but if you depend on your Bfriend,fiancé or hubby for money,you will involuntarily see yourself yielding to his demands knowing that going against his wish is tantamount to being broke.

5.You become a real help meet for a man and not a parasite:Yes GOD made you as a woman to be a help meet for a man and even if no sane man should expect to eat from your sweat.shits happen in life and a man who is full of life,energy and plans may find himself in a crazy situation and at times like this,you play a good role by helping him out while you also pray to GOD to resuscitate his finance and this means if as a spinster you are independent,you will definitely catch the fancy of many men.

Whether you are still a student in the secondary or tertiary institution,you can still be financially independent and YES we know how harsh the economy is but trust me,if you think deep and become more purposeful,you will see something you can do that can bring in at least average of 1000naira on daily basis which is a good start.

6. It will be a sure proof that indeed there is gender equality: This needs no long explanation as we are tired of hearing about gender equality yet the ladies still depend on the men folk to take care of them as well as the children they both brought to the world but when you are financially independent,gender equality becomes a practical thing to reckon with.After-all,what a man can do,a woman can do even better according to the songs of the ladies.


Just trying to make sense and i hope this helps.

@Bolded, it's 'Help mate', not 'help meet'.

Very nice points raised here. I hope these girls are taking note

I for one, will have nothing to do with a woman who isn't financially independent. Not because I need her money, but because I need to know that someone has got my back, should anything go wrong in the future! smiley

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Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by princecuite(m): 7:44pm On Jan 05, 2016
[quote author=CaroLyner post=39771008]7) Wow! I luv dis gal...!!!
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by Toks2008(m): 8:03pm On Jan 05, 2016
kaycodes:

Always sitting on the passengers seat of cars and snapping pictures like say na curse to dey drivers seat?


lol

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Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by HaneefahRN(f): 8:03pm On Jan 05, 2016
Nice write-up. Only a fool wld be financially dependent on a man wt the current situation of things. This is 21st century, all the 18th-19th century mentality shld be in the past where they belong

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Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by Fireson: 8:04pm On Jan 05, 2016
Lol..... Please leave the ladies ooooo!!! cheesy
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by Nobody: 8:05pm On Jan 05, 2016
nw dat u Av said we shud b independent,op shud I send u my cv please?
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by Nobody: 8:09pm On Jan 05, 2016
HaneefahRN:
Nice write-up. Only a fool wld be financially independent wt the current situation of things. This is 21st century, all the 18th-19th century mentality shld be in the past where they belong

Or you mean financial dependent ?
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by Nobody: 8:11pm On Jan 05, 2016
cekhoe:
nw dat u Av said we shud b independent,op shud I send u my cv please?

Well if you are programmer I can help with that sadly that's the only sector I can help people.
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by Nobody: 8:14pm On Jan 05, 2016
pcguru1:


Well if you are programmer I can help with that sadly that's the only sector I can help people.
no p,tnx
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by elantraceey(f): 8:15pm On Jan 05, 2016
Toks2008:
Egbon lalasticlala and sis ishilove come take a look.

I thought you werent interested tongue

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Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by HaneefahRN(f): 8:23pm On Jan 05, 2016
pcguru1:


Or you mean financial dependent ?
Don't mind me jare. I wasn't too oriented while typing. Thanks for the correction

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Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by Toks2008(m): 8:34pm On Jan 05, 2016
elantraceey:

I thought you werent interested tongue
Not really but just pointing them to it.
I just realized that its a waste to have good piece unread by larger audience.
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by professore(m): 8:42pm On Jan 05, 2016
I buy most of your idea
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by preciousman(m): 8:52pm On Jan 05, 2016
cekhoe:
nw dat u Av said we shud b independent,op shud I send u my cv please?
send cum make I use am gve u kponkpon wrk for our construction site....mitcheew
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by Monalisa185(f): 8:55pm On Jan 05, 2016
quiinnBee:
your "personal text" though. :Ddont let that coward get to you.

lol, you don't like me my personal text? grin
which coward? toks?
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by Monalisa185(f): 8:56pm On Jan 05, 2016
Toks2008:

LOBATAN...
sorry my honey pie,infact my one and only chocolatecandy.lol
hehehehe... that's more like it...the points make brain
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by potbelly(m): 9:27pm On Jan 05, 2016
Nice one op, cool. she that has ears.... you know the rest...
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by Nobody: 9:29pm On Jan 05, 2016
Monalisa185:


lol, you don't like me my personal text? grin
which coward? toks?
lol no cheesy that terminator dude/gal.i remember him saying you should take your nose off.so i figured you got your inspiration from there.if am not mistaken.
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by Monalisa185(f): 9:54pm On Jan 05, 2016
quiinnBee:
lol no cheesy that terminator dude/gal.i remember him saying you should take your nose off.so i figured you got your inspiration from there.if am not mistaken.

ohhh...nah....trust me...I just put that thing up there...dunno where I got the inspiration from sf...

