I met a certain guy and we've been dating for some months now, on wednesday, he called me and i sounded moody and asked for him to help me with some cash cos i haven't been paid salary at work, he said he just sent some money to his brother that's ill in enugu and that he would have shared it if i told him earlier, then i said no problems.He said there's problem cos how will i cope, i said i don't know oo..the next day he told me he's traveling for his cousin's wedding, i said okay.
He didn't ask me about how i'm faring again and he didn't send me money but he has travelled to enugu now,on his way already..that means he had money..Is that not greed? i feel bitter and fed up with the relationship,it's not fair,i don't ask him for a favour, this is the 1st time i"m asking him for money,he gave me once for my hair which i didnt ask for and usually gives me tfare whenever i visit. Or was it because i said no problem,or wat??Even though, a caring guy is supposed to send me something or ask how far..he hasn't asked me how i'm coping and if i still need the money..he hasn't asked me anything concerning that.i don't think he's serious,he doesn't care about me..i feel he's self-centered.i want to confront him about it..What do you guys think and how should i go about it??
Please Advice me!

Oh lawd, thank God am single!

At first, ladies shud never rely to their bf when it comes to money....once this is involved, things changed...same with the men.

U have to find ways to survive, girl and never ask ur bf again...anyway, always remember the ball is round..

fleeky:
I met a certain guy and we've been dating for some months now, on wednesday, he called me and i sounded moody and asked for him to help me with some cash cos i haven't been paid salary at work, he said he just sent some money to his brother that's ill in enugu and that he would have shared it if i told him earlier, then i said no problems.He said there's problem cos how will i cope, i said i don't know oo..the next day he told me he's traveling for his cousin's wedding, i said okay.
He didn't ask me about how i'm faring again and he didn't send me money but he has travelled to enugu now,on his way already..that means he had money..Is that not greed? i feel bitter and fed up with the relationship,it's not fair,i don't ask him for a favour, this is the 1st time i"m asking him for money,he gave me once for my hair which i didnt ask for and usually gives me tfare whenever i visit. Or was it because i said no problem,or wat??Even though, a caring guy is supposed to send me something or ask how far..he hasn't asked me how i'm coping and if i still need the money..he hasn't asked me anything concerning that.i don't think he's serious,he doesn't care about me..i feel he's self-centered.i want to confront him about it..What do you guys think and how should i go about it??
Please Advice me!

na him born you?...see mumu talk!

KashyBaby:
At first, ladies shud never rely to their bf when it comes to money....once this is involved, things changed...same with the men.

U have to find ways to survive, girl and never ask ur bf again...anyway, always remember the ball is round..

I don't rely on him, moreover I work..I just asked for an assistance which I don't see as being bad.A guy should be able to assist his gal once in a while,it's not a big deal.
Well,Thanks.

This shouldn't be a case seriously
how were you coping before you met him..
abeg bone the guy joor... let him be convinced that you aren't after his cash
and Good for you... you are even working my sister comot mind jooor
Or are you thinking of cheating on him... cos i won't advice you to do that atleast from your words the guy isn't maltreating you.
i can only advice you to call him and tell him your mind, let him know you aren't happy with the way he did...

Money has bin d problem of Relationships sinx 1800 no be 2day na...

Lol. Op are u a kid. U might not even find such a man again. Altho there may not be much commitment from his side..its possible but comparing his purse with his already laid out plan to go 4 a wedding is not to be heard of. U have a job, don't you? Ur needs become his full responsibility when he pays your dowry. Hold on till then.

sexymoma:
This shouldn't be a case seriously
how were you coping before you met him..
abeg bone the guy joor... let him be convinced that you aren't after his cash
and Good for you... you are even working my sister comot mind jooor
Or are you thinking of cheating on him... cos i won't advice you to do that atleast from your words the guy isn't maltreating you.
i can only advice you to call him and tell him your mind, let him know you aren't happy with the way he did...

tnxx for this advice..But right now I'm not even in the mood of calling him..that's to show how I feel.I'm not even the type that asks a lot.
Hmmm, tnxx once again

What d guy has done is very bad he should at least give even if not much that is what they call love so u mean the guy will not be bleeping the guy pls lets call a spade a spade she can ask him bc he his is guy shd he ask me or U whay wl I gain so pls dude shd try and encourage their babe im not talkin of babes dt turns u to ATM but rreasonable babes should be encouraged

fleeky:
tnxx for this advice..But right now I'm not even in the mood of calling him..that's to show how I feel.I'm not even the type that asks a lot.
Hmmm, tnxx once again

i want believe you love this dude we are talking about here... sh1t happens sis, no one is perfect shey you know ... let him know he really hurt you, tell him all these things you told us here.. you are just hurting yourself more ni ooo i swear

No kind rubbish wey man no go read for this nairaland sha.

