My sister has been married to him for about 2years now and they have a beautiful baby.

According to my sister " He came back home this morning (1am) drenched in alcohol. His first complain was that my sister didn't come out to open the gate for him quick enough. She apologised and said she slept off waiting for him to come back. On entering the room she discovered as he was pulling off, that his boxers were "inside out". She asked him why that was as she saw him dress before he left him the previous day and that he was dressed correctly. She then told him that if he is playing any games outside he should always use protection so as not to infect her with STI. That was when he started beating and slapping her. She was crying as she was telling me this morning.

I calmed her down and told her to read her bible as she was already talking about having her own pound of flesh back. I also told her that whenever he comes home drunk she should do everything he asks to avoid further confrontations and wait till his head is "correct" before talking with him.

My problem now is that, how do I confront the man as I intend going to their house later on today. My major problem is that he should not lay his hands on my sister again coz that's what gonna make be go ballistic and nuclear simultaneously.


Advice me. Thanks.

Pray to God

Its quite unfortunate that this happened. I think you need to have a very serious face to face discussion withe man in question her because this is how these things start. I follow your advice on how to act when he come back drunk as that is the best to avoid beating.

Honestly if my hubby should beat me I would expect my brothers to really give him "run".
How will someone marry when one reads and sees all these kinda stories ever day, everywhere. May God help women around the world.

vsaintchigs:
Pray to God

Can God change some animals called men >:

almost FTC on easter monday!hurray!!..back to the question,this should be a family discussion,cus her husband may see it as you ar entering his private life and your sister may receive more beatings

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Can God change some animals called men >:

yes....wasnt the one that changed saul

First get ur sister out of his home

Next if he doesnt look for her she is with the wrong man


If he comes looking for her let him go tru a lpt to habe her bck so he can treat her well wen he sees ow hard he went tru to av her

Call both of them and settle the matter.

Bros u have already done well.

No need for any confrontations yet.

No body mess with any of my family member en gets away with it. Not when am around.

Approach him now the fire is still raging if possible physically or threaten him and both of you ll regret it later.

End result is,
He ll think twice before raising his hands on her again.

[quote author=halfricanadian post=44181691]First get ur sister out of his home

Next if he doesnt look for her she is with the wrong man


If he comes looking for her let him go tru a lpt to habe her bck so he can treat her well wen he sees ow hard he went tru to av her [/quote

That one na long case that I'll later involve family and friends.

End the matter there and today!!!

I'm a guy. B4 reading any comments...if any bastard layshis filthy hands on my darling sister I swear I'm gonna beat him up either by myself or by agberos I swear. But for u I don't know how to advise u but I'd say go and warn him seriously that he should never in his god damned life lay his hands on ur sis cos u won't do dsame (I guess. Cos I won't lay hands on any female so why should a bastard touch mine)

[quote author=tolugar post=44181988][/quote]

If u go there nd talk to him

Once u step out he wud do more


U wanna make ur sister suffer nd smile

This is domestic violence a case dat has taken many women lives

Once a man lays his hand on his wife? It takes d grace of God to stop
Beating a wife is similar to gettin addicted to alcohol

Its hard he has started it if u go nd talk he wud do more bt if u take it up with him nd he sees how hottt u guys dragged it with him


He wud b scared to touch her

Do u kno ow many family members have lost females due to domestic violence wen d solution was dialogue

Oga shake d mans world let him face hell!!!!

Meet with him one on one and let him understand that as a married man coming home late is wrong, and in such situation there is no way woman would not complain, and beating her would not solve the problem, but his ability to avoid things he feels he enjoyed outside and he should avoid fighting his wife.

God bless.

Dude, pay thugs to beat that dude up, slaps here and there and if possible they flash a gun at him to put the fear of God in him.

A day or two after if you want to, call his phone and let him know if he ever lays a finger on a strand of hair on your sister again, it could get worse. I'll suggest you do not call, whenever it happens just get him beat up worse than before, he'll put 2 & 2 together and stop it.

Meeting him one on one makes no sense. It will further fuel his sense of importance which would earn you taunts behind your back and further make your sister appear helpless for running to a man who just wants to 'talk' and tell him how to handle is marriage.

Some men are just completely foolish, no matter how a woman angers you there's always the options of keeping mute to de-escalate the matter or you walk off to let matters ease off.

Bro, just go and Bleep him up. A black eye, cut lips and cuts on his body here and there will do the trick. Else, the beating will go on and possibly you may never hear of it again because your sis may decide to keep it to herself because you won't change anything if all you do is just talk.

Get him!

