tntcorps:


Well don't beat yourself up. My dad didn't further my education also cause things got rough for him. My two older siblings schooled in private university till they graduated. But I never ever got one day in the university class room . Am the last born, but either way I don't beat myself up. I still love my dad more than life itself

Mine had more than a enough, but insisted schooling wasn't for girls, and his dad didn't train him... I was 9

Just imagine ur sense of reasoning! Who's father wud want his son get out of control? You never said aw wayward you were but aw harsh your dad tried to curb it before it's too late. You senselessly called your dad a bad man because he's not on nl, but I tell you dis if you think you don't want to flog your kids to correct them, they will definitely call you a bad man right before your nose.

He beats you at every slightest provocation, abi? Did you ever impress him? He sleeps with anoda woman, abi? Now you're grown maybe married or not, how many gals have you cheated with? Have you forgotten or don't you know men are polygamous in nature that it takes only d grace of GOD to be free from other puna.

Finally, only a senseless child or person like you goes online to lambast his family or say negative things about his family.

waxxydude:
Was cool with my parents. But the only thing i hated bout my dad was how the man dashes me knock whether excited or angered.

The 1st day i dodge his knock (@ 17) the guy say i don join cult. chai. e nor gree me sleep for house.. omo na ma pastor, shurch members and neighbours beg for me dah day o.

Hehehe. So only cultists can dodge an intended knock on d head

remsonik:
You only keep hurting yourself more as you haven't forgiven him. I love my parents a lot. My dad is my favorite

Na girl u be na.. D bond btw a father nd a daughter is very strong compared to a son

Op , please forgive him for God sake,all my life I was in this situation by my dad until I left home, can u imagine now he is my best friend lol.. Dad is valuable and you both can make good fun out the past precisely he gonna beg for the bad deeds, Wake up bro sort it out immediately before its too late. May God give the strength Amen

free2ryhme:


congrats for coming online to rubbish your dad

seun go give you medal

he that is without sin cast the first stone

guy you should learn that somethings are better left unsaid

mstchew!!!!

To you, he rubbish his dad, to him, he came to share his pain, the best is to advice him

Mr airforce....... thank God u r alive to witness adulthood.......some people v been killed mistakenly by parents anger ...... so u v no option than to move on and become a better of urself...... or r u a Scorpio is ur bday falls BTW late Oct to Nov ..... they hardly forgive and never forget...... but by God's grace v overcome mine.....

Sunnycliff:
And you will one day be a dad and your son will hate you!

Karma treats all misgivings squarely

His son will hate him only if he treat his son the way is father treated him. That's the karma

ikbnice:
The hatred is obvious. Assaulting a kid will have an everlasting negative psychological impact on the child. Airforce1, I know there must have been some time you wish you could like him but you just couldn't. Learn to forgive him.
BOTTOMLINE: There is but a thin line between beating and assault. Just know that the kid of today will look back when they grow up and remember how you treated them when they were young.

my dear, you've said it all. One must be careful in bringing up kids, you can imagine me as old as I am, when I remember the things my mom did to me when I was younger, I just begin to hate her. Then when I forget I love her

besides if there is option of choice in heaven ad to who become your
parents......some will not have any wards ....same goes to children too some parents will boldly reject them.....but it's saving grace accommodate us all.....leave d past behind and focus on d future ....Mr airfore........ baba eni ni baba eni......iya eni ni iya eni o....... ur Papa Na ur Papa even though Na mad Papa and ur mama Na ur mama.......it's well

MsFaith:


To you, he rubbish his dad, to him, he came to share his pain, the best is to advice him

will you say the same about your mother online?

Airforce1:
So today I took my niece to go play with her mates at Sweet sensation children funfair in my crib..
She was so happy playing with her mates and I on the other side keeping an eye on her got carried away by the thought of not having enough love by that man that called himself my father back in the days as a kid.

I remember my dad beating me up at every slightest provocation even on children's day.

He is a bad man
I remember catching him with a strange woman while momma was away
But he fucking deceived me she was his course mate back in university.

What made me hate him more was the day he flogged me in the presence of my child hood girl friend .
I can't forget that day.
He messed me up so badly that I had to run to momma to ask if that man was actually my father.

I hate him with passion.

Till these present day that I'm grown up , I don't even call him , I don't care about him... I only care about mom because she gave me confidence , showed me love and treat me right .


So to the parents reading my story, you've got to be not just mom and dad to your children , you've got to be friends with them too so they don't go online and write my kind of story about you when they became adults.


Thanks for reading.
Airforce!

The truth is no matter how bad your father is, you still need his blessings. Try to be good to him, call him to ask about his health and well being and be kind to him. Let him see you and think in his mind that how come this boy respects and cherishes me much. If you can afford buy him gifts sometimes.

