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Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by TheArchangel(f): 8:50am On Jan 20, 2016 |
I am happy that I will not wait for anyone to take me abroad. I spearhead my sh!ts not the other way round. No time to wait for anybody. |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by jashar(f): 11:24am On Jan 20, 2016 |
abbey621: No offence dude. But you're supporting what your father did? It was both illegal and morally wrong yet you support it just because he made some money out of it? Hmmmmm........ 3 Likes |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by praxisnetworks: 1:02pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
daretodiffer:What matters is depositing seeds in you to prevent Taliban increase ... |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Nobody: 1:07pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
praxisnetworks: That would impossible. We can't wait to produce enough kids that would kill all infidels. Ode! |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by ronald4lif(m): 1:08pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
icedbeatz: Odogwu, ana'm ekene kwa gi. Amaghi di'm na ibu nwa afor sef. You said it right. Rather than here stories that touches the heart by bringing the women abroad and start clashing a lot of the men prefers to leave them in Naija. Adiro eji ife ana eti na anya etie na n'imi. Mbanu. |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by praxisnetworks: 1:18pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
daretodiffer: Fixed! |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Nobody: 1:35pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by abbey621(m): 2:08pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
jashar: Morality and legality are secondary to survival! For example if an armed robber points a gun to your head and asked you to sleep with your neighbor, would you refuse on the grounds of morality or would you obey the last order? If you had a child with an illness and the hospital are asking for 1 million Naira for the operation with the only way of getting such money is to sell a land that belongs to your junior sister, would you sell it knowing you can always ask for forgiveness or would you let your child die? Forget this morality crap, real people do whatever it takes totake care of those they love! |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by praxisnetworks: 3:19pm On Jan 20, 2016 |
daretodiffer: Bae how can I?..... I no fit o Werrin you find go Islam section? |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by tpiar: 3:11am On Jan 21, 2016 |
abbey621: your story e get as e be. |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by tpiar: 3:37am On Jan 21, 2016 |
abbey621: why wouldnt he remember her name? |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by tpiar: 3:41am On Jan 21, 2016 |
esere826: overhyped. |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by bukatyne(f): 8:53am On Jan 21, 2016 |
tearoses: What happened to her in the end? 1 Like |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Nobody: 9:00am On Jan 21, 2016 |
bukatyne: Nothing no one to report him too. Even if she does report him, he is not in Nigeria to heed to anyone's calls. There was no real close relationship that she can even remind him of When the kids start going I wonder what will happen to her I feel for her She didn't get much out of this arrangement at all. |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by abbey621(m): 2:22pm On Jan 21, 2016 |
tpiar: Why should he remember? we talking about the 1980s here! |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by bukatyne(f): 2:41pm On Jan 21, 2016 |
tearoses: Very very sad. |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Nobody: 6:16pm On Jan 21, 2016 |
ronald4lif:gba'm! o ka osi di nwanne'm, udo diri gi. |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by rafcrown(m): 6:23pm On Jan 21, 2016 |
So , it means that some people will not travel abroad because they dont want to miss their loved one. You can live with your partner in Nigeria and he /she can still be cheating. You can live together abroad and one of you can still be cheating. The bottom line in a relationship is Trust and Faithfulness. If you leave your wife behind and travel abroad and she is flirting around in Nigeria,she is a great loser. She is losing everlasting freedom to travel round the world visa-free,£1=400,good health care,good transport system,better future etc. If a lady is unfaithful to Mr Andrew-who checked out-her mind will be with the secret lover and less interest in UK/USA. A well known person to me who would not like to leave partner behind has now agreed to Check -Out all alone. 2 Likes |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Nobody: 10:06pm On Jan 21, 2016 |
I can never be in such marriage arrangement.. Cause of the emotional trauma I see kids from such home go through. Calling any male stranger they see with mum, calling him daddy.. It's so sad, but those innocent kids suffer for it. God forbid I marry such man.. Na divorce straight immediately I realise he's not taking us with him.. It's over. Wives in such scenarios, I duff my hats to u all.. Mehn, hell no! Lemme struggle with my man here in nija so how kids will become fully stable, mentally and otherwise.. There's a sixty year old cleaner I know, she's still hoping, waiting for her husband to come carry them abroad with their grown up kids. And they were Married for the past 35years, they lived apart 30years.. She's still waiting, hoping one day he come home.. He calls her once a year on phone... Can u beat that.. I really pity the woman she looks so worn out, and still doing cleaning job.. While he mates are settled in a comfortable duplex built together by their husbands who struggled with them here in nija.. I have no words for that old lady |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Nobody: 10:07pm On Jan 21, 2016 |
I can never be in such marriage arrangement.. Cause of the emotional trauma I see kids from such home go through. Calling any male stranger they see with mum, calling him daddy.. It's so sad, but those innocent kids suffer for it. God forbid I marry such man.. Na divorce straight immediately I realise he's not taking us with him.. It's over. Wives in such scenarios, I duff my hats to u all.. Mehn, hell no! Lemme struggle with my man here in nija so how kids will become fully stable, mentally and otherwise.. There's a sixty year old cleaner I know, she's still hoping, waiting for her husband to come carry them abroad with their grown up kids. And they were Married for the past 35years, they lived apart 30years.. She's still waiting, hoping one day he come home.. He calls her once a year on phone... Can u beat that.. I really pity the woman she looks so worn out, and still doing cleaning job.. While her mates are settled in a comfortable duplex built together by their husbands who struggled with them here in nija.. I have no words for that old lady |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by mikolo80: 5:54am On Jan 24, 2016 |