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Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by pinkiberry(m): 9:55pm On Jan 05, 2016
Toks2008:
It is widely believed that it is a man's responsibility to take care of the lady in his life and in my opinion i see absolutely nothing wrong in this and i always tell any guy that even if his lady makes 1million naira a month,he should still make it a duty to take care of her and give her whatever he can afford to make her feel happy and also to maintain his place as the man hence the need for any real man out there to understand that taking care of your woman is sacrosanct in order to be a real man and not a figure head.

However,it has become very appalling that many ladies have taken this for granted and have put their hope in getting a man who is financially prepared to take care of them and have totally forgotten the fact that they are also expected to be an independent entity and even more worrisome is the ideology of some ladies that they now prefer to be with a man that has "potentials" as though they are totally hopeless in getting the best out of life.

This write up is not for greedy vultures who despite making a decent living will still want to suck a man dry but for the decent average disciplined Nigerian lady so i present to you 6 good reasons why it is very vital for our unmarried ladies to have something doing that can at least bring in a daily profit as little as N2,000 on the average for a start.

1. You have the confidence to be with a man for the right reasons: I have seen many ladies claim they love a guy they would never have considered in their dreams And this has nothing to do with the man in love with them but he is ready to spend on them and because they are so financially vulnerable,they easily fall prey to a man who has no desire for them but just their body.But if you have something doing that at least takes care of your minimal needs,you will be able to say YES to man for the right reasons and not because of what he has.

2. Unmarried men now prefer a financially independent lady: Yes it is no longer a fashionable thing for guys to crave for ladies who have nothing doing just as ladies have phobia for guys in same category.I am not talking about secondary school or campus romance but if you really need a man who has a sincere desire to make you his,then you better get your ass right and start doing something to earn a living no matter how small.

3.It boosts your self value:Do you know that guys respect a lady who does not ask for recharge cards,money to make her hair,money to buy this or that? Oh Yes that guy may not care and i really don't too but trust me,even if i have to give you a weekly or monthly allowance,you better be making something for yourself no matter how little so that i will give you that allowance with some respect for you knowing that if i don't give you,it won't affect you in anyway.Ladies who are financially independent are hardly jilted by their guys because men see them as great assets and not liabilities.

4.You have the propensity to follow your dreams:Oh yes when you make your money,no man can make you his puppet(Not saying you should be arrogant) because he will hear you when you speak and you can decide to make your own decisions about your life and aspirations but if you depend on your Bfriend,fiancé or hubby for money,you will involuntarily see yourself yielding to his demands knowing that going against his wish is tantamount to being broke.

5.You become a real help meet for a man and not a parasite:Yes GOD made you as a woman to be a help meet for a man and even if no sane man should expect to eat from your sweat.shits happen in life and a man who is full of life,energy and plans may find himself in a crazy situation and at times like this,you play a good role by helping him out while you also pray to GOD to resuscitate his finance and this means if as a spinster you are independent,you will definitely catch the fancy of many men.

Whether you are still a student in the secondary or tertiary institution,you can still be financially independent and YES we know how harsh the economy is but trust me,if you think deep and become more purposeful,you will see something you can do that can bring in at least average of 1000naira on daily basis which is a good start.

6. It will be a sure proof that indeed there is gender equality: This needs no long explanation as we are tired of hearing about gender equality yet the ladies still depend on the men folk to take care of them as well as the children they both brought to the world but when you are financially independent,gender equality becomes a practical thing to reckon with.After-all,what a man can do,a woman can do even better according to the songs of the ladies.


Just trying to make sense and i hope this helps.
what if he married the woman when she is still in d university
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by Nobody: 10:10pm On Jan 05, 2016
HaneefahRN:

Don't mind me jare. I wasn't too oriented while typing. Thanks for the correction

No probs Babe smiley
Re: Why Nigerian spinsters should be finacially independent. by tosyne2much(m): 10:22pm On Jan 05, 2016
kaycodes:


Bros they all know the truth, and will not counter this write up.

Majority of ladies are now romantic beggers, that's why they don't appreciate the little you can provide, if they work for their own money they will be more appreciative of little things.

Always sitting on the passengers seat of cars and snapping pictures like say na curse to dey drivers seat...

God will deliver then from poorverty.
Hahaha cheesy


Baba, I swear na the bitter truth u yarn so. Dem babes go dey vex 4u ooooo cheesy

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