If you can do all these perhaps you shall be blessed and you shall be a superstar even more popular and richer than the likes of wizkid and davido. Lest i forget, to make heaven treat your mum well and if she is no more be kind to people close to her and behave the way she would have loved you to behave.

Airforce1:
So today I took my niece to go play with her mates at Sweet sensation children funfair in my crib..
She was so happy playing with her mates and I on the other side keeping an eye on her got carried away by the thought of not having enough love by that man that called himself my father back in the days as a kid.

I remember my dad beating me up at every slightest provocation even on children's day.

He is a bad man
I remember catching him with a strange woman while momma was away
But he fucking deceived me she was his course mate back in university.

What made me hate him more was the day he flogged me in the presence of my child hood girl friend .
I can't forget that day.
He messed me up so badly that I had to run to momma to ask if that man was actually my father.

I hate him with passion.

Till these present day that I'm grown up , I don't even call him , I don't care about him... I only care about mom because she gave me confidence , showed me love and treat me right .


So to the parents reading my story, you've got to be not just mom and dad to your children , you've got to be friends with them too so they don't go online and write my kind of story about you when they became adults.


Thanks for reading.
Airforce!

you need serious help

Sorry to say, Maybe you are born out of marriage!

favourmic:




What your offence then? Or he just chained you without no reason?

whatever offence is no offence enough to chain him, hit him with hammer and abandon his responsibility. Even God that we sin against every moment of our lives, don't treat us this way

Airforce1:
So today I took my niece to go play with her mates at Sweet sensation children funfair in my crib..
She was so happy playing with her mates and I on the other side keeping an eye on her got carried away by the thought of not having enough love by that man that called himself my father back in the days as a kid.

I remember my dad beating me up at every slightest provocation even on children's day.

He is a bad man
I remember catching him with a strange woman while momma was away
But he fucking deceived me she was his course mate back in university.

What made me hate him more was the day he flogged me in the presence of my child hood girl friend .
I can't forget that day.
He messed me up so badly that I had to run to momma to ask if that man was actually my father.

I hate him with passion.

Till these present day that I'm grown up , I don't even call him , I don't care about him... I only care about mom because she gave me confidence , showed me love and treat me right .


So to the parents reading my story, you've got to be not just mom and dad to your children , you've got to be friends with them too so they don't go online and write my kind of story about you when they became adults.


Thanks for reading.
Airforce!

Now that you've written this against him, what next? Should he (your dad) go & hug transformer? mstchewwww

Airforce1 you should even be thankful for let me tell you what some people undergo under their fathers.
1. Being insulted at the point of doing something of benefit to him.
2. Being cursed at any slight provocation
3. Being enslaved with threat of curse if you leave him because of the daily chores you do for him.
4. Not paying school fees despite earning much.
5. Being envious of you, it starts from childhood if he complains that meat given you by mum is big.
6. Always talking about your personal life to distant and close relation(thereby increasing chances of evil eye on you and your career)
7. Condemning what ever good work you do for him so as not to have need to be grateful to you.
8. Eating outside and not caring if the family eats despite collecting decent salary monthly
9. Lieing against you to people(Naturally people will believe the Father).
10. Demanding so much from you despite giving little or nothing to add value to your life asides giving birth to you.

calliope:
same here...i hate my dad.

Bet why?

free2ryhme:


will you say the same about your mother online?

inshort I could share some annoying things my mother did to me online, that when I remember I can't help but hate her

Pls its time for you to forgive and forget because if you don't it will still repeat at your own time as being a dad . This cycle of abuse will be broken completely when you let go. Talk to him if you can about this and then live your life free from this . God bless you

Having read my previous comments we can conclude that its best to be grateful, if religion encourages loving your enemies and praying for them, why hate your dad?
When you become rich and popular the credit will still be your dads since you bear his name and next time dont write things about him for this is a faceless forum and your current and future enemies could use this against you when you blow.(Could be reducing your chance of getting an endorsement deal based on moral grounds that you are not a good role model and disrespectful to parents.
They will say if he can talk about his dad like this only God knows what he will say about our conpany if we have issue or even the country. you can check my posts i occasionally dish out to help motivate you and have that inner control and master anger management well. www.facebook.com/akanbiabdullahi or @akanbiabdullahi on both instagram and twitter. All the best from Akanbi Abdullahi Adeshola.

