Hello ladies do you ever loved a guy and been giving him all the green light you could but he refuse to respond and you have to make the move?

If it's the Country where am from (name withheld), this thread would have been filled with comments from ladies narrating how sweet it is making their first move for a cool dude they love. But what i see here is different i bet you, the ladies that will comment here will all say NO. Why? Because they are shy to say a simple TRUTH of how the ochestrated the first move(s)...

Which country be dat?

Do you ever loved ??

Olasco93:
If it's the Country where am from (name withheld), this thread would have been filled with comments from ladies narrating how sweet it is making their first move for a cool dude they love. But what i see here is different i bet you, the ladies that will comment here will all say NO. Why? Because they are shy to say a simple TRUTH of how the ochestrated the first move(s)...

U mean AMERica ? ATLANTA they dangerous those. Chics even females are not safe too

In my place ladies woo men alot.

A little girl wooed me today

Ok

well since men claim to be the head ,they should be head in everything

Olasco93:
If it's the Country where am from (name withheld), this thread would have been filled with comments from ladies narrating how sweet it is making their first move for a cool dude they love. But what i see here is different i bet you, the ladies that will comment here will all say NO. Why? Because they are shy to say a simple TRUTH of how the ochestrated the first move(s)...

and i hope ur country is not africa

Strahovski1:
In my place ladies woo men alot.

A little girl wooed me today

asin wen she saw u she started shouting woo woo woo in india??

I know am doing it right when i dont make the first move.

firstking01:
asin wen she saw u she started shouting woo woo woo in india??

woo means make a move. Like expressing ones feeling towards another.

Speechless3:
I know am doing it right when i dont make the first move.

making it or not...... does it changes anything ?

Strahovski1:


woo means make a move. Like expressing ones feeling towards another.

i knw nau...pesin no dey joke with u

cruzita:
well since men claim to be the head ,they should be head in everything

that's why you girls hardly end up with your crush.

firstking01:
and i hope ur country is not africa

Women make the first move in healthy environments.

The difference is that the woman's move is very subtle, and often ambiguous (they don't want rejection )

In a healthy environment, men are good at reading those subtle signs, and when women have NOT given those signs, they respect the fact.

Men usually make the explicit move after women have made the subtle move.

However, in a dysfunctional environment it is a mess. Women play around, give fake signals or are on the defensive. Men show no respect of any of those signals, and invade her space regardless.

Yes


Got his number first, chatted him up on whatsapp and made him ask me out ( don't ask me how )



I made the first move

Speechless3:
I know am doing it right when i dont make the first move.

Just admit you lack the desired bravura and panache needed to woo a man. Most of you women don't have the voluble adroitness and are poor confabulators thus impossible to woo a guy.

Don't act as if you have what it even takes to coax and win a guy over through persistent conversation when you lots can't.

ronald4lif:


Just admit you lack the desired bravura and panache needed to woo a man. Most of you women don't have the voluble adroitness and are poor confabulators thus impossible to woo a guy.

Don't act as if you have what it even takes to coax and win a guy over through persistent conversation when you lots can't.

nawa ooo

all these grammar self

moreover

Who stepped on your nerves today?

sinequanon:


Women make the first move in healthy environments.

The difference is that the woman's move is very subtle, and often ambiguous (they don't want rejection )

In a healthy environment, men are good at reading those subtle signs, and when women have NOT given those signs, they respect the fact.

Men usually make the explicit move after women have made the subtle move.

However, in a dysfunctional environment it is a mess. Women play around, give fake signals or are on the defensive. Men show no respect of any of those signals, and invade her space regardless.

Why are they scared of rejection when they ditch it out daily? It has nothing to do with rejection. They just don't have the cojones and confidence to make the first move.

Diddyydiva:
nawa ooo

all these grammar self

moreover

Who stepped on your nerves today?

Lol. Nobody stepped on my toes o. Just my new 'modus operandi' this year. Change is constant remember.

ronald4lif:


Why are they scared of rejection when they ditch it out daily? It has nothing to do with rejection. They just don't have the cojones and confidence to make the first move.

I mean that they don't like being rejected. But dishing it out from time to time is practically a necessity, although some women also enjoy that necessity.

I live in UK. Maybe it is different to Naija. But in some European cultures and circles women signal first, then men make the move.

ronald4lif:


Lol. Nobody stepped on my toes o. Just my new 'modus operandi' this year. Change is constant remember.

hehehehehe


don't be like TSM tho

@ op. you know Naija babes na. they'll all be like" I can't do that" " I've never done that " bla bla bla.


meanwhile when you see your ex choking.

ronald4lif:


Just admit you lack the desired bravura and panache needed to woo a man. Most of you women don't have the voluble adroitness and are poor confabulators thus impossible to woo a guy.

Don't act as if you have what it even takes to coax and win a guy over through persistent conversation when you lots can't.

Looooool true i dont have what it takes, i dont wish to have what nature has not freely bestowed on me.

I have never desired a man who waits to be wooed by a woman so am so not going against my natural abilities to please him.

vault:


making it or not...... does it changes anything ?

Bros, e never reach fight na

ronald4lif:


Just admit you lack the desired bravura and panache needed to woo a man. Most of you women don't have the voluble adroitness and are poor confabulators thus impossible to woo a guy.

Don't act as if you have what it even takes to coax and win a guy over through persistent conversation when you lots can't.

Speechless3:
I know am doing it right when i dont make the first move.

Speechless3, so u can't remember when u asked me out?

Speechless3:


Looooool true i dont have what it takes, i dont wish to have what nature has not freely bestowed on me.

I have never desired a man who waits to be wooed by a woman so am so not going against my natural abilities to please him.

It's not unnatural for women to make first moves. It's just an antiquated societal culture and an established practice that has been imbibed in women's psyche but has since been waived as courageous women now make first moves and no longer wait for a man they feel tick all their right boxes. Nothing to do with nature.

sinequanon:


I mean that they don't like being rejected. But dishing it out from time to time is practically a necessity, although some women also enjoy that necessity.

I live in UK. Maybe it is different to Naija. But in some European cultures and circles women signal first, then men make the move.

Fear of rejection evinces lack of proper self esteem. So suffice to say any lady who can't muster the courage to make first move on a guy she likes has esteem and confidence issues?

ronald4lif:


Fear of rejection evinces lack of proper self esteem. So suffice to say any lady who can't muster the courage to make first move on a guy she likes has esteem and confidence issues?

Many answers to that one.

A man's rejection is usually final. A woman's rejection often isn't. So rejection is harder on women.

Insecurity is not really an "issue". It is just part of being human. Players are men who have learned how to exploit female insecurities.

According to some biological principle, women are more picky than men, anyway.

I think it works well, women giving a subtle sign and men making the first explicit move.

Smart women know how to make that first subtle sign. Smart men know how to read it.

Everyone else na jungle dweller.

ronald4lif:


It's not unnatural for women to make first moves. It's just an antiquated societal culture and an established practice that has been imbibed in women's psyche but has since been waived as courageous women now make first moves and no longer wait for a man they feel tick all their right boxes. Nothing to do with nature.

So where did this societal culture fly out from?
Not buying this cos this is exactly the same line of arguement atheists (like you ) use to dispute the existence of God.

I believe how we function in the society has more to do with our biology. That societal construct view does not fly if we start going to the root causes of our behaviours.