vicstar:
actually, because of love u can tolerate a lot of things but if it becomes outrageous,I'll say its prudent to make your partner aware of the issue in order not to suffocate in the relationship.

saintloveren:
its necessary though it erases the feeling of trust but then again its the ladies that will always complain that ure hiding something from them when u told her its nothing.

Diddyydiva:
this can occur out of insecurity. When your partner wants to know if she is doing the right thing?

She may feel unappreciated

u're right tho but there's an extent to which it might become boring
Out of love I won't hesitate to tell her, and I anticipate she won't misunderstand

vicstar:


u're right tho but there's an extent to which it might become boring
Out of love I won't hesitate to tell her, and I anticipate she won't misunderstand

Diddyydiva:

You must be careful with your presentation then else .........

I'm a "sweet-talker" so presenting an issue is never a problem

Diddyydiva:
how does it erase the feeling of trust?

saintloveren:
I will always tell u my activities 4 d day bcaus i hav a feeling dat u dnt trust me.

Diddyydiva:
WAo


This is another perspective.

You mean when your lady shares her activities with you, she is implying you don't trust her?


Can you explain better because I can't relate well with this

Diddyydiva:
WAo


This is another perspective.

You mean when your lady shares her activities with you, she is implying you don't trust her?



Can you explain better because I can't relate well with this

vicstar:


from ma experience,sharing things like these are not based on trust issues, sometimes she just want u to be fully knowledgeable of every activities concerning her in case of an unforeseen event, or if u might be confronted with a question concerning her,u won't be found lacking of an answer

saintloveren:
YEAH when she does it in a way that i begin to wonder like does it mean i dnt trust her, she will tell me everything she does 4rm 6am to 10pm, then im like baby dnt worry i know ure telling me all this 4 me to earn u trust but dnt worry, i trust u even if u dnt tell me everything u did or where u went to. "just be free girl

Diddyydiva:
lol

I understand you.

You don't like such attitude either

Twaci:
Well I ain't a fan of this behaviour.

I love you, yes, but that doesn't mean I should run to you at every uncomfortable turn. I should be able to handle situations myself and carry on any responsibility independently. That's called being an adult.

But hey, that doesn't mean I won't talk to my boyfriend about things or share problems with him. His opinions too would be considered. But whatever decision arrived at would be totally mine.

The only situation I can wholly depend on him would be when it concerns the relationship and our future. Apart from that, it's a no no.

Diddyydiva:
Nice one.

Twaci:

Diddyydiva:
but how will you handle your guy if he does that ?

Rollar:
I think its high time ladies started actively participating in and even guiding conversations with their boyfriends. If your guy has a routine of calling and drilling you with questions, then simply direct the flow of discussion next time he calls. The problem is that most Naija ladies lack the capacity to maintain intriguing conversations, thus after how are you and how was your day, they lapse into silence and allow the guy to fire a barrage of questions at them. Here's a revolutionary idea, for once be the one to call your boyfriend and talk about something interesting. Don't give him a chance to ask you what you ate and where/how you ate it

Twaci:
I won't complain. Might just tell him to stop only for him to believe that I do not want communication in the relationship. So no shakes. Just don't expect me to do same.

Diddyydiva:
you are right to some extent tho. When topics are interesting then boredom will be out of it.
But this is about your girlfriend giving you every details of her activities, both necessary and unnecessary ones.

Rollar:

That's exactly what I'm saying. When I notice her habit of giving me unnecessary details, I'll simply segue when next she starts. Since she's not demanding for details about my life, it'll be easy to divert her attention to a different topic. Its all about tact. Telling her to quit telling me about her personal life may hurt her feelings, so I'll just nip any attempt in the bud stylishly. Hope you get the logic