Okay so he told you he doesn't have money means he can't afford tfare to attend a wedding he has planned and budgeted for long before your money proposal came? You're the self-centred, inconsiderate and uncaring one not him.

He has a wedding to attend and has budgeted for it so there's no way he'd give you the money he has sidelined for the wedding trip. I know you would have wanted he gives you the money than embark on the slated wedding trip just like you would have also not mind he provides your needs than look after his parents.

You're a rapacious and greedy tool and please go ahead and break up with him. He deserves someone better.

Some Girls can be so selfish eh!!! Wtf is this?

U said he has given u money b4 without u even asking and am sure u didn't appreciate that.

The funny thing is that u probably

My dear forget all those insulting u.

If a guy is really into u(genuinely loves and cares for u), he would do things without u asking and vice versa.
Do u also buy him gifts?
You are not his priority that's why.

Now, when he arrives sit him down and talk to him about It. This is the time to know if you are his real deal or not.

Personally, cnt do that to someone I love.

bullshit the maga and show him u can do without his chicken change

ronald4lif:
No kind rubbish wey man no go read for this nairaland sha.

Okay so he told you he doesn't have money means he can't afford tfare to attend a wedding he has planned and budgeted for long before your money proposal came? You're the self-centred, inconsiderate and uncaring one not him.

He has a wedding to attend and has budgeted for it so there's no way he'd give you the money he has sidelined for the wedding trip. I know you would have wanted he gives you the money than embark on the slated wedding trip just like you would have also not mind he provides your needs than look after his parents.

You're a rapacious and greedy tool and please go ahead and break up with him. He deserves someone better.

Take a "chill pill" mate, it seems u knw the op hmmm your comment is kinda harsh [/b]

Some Girls can be so selfish eh!!! All they think about is me, me, me Wtf is this?

U said he has given u money b4 without u even asking and am sure u didn't appreciate that.

The funny thing is that u probably don't even knw what he uses his money for. What if he has an investment which he used the money for or something. U probably not the only responsibility he has.(u shudnt be sef)

This is the 1st time u've asked him for money and he said he doesn't have to give u now. That doesn't mean u should jst conclude that he is selfish. How have u been coping without him? Take a chill pill dear and don't ruin ur relationship over something that's so trivial. Unless ur tired of the relationship

If you are broke, call your papa.

fleeky:
I don't rely on him, moreover I work..I just asked for an assistance which I don't see as being bad.A guy should be able to assist his gal once in a while,it's not a big deal.
Well,Thanks.

Ask any member of your family for help,don't you have a family? Moreova the guy already told you his predicament.

cruzita:
bullshit the maga and show him u can do without his chicken change

Dependent lady,obviously

fleeky:
I met a certain guy and we've been dating for some months now, on wednesday, he called me and i sounded moody and asked for him to help me with some cash cos i haven't been paid salary at work, he said he just sent some money to his brother that's ill in enugu and that he would have shared it if i told him earlier, then i said no problems.He said there's problem cos how will i cope, i said i don't know oo..the next day he told me he's traveling for his cousin's wedding, i said okay.
He didn't ask me about how i'm faring again and he didn't send me money but he has travelled to enugu now,on his way already..that means he had money..Is that not greed? i feel bitter and fed up with the relationship,it's not fair,i don't ask him for a favour, this is the 1st time i"m asking him for money,he gave me once for my hair which i didnt ask for and usually gives me tfare whenever i visit. Or was it because i said no problem,or wat??Even though, a caring guy is supposed to send me something or ask how far..he hasn't asked me how i'm coping and if i still need the money..he hasn't asked me anything concerning that.i don't think he's serious,he doesn't care about me..i feel he's self-centered.i want to confront him about it..What do you guys think and how should i go about it??
Please Advice me!

you're planning on fvcking another guy abi

keep pilling the excuses very soon it'll be enough to satisfy your guilty conscience

Bisjosh:
My dear forget all those insulting u.

If a guy is really into u(genuinely loves and cares for u), he would do things without u asking and vice versa.
Do u also buy him gifts?
You are not his priority that's why.