EggovinMma:do women have wet urges. most of the time y'all complaining of headache,tiredness stress, career, low libido or some other ish |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by onatisi(m): 6:54am On Jan 24, 2016 |
tearoses:there is something wrong with ur story ,I am still searching for it though.not that it is false but there is something fishy about the said woman. |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Nobody: 9:40am On Jan 24, 2016 |
onatisi: I said it as I saw it Obviously there would have been a lot more going on between them However out of sight makes it easier to be out of mind When a couple is not together, the bonding between the couple is affected and those small jokes, laughs, continuity, touch and intimacy is not there to keep the spark alive. I don't believe that Marriage is intended just for sending money to pay bills and birthing kids The man was getting warmth and all the other advantages of marriage from another woman abroad and was only speaking to his wife over the phone and sees her only once every 2 years? The woman too for 23 months she is running the home single-handedly without the man and that has also probably changed her to a stronger and tougher woman than the woman that he left behind and maybe he cant deal with that. I dont know But it wasnt an ideal situation to start with and with a very sad ending. The man travelled shortly after they married so There was nothing really they were building on 1 Like |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by onatisi(m): 7:47pm On Jan 24, 2016 |
tearoses:How does a man staying at home makes a woman tidy the house? Does the presence of a man at home makes a woman look more attractive ? I still have a lot of questions to ask but o think this 2 will open up a vista of more |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by yetseyi(f): 9:05am On Jan 25, 2016 |
I just wonder how the wife copes. Reminds me of my ex- flat mate that got pregnant for a guy when she travelled home for christmas 2014 by she found out she was pregnant in February and the guy married a Briton (which he had told her about) around march for residency as his stay had expired (he had been there for some years). The guy said he would come in august to complete their marriage rights and to visit and of course he didn't/couldn't . She had the baby early October and when I went to visit her she was like yetseyi I cant encourage anybody to enter a long distance relationship/marriage that she was the only one no emotional support. She was sick during pregnancy one particular evening and no one to help her(I had moved out and relatives are in the east) The guy is sending cash, she has a good job but theres something missing. Her own case is even different because she is not yet legally married to the guy yet. There's also the December marriage guys, they come for Christmas see a girl in village complete the rights of marriage,spend two weeks with her, return in January and wont come back for the next five years or come every December. If wifey gets pregnant she does everything alone if she's not pregnant she stays alone, bros would have been married to another person for papers. If he comes home the next time he gets her pregnant again she does all alone and the cycle continues. Leaving your family and coming back after a specified time can still be managed e.g the man goes for a masters or Phd but all this I want to go and hustle things is a no no. I believe the woman loses more. I am not even really a fan of going abroad to hustle(especially when one knows he doesn't have the right papers).If its for schooling, visiting, business etc but all this travelling with no direction I honestly do not believe in it. 5 Likes |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Nobody: 9:45am On Jan 25, 2016 |
onatisi: You are asking the wrong person The hubby and wifey have all the answers Read Yetseyis post and you will get a feel for what really happens In many cases these foreign women are getting clever too and are playing the men at their own game and having kids for the man and running a family with him. The man has a full family abroad and so his priority's are more towards the family he lives with, interacts with and sees every day He has more in common with them than his wife in Nigeria that he sees once a year. He also cant afford to divorce them or he pays hefty child support and alimony so they behave themselves. Many of these "I only married her for papers" are just said to make the wife at home feel good and put her mind at rest that she wont be finally abandoned but the reality is very different. 1 Like |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by onatisi(m): 9:49am On Jan 25, 2016 |
tearoses:You aren't getting me. I have even left those couple issue and I only asked a general question .i want to have women's view and opinion on my questions. Does a man presence in a house or home makes a woman to tend to herself in order to look attractive? And does a man presence at home makes a woman psychologically balanced to make the home neat and tidy? |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by Nobody: 10:08am On Jan 25, 2016 |
onatisi: You misunderstood me. It wasn't about her psychological state. What the man was complaining about was that the place looked tatty When minor minor things stop working & need repairs if they are not done in time, it gets worse and in time becomes an eyesore. With a man around, he can see the things that need repairing/replacing and he makes arrangements for these to be done. As regards attractiveness and tending to oneself, we are all different. Some people dress well and look good regardless of if they live alone or not and some don't bother too much when they know that they don't have anyone to dress up for. Its a personal choice and everyone is different. Some people live with their husbands and still tie dirty wrapper and wear worn out hair net all the time. |
Re: When You Stay Abroad And Leave Your Wife And Little Kids Back Home by onatisi(m): 10:10am On Jan 25, 2016 |
tearoses:Now I am learning . I wish other women too can contribute and share their own opinion |
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