I will advice you to go and settle will ur dady the reason why you share ur story here is because you need advice from people but did you know that you can stop answer his name as ur farther that is only reason why you should settle with him so that ur children will not do same to you in future

MsFaith:


my dear, you've said it all. One must be careful in bringing up kids, you can imagine me as old as I am, when I remember the things my mom did to me when I was younger, I just begin to hate her. Then when I forget I love her

It good you have learnt to love her but I bet you can't erase the past from your memory.

nikkypearl:
I hate to be the third to comment on a rustic thread

Do you know you ain't doing anybody a favour by forgiving?bitterness is like a poison,when you harbor it within,everything around you begins to wither away!

na wah ooo, you're brain is functioning.

Life is complex . There is no point to pretend about it if you do not like your parents. There is a world of difference between liking a person and loving them.It is difficult to like a person who makes you feel fear and anxiety all the time.
However as you get older you have to take responsibility for your self and your life and that means finding someway to let go of negative energy.Some people call this forgiveness.But that is too simplistic a word. In fact often it is meaningless.You can say you forgive forever without changing how you feel or removing the fear and anxiety you feel
Quite often you have to start with understanding the person that hurt you. You must somehow see his perspective to understand his motivations .Quite often they may have been treated the same way or worse and not know any better.May have some mental health problems e.g depression or alcoholism or just be a complete shiitt. Eventually you will start to feel pity for this person because they lacked correct knowledge and or thinking. Life has thrown that emotional baggage your way and your psychological task is to solve it and therefore grow.That is a journey.Learn to meditate.
The future: It is almost impossible to repair these relationships to a level that you might like i.e that you become buddies,confidants etc especially if your father has no insight or understanding.What may be a best scenario is you are polite and respectful and DUTIFUL.
I emphasize the word dutiful ,meaning you perform all socially expected duties and are polite and respectful .This is the usual scenario whilst keeping your emotional distance.
There is one final point I will emphasize for the spiritual minded that will not go down well with so called Christians.Many Christians only pray for good things and want to keep pain and suffering away from themselves. This is foolishness. If any person is suffering you are suffering if any person is evil you are evil.If you are able to empathize with the good person and the bad person and see their evil and pain as your own their misdeeds as your own then it is easier to forgive because their is no separation I am you and you are me.
Ifa says
"an old man cannot be angry with his shitt"
Whatever evil another man does, you did it, that is the essence of forgiveness. The You -I separation is an illusion. an illustration of our intrinsic selfishness. If we spend a lot more of our time reflecting on those who slept outside and went hungry last night imagining it was us or our loved ones.In short taking the pain of others personally we would see how easy it is to forgive and purge negative energy

calliope:
same here...i hate my dad.

sorry, I love mine.
the only thing I hate about him is that he talks too much. if you give him N10,000 he will advertise you to all his friends.

MsFaith:


inshort I could share some annoying things my mother did to me online, that when I remember I can't help but hate her

go on the world is listen

When I grow up..... Well I may not be the world best..... But I bet on my blood, I WILL BE ONE OF THE BEST DADS.

Having disciplined parents is the best thing that can happen to any person.
OP, your case was just with your father.. Mine was both, i can remember been beaten with a curtain rod just because i fought with our neighbor's son, my mum and dad went beserk that day, I was wasn't served dinner and I was forced to sleep outside the house till the next morning, i felt so bad and almost ran away from home.
That is just a tip of the iceberg, i could go on and on but lemme stop here.

You just have to forgive ur old man and let the grugde slide, all the things he did to you was for a reason.

Am 19 now but i haven't had a fight with anyone since the incident that I cited above, i still stay with my parents but my view about them has fully changed, they travel a lot now leaving the whole house in my care knowing fully well that nothing would ever go wrong.
I believe that is one of the impacts of good upbringing from stern disciplined parents.

Learn to love your parents while you still got 'em, you could lose them just in the blink of an eye.. that's Life.

I can relate my Man, My dad chased Me and my Mum out of the house because a strange number flashed him on phone, and he believed I'm the one that gave my school mate his number to flash. Na the whole community beg for us that day.

Any slightest mistake, the next is get out of my house. I'm a grown up man now and whenever he comes visiting and sees the way I relate with my Young one and children. He always apologise.

I can afford to buy his phone 10000times now, and I do change my mum and siblings phone every 6-8months but I won't change his but later I changed my mind toward him cos I love Him...

Papa n Mama are the best my Man!

OP is still a kid.
You love your mum, who showed you love and all that.

Without that Man, you will not be in this world.
Without that Man being the "bad cop" and the mum playing the "good cop" you will not have sense of right from wrong.

A fathers' job is not to be your friend and he is not in contest with anybody for your love, he is in custody of you to prepare a "person" adequately prepared to handle the affairs of life in the future.

Only those who grew up without fathers will tell you what it feels like and you should pick up the phone and call your father and apologized as you do hope to be a dad someday.

It's only fathers children usually hate. Men!