[quote author=halfricanadian post=44182203]

Am nt a fan of dialogue.

I meant physical confrontation and brutal threat. And it must happen today @last2comment must.

If he shouts on u, mention me, I'll Borrow u my squad free. If we re close enough. It must happen today.

[quote author=tolugar post=44182548][/quote]

agebro nigga

[quote author=halfricanadian post=44182596]

You can arrange (thugs) for him or get him arrested #Shikena

halfricanadian:


agebro nigga

Rubbish

Women are such a lovely creature and should be pampered and cared for. Not a means of floating out frustrations.

Nonsense

tolugar:


Rubbish

Women are such a lovely creature and should be pampered and cared for. Not a means of floating out frustrations.

Nonsense

Awwwwwww thats sweet thanks

tolugar:


Rubbish

Women are such a lovely creature and should be pampered and cared for. Not a means of floating out frustrations.

Nonsense

Awwwwwww thats sweet thanks .

Some women dey suffer in marriages sha.


I don't even know what to say. With the high rate of diseases all over the world, people are still cheating?



Cropophilia!

halfricanadian:



Awwwwwww thats sweet thanks .

Any man that has no regards for womanhood Is not just man enough.


What's d fuse
Gerarrahere menhh

tolugar:




Any man that has no regards for womanhood Is not just man enough.


What's d fuse
Gerarrahere menhh

u cray cray

halfricanadian:


u cray cray

Things like this puts me off

Talking about beating the man or calling touts on him, remember he's still your sister's husband; your sister will definitely feel the pain with him....Don't go that far please; totally unnecessary, the deed is done already-quite sad indeed though. ..

Have a meeting with the man...let out your displeasure. .

Then your sister should find out why her husband drinks so much like that, he may be undergoing some challenges. . Many men bottle up emotions and tend to believe drink can take away the worries, sadly drinking only worsens. . Find out why the change except he's been like this from d onset?

Last2comment:
My sister has been married to him for about 2years now and they have a beautiful baby.

According to my sister " He came back home this morning (1am) drenched in alcohol. His first complain was that my sister didn't come out to open the gate for him quick enough. She apologised and said she slept off waiting for him to come back. On entering the room she discovered as he was pulling off, that his boxers were "inside out". She asked him why that was as she saw him dress before he left him the previous day and that he was dressed correctly. She then told him that if he is playing any games outside he should always use protection so as not to infect her with STI. That was when he started beating and slapping her. She was crying as she was telling me this morning.

I calmed her down and told her to read her bible as she was already talking about having her own pound of flesh back. I also told her that whenever he comes home drunk she should do everything he asks to avoid further confrontations and wait till his head is "correct" before talking with him.

My problem now is that, how do I confront the man as I intend going to their house later on today. My major problem is that he should not lay his hands on my sister again coz that's what gonna make be go ballistic and nuclear simultaneously.


Advice me. Thanks.




CC Royalroy lalasticlala.

I pity you. you DAT told ur sister to read bible wants to create a ballistic and nuclear reaction abi?

1. you should remember that there are always three sides to the story. ur sisters, ur in law and the truth. till u know the three sides dont take any rash action.

2. ensure you act from the stand of a peace maker. not a defender of the universe. don't make the matters worse for ur sister. if the guy drives her out of the house due to ur confrontation, don't be surprised people will blame you. rather look for people he respects to talk to him wen he is sober. and u guys should pray for him. u can't confront spiritual foolishness with physical solutions.

9jacrip:
Dude, pay thugs to beat that dude up, slaps here and there and if possible they flash a gun at him to put the fear of God in him.

A day or two after if you want to, call his phone and let him know if he ever lays a finger on a strand of hair on your sister again, it could get worse. I'll suggest you do not call, whenever it happens just get him beat up worse than before, he'll put 2 & 2 together and stop it.

Meeting him one on one makes no sense. It will further fuel his sense of importance which would earn you taunts behind your back and further make your sister appear helpless for running to a man who just wants to 'talk' and tell him how to handle is marriage.

Some men are just completely foolish, no matter how a woman angers you there's always the options of keeping mute to de-escalate the matter or you walk off to let matters ease off.

Bro, just go and Bleep him up. A black eye, cut lips and cuts on his body here and there will do the trick. Else, the beating will go on and possibly you may never hear of it again because your sis may decide to keep it to herself because you won't change anything if all you do is just talk.

Get him!

instead of doing all these and taking laws into ur hands, why not advise him to convince the sister to divorce the man?

I always laugh at some married women who always say they are "taken" most of them are taken for granted just like d op sister.

G

Beat him black and blue