Now, when he arrives sit him down and talk to him about It. This is the time to know if you are his real deal or not.

Personally, cnt do that to someone I love.

Tnxx for the advice.. Buy gift for someone that has never bought me a gift,lol..I got him a card last X'mas and I didn't get anything.. I like sharing, I wanted to use that to introduce the method of buying gifts for each other.. but I guess it didn't work..ohh,he got me a cake for my birthday.. I'm loosing interest cos it's obvious I'm not his priority cos I believe a guy who really loves and cares won't see that as a big deal.
Thanks.

fleeky:
Tnxx for the advice.. Buy gift for someone that has never bought me a gift,lol..I got him a card last X'mas and I didn't get anything.. I like sharing, I wanted to use that to introduce the method of buying gifts for each other.. but I guess it didn't work..ohh,he got me a cake for my birthday.. I'm loosing interest cos it's obvious I'm not his priority cos I believe a guy who really loves and cares won't see that as a big deal.
Thanks.

I understand how hurt u feel, just calm down.
Let him return and talk to him abt it. See his reaction and the answer he gives. Do not argue with him.
See if he changes after a month. Then, u decide what to do.

Team complicated relationship is the best. No emotional torture. Break up with him

Fleeky,

This is a simple situation. I hope you won't complicate it.

Synopsis
You're mad because you feel he should've given you the money he budgeted for the wedding.

If you were in his shoes, would you do the same?

He didn't ask how far, and that's bad, when you're confronting him, this is the only argument you have.

Bamz:
Fleeky,

This is a simple situation. I hope you won't complicate it.

Synopsis
You're mad because you feel he should've given you the money he budgeted for the wedding.

If you were in his shoes, would you do the same?

He didn't ask how far, and that's bad, when you're confronting him, this is the only argument you have.

For someone I love and I'm in a relationship with, I'll do it..what's the big deal? i don't expect him to give me all the money he wants to travel with,Never!..for instance,if I budgeted 10k for my trip, I can give 3k and say the person should just manage..I will want to make sure u smile once again...nothing is too small...
But in his own case,he didn't ask afterwards how I was faring,etc..I will keep saying it over and over again,a guy that truly and really loves a girl will do something,no matter how little..its not nice at all...I'm disappointed.. this can actually lead to a break up cos I don't ask...I'm not the asking type..
Thanks..

segzy0i:
What d guy has done is very bad he should at least give even if not much that is what they call love so u mean the guy will not be bleeping the guy pls lets call a spade a spade she can ask him bc he his is guy shd he ask me or U whay wl I gain so pls dude shd try and encourage their babe im not talkin of babes dt turns u to ATM but rreasonable babes should be encouraged

shut up if u have nothing reasonable to say..

b!tch nigga!

fleeky:
For someone I love and I'm in a relationship with, I'll do it..what's the big deal? i don't expect him to give me all the money he wants to travel with,Never!..for instance,if I budgeted 10k for my trip, I can give 3k and say the person should just manage..I will want to make sure u smile once again...nothing is too small...
But in his own case,he didn't ask afterwards how I was faring,etc..I will keep saying it over and over again,a guy that truly and really loves a girl will do something,no matter how little..its not nice at all...I'm disappointed.. this can actually lead to a break up cos I don't ask...I'm not the asking type..
Thanks..

but u asked?

fleeky:
For someone I love and I'm in a relationship with, I'll do it..what's the big deal? i don't expect him to give me all the money he wants to travel with,Never!..for instance,if I budgeted 10k for my trip, I can give 3k and say the person should just manage..I will want to make sure u smile once again...nothing is too small...
But in his own case,he didn't ask afterwards how I was faring,etc..I will keep saying it over and over again,a guy that truly and really loves a girl will do something,no matter how little..its not nice at all...I'm disappointed.. this can actually lead to a break up cos I don't ask...I'm not the asking type..
Thanks..

Fleeky,

I very much understand you but won't it be rash of this leads to a break up?

You're disappointed alright, this could be a one off event, and it would be very harsh judging from this.

In relationships, we make mistakes to grow. People will always offer ill advises on here. When your man returns discuss with him like I said. Don't assume because if you were in his shoes you'd not do what he did, don't assume anything. Be understanding. Let love shape you.

Op fleeky


wotz selfishness there?
haba


just bcoz of that u dun run tire for d relationship.... abi u have future goals that are yet to b executed and u are doutin its progress ....




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