Acidosis:


You can't fault her claims honestly reason being that some Nigerians living in Nigeria are greater "racists." You need to be closer to many Nigerians in the cities to understand how much they detest their home towns, grand parents and people back in the village.

No one hates GOOD INFRASTRUCTURE, but in the absence of none, Nigerians are known to adapt and adjust easily.

Security is a big challenge here, but I don't think I could get back the fun in my school days when myself and my room mates sleep shirtless on the rug with doors wide open. Even in the midst of theft, we were stubborn and believed no one can harm us, after all we are men and God is with us.

It all sound stu.pid but we didn't see it as suffering, instead it was fun to us. We all graduated and departed. However, just few weeks ago, I lost a colleague to a boat mishap in Lagos. Death didn't take him away back then when we sleep with open doors in the midst of gun shots in a typical village in Delta. He died after settling down with a good job in Lagos.

Adaptability is key. Whoever can adapt can live in Nigeria. In fact, it doesn't have to be Banana Island or Asokoro.

peacengine:


If you were white I would have called you a racist. Why do you keep making general statements? [/b]All Nigerians are Devils according to you,[b] easy on the negativity, [/b]some of us are enjoying life down here. Try visiting Calabar, you will understand

bebe2:
[b][/b]

No I never said dat,

Thas exactly wats wrong with our country, me, me ,me.

Pls wats in calaba, it's dat gud many parents send their kids to stranger all around the country to work as house boys and house girls

Or is it the same calabar where parents reject children as witches. Where a community beat up a young boy nailed a nail to his head and asked him to go.

Pls is there another calabar in that country,?

Wats bad is bad, no time for sugar coating

bebe2:


Am glad it's worked out for u.

But I still stand by my point , u mentioned about infrastructure being revived, this is laughable. U first need to revive the mind of the people,

The fact that most humans in dat country have no conscience or empathy is beyond me. How are u going to revive dat?

People are incompetent, negligent in their duties and lack basic human feeling. How are u going to fix dat?

The number of people dat I know dat have died from routine surgery, even before they get opened up, common anaesthetic, they can not give . Wicked doctors, nurses, teachers. Abi u no see the teacher wey nearly use cane finish one 3yr old pikin?

Abi na university wey who sort go get admission who pass go dey house dey wait?

Abi na market woman wey u go price fish for agree on a price d moment u look away she go swap the fish wrap a different one.

Pls tell me where u are going to start.

peacengine:
Whether you like it or not there is no place like home. People are on here talking crap about medical emergencies and fake drugs, yet if you go to villages you will still see people of 100+ living happily.

If these people are so happy abroad why do they keep interacting with us down ere? It's because they miss the Nigerian feel. Ask people who live in organized Estates if they have ever been robbed before, you think we do not have good pharmacies here that sell original drugs? FG hospitals are up to standard and we have good private/Catholic hospitals here, is there any country where people live past 130? Our schools here(especially missionary schools are very good)

No one is saying you should relocate if you don't want to, but for someone who is considering it, I can confidently say, it is not a bad decision.

OP, do your research well, and pick a good state to settle in. It is better to come back to the land of sunshine and rain than to remain in Ice block and die of cold related ailment when you are old. My aunt made this mistake and now no one knows where her grave is except her three kids who do not interact with us.

peacengine:


Did you re-read your post? You just made general statements again. Calabar parents send their kids to do house help chores right? They abandon their kids due to witchcraft? Well, I am from there and I don't know any relatives doing this. If you were a guy, I know what I would have said, but I will let this one pass.

cococandy:
You're so funny.
Who wouldn't miss their home?
Or want to interact with people from their place?
And who told you happiness is about where you live? Sometimes you can be happier at home but then it makes more economic sense for you to live elsewhere. Going there if it's a better standard of living doesn't automatically imply that one will be happier.

If someone points out something bad they wish was fixed in their country, does that mean they detest their country?
So the better thing is to pretend like it doesn't happen so that one can be called patriotic I guess.

I know sha that's how this thread will turn out.
Anyone who doesn't paint a glowing picture of the crumbling system will be made to look like they are bad even though what they are saying is true.

well I agree with you on adaptability.
If you can adapt anywhere, you can be successfully resident there.

Unfortunately the only thing you can't adapt to is a life or death situation where no one is ready to render any help until you cough out money.
As bad as 'the west' is, I don't see that happening to anyone.
Emergency first before money talk.

jaybee3:
It will be stooopid not to test waters first before taking the big/bold step.

Almost everyone you meet in Nigeria is out there to milk you so adjusting to their way of things will require some getting used to hence the reason why it's ever so important to accustom yourself to the lifestyle before uprooting your family from their comfortable abode

cococandy:
You're so funny.
Who wouldn't miss their home?
Or want to interact with people from their place?
And who told you happiness is about where you live? Sometimes you can be happier at home but then it makes more economic sense for you to live elsewhere. Going there if it's a better standard of living doesn't automatically imply that one will be happier.

If someone points out something bad they wish was fixed in their country, does that mean they detest their country?
So the better thing is to pretend like it doesn't happen so that one can be called patriotic I guess.

I know sha that's how this thread will turn out.
Anyone who doesn't paint a glowing picture of the crumbling system will be made to look like they are bad even though what they are saying is true.

well I agree with you on adaptability.
If you can adapt anywhere, you can be successfully resident there.

Unfortunately the only thing you can't adapt to is a life or death situation where no one is ready to render any help until you cough out money.
As bad as 'the west' is, I don't see that happening to anyone.
Emergency first before money talk.

bebe2:


The biggest problem with our people is selfishness and self centredNess?? See me see grammar

The fact that some pple here ate 3 meals today, can make them swear everyone else has.

They know that there are pple out there who are desperately hungry, I mean proper hunger wey e be say eh ur big intestine go wan eat ur small intestine.

But to some folk's it doesn't matter they have eaten big eba and use malt push am down, days all that counts all the others can go to blazes.

tearoses:


And this is one of the reasons why I will find it hard
Even when you try and help, you are told off and are told scary stories from Nigerians themselves

There is so much suffering and so many hard hearted people
you can always tell the house helps in church on Sunday, very shabbily dressed while madam dresses well.
They carry madams baby on the back while madam walks in front with her handbag

I love Nigeria but I just wish the people were more kind hearted.

Mindfulness:



@bold

I don't get it. Can you explain, please? Why would you desire a better standard of living if it doesn't make you happier?

Mindfulness:



@bold

I don't get it. Can you explain, please? Why would you desire a better standard of living if it doesn't make you happier?

bebe2:


I think Wat she meant is money or material comfort doesn't necessarily make u happy.

As in most pple find happiness in other things such as family, having a sense of belonging to a community , feeling accepted etc

bebe2:


I think Wat she meant is money or material comfort doesn't necessarily make u happy.

As in most pple find happiness in other things such as family, having a sense of belonging to a community , feeling accepted etc

nasha1:
smh
as if there aren't serial killers,rapists,gangs abroad.
those homeless people sleeping under bridges and in the train are ghosts?
those police in the USA killing black people are nigerians.
evil is everywhere irrespective of a country,race or gender.

cococandy:

Maybe to give your kids a better chance at life.
Or for survival.

It Doesn't mean you plunge yourself into sadness just to get these as if they are more important than emotional wellbeing.

But sometimes the little joys that you get from home you can't get elsewhere. That means you have to sacrifice them, since in the long run they are not really worth more than a better standard of life.

bebe2:


I think Wat she meant is money or material comfort doesn't necessarily make u happy.

As in most pple find happiness in other things such as family, having a sense of belonging to a community , feeling accepted etc

EfemenaXY:


But the big difference is that in the West, basic amenities are the right of everyone and even taken for granted, whereas in Nigeria, these same basic amenities are viewed as privilages to be enjoyed by the rich only.

E.g:

~ Constant, uninterrupted power supply
~ Free health medical health care for all
~ Free education (Nursery, Primary, Secondary, Colleges)
~ Good roads, and supporting infrastructure that work
~ Emergency services

and much more.

Oh, and a Judicial system that works. (i.e: no cause for taking the laws into your own hands a.k.a jungle justice). At least you're 99.9% guaranteed to wake up alive when you go to bed at night, whereas in Naija, it more like a 50-50% chance you won't get visited by hardened armed robbers and r@pists.


And these are the reasons why @OP is being cautioned to consider everything before making a decision.

Mindfulness:


@bold

I don't get it. Can you explain, please? Why would you desire a better standard of living if it doesn't make you happier?

nasha1:
smh
as if there aren't serial killers,rapists,gangs abroad.
those homeless people sleeping under bridges and in the train are ghosts?
those police in the USA killing black people are nigerians.
School shooting every year,kids killing their all family.
Paris attack,germany,terrorist attacks.
evil is everywhere irrespective of a country,race or gender.

Mindfulness:



How many terrorist attacks took place in France and Germany last years and how many in Nigeria?

How much money will the Nigerian government pay you if you lose your job? How much money will you get in France or Germany?

The people sleeping under the bridge in those countries have access to free medical care. How many can afford healthcare in Nigeria?


PLEASE!

EfemenaXY:


I think she means a "better standard of living" as per having a system inclusive of basic amenities that works. A place where you know after a hard fortnight's or month's grafting, you get paid and not having to wait 3, 4, 5+ months to get paid. A place where you and your kids have the opportunity to live a decent life.

But that notwithstanding, East to West, North to South, home is best in the sense that if you grew up in Naija or spent a fair bit of your life over there, you can't help but feel nostalgic with the occasional dose of homesickness.

So you can enjoy all the bells and whistles offered by the west and be comfortable, but you know in your heart of heart that if Nigeria could match the West in offering these same things to her people, many Nigerians abroad would up sticks and run back home without so much of a backward glance.

It's all about Economic Migration. Moving on to greener pastures.

nasha1:


I do understand all you are saying,explaining like this is good.But not the way other people on this thread have been doing.As if there is no danger abroad.Many has met their deaths there too,thinking it is safe.
If everyone run away who then will fix it?Some people need to go back and teach the ignorant ones.We can't all run away,because like it or not the family you left behind will be part of the "wicked" people u left.The country needs more enlighten people,those countries abroad were built by human beings.they fought to make their country better and what it is today.People that live here are happy too and many very rich people prefer 2 stay here dan abroad.

Mindfulness:


@bold
I am not disputing it but economic migration does not happen for the sake of economic migration but for the sake of having a better life / feeling better. Does anyone actually move abroad even though he or she thinks that he or she will be unhappier there?

EfemenaXY:


Not unhappier as per say, but knowing one would be much happier if what the seek outside is offered at home.

Mindfulness:


Maybe, maybe not.

Europeans and Americans migrate too even though their countries of origin are not in a mess.

EfemenaXY:


They don't migrate for the same reasons as those moving from the developing countries to the developed ones do. They already have the